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Q: ok this is how it all started out
i have liked this dude for about 3 years
we just started going out in march
we broke up in april for 4 days due to.. the fact he didnt like me as much as i liked him
he said he thought about me for the 4 days.
and threw those 4 days i cryed and trained myself not to put to much emotion in to anything i love b.c im afraid of being hurt.. now we go back out.. and he loves me alot. like ALOT and i feel like i dont love him as much b.c when we broke up i trained myself to not put any emotion in to anyone or anything.. and now when he says i love you i dont believe him and i want to sooo bad.. i really love him.. its just i dont want to be hurt im scared. and what not... soo does this mean i dont love him...??? b.c i know i do.. its just im scared.. he tells me everynight he loves me.. i know he does.. its just ... im scared of being hurt...
and now im really sad i have been having a bad week and when we are together i dont talk and he thinks he has made me mad but he didnt... he asks me 5 times am i mad at him im like no...

what should i do..
i really love him..
just.. scared

ILL RATE HIGH!!

I don't think that you don't love him. I definetly think the feelings are still there for him. You are just afraid of getting hurt again. These feelings are normal and the only way to get rid of them is to stay with this guy until you start getting the idea of how he really feels about you.

What you should do in the meantime is let your boyfriend know this fear you are having and let him know that you may not be acting like yourself for a little while because of these feelings. That way, he won't be under the impression that you are harder to please and that you aren't feeling the same way.

I know it may seem like you are falling too hard, and you might be, but you have to make some bounderies for yourself when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it's better to be laid back and having fun in a relationship when you are young. Young and serious relationships are hard to keep up with. These feelings that you are having will go away in time when you feel secure that he won't hurt you again.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok there is this guy that i like and he is mean to me alot but he like flirts with me and stares at me .does it mean anything?

Well, I think that you'll have to wait a little longer until he makes it a little more obvious that he likes you.

If he always talking to you and teasing you, then I'd say that he might have something for you. Just make sure that you show him the signs that you like the attention he's giving you and he might feel more comfortable around you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: my boyfriend just confessed to me another girl kissed him and he didn't stop her. I was really mad at first, but then I realized i have no right to be. You see, we're in a internet relationship and not meeting till late this year. I guess it's understandable that if someone in the flesh comes along and kisses you, you're not going to stop them. I think I would do the same too, admittedly. Everyone I've spoken to though thinks I should be madder than I am, because he cheated on me. I guess i'm a pretty laid-back person. We care about each other a lot, but I understand why he did it. I feel I should be mad at him for cheating though. I still want to go out with him, but everyone is telling me to break up with him. What should I do? And am I being too nice on him?

Thanks.

Honestly, I would tell you that you could still work this out with him if you both were seeing each other in person. But since this is an internet relationship, everything just becomes more complicated.

It's not that I don't believe that internet relationships could work, but when it comes to being in one, it's hard enough trying to convince yourself to trust him. You don't know what he's doing, or where he goes and that's all hard enough thinking about. But when it comes to him actually kissing another girl, you don't know what could be happening with things now.

Being a laid-back person can be a good and bad thing. Considering that this is an online relationship, I think it's not a good position to take.

At the end of the day, it's all about what you believe and what you truly feel. My view on it is that it's not a good situation since he's not where you can see him. Maybe you should go further into this and ask him if he honestly felt something with this girl. Another bad thing about you being calm is that it kind of sets an example for this guy that you won't get upset if it happens again.

