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Q: whats leading them on means? is that also means a player?

im from jamaica

It depends. A player would be leadign on a good number of people.

Leading someon on is making someone think that you like them romantically, when infact you don't. You are toying with their feelings for your own fun.

Q: OK, what does it mean when a grown man has naked barbie dolls in his apt. with their hands & feet tied & tape over their mouths?

Obviously some freaky fetish.

Unless your into that, i would lock your door at night.

Q: Ok so im only 13 but im in love i've been with this guy he's 15 i've known him since i was 3 he asked me to marry him because he said he loves me what should i do

Your thirteen. You shoul be worried about starting to use make up, not marriage.

And sorry hunny, but love (as evil as it may ound) doesn't happen at thirteen.

You'll laugh about this later. Don't agree to marriage until you are at least 25.

Q: I try shaving down there and either 1)I'm not doing it right or 2)My skin is tooooo sensitive. It always gets red/bumpy and its not pretty! My bikini line is WAYYYYYY obvious. I want help and steps/tips on how I would be able to shave down there..right...do I shave it all off or..leave some? HELP!

16/f

Hmm. Are you shaving with the hair or against it, cause that cold be causing the razor burn.

Hope that helps.

Q: I think I got my period. But, I don't know.

Yesterday and today I've gotten brown stuff in my underwear (and no its deffenitly not what you think it is) I didnt get my period yet and i'm wondering why it's brown. Its ruining all my underwear. Should I wear a pad?

Same thing happen to me.

YEs, you got it.

Sorry hunny. The shitiness begins.

Q: I'm a girl, and I act like a guy a lot. I also hang around guys all the time..literally. This girl and her friends always ask me, "Are you gay? I think you're gay." And I say something like, "Liking guy things does not determine which gender I like!" And I even called her a fat b*tch (she is fat). She just won't stop.

What do I do?

Everytime just smile at her as you remember that later in life, you will visit home and find that she is still working at her sad prepster clothing store making minimum wage. And because you have self confidence and have the courage to be who you are, you will have reached the stars and have a fantastic life.

So, just smile.
And remember.
You rule, and she is just a little drone. =D

Q: what does OCD mean?

OCD is the abreviation for a disorder called 'Obsessive Compulsive Disorder'. Go to www.wikipedia.org and search for "obsessive Compulsve Disorder to learn about this disorder.

Q: Yesterday, my flow was pretty heavy, so this morning I put in a tampon and went off to school. It felt uncomfortable, and when I went to take it out, it hurt really bad then when it came out, it was almost completley white, with very little blood. It burned to take it out, and ever since then, I've felt sore down there.

Is there some wrong?

No, it just hurts to take out a dry tampon. Bummer.

Q: do i have to worry if my teen is emo--he quit swim team --does not like coach --"different"--don't "know him anymore"---artistic --freshman in large public high school--decent student --oldest child in family of 3 children, mom and dad

If he has decent grades and isn't getting into trouble can yuo ask fro anything more than that.

Try to stay as involved as you can without being forceful. That will just make him angry, be kind and understanding, and try to keep him happy at home.

Also, the artistic kids always end up more educated and sophisticated later in life.

Q: k, so my hair gets all messy sometimes
it like flips out at the ends.
not a big deal
but everyonce in a while, bla!!

- that guy you know who listens to classic rock, fixes your guitars, and is goin 2 PCA this year.

Two words.

Pantene Pro-V.

it's a miracle worker.
Maybe a straightening iron.
If you want that emo look haha.

-that chick who cannot look upon in fear of losing her eyesight due to you glorifyingly bright godliness.

Q: so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months now..i love him with all my heart..but lately we've been fighting a lot..well not really fighting but argueing not gettin along to well..i try to say stuff like why it could be and just my opionon and the situtation but he doesnt like to listen...i need some new ideas..wut should i do so we can get along good again

You might wanna pick up this book i've been reading. He would listen if he cared enough to listen. Although, it sound sharsh, it's actaully really liberating.

Pick up "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behdrent.

It's like. The greatest piece of literature ever.

Q: I think I might have to be put on birthcontrol because my piriod is always so irregular. I was wondering if I just had to go to the doctor or the gyno? Thanks. =)

It's probably best to see a gynocologist. They can explain what is best if your only using it for an irregular period, not just controlling birth.

They also can tell you about what needs to go on if you do start being sexualy active.

