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what does this mean (its gonna be long ill rate HIGH!!)
ok this is how it all started out
i have liked this dude for about 3 years
we just started going out in march
we broke up in april for 4 days due to.. the fact he didnt like me as much as i liked him
he said he thought about me for the 4 days.
and threw those 4 days i cryed and trained myself not to put to much emotion in to anything i love b.c im afraid of being hurt.. now we go back out.. and he loves me alot. like ALOT and i feel like i dont love him as much b.c when we broke up i trained myself to not put any emotion in to anyone or anything.. and now when he says i love you i dont believe him and i want to sooo bad.. i really love him.. its just i dont want to be hurt im scared. and what not... soo does this mean i dont love him...??? b.c i know i do.. its just im scared.. he tells me everynight he loves me.. i know he does.. its just ... im scared of being hurt...
and now im really sad i have been having a bad week and when we are together i dont talk and he thinks he has made me mad but he didnt... he asks me 5 times am i mad at him im like no...
what should i do..
i really love him..
just.. scared
ILL RATE HIGH!!
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just tell him that youve been acting weird because youve been thinking tell him you dont want to brake up but youve been scared latly thinking hes gunna hurt you agian and if he truly loves you like it seems opnly the best can happen it seems like if you told him he would deffinatly fix things and let you know that that wont happen and you dont have to be scared i think it would really help =]
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Hi there,
Be honest about your feelings: I think when you're having doubts about the way ahead the one person you should be telling is your other half. It affects them as much as you, after all. Had we been more upfront with each other about the fact that it wasn't working out, it certainly would've been a much cleaner finish.
Don't just focus on the negative aspects of being single: Of course it's going to hurt coming out of a relationship, but you forget the good things that come with being a free agent. Parties are more fun for a start!
Take one step at a time: When you're on the inside looking out, the prospect of being single seems a world away from what you've got. But it's not like alien territory, and my fear that I'd end up lonely and desperate proved unfounded. In some ways I look at couples now and I'm glad I'm not in their shoes!
Takecare
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I think it'd be best if you'd just talk to him about it. If anything, he'd want to know why you're unhappy.
It's quite understandable on how you trained yourself.
Get interested in things, get closer to him, and you should probably get some space---not break up.
Do some sport, or something else to take your mind off your insecurities.
But I think he really does love you.
"You don't know what you've got until it's gone."
He seems to have realized how much you mean to him.
If you don't believe him, I think that's fine for now. (I don't really believe my boyfriend when he says it either.) I don't know him personally so I can't really tell much. Is he the type of guy to lie frequently? But anyways, you should try to believe him.
Is all I can think of right now--if you want you could talk to me / ask more questions.
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I don't think that you don't love him. I definetly think the feelings are still there for him. You are just afraid of getting hurt again. These feelings are normal and the only way to get rid of them is to stay with this guy until you start getting the idea of how he really feels about you.
What you should do in the meantime is let your boyfriend know this fear you are having and let him know that you may not be acting like yourself for a little while because of these feelings. That way, he won't be under the impression that you are harder to please and that you aren't feeling the same way.
I know it may seem like you are falling too hard, and you might be, but you have to make some bounderies for yourself when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it's better to be laid back and having fun in a relationship when you are young. Young and serious relationships are hard to keep up with. These feelings that you are having will go away in time when you feel secure that he won't hurt you again.
-TheTeenGirl
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well if you love him and he says he loves you and you think he dont mean it then maybe he dont but then again he maybe does love you and just talk to him about it ,belive me it always works out :]
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