But like I've said before, this is your call, and if you want to continue things with this guy, then go ahead and keep going. As for your friends, tell them that you appreciate their concern, but you have decided to put this behind yourselves.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: its kind of a long story, for those of u willing to read......this guy... we'll call him james. james and i have been together for a year. everything was perfect. my family liked him, his family liked me, or so that is what i thought. everything was falling perfectly into place. One day, my mom was with me while i was opening an email. this was about two months ago. i opened my email and there was this song that he dedicated to me. The words of the song were really nice, but he didn't just send the words. He sent the music video, which had gays and lesbians kissing all over it. i asked him why he would send that to me, because usually guys who like girls are grosed out by two guys kissing each other. He said that he was sorry, he only meant to send the words to me, but my mom had a fit an a half because she did not think that it was normal for a young man to be sending his girlfriend those kinds of things. then, she did not want me to talk to him any more, which i remember was right before the hurricane. so, after that, i had no communication with him because there was no power due to the hurricane.my mom made me tell him i didnt want to talk to him anymore infront of her and wouldn't leave until i did. as soon as i had power, i sent him an email telling him i was sorry and everything... but we didn't have power for almost two weeks, so i was super worried... and i didn't talk to him until a week after because i was really nervous. he said that it was fine and stuff and that he really wanted to be with me and all that. so, then there was this party that i didn't know he was going to, and i saw him there cuz he showed up. he came up to me and the whole night he was hugging me and kissing me and holding my hand i was really happy and had all of these butterflies in my stomach, but like two days after, he told my best friend to tell me that he wasn't really that interested in me. and i was very hurt because he always told me that he loved me and that he wanted to marry me and stuff. this happened like two months ago. so, i get a myspace friend request last night right when this other guy was asking me out. but, i was still hurting from the other guy... but then i saw him and when i looked at his myspace it said that he loves this girl and all he can do is think about her. and now i don't noe whether or not to approve him because what he did really hurt but i still want to be with him, and his dad might have something to do with what happened because i don't know if his dad is at me. please help me... should i approve him even after all he did????? because i might want him back..

I know that you still really love this guy. When you are in a relationship for a year, it's really hard to adjust to life after breaking up with them.

Truthfully, I believe that your mom went a little overboard with what your ex-boyfriend sent you with those lyrics. But that part doesn't matter. This guy honestly was heartless for saying he wasn't interested in you anymore and talking about a new girl.

I guess when you've known someone for so long, you start thinking that you fully understand what this person is about and who they are, but then this next moment they are turning on you. And I think this is what might have happened with this guy.

I think you are better off not looking for anymore guys to date until you've recovered from your ex-boyfriend. You shouldn't be in a hurry to find someone else just like this guy because you will later on.

I wasn't quite understanding the MySpace thing, but I think that you shouldn't have anymore contact with this ex-boyfriend who hurt you so that you can get over him faster. The truth is that I really wanted to give you some encouragment for everything thats happening.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months now..i love him with all my heart..but lately we've been fighting a lot..well not really fighting but argueing not gettin along to well..i try to say stuff like why it could be and just my opionon and the situtation but he doesnt like to listen...i need some new ideas..wut should i do so we can get along good again

Sometimes couples tend to fight the wrong way. When something is bothering you about what he does, start out your feelings by saying calmly, "I felt really __________ when you__________" and fill in the blanks.

That way you are saying what you were feeling when something happened and he wil understand better. When you find yourselves fighting, just say, "Alright, let's calm down and try talking out the problem, what's bothering you?" And then let him tell you what's wrong. If he keeps fighting and yelling, tell him that you should leave and start talking again in about an hour or the next day to work things out when he cools off.

The same goes for you. If you find yourself too angry to talk this out calmly, let him know that you need time alone to cool off and think things over.

When you state your feelings and tell him what event caused that feeling, he should listen. If you feel that he is not listening or considering your feelings at all, then maybe it's time to really think this relationship over. You may think that 8 months is a long time, but it's really not. Don't be afraid to end the relationship if you truly feel like this fighting is endless. There are periods in relationships where you can't seem to find common ground and that's normal, but if it's lasting a really long time, then it's probably not a period of time.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok so i've been goin out with this girl for like half a year now (i dunno really i lost count) and lately her sister (REALLY HER HALF SISTER kinda well they have the same mom) has been trying to get us to break up because she thinks i'm not good enough for her. her sister is really starting to get to her and my girlfriend won't admit it and she wants to handle this on her own. I WANT to help her cause whoever the hell makes my girlfriend mad should get what they diserve. her sister even mad her cry one time and she keaps on trying to get my girlfriend to dump me and go out with this kid lee (who i haven't met). my girlfriend says she can handle it but i can't i have to do something and she won't even give me my girlfriends sister's cellphone number cause she doesn't think she needs my help. I CAN'T STAND IT THO. i NEED to do something about this so what should i do?!?!

Whether your girlfriend can handle her sister or not, you cannot do or say anything that will make her change her mind about you. So you are better off staying out of it.

I know you hate to see her crying and letting it get her, but you both will have to do your best to ignore her and wait until your girlfriend tells her to get off of her back about Lee and any other guys she wants to hook her up with.