Q: there is this boy that i like...and he likes me...but he isnt looking for a girlfriend right now...he just wants me and him to be "friends with benifits"......what does that mean?...... but it seems like i want more than that....when we are alone he acts like we are boyfriend and girlfriend...but we arent......but when we are at school he doesnt really talk to me that much anymore.......and i want him to........he doesnt give me little sweet kisses, or hugs, or anything like that... someone told me that he is emaressed to be around me and that he doesnt want others to know......but he doesnt seem like that kind of guy...and others are saying that he just wants sex out of me (RUMERS)...i guess i just want to be more than just friends but i dont know how to tell him......because he isnt looking for a girlfriend right know.............
thanks for your helping hands!!!!!!!

baby

I hate to say darling, but as the book says...
He's just not that into you.

Friends with benefits is usually when a guy ad gal angree that they both don't wanna be in a relationship.

This wasn't an agreement, he was just telling you that. It will never become a relationship, because he obviously only wants you for the "booty call" for lack of better term.

Sorry hunny.
I'd dump his ass if I were you.

Q: well when even i pull my pants down(like to go to the bathroom)there is this white gooey stuff in my underware and it kinda smells and i dont think it id yeast infection because they say yeast infection kinda looks like cottage cheese
pleae help me

It's called discharge and it's totally normal. It means the opposite of what you think. It means everything is working fine and there's nothign wrong!

HURRAY

Q: I like this boy alot and Im guessing he likes me to. We have kissed and he has told people and me that he liked me. I like him alot and I want to go out with him but I`m afraid I`ll never be able to see him, only on weekends and stuff.
I`m afraid that if we go out he will flirt and stuff with other girls sense we wont be with eachother often. I`ve known him for a while and he doesnt seem like a guy who would do that. And if he ever hurt me my brother would kick the shit out of him.

I guess I have two questions.

1)should I go out with him? and should I ask him out sense he hasnt asked me out? If I should ask him out how should I do it? if not how should I get him to ask me out?

2)how can I make it so I can see him more often?

Ok, well, after reading this I see one thing that is going to be more important than the others.

I'm not sure of your age, but the fact is. If a guy is really into you, he WILL make time for you. It is no fun to be sitting at home hoping he will call and want to chill.

If he can't make time for you now, when will he ever be able to? Don't settle for a relationship where you feel like you under appreciated. It's not fair for him to do that to you, and it's not fair to let yourself take that.

Q: I am very pale and I get very self concious when Im wearing shorts or skirts. The problem is I want to wear skirts and stuff because I think they are cute.

I guess my question is, is there any way to take peoples eyes off how pale I am or to make me look darker without tanning?

Well, I wouldn't worry about it.

From most guys, I hear pale is the new tan.

Q: what SPECIFIC major is for somebody who wants to become a newscaster? (like reading the news on tv, radio, etc.) thanks!

Journalism and communications.

Q: I'm on a low calorie diet right now, and I've already lost about 5 pounds since I started. I'm just wondering if I eat junk food every so often, but still stay at an amount of calories that I've limited myself to so I can lose weight, will it have any affect?

Will the junk food, although within my daily limit of calories, affect my body negatively by gaining back weight or anything like that?

If it's a low calorie diet, it's just that.
Low calorie. It;s about staying within the limits right? So, if your not going outside the limits you should still lose weight. It doesn't mean it's healthy for you, but you'll still lose the weight.

Q: 0K so i hav long, below da shoulder, straight hair. I tried scrunching it. Yes i showered, towel dried, applied gel, flip my head over, and scrunch from the bottom to the top. I put gel and hair spray once in a while and i scrunch and srunch and scrunch .. eventually my hair dried. Any advice?

Well, I hate to say hunny, but this sound hopeless. I have straw straight hair, and when I decided to get a perm, this is how I styled my hair. So, with stick straight hair, you're never going to get it curly just be scrunching. The gell and the scrunch help the curls take shape, but your working with hair that doesn't have a curl shape.

Q: I'm 15 and and overweight for my size/age. I weight about 150 at 5'8.

Anyways, I got my period (and breasts) in about grade 7. I wore a sports bra from grades 7-8, and a regular bra from grade 9 to 10 (current).
At night of course I don't wear one, or if I'm home alone.

My breasts seem to hang down a lot, as if they have absolutely no support. They aren't up and perky like pictures I've seen, and when I asked my friends they told me that theirs were as well (one of my friends even showed me). What exactly is wrong with mine, why are they so droopy? They are only 34B, so it's not like they are huge or anything. How do I fix them? I just want them to look normal.

Well, usually when a woman's breasts are done growing they begin to droop slightly. Perky boobs are usually still growing. Since you developed so early, maybe your boobs have stopped developing early. Not a doctor, but that's my guess.

And trust me. All boobs are different, as cliche as it is, there really is no 'normal body'. There's only whats normal for you.

Don't be down. Hope that helped.

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