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My boyfriend and I have been sexually active, and I'm just wondering when it is safest to have sex without the possibility of pregnancy... like right before or right after having a period? thanks.
Right before, right after or during, but thats not a sure way to stay unpregant. Also always use protection to stay safe also.
14/f. ok so i'm a freshman. ever since probably like 7th and 8th grade, people have referred to me as "the girl who never talks" ok. theres this kid in 2 of my classes. my best friend has gym with him. i recently just worked on a project with him and another girl. so today my best friend told me she overheard him and this OTHER girl (who thinks shes the shit, anddd ive known since elementary school) talking about me! and they said. that i never talk. which is completely untrue. it bugs the shit outta me! because i know it isn't true. i can't help my shyness!! but in school idk what happens, but i'm just soo quiet. around my best friends and my friends and family i'm a totally different story though. but people always get the wrong impression in school, and for some reason assume i NEVER talk. ok, so i KNOW i can't go on like this forever, and i won't let that happen. i wanna make new friends. guy friends. have a boyfriend. but something is holding me back. i always miss my chances of saying something, but i don't. and i never let my true self show through. my friends all say i'm funny! but no one ever sees that. i KNOW i can't just wake up one day and magically be outgoing and sociable, so how can i get that motivation, or boost of confidence to become more social? how can i overcome my shyness? i'm so sick of being known as the shy girl. i just wanna like scream at the next person i hear say that. UGHH!! help mee!! thank you soo much.
First off : forget what everyone else is saying about you. You obviously have to noticed if people are talking about you. Let them say what they want, according to you, do talk.. so they are just stupid people with the wrong impression of you.
Now, to tell you be more yourself :] I use to be like you. I would always be quite and I would never say what I wanted too. Something held me back, like you say. The only thing you can do is each day.. try and talk a little more. If you want to say something, then just say it. It's your own thoughts and ideas.. nothing wrong with that. If you have the sudden urge to be loud then be loud. Don't worry about what the kids at school will think. Show them that, you are a total different person, show them the real you. Have your boyfriend help you if he can (if he knows the "loud" you). Don't worry about missing a chance to say something, you have all your life to say stuff, but dont hold back when you really want to say something.
The next person that say something, do say something to them. They have no right to talk about you. They are not perfect and neather are you. They should understand that. So what if you are a shyer person.. theres nothing wrong with that. You know thats not you, you know who you really are, and thats all that matters.
If you want to make new friends (guy friends), juse be yourself. Talk to them about anything. Ask them a question about the homework or the assiment. (if you know stuff about sports) ask them about that. Don't be scared to show yourself to them, there has to guys out there that would love to be yourfriend. Guys like girls that are confindent in themselves. Just say what you mean, and mean what you say. Thats they only thing to remember. Be true to yourself. You owe it to yourself to be who you are, and show everyone who you are. You dont have to go from shy to WOW in one day.. thats almost impossiable, take small steps and each day.. become more confident in yourself. Tell yourself that you can prove all those people who talk about you wrong.
Be yourself, mean what you say and say what you mean, and have fun. You only have one life to live.. so live it to the fullest :]
not to offend anyone. but if youre a virgin right, and then like you get raped.. and then later on you were asked if youre a virgin or not, would you say yes or no?
The answer depends on the person.
Some would say unfortunlty (spelling?) no, while others still consider themselves virgins. Some think they still are, because they did not consint to it. They did not want to have sex (be raped). Others think that even if they didn't want it, they had it and therefor they are no longer virgins. The question is a person-to-person kind of thing.
I would say : Yes, you are still a virgin.
out of chi sedu and solia which hair straightener is the best? I currently have a straightener i love but i want one that will make my hair even straighter and not damage it as much. also for how much i am paying i want one that will last me atleast a year
My personal one : CHI.
CHI's last a long time, and they don't damage hair, like other do. (price im not to sure about, sorry). They work great. My sister and I have had a CHI for over 2 years now, and it still works like it did the 1st day.
I don't know about solia, or sedu. I have never used them.. I'm not sure how they work.