My question would be why her sister believes that you aren't good enough for her, but whatever the reason is, it doesn't matter. Your girlfriend chooses who she wants to be with and her sister will have to face the reality that she has picked you and not anyone else to her satisfaction.

Listen, you don't need to stand up to your girlfriend's sister as if you are her hero. This is her family, and if someone in her family is messing with you both as a couple, then it is your girlfriend's job to handle that because it's her sister, not yours.

My suggestion would be that everytime she makes a comment about you or her being together, walk away or leave the room. When your girlfriend's sister is trying to hook her up with another guy, your girlfriend needs to tell her to back off and leave. It is her job to show her that she is with you and that is not her choice. So maybe you should talk to your girlfriend more about handling this situation and let her know that you are really disturbed by the way she's been taking her sister's actions.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: This kid and I are inlove.I love him a lot!But one problem,He's my bff's ex!!!Everytime he hugs me she gets mad and basically wants to punch me.I want my life back,but I am happier with this kid.I just want ma old friends back.The people that stuck with me are my true friends,one imparticular.But I want to be able to hug him and stuff,sometimes when she is watching i push him off!So I can only choose one.If I choose my bf i will be happy,but lose my bff.If i choose my bff,I will have to break up with him and then get my old friends back.I really love this kid and i have followed my heart always,and its led me to him and my heart is telling me to stay with him,but what do i do!???

When your friend gets upset about her ex-boyfriend hugging you or touching you, that tells me that she's not over this guy yet. And that tells me that you need to respect her feelings and back off.

It's way hard enough for a girl to get over a guy she really loved, but when her best friend jumps in and is the new girlfriend, that's unbearable. You will definetly lose your best friend if you do get with this any and you don't even know if she will ever consider you being friends again if you and him don't work out. No matter how much your heart and mind argue back and forth, this guy won't be worth the friendship you are ruining.

I understand that you feel really into this guy, but is it really worth losing your best friend over?

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok well i have this thing with my best friend well i kinda have two bestfriends...well like my other best friend lets name her tessa and the other girl amy well like with tessa i have a really good time with ehr cuz we have alot of thigns in common and i also have fun with amy but like with amy it seems like we are drifting apart mostly because i hang out with tessa all the time now..well anyways tessa and amy dont like eachother well there liek sorta friends but tessa gets annoyed of amy...and like ive been feeling really really guilty lately because i havnt been hanging out with amy and sometimes i cry myself to sleep because i feel so guilty..like i try and hang out with her but when i do it just isnt the same as it used to be....so help me please i want to be best friendw ith both of them.

Well, try doing the things you do with Tessa. If you and Tessa really enjoy going to the movies, then ask Amy to go see a movie with you.

You may not have as much fun with Amy as you do with Tessa, but maybe you could find something you and Amy really like doing.

As for these guilty feelings, you'll feel better if you talk to Amy about the way things have been. Tell her that you really want to catch up with her more and hang out more and she'll probably feel better. You can still be friends with both of these girls, but maybe you should try getting them to be better friends so that you all can be together. I'm not sure what annoys Tessa about Amy, but maybe she should try giving her another chance so that you won't have to stress hanging out with them both equally.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: im the person whose boyfriends mom died.

well i told him he can talk to me about anything but when he talks about his mom i have no idea what to say.

he was in 1st grade when she died. she died of breast cancer and lost her hair. she was always in bed and so he couldnt really talk to her.

it 100% breaks my heart and i have no idea what to say so i feel like an idiot. what can i say? i cant even relate to what hes going through! i love this kid but he wouldnt know from the way i respond. help us please!!

I think that it's normal for you to feel like you can't say anything because there are no words that you could say to bring his mom back or make him feel better again.

When he's talking to you about his mom, like if he says he misses her and everything, just say you know you do and that she's in a good place watching him now.

If he starts to talk about the way she was, ask him what his favorite memory was with his mom. But only do this if he starts in on the conversation about his mom. You don't want to force him to talk about a painful death.

I'm sure that your boyfriend knows that you have no idea what to say and he doesn't expect anything for you to say except to comfort him and tell him a lot that it's ok.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok im like seriously self conscious about myself....like im about 5'4" and im 155lbs.. and i hae it.. but every sys that i look good adn stuff but i dont feel like i look good at all.... heres a picture of me.... http://www.myspace.com/ann1990marie adn im not doing this to promote my myspace either... u owuld have to go to my pics and look in there and im the one in the green dress but i dont normally look like that cuz i accually have curly hair thats down to my mid back... just that pic was taken in november... so i just wanted to kno what some people thought...

