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okay, so because i go to a private school, it ends at 4;00 pm
so i get home around 5:00. Everyday of the week i have something afetr school-so by the time i have dinner and start doing homework it is about 8:00, i am so overwelmed but my mom insists on me having these afetr school activities. the only day i have to myself is friday-but my mom usually makes me clean my room or something, so i don't even have that. What should i do, i don't wanna cancel any of them cuz i like them. But i also don't wanna be so tired and nervous all the time. I even have to do my homework in school cuz i don't wanna fail or i wake up at like 5:00 am so that i finish my hw. What should i do?
-dorinflower55
I think that you should cut something even though you refuse. Hear me out. In order for you to have to get on track with your school work, you have to make sacrifies, and one of those sacrificies will probably have to be the after school activity. It may be hard, but this situation has become very unhealthy. You are getting a limited amount of sleeping time just because you are trying to keep up with school. Drop it, you can pick it up after you have adjusted to your new plans and have prioritized your time. Even if your mom doesn't approve of you dropping it. you are wise enough to make your own decisions, and she needs to undestand that school and the value of your education come before any after school activity that probably won't help you in life any way. The thig is that you are being distracted, and in order for you to get back on track, you have to avoid that distraction. Who knows, with your new schedule, you might even be able to find social time for you and your friends to hang out and still manage your school works and getting what needs to be done at both home and school done. I hope I helped!
me and my family are fighting alot lately.. I have a really bad attitude! and I need help! please give me advice! FAST! I'll try anything!
Try seeing a couselor. Get your family involved. I think that their behaviors around you have influenced you, which is the reason you have a bad attitude. If you guys get family couseling then you guys can work out your problems instead of living in anger and fighting. You may not be all into this idea, but hey, you said you'll try anything. I really hope that this works out for you and I hope I helped!
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Is it possible to be suicidal, but to not have attempted suicide...?
Of course. If you;re suicidal you could be capable of commiting suicide but still having attemted it. Suicidal basically means having the ability to commit suicide. I hope I helped!
i dont know everyone always says "your to abusive" because ill hit guys and stuff just messing around but i guess that is my way of flirting with them but it dosent work aparently what are some ways i could be nicer or just flirt in a more gentle way? thank you.
It's absolutely normal to hit guys for a sign showing that you like them. It's a natural thing-even my friends do it. But you should consider maybe that bothers the guys you like so they tend to stay away from you often or show no signs of affection towards you. Stir up conversations with them, and talk about things you guys have in common-trust me, that makes a great conversation if you guys really get into detail with the topic. You guys might become really good friends and you'll be able to hang out because they'll like you more. You never know, this friendship could slide into a relashionship. I hope I helped!
ok...there is this girl at my school who is like friends with everybody...and shes is friends with me ...well at least i think... but everytime somebody has a party she is the one who hands out the invitations and she looks right at me and doesnt give me one (we talk all the time ) does she have a problem with me?
I think that you shouldn't suspect things so suddenly. Maybe the person who's having the party didn't or forgot to invite you. Don't let these things pull you down. You'll me able to throw a party that everyone will be begging to go to, evn the people that didn't invite you to theirs. Just because she didn't give you an invitation, it doesn't mean that she isn't your friend because she is. It's not even her party! I hope I helped, and if you have anymore problems then just talk to her about it and get it straightened out.
i babysit this 11 yr old boy, max and i am 13/f he is taller than me and is quite mature for his age. the thing is latley he's been acting really strange. he asked me if i had my period yet and i tried to change the subject but he was persistant. oh, and the other night we were watching a movie at his house (lion king) and he is younger than me so he like layed down on me and pretended to be asleep. then i fell asleep too. when i woke up he was like all over me and touching my boobs. i dont know what to do. his parents pay well and i need the money badly. should i tell his parents, will they hire me agian? should i talk to him? HELP!
I think that max has sexual feelings for you. He may be in the stage where he only thinks about sexual things. Tell him that you aren't interested in him but you guys can still be friends. If you feel uncomfortable around him then you should definitely talk. You have to be able to enjoy your job, because money isn't all that counts. You don't want to be working miserablly, because that won't be fun at all. Talk to his parents and convince them that you will make things change or if they can help to make the changes themselves. They'll be more than likely to keep you though because you're good at your job, and that's really all that counts. I hope I helped!
my boobs hurt all the time, i dont really mind when a guy touches them it just is SO painfull for me. is there any home remidies or anything i could do to relieve the pain?