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Ok i just want peoples own view on this. Is it regular for girls ages 14-16 to masturbate. Like is it regular like how guys do it. Even if they seem prude or somthing. Thanks i apprecaite all answers
Its 100% normal, everyone has/does masturbate. Some admit it and other don't, eather way its totally normal.
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considered a slut if she has sex on the first date?
No, thats her choice. If she does it every 1st date, then maybe. A slut is a female that has sex with alot of defferent men, when she hasnt known them for a long time. Its a personal view.. One time, and I say no. Almost everything, then probally yes.
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hi! okay so, @ school- i always wear scrubs, i like to be comfotable and relAxed. i weigh 180 and im 5'5 ish and uhh. yah. im fat. that might make me sound HUGE but ill be honest i dont think im huge, i like just fat.. i got a checkup and my doc ddint say to loose weight but iknow i need to loose weight but neway-- on the weekends i wear cuter clothes than i do at school..... like jeans, and acuter top but my stomach looks huuuge in all the tight cute shirts, do you know any CUTE shirts i could wear on weekends that wont make e look so fat? and bottoms too bc my legs are getting bigger and yah.
Sorry about the comment underneather.. it showed up first in my inbox.
Your not fat first off. Its your mind that is telling you, that you are. You doctor who is a professional stated you didnt need to lose weight. I totally understand where your comming from, I do that same thing.. scrub during school and cute during the weekend (thats totally normal). You can try layers. Like a cute shirt with a jacket over it... or a sweater (its colder outside so you can pull it off) with a cute undershirt. Pants, you might just have to find a pair of pants that fit you really well. Try different stores, different brands, and different sizes. Everyones body is shaped different.. you have to find the right pair of pants that works for you.
Your not fat, you need to understand that. Everyone while growing up has humps and bumps and lumps they dont want, but that doesnt mean your fat. You should love yourself for who you are. Im sure everyone around you thinks your just right, now maybe you should relize it too. If you really dont like the way you look, change it.. but in the right way. Eay right, and workout daily. Don't do a stupid thing and stop eatting, thats just hurting yourself. Try eatting good meals, and doing crunches and leg lefts. Might help you feel better, but you said so yourself,.. you exaggerated (spelling) your weight. Be comfortable in your own skin.
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PS.. I dont weight that mcuh i was exaggerating
Are you refurring to a question that i asked before..
or was a question apart of this.. that was cut off.. okay I'm confused [ haha ]
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Hello. I lost my lighter, would it be okay if I lighted my ciggarettes with matches instead? Please let me know. I know this sounds dumb but I just need to be sure! Thanks!
Yeah its perfectly fine. Theres nothing in the match that will hurt you.
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well she talks to me in classes but she seems like she gets annoyed by me sometimes....thanks for your help.
Sorry for not helping, but can you give me more information please...
I could help you a zillion times more if you gave me some more information.. please and thank you
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Is there an age where your periods just stop? Like forever? I'm not talking about irregular periods... i'm talking about if you're 70 years old, do you still get your period?
13/f
Menopause is your answer. When women get older their body go threw menopause, which is 100% normal, and their peroids stop and they can no longer have childern. Much like regular peroids though, women go threw menopause at different poitns in their life.
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I am 13 and obvisily a female. I had my period when i was 12 in november and havent had one again. And guess what month it is? It has been about a year, and of course i havent had sex. I know it takes a while to get regular but all my friends have started and they say i should see a docter. Should i see one? I have been worried about this a lot. Please help.
Every female is different. It can take up to almost 2 years to become regular. Don't be worried about it, but if you are that worried about it, then you can see a doctor. You could also talk to your mom about it. Tell her whats going on and that you think something is wrong. Im pretty sure nothing is, you and your friends have different cycle times.. you cant baise your peroid off of someone elses...
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14/f
i am very athletic, and play soccer on 2 different club teams. people say muscle weighs more than fat or whatever so i think thats my problem. how can i drop to maybe 110?
muscle does weigh more then fat,.. depending on how tall you are, you may not want to drop down to 110..
so before I can help with this question.. how tall are you now.. and how much do you weigh ?
