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this kid i babysit is like acting really strange
i babysit this 11 yr old boy, max and i am 13/f he is taller than me and is quite mature for his age. the thing is latley he's been acting really strange. he asked me if i had my period yet and i tried to change the subject but he was persistant. oh, and the other night we were watching a movie at his house (lion king) and he is younger than me so he like layed down on me and pretended to be asleep. then i fell asleep too. when i woke up he was like all over me and touching my boobs. i dont know what to do. his parents pay well and i need the money badly. should i tell his parents, will they hire me agian? should i talk to him? HELP!
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Yes, you should tell his parents. Sit down with them and tacfully explain the situation.
There is a strong chance you won't be asked to watch him again, but I don't know how appropriate it is for you to be babysitting someone so close to your own age.
If this happens in the future, you need to firmly tell the child that it is inappropriate behaviour for the situation and you do not welcome it. And then you'll need to tell their parents. It is the only responsible thing to do.
While Max is just experiencing hormones and puberty, that does not make it appropriate to be doing so with someone who is supposed to be caring for him. You are obviously uncomfortable, and no amount of money excuses you being treated like a lump of meat and feeling so badly.
Make some flyers to hand out in your neighborhood or local library, and find some younger kids who don't want to play any games other than Connect Four or Twister.
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well i think hes just interested hes at that age that all guys go through. i would sit down and talk to him. don't tell the parents until you sit down and talk to him and if he doesn't stop acting weird then tell them.
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This remindes me of a time when I was baby sitting, but, you shouldn't let him do that, talk to him and tell him to leave you alone, and if he still does it, tell his parents and they will talk to him. He's a young boy and im sure he has not really seen the female body, I forsee that things will all go well.
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It's a little weird that a thirteen year old is babysitting an eleven year old, but whatever. This is sexual harassment, and you should just tell the parents that you don't want to sit for them anymore. And then go to the cops. Sexual harassment is illegal you know. But just so that they believe you, hide a video camera and pretend to go to sleep. Think about it. You're getting payed to go over there, and when you do, the kid tries to rape you. That's like prostituion. Ew. Just get out of there. That kid should be locked up. I really like the video camera idea, so do that.
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BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Best. Question. Ever.
Look if you want to be a little whore about it then just tell him you know what he did, threaten to tell his parents, and then blackmail him into paying you to keep quiet about it. That's like even more money you can use to spend on cheap makeup and slutty mini-skirts.
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ok, i'm sorry but this entire situation seems strange to me. an 11 year old being babysat by a 13 year old?...when i was 14 i went to homecoming with a 12 year old (as friends...but still, that's ONE grade difference!)...i definitely think there needs to be a bigger age difference between max and his sitter, and after you tell his parents what happened, you should look for business elsewhere. ♥
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First talk to him but DON'T get mad at him just be calm and try to find out what is going on and tell him how you feel. Tell his parents but don't sound too freaked out if they won't higher you again don't stress it isn't your fault. If they are good parents they would understand and they would't fire you or blame you so just tell them. Please rate.
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You have parts he doesn't have. He's hit the age where everything sexual makes him curious. You should definately tell the parents before this kid's behavior escalates.
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He's hit puperty! Yes you need to talk to his parents. They need to take him in hand before you are required to knock the holy hell out of him. Gropping you in your sleep and asking inappropriate questions are not proper behavior. If his parents don't hire you back feel lucky. The kid's turning into a perv. If he's bigger than you and acting like this would you rather have the money or not get raped, because that's where he's heading. Make a choice!
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I think that max has sexual feelings for you. He may be in the stage where he only thinks about sexual things. Tell him that you aren't interested in him but you guys can still be friends. If you feel uncomfortable around him then you should definitely talk. You have to be able to enjoy your job, because money isn't all that counts. You don't want to be working miserablly, because that won't be fun at all. Talk to his parents and convince them that you will make things change or if they can help to make the changes themselves. They'll be more than likely to keep you though because you're good at your job, and that's really all that counts. I hope I helped!
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Talk to him. That situation is not appropriate for either of you, and if you want to handle this responsibly, then you have to have a serious discussion with him. I suggest telling him something like, 'Listen, I am here right now because it is my job, and I am getting paid, so therefore it is my responsibility to watch you. I do not want to discuss personal things (like my period) with you, that's just not professional. I am your babysitter, and I can be your friend, but I feel really uncomfortable the way you are all over me, and if you continue to act this way, I will be forced to talk to your parents about it, and possibly quit babysitting you.' This could work, because no kid wants their babysitter to give them a bad report about them, and threatening him like that might help. Make it clear that you are there for one purpose, and it is to be a responsible babysitter. You also need to try to act more responsible, if you want to get treated with respect. I really don't advise falling asleep on the job. Don't put yourself in uncomfortable situations with this boy, and make it clear to him what his boundaries are and don't let him cross them. If you really are too uncomftable, I would have a chat with his parents, and quit. You can always find another family to babysit for. I personally think that the age difference between you two is not enough, and being of the opposite sex doesn't help matters. Try working it out first, but truly, there are other families out there who need babysitters, it wouldn't be the end of the world to quit. I hope this helped, keep me updated on how it goes. Good luck!
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Um... grl he likes you... and maybe he just wants to have sex... which is likly for the guys around that age... my bros going through it, sometimes it freaks me out lol but i think you should talk to him about it first and if it doesnt get better talk to you his and your parents about it.
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i think he is doing this cause he looks up to u and feels attracted to you. it sound pretty bad, but if i were you i would either talk to him or go to his and/or your parents b4 it gets worse.
hope i helped!!!
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This kid is probably just experimenting with you. He may be younger but he does know what body parts you have and stuff. If you dont feel alright with him touching you and being around him then I say quit the job but make up your own decision.
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if you don't feel comfortable talking to the parents.. maybe you should talk to this kid... you shouldn't have fallen asleep... so now... you have to be more responsible and watch whats going on... whats more important... the money or how comfortable you are... this guy could be asking if you have your period because he wants to have sex with you but doesn't want you to get pregnant or something... you should be able to feel secure in your job and if talking to the kid doesn't help... then you should find a new job and then quit... or talk to the parents about it
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You should have never put yourself in that situation in the first place. You were suppose to be the responsible one. Letting a 11 year old boy fall asleep on you is by no means appropriate. And falling asleep on the job is not appropriate either. Leaving a 13 year old girl, and an 11 year old boy alone just sounds like a bad idea. I would no longer babysit for them, no matter how well they pay. I don't beleive you are mature enough to handel the situation.
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I think you should first tell him that your not intrested and that if he does it again, you'll tell his parents. If he does do it again, then tell the parents! thats sexual assault even though hes only 11. I know you need the money badly but are you gonna take sexual harrasment from a 11 year old just for money? Good luck ! Update me if you can!
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Yes talk to him! This isn't appropriate since you are older than him and you aren't interested in having a relationship with him...also, if his parents caught him doing that, your job would be on the line...talk to him and tell him to stop it or i suggest you go looking for another job..hope i helped and didn't sound too critical..
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