You should go see your doctor. Don't take any medicine unless your doctor pescribes it. Also, I think that you shouldn't let guys touch your boobs. Don't think that I'm trying to be your mother and try to tell you what to do because I'm not. You may get sexual feelings when guys touch your boobs, and that's completely normal. But on the other hand, your own body modifies your self respect, so you have to show that and not let them touch your boobs because you, your doctor, or your mother should be the only ones touching the areas of your body if needed to. Remember about the self respect that I talked about, and I really do hope those pains go away. I hope I helped!
sorry if this is long, but there is this guy that i like and we used to go out. he now has a girlfriend but i dont care, i still like him. This one girl likes him, so someone asked if he would ever go out with her and he said no. but then this girl asked if he would ever go back out with me and he smiled nad said "umm .. i gotta get to class" so the next day the girl asked again and so he was like "umm .. i gotta girlfriend" so he didnt say yes or no. Do you htink i still have a chance?
I actually think you have a chance. It's abvious he still likes you by the way he doesn't answer the questions that the girl ask you, and hesitates when trying to do so. But don't rush things. He has a girlfriend and you have to respect that. You don't want to end up hurting both him and his girlfriend if you break them up just because your feelings get in the way. Tell him that you still like him, but that you don't want to break up him and his girlfriend. He'll follow his heart when he knows how you feel about him. I hope I helped!
ok...so i know this guy named "brownie" lol and he is soooo nice!we talk on the internet 24/ 7 to eachother and we say hi to eachother but it seems like i cant talk to him in person...i get all tonguetied...we go to diff. schools and he is one grade below me!!i also told him on the internet that i liked him...now im super embaressed!!!
I think that of you really like him, then you should go for it. I know that you may feel insecure because he's 1 year younger than you, and people might tease you guys for it. But you have to know one thing, age doesn't really matter when you guys have feeling for eachother except if it's like a huge difference like 17 years apart. It's only one year, so it's not that serious. Also, if you're embarasses about admitting your feelings to him and telling him that you like him, then you guys should talk about it. Yeah, it may be embarassing for the both of you but you guys will be holding this grudge knowing that one of you told the other one they liked that person, so you guys don't front like nothing ever happened because it did. If you talk to him then he may admit his feelings for you. Who knows, if he likes you then you guys may form a relashionship. Talk, because if you don't, you'll get nowhere in this. I hope I helped!
ok... im dieing here... im not allowed on AIM and im not allowed to watch tv... ive been on this website like allll day and i can't take it anymore... its raining outside... and i don't no why im not allowed to watch tv or go online.. i was allowed on AIM for 15 minutes and thats it... i didn't do anything wrong... can someone give me ideas on waht to do? i have an annoying 11 year old brother and i don't wanna play with him... i can't even play video gamesss!!
I think that you should definitely ask your parent why they are restricting you from AIM, watching tv, and going online. They must have their reasons because you didn't do anything wrong, talk to them and find why they're doing this. I hope I helped!
I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
-dorinflower55
I understand where you're coming from...really, I do! My best friend and I went to a private school together, but I left in the 4th grade to go to a public school. I was very sad, but I knew that public school was better for me because I could get a better education. I'm sure that she made great friends just like I did, and I'm glad for that. Just because you guys go to different schools doesn't mean that you have to stop being friends with her because you met another good friend. You can have more than one best friend, so don't cut that other one loose just because you found a new one...would you like it if she did that to you? Also, it's ok to think that your new friend is a better friend because you talk to her more and have gotten to know her. That doesn't mean that your friend is a horrible friend. Don't cut her loose because 2 best friends are better than one. I hope I helped!
I am a 13-year-old shy girl looking for ways to get money. My question is, does anyone know of a website for tips and ideas on how to make money for my age?
~passionate
PS. Thanks ahead of time.