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Thank you for helping me with your height and weight. If you weigh 120 and you are 5'5" you are at a perfect weight for your height. Loosing 10 pounds would be in a way.. pointless, you could always try eating right and working out. Being on 2 different soccer teams is forsure going to help you out.
I truly dont think you need to lose weight, I'm shorter then you and don't even weight less then 5 pounds then you...
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which is a more trusted brand:
trojan or lifestyles?
my personal opipion : trojan
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why do people put x's in there screennames does it mean something? i used to do it but i dont know why.. im just asking because theyres like TOO many x's insome girls sn like hxxcLOVER
LOVEXXXXXXME55 BUT WHY?!
The "x" usually doesnt mean anything. In almost all of my screen names I have atleast one "x".
Most people use the "x" as a space filler. because most screen names look better with something in the middle and not just a blank
example : (Ill use mine) "love x woah" looks about a zillion times better then just "love woah"
also, there are about a thousand people that have screen names, if not more.. the chance of you getting your first pick for a screen name is rare, unless it is something very orginal. Most people add "x"`s to help get the screen name they want.
Its a person to person kind of thing, but I hope this helped
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I'm concerned about a couple of friends I have...I was wondering what age is appropriate to have sex...12?...14?...16?...18?...older?...they say they love the guy but come on...what's too young?
No one can say whats to young. Everyone believes something different. Some people think that age shouldnt matter. If someone understands what they are doing, the problems that could happen if something go wrongs.. and if they are truly comfotable with their decision.
It might seem wrong if a 12, 13, 14, or 15 was having sex, but that doesnt mean they are not ready for it. It depends on the level of maturaty (spelling?) of that person.
If you friends want to have sex, that is their decision, you can try to help them choose wather or not their decision was right, but in the end,. they will do what they think is right. Help your friend understand that sex is searious, and to use the correct protection to keep her/him from getting hurt.
I personally don't think there is a right or wrong age to have sex. If you feel comfortable with making that decsion then you should be able to take actions on that decision,.. everyones is different so theres not clear answer to your question.
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heyy hannah guess who its stacey ! i thought i would say hi and dont get banned from this advice column!
hi Stacey, & i'll try nott too..
but haha, i can acutally get banned from answer thiss... :] we arnt sopose to answer conversation questionsss... ilu
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I'm a 15 year old freshman female. I like this guy who sits next to me in one of my classes and he talks to me sometimes, usually asking for help on a math problem. How do I initiate conversation? What should I say? He sort of intimidates me, so I'm shy around him.
Dont be shy or intinidated around him, just be yourself. You could try asking him before class or during free-time in class what he did last weekend or what hes doing this weekend. You could start by asking him if he could help you with a problem, and while hes helping,.. start up a converstation.. OR while he is asking you a question about math you could start up a converstation.. when asking a question is the best time to start one up, because you have their full attation (atleast usually)
You could also try complimenting him, letting him know you like his shirt, or something.. that makes guys feel good about themselves.
good luck & dont be shy.. just be yourself
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I have a real good friend who i hang out with and we come over to each other's houses and talk, you know, stuff like that. We both have P.E and when i try to hang out with her in that class, she never talks to me or anything and she seems annoyed by me sometimes. She is usually laying basketball with some other friends and when i ask her if i can play, all her friends including her say no. Ever since, she has been acting like she dosent like me that much. I know she is not embarresed with me around her when she is with her friends but i dont know what it is. When it's just us to, we laugh have a good time and just talk...now i have no clue whats going on. Can someone please help? thanks
I would ask her whats wrong :
If you 2 get along all the time other then PE class, then something obviously isnt right. If she is embarresed to be seen with you during that class, then you dont need her a friend. A true friend has no problem being seem with you, anywhere and that includes PE class. Talk to her though, she might actually have a reason for it, just make sure to listen to her side of the story and try and understand where she is comming from.
My personal idea : shes embarresed, for what.. I'm not sure.
good luckk.
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