Other people that tell you that you are pretty is a nice compliment to have, but it's better when you actually think that you're pretty too.

You need to slow down with what other people are thinking about the way you look and focus on your own thoughts about you because that is what matters the most when it comes down to your appearance.

You also don't need to send in your picture or describe yourself in order to make people picture you in their head and tell you that you are pretty. If people were walking around calling you a liar, then you probably wouldn't be as bothered because you know deep down that you are not a liar.

When people judge you or say something about you, you have to decide for yourself whether that judgement is true or not. This is not a mental disease, this is a normal low self-esteem problem so don't convince yourself that you have a problem.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: whats caring and supportive means? i really know what that means and whats the difference between caring and supportive?

I want to say that they mean the same thing, but it takes a while to think about the differences and here they are:

Caring: Means that you deeply love this person and respect them. You really want the best for that person no matter what and you always try to make things better for them. If they are having a bad day, that person really tries to make it better for them because they don't want to see them unhappy.

Supportive: Means that you are 100 percent behind someone on a decision or hobby that someone else is in and you would do anything to help make the sacrifices for it or make them do better in that.

So basically you can deeply care about someone and yet if they make a decision that you don't like at all, you wouldn't be supportive of the situation.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: OKAY THIS IS KINDA LONG SO ILL GIVE ANYBODY A 5 IF THEY READ IT...

me and this girl have been best friends for about a year...well we hung out everyday and talked about everything...she talks a lot about people behind there back and im the kinda person who doesn't say things about people behind there back...well she always says to me im not her true friend and everything and then when she wants something (like if i have money or my car or something like that) she's nice to me...we hang out everyday though and her parents love me...well she started going out with this kid and i mean he's cool and we all chill...well she talks shit about him behind his back all the time...she always says she just uses him for his money and other things...well about a night ago we were drinking and playing a game with her little brother...he won and i was really drunk and i said something mean about her little brother when he went upstairs...(now she talks about her family all the time and says stuff about them all the time) well she got mad and right after i said it i was like omg im sorry i didnt mean to say it it just came out and then she started going off about how im not her true friend and everything but i went to jail for her bc she got jumped and i jumped in and helped her...now i know i shouldnt of said the thing about her little brother and i was telling her im sorry and that i didnt mean to say it it just came out...and now were not friends anymore and its killing me inside...everyone says this girl is trouble and doesn't care about anybody but herself..and for the past year yea we've gotten along but she always bosses me around and yells at me but i love her like my sister so i need help on wut to do!! thanks!

I think that people were right when they said that this girl only cares about herself. I think it's very true because she constantly talks about people and then when she wants something from them, she kisses up to them.

I think that you should be a little relieved that she was the one who ended the friendship. It may not be good news right now, but later on you'll be thankful that you aren't talking to someone who only would befriend someone by munipulating them into what they want.

Plus, don't think that just because she's always talking about everyone around her that she's not talking about you, because she is. The way someone acts around other people tells a lot about who they are and you don't want to be friends with someone who just acts all sweet and then right as you are turning around, she talks about you as if something were wrong.

Don't think that I don't understand that this girl was a great friend at one time and that you really love her. But, if you know for a fact that she's only acting like your friend to borrow money or use your car, then you know deep down that she's not being your friend. You're being used.

About this inccident with being drunk: I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you shouldn't drink to the point of intoxication and things like that wouldn't happen. Now you know for a fact that drinking and using drugs can really hurt people around you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok, so I have alot of friends, not trying to brag or anything. I've best friends with two groups, so I have like 20 wicked good friends. However, one group of 10 does not mix easily with the other group, and really one two of us get along really well with both groups.

Anywayz, that is just some background, here's the main problem...

I'm going to the carnival with one of these groups, but the other group wants me to go with them, especialy this one girl. That girl doesn't have anyone else to go with because she has a really busy schedule and can only go at a certain time. She's thinking of coming and hanging out with us BUT most of the friends I'm going with don't like her. One of her worst enemies is in our group and it would just be a mess. Who do I go with? What do I do? If I go with the group (which I really want to), how do I let it down to my friend?

I think that it's mature that the friend in the opposite group is willing to try going with the other group to hang out.