Well, I don't think that there actual, real jobs for 13-year old to work, because their youngest age of employment is 14. Although, you can try Limited Too, and see because my friend works their and she's 13. If that doesn't work, then you can probably offer to work for people in your neighborhood like mowing their grass, cleaning their house, baby-sitting, etc. Also, you could do housework for your parent of they say it's ok. If you really want a job either now or in the future then you should really try to get rid of your shyness because they'd rathe rpick an out-going and down to earth person rather than a shy person for a job because they attract more customers and help them feel welcome. You should try walking up to a person that's alone or shy and start a conversation with them. Start out using small talk like "Hi, My name's _________ (your name), how about you?". Ask that person what they like and see if you guys have anything in common. If you do, you guys can talk about it, and you never know, you guys might turn out to be good friends. I hope I helped!
Well , i was eating lunch with my 'friends' and they were completely ignoring me, so then they were talking about going to a sooftball game at school and didnt even see if i wanted to go.. so then i just left and they said i ditched them, but they werent even acknowlaging that i was there. so then the next day at lunch i went to find them, but i couldnt, so i ended up eating by myself, but they were like oh you probably are just making excuses. so then after school they were walking together, and they looked at me, laughed and then went into the bathroom. this was the day that they were going to the softball game. so yesterday i was talking to lets call her "E" and i told her that i was upset that they were leaving me out on their plans, and she was like ' oh my god, your making this such a bigger deal than it really matters' and then 'oh my god, you know i have to go .' so they all are saying that im making a biggger deal out of this, but when i was making plans, i included them all in it, and then they didnt want to go if one of them werent going so we ended up not even doing it. but this time they didnt even bother to ask me if i wanted to go. sorry this was so long, but i need advice on what i should do. thanks!
I think you should sit and talk to them again. This time though, you should talk to them in a tone that you are really serious and you want it to change. Yell at them, do whatever it takes even if it embarasses you or them because you need to get it through their sckulls and minds that they need to consider your feelings. If they can't change, then you probably need to find better friends. I know that you probably won't want to consider leaving them for other people but think about it...If you stay being friends with them you won't have any fun like friends help you to do (have fun) and you'll just be miserable, but if you find other friends, they will be able to respect you, listen to your point of view, and include you in their social events. I hope this works out for you, and that I helped! If you have any more questions or comments, post me a message and I'll be sure to answer them the best way I can ASAP!!!!!
Have you noticed if a girl has sex they are called a slut and when a guy has sex they get more popular. I dont understand it please someone explain it to me or give your opinion on it!!
i rate high!
Well, I think that girls are precieved as sluts becaue guys feel they have more power and authority which is obviously not true. I trully don't understand the reason that when a sirl has sex they are known as sluts but when a guy has sex they brag about it or get more popular as you said. I guess that's just a guy's ponit of view about it, but I feel that in this matter they should be treated equally. Guys are hoes too (You know what I mean). I hope I helped!
ok so here it goes i'm a 15 year old female ok i already asked a question about what am i supposed to do to get this guy david's (whom i like) attention; now i have a nother question kind of related to that....he knows that i like him and we actually talk somewhat now we started talking a couple days ago but actually talked in person when i was at my bestfriend diana's house and david and my friend michael decided to come over, so we were talking except i wasnt doing much talking i was kinda laughing at whatever i thought was funny mostly the stories i was reading in a magazine but i guess i wasnt talking that much becasue he was around and i was afraid i was gonna say something stupid. so i guess my question is what should i do to get him to i guess like me back or find out whether he likes me back??
Talk to him, even if you feel scared or worried that you may say something stupid. How else is he supposed to recognize you if you never say anything? Shake out of that nervousness you have built inside of you and become open. Get into talking to him more often. You guys may have a lot of things in common. Develop a friendship with him first and don't rush things because he might want to take things slow. You never know, your new friendship with him might escalade into a relashionship that you've always wanted. Don't just go out of your way to talk to him just because you like him. Talk to him and become friends first. Don't hand around him 24/7 though because he might get the hint that you really really really like him and he'll probably become scared. Just be yourself around hm and don't try to act phony or something you're not just to impress him because it's really not worth it. I hope I helped and that all goes well for you!
