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drifting apart
my bestfriend & i sort of slowly drifted apaprt...we just haven't talked, except maybe briefly, in the past 2 or 3 months. we didn't fight, we just sort of stopped talking? should i confront her? i don't really want to be best friends with her anymore, but it seems like i tried to make more of an effort to keep the friendship then she did. should i confront her? if so what should i say? i just want to know WHAT happened, so it is not such a mystery anymore.
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wow its scary how similar a sitaution i went through....the exact same thing happened to me and i finally just confronted her and told her wat i felt and she totally accepted that and was very understanding and remorseful so i say you should just talk it out because if it bothers you that much then you should be the one to break the silence or no one will...goodluck
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This is actually a very normal thing to happen to friends as they get older. When we are young, we have friends that we have so much in common with and have so much fun with that we're virtually inseparable. However, as we get older and our horizons broaden, we develop different interests and in most cases, these are not the same as those of our friends. The experiences we have and the things we enjoy grow and change over the years and we become different people. Sadly, this means that maintaining those relationships we once had become more difficult, because there's less in common.
If you have drifted apart from your friend and don't really want to be best friends with her any more then it sounds as though you have already got what you want. I understand you might want some closure on the matter and that's fine but if you don't wish to pursue the friendship any furter, there is very little to be gained by retracing your footsteps to discover who did or said what to whom and when.
As long as you are sure you no longer wish to be friends, let the whole situation go. Don't fret on it too much because soon enough you'll have new friends that fit the person you are now. You might 'outgrow' them in time too but for now, make the most of the friends you have right now. Even if they don't last forever, it doesn't stop you making memories that will.
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wow i know exactly what your going through..me and my best friend stopped talking and I was the one who felt like I was keeping the friendship together...the best thing i can say is ask her about it and if you truly don't want to be her friend anymore then don't. just ask her why you 2 drifted apart and that will definetly releave some weight off your shoulders...hope i helped!
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Wow, thats happened to me before too.
Its sorta like the game "Sims" you make really close family friends, except you have to keep talking to them or you'll slowly lose contact, you know?
Okay, if you were really close, and you feel thaty ou miss her, you should confront her, and tell her how you feel!, but if you dont want to be best friends with her anymore, you can just be friends, or just leave the situation as is.
What happened is you guys just probably lost interest in each other, and you both changed, and sometimes that happens and friendships surely change.
Hope that i helped.
<3
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I had the same situation. That just happens with friends sometimes. you just drift apart. Y ou could try to kepp friends with her, but when i tryed it was really hard and when we hung out it was just kinda awkard. You loose friends and you make new ones. that just the way life its. Still be nice and talk once and a while and stuff. But becomeing best friends again would be hard.
xoxJess
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What's hapenning between you and your friend is normal. It happens to a lot of friends who have even been friends since they were babies.
What might be happening is that you both are growing up and getting interested in different things and try hanging out with different people. Usually people who are more like yourself so that you can relate to people. If you believe that your friend has been hanging out with people who seem different, then she's probably hanging out with them more to be more like them.
I don't think that you should confront her with these feelings because you don't really want to be her best friend anymore anyway. So maybe if she starts to miss having that closeness with you, she'll come to you. Plus, if you felt like you were the only one trying to keep the friendship updated, then maybe you should leave it to her. Don't be afraid to meet new friends and make a new best friend.
-TheTeenGirl
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