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GOiNG OUT WiTH SOMEONE BUT STiLL LOVE SOMEONE ELSE..
15 / F _ okay so i started going out with this guy a couple days ago && i really like him nd all ;; but it doesn`t really feel rite && i don`t think i`m ready for another relationship yett because me and my ex broke up about a week or 2 ago && i know i`m still in love with him ,, he was the 1st and only guyy i fell in love with .. and he still likes // loves me too ,, but i don`t want to wait around for him for _ ever yah know ,, but idk what to do ..
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I know you don't want to wait around for him but please remember that this doesn't necessarily mean rushing into dating someone else. The heart is like any other muscle. We need to let it heal before we can use it effectively again and I think the problem here is that you have tried to move on too quickly.
If you still love someone else, it isn't fair to be in a relationship with this guy, so try to explain to him that you thought you were ready to move on but you weren't. Reassure him that he is a great guy and you do like him but you just aren't able to be in a relationship with anyone at the moment.
After this, you need to start trying to move on. This is a very difficult thing to do and I would never deny that it is but if you don't want to wait around for him then you need to do it. Try to go out with some friends more. Take up a hobby, expand your horizons and try different things. If you can do this, it should take your mind off him and it might help you to start moving on. Don't expect your feelings to disappear overnight becuse it will take time. A cliche, but it's true.
You will be ready to move on at some point but for now, just work on distractions and in time, you won't have to remind yourself not to think of him. When that happens, you know you will be ready to move on.
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Break up with your current boyfriend. It makes no sense to go out with someone if you're still recovering from a recent relationship and you don't even like the guy you're going out with that much. Maybe you'll end up going out with your ex again eventually after a little break from relationships.
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I think you should break-up with the guy you are seeing now to take time alone for yourself.
It takes a lot of time to get over someone and you don't have to rush in to be with someone else just because you are no longer with anyone.
I think that you need more time to yourself to get over your ex boyfriend.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hi
To be fair to everyone involved, I think you need to be single for the time being.
If you're involved with your new boyfriend for the wrong reasons, then you are going to end up hurting him, and he doesn't deserve that.
If you ex-boyfriend still loves you, then why do you have to wait around for him? I guess that kind of confuses me.
If your ex isn't ready to get back together, then by all means, you shouldn't "wait around" for him, but with that being said, you shouldn't be with someone else if you're not ready.
Wait until you can be with someone (no matter who that is) that you know you truly want to be with, and not just someone who is helping you pass the time.
Take care,
Brenda
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