is it possibl for a person to not like someon anymore, but not be over him (if that makes sense!). because that's what i think is happening 2 me. i liked this guy A LOT for A LONG TIME, but the thing is that he was a jerk about it (i'd tell the details for u 2 understand it better, but it would be soooo long...) . anyway, i don't think i like him any more (no more butterflies in my stomach, no more going out of my way just to see him go to his next class, no more of his name on my notebook, etc.) . but the thing is that EVERYONE knew about it (even my english teacher!) and whenever i get into a convo w/ anyone, they always bring him up, and i can't 4get about him...that is, nobody will LET me. i still think about him occasionally, but not in the same way, so i don't think i like him. but i still think about him, and i haven't 4gotten the feelings i had 4 him. is it possible that i don't like him, but can't quite get over him? or do u think that i still like him? whatver it is, how do i 4get about him? i rate 5's 4 ne1 who helps!
I thin that your feelings for him have gone away, but people keeping bringing them back. If they bring him up in a conversation, just tell them that you don't want to talk about him or that you don't like him like you used to, because if you don't prevent them from bringing him up, then you are helping to bring your feelings about him back. I understand about you still remembering your feelings for him because I have been in that position before. Like you, Iwent out of my way just to see him, any way I could get to talk to him I tried, but later on you figure out that your chase for that guy wasn;t worth it. You should never chase a guy to like you, you should let him chase you. To me, I don't think you like him like you used to, but the people are trying to bring those feeling back to you, but you have got to stop them because it's not good to stay hooked on to a guy when there are better out there. I strongly wish that you take my advice. I hope I helped!
my friends say i talk about this kid i like way too much, and now that i think about it i kinda do. what can i do to stop? i mean i like him so much i can't get my mind off him. what can i do?
Well, I can totally relate to you. I am obsessed about this guy I like, only I don't think my friends know I like him because I don't use his name when I talk about him or ask questions about his class for me to know his behavior. You should think about his negatives. Like, maybe he talks feminine or can't dress...something like that. Whenever you feel like talking about him, just remember those negatives so that you will ahev a reason to not talk about him. Your friends probably feel annoye dabout you talking about him all of the time because they might want to talk about other thngs with you, but they can't because you're always talking about him. Consider their feelings, that ought to make you stop talking about him itself. I hope I helped!
Hey well i am like having all these problems with my mom and i love her very much but she just yells at me sometimes for like nothing and im really freaked out because she gets me mad and depressed i feel like killing myself or like cutting myself!
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Depressed little gurl
Whoa, that's very serious. You shouldn't stay in a place or with someone that could bring danger to you by your will. You said that you feel like killing yourself or commiting suicide, or cutting yourself. Find another place to live whether if it's your relatives or a friend. If you love your mom, you should do what's best for her and move out because if you stay with her then you might end up in a serious condition that could lead to death, and that would just bring too much pain for you to handle. Talk to her about this so that you guys can find a place to live. You can even get her into a good center for treatment where she can change her acts towards you so that maybe when the time is right and the behaviors have changed, you guys can live with eachother again. Remember, you are doing if for the benefit of you and your mother. I think that this is the best solution right now, so talk to her quickly so that you guys can develop a plan. I hope everythigns works out for both you and you mother. I hope I helped!
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Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.
I think that you should think about the decision that best fits you. If your lonelyness has droven to depression then you should talk to your parents about it. If you feel like you should be living in a different place with another relative that you can relate to then you need to tell them that. They will understand that you are not comfortable with the environment or the people in it. It's better to be in a place where you feel welcome than in a place where you don't. If you feel that you want to come back to your family and friends once you have found you happiness than you can. Talk to them so that they together can help you find a solution to your problem. I hope I helped and that all goes well for you!
My boyfriend wants me to kiss him before he kisses me. At least I think so. It seems like it because after we go somewhere together...for example we went to the movies. When I got home i was talking to one of his friends online and he said hows come you didnt kiss him? And I think he should kiss me first!!! What should I do??
I think that you should go by how you feel. You may think that's corny, but it really isn't. Just because people say you should kiss him first doesn't mean you have to. I mean, you should doo whatever you feel is right because that's the instinct that you're most comfortable with. If you feel that he should make the first move, then let him. Don't rush things because he probably might not be ready. If you're not sure though, you guys could just kiss at the same time instead of worrying about who should go first. I hope I helped!