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i can't get over him...or do i sill like him?
is it possibl for a person to not like someon anymore, but not be over him (if that makes sense!). because that's what i think is happening 2 me. i liked this guy A LOT for A LONG TIME, but the thing is that he was a jerk about it (i'd tell the details for u 2 understand it better, but it would be soooo long...) . anyway, i don't think i like him any more (no more butterflies in my stomach, no more going out of my way just to see him go to his next class, no more of his name on my notebook, etc.) . but the thing is that EVERYONE knew about it (even my english teacher!) and whenever i get into a convo w/ anyone, they always bring him up, and i can't 4get about him...that is, nobody will LET me. i still think about him occasionally, but not in the same way, so i don't think i like him. but i still think about him, and i haven't 4gotten the feelings i had 4 him. is it possible that i don't like him, but can't quite get over him? or do u think that i still like him? whatver it is, how do i 4get about him? i rate 5's 4 ne1 who helps!
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truthfully, the butterfly thing doesn't last forever anyway.All relationships start to get comfortable after a while and evolve in all different directions.
However, if you feel strongly that you no longer want a bf/gf relationship with this guy then get out of it.
Simply tell those who ask about him that you don't date anymore and that you really don't care to discuss it.
You will always have feelings for those you have cared about.They can change though.But aren't easily forgotten right away.You can still be friends if you'd like to without the pressure of a bf/gf relationship.:}
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Don't worry, thats perfectly normal! Once you have strong feelings for someone, even if you don't like them in that way anymore, you will still probably find yourself thinking about them. You were so used to spending time and energy thinking of him, and liking him, that it would be extremely hard to just stop. You may not 'like' him, but it's ok that he is still on your mind once in awhile. And, you will always remember how you felt towards him, even if that feeling is long gone. It might be that you are not over him, I went through a similar situation myself. It actually turned out that I wasn't over him because I didn't have someone else to move on to. Once you come across another guy that gets your attention, it will help get this boy out of your head...but until that next Prince Charming comes, I think it is absolutely fine to think about him. As for other people constantly bringing him up, make a point to tell them that its not relevant anymore, and that you don't like him. Make it clear that it is not a topic that is available for them to talk about now, since you don't like him anymore, and you don't want to constantly talk about him. Try saying something like, 'You know guys, I really don't like him anymore, and I just don't want to talk about him anymore...really, its nothing anymore...' Hopefully they will take a hint, and move onto some other topic. I hope this helped a little bit...if you want more specific advice, feel free to leave me a message in my inbox, I don't care how long it is, I'll read it. :) Have a great day, and good luck with all of this!!
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It's perfectly normal to feel that way. When someone has a strong attraction for someone there's kind of this mental bond. The bond really doesn't go away for a long time. And when people talk about it the bond gets triggered. I hope this it making sense. You still might like him, but I think you like the image of him rather than him. I hope I helped.
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I thin that your feelings for him have gone away, but people keeping bringing them back. If they bring him up in a conversation, just tell them that you don't want to talk about him or that you don't like him like you used to, because if you don't prevent them from bringing him up, then you are helping to bring your feelings about him back. I understand about you still remembering your feelings for him because I have been in that position before. Like you, Iwent out of my way just to see him, any way I could get to talk to him I tried, but later on you figure out that your chase for that guy wasn;t worth it. You should never chase a guy to like you, you should let him chase you. To me, I don't think you like him like you used to, but the people are trying to bring those feeling back to you, but you have got to stop them because it's not good to stay hooked on to a guy when there are better out there. I strongly wish that you take my advice. I hope I helped!
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I defenetly understand what you mean. Its totally possible to feel that way. You dont like him but you care for him in a friendship kind of way and thats fine. Its acually better l0l. If he was a jerk then Im glad that you are over him. Im sure you can do way better. x0 ` __
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u make nooooooooo sense
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