However, you mentioned that a lot of the girls in this group dislike her. If these reasons are extreme, like a fist fight, or a really bad verbal fight, then I wouldn't try it.

If it was something like backstabbing or 'stealing' a boyfriend, then maybe you can ask this group of friends to be mature for a while and accept her. Just let them know the situation and ask them to at least try acting like they get along so that this carnival experience will go smoothly.

If you don't think it will work because of a strong conflict between this friend and the group, then maybe you should go ahead to the carnival with the group, and when this friend can go, then meet with her and hang out for a while. It can't really hurt to try hanging out with different friends.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok, my best friend and my other good friend are going out with two guys who are best friends. One of them I'm also close friends with, and the other one I used to like (and then he started going out with my friend, long, messy, story). So anywayz, they are ALWAYS planning double dates and are leaving me out because I don't have a boyfriend. It's not intentional but it amkes me really want a boyfriend. I know that probably sounds really insecure and stupid, but it's true. What should I do, if anything?

Well this has to suck knowing that your friends are making dates without you.

The best thing that you can do is ask your friends to give these double dates a rest and have a girls night out or something.

Or you can try hanging out with some other friends you have. If you have a friend who you don't talk to that much, try talking to them more and make them a good friend. It can't hurt to have other friends to have fun with.

You aren't insecure and stupid for wanting to have a boyfriend. It's a normal desire for people to have. Everyone wants to fall in love.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok so there's this girl who we will call Katie. She's kinda friends with some of my friends (especially the guys) and it feels like she's taking over my life. I heard her calling herself best friends with my best friend even though she realy isn't. She's taking all of my friends and probably talking crap about me (we don't have the best past) and turning them against me. Now she's even coming with us to this thing that was only supposed to be a tight group of friends. What do I do?

I'm not sure what type of girl Katie is, but if she's a pretty nice girl to be around, then maybe you should give this more time. She might be calling your best friend her best friend because she wants to feel like she's in your guy's group of friends.

It's ok to feel like your best friend is being taken away, but you have to start learning that you and your best friend will always have other good friends. Maybe you should talk to your best friend about how you feel about her and Katie and see what she has to say about it.

You could also have a talk with your group of friends and tell them that you suspect Katie might be talking about you badly and you feel like she might be turning them against you.

About this thing, if it was suppose to be just you and your friends, then maybe you should try talking to them about it and see how they feel if they weren't the ones who invited her. Now, if your group of friends talked about this event in front of Katie, then you basically asked for her to come. It would be rude to talk about something big coming up in front of someone whose not going.

My advice would be to talk to these friends about what your fears are about this new friend that's in your group.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: my bestfriend & i sort of slowly drifted apaprt...we just haven't talked, except maybe briefly, in the past 2 or 3 months. we didn't fight, we just sort of stopped talking? should i confront her? i don't really want to be best friends with her anymore, but it seems like i tried to make more of an effort to keep the friendship then she did. should i confront her? if so what should i say? i just want to know WHAT happened, so it is not such a mystery anymore.

What's hapenning between you and your friend is normal. It happens to a lot of friends who have even been friends since they were babies.

What might be happening is that you both are growing up and getting interested in different things and try hanging out with different people. Usually people who are more like yourself so that you can relate to people. If you believe that your friend has been hanging out with people who seem different, then she's probably hanging out with them more to be more like them.

I don't think that you should confront her with these feelings because you don't really want to be her best friend anymore anyway. So maybe if she starts to miss having that closeness with you, she'll come to you. Plus, if you felt like you were the only one trying to keep the friendship updated, then maybe you should leave it to her. Don't be afraid to meet new friends and make a new best friend.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: My whole grade thinks im a slut because they believe stupid rumors people start.

Ok so my story: i hooked up with a guy ive like for a year last friday about 5 times. It was us and one of our good friends at his house. Well that saturday he asked me out and i said yes so hes my boyfriend now. when monday came our grade cought wind of it and starting making stuff up like i gave him a blow job and hand job and all this stuff and im such a slut when i wouldnt do that anytime soon! im like prude compared to most in my school!!!

so people have bets like "well if she didnt give him a blow job yet she probably will by the end of the week" and "theyre just going out to hook up." or "theyre like SUCH a bad couple"

were not!!!!!!!!! hes the best boyfriend i have ever had i really like him SO MUCH but what if he cant handle it and looses his friends and stuff. hes going to break up with me i think soon if this continues. now i dont know for sure but maybe. i dont know what to do. i need to talk to him ASAP but any advice?

i usually dont pay ANY attention to what people say about me but i only am because it concerens my boyfriend too! thanks so much

Well, don't feel bad for being bothered by these rumors. They are really inappropriate and that would get to anyone.

