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not gettin along to well
so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months now..i love him with all my heart..but lately we've been fighting a lot..well not really fighting but argueing not gettin along to well..i try to say stuff like why it could be and just my opionon and the situtation but he doesnt like to listen...i need some new ideas..wut should i do so we can get along good again
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You might wanna pick up this book i've been reading. He would listen if he cared enough to listen. Although, it sound sharsh, it's actaully really liberating.
Pick up "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behdrent.
It's like. The greatest piece of literature ever.
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Sometimes couples tend to fight the wrong way. When something is bothering you about what he does, start out your feelings by saying calmly, "I felt really __________ when you__________" and fill in the blanks.
That way you are saying what you were feeling when something happened and he wil understand better. When you find yourselves fighting, just say, "Alright, let's calm down and try talking out the problem, what's bothering you?" And then let him tell you what's wrong. If he keeps fighting and yelling, tell him that you should leave and start talking again in about an hour or the next day to work things out when he cools off.
The same goes for you. If you find yourself too angry to talk this out calmly, let him know that you need time alone to cool off and think things over.
When you state your feelings and tell him what event caused that feeling, he should listen. If you feel that he is not listening or considering your feelings at all, then maybe it's time to really think this relationship over. You may think that 8 months is a long time, but it's really not. Don't be afraid to end the relationship if you truly feel like this fighting is endless. There are periods in relationships where you can't seem to find common ground and that's normal, but if it's lasting a really long time, then it's probably not a period of time.
-TheTeenGirl
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i think maybe you should try like ask him wut he thinks about your realationship and ask him if he see's your realationship in the futer. Good Luck!
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