What you need to worry about is whether your boyfriend will choose to let these rumors destroy you both or not. That's something you should confront him with.

Ask him how he feels about the rumors and what he thinks. You might also want to try asking him if he could have said something that could have led people to turn it into something else. I know you may think that he wouldn't do that, but you never know about people today and what kind of things they will say or do to hurt someone's reputation.

As for when someone from your grade confronts you with a nasty rumor, just tell them that you'd appreciate it if they would mind their own business or just smile and walk away. Do or say anything but getting upset or showing that you are upset. People who start rumors want attention from the person it's about. They want to hear them get angry. You and your boyfriend should figure out a plan for dealing with these rumors and use the same methods.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: i dont know what to do
he always says he hates his life and wants to die

there is stuff EFFED up in his life but not to where he should die i mean its not THAT THAT BAD considering his mom died and his dad sometimes beats him. but his dad really loves him a LOT he can just be an asshole to his dad.

hes like 'im going to cut myself like rite now' and all this stuff because it "RELIVES STRESS FOR HIM" i dont know what to say

Your boyfriend sounds like he's in a lot of pain.

The problem is that if you really wanted him to get some help, then you'd have to tell a counselor or a trusted adult that he's cutting and that could result in problems between the two of you. It's hard to convince someone not to feel depressed or to stop hurting themselves, it's almost impossible.

Another thing you could do is try being with him as much as you can. If he needs to get out of his house, then invite him over or go on a walk together to get him away. Then maybe you could convince him to talk to someone about his problems. Comfort him and let him know always that he is loved by many people and that he needs to live for those people. He may be having a tough life now, but when he's out on his own, he will be able to take control of the situation and be happy.

When he starts a family later on and gets married, that's only the other beginning of his life that he can change. And tell him that that part of life is worth waiting for. Sometimes you just have to keep comforting him for the moment until he calms down, and keep picking up back up.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He's going away to college this fall, two and a half hours away. We've been apart for a three months, that's it and it was very hard. He says he's going to try to come home every weekend or at least every other weekend. We've started talking about it, and the only thing we have decided on is to attempt staying together, but we're both afraid of it hurting too much. I tell him that I'm still going to be in the same boring town, with no new people, he's the one going to a completely different place (but it's an automotive college, so not a lot of girls), then he pulls out of card of me going to college in a year, but I'll be going somewhere only 45 minutes away from our home town. What can I do to relax about him going away and keep the person that I love more than anything????

There is no doubt in my mind that it will be hard to keep together, but it's possible.

What you have to do is keep your emotions relaxed, but keep yourself bust doing something with friends, or your family. Staying at home doing nothing will only remind you of the pain you have that he's gone. And then you'll start having worse thoughts about him being with another girl and that's a horrible feeling.

Sometimes when someone you love makes a change in their life, you have to make some changes in yours. Is there anything that you've always wanted to study or do in your lifetime? Like taking a vacation somewhere or doing something big? Maybe you could go to a school and study something.

If you find something like a hobby or a job, then you should start on that so that you'll have something to look forward to. Besides, your boyfriend said he would try his best at visiting you on weekends and that's probably a hard task. So at least he really cares about how you'll be feeling while he's gone.

And one more thing: Don't make the mistake of getting mad at him if he seems to be tired or not as active as usual. School isn't always easy and he'll probably be working hard. He probably is worried about what you'll be doing too and he's probably just as concerned.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: 15 / F _ okay so i started going out with this guy a couple days ago && i really like him nd all ;; but it doesn`t really feel rite && i don`t think i`m ready for another relationship yett because me and my ex broke up about a week or 2 ago && i know i`m still in love with him ,, he was the 1st and only guyy i fell in love with .. and he still likes // loves me too ,, but i don`t want to wait around for him for _ ever yah know ,, but idk what to do ..

I think you should break-up with the guy you are seeing now to take time alone for yourself.

It takes a lot of time to get over someone and you don't have to rush in to be with someone else just because you are no longer with anyone.

I think that you need more time to yourself to get over your ex boyfriend.

-TheTeenGirl

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