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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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I went to my OB today because I found out that I was pregnant last week at my 6 week check up (I have a 2 month old at home and another child under 1 year). My doctor asked me today why I refused birth control, although I already told them that birth control is against my religion. I repeated myself today and felt odd since I KNOW I had already explained this.
The doctor then nodded her head and said, "Well, that is just silly," in a very demeaning tone of voice. I was so offended I told her, "My faith is no laughing matter." I was just very upset and I still am. I need a doctor that will take me seriously.
I am not a government case, I am not an unmarried mother, and I am not on food rations or food stamps. If I want to have all of the children that God allows me to be blessed with then I don't understand the issue.
I am a mother and wife. I am also the daughter of very wealthy philanthropists who have provided myself, my husband, and our future children with the means to take care of our needs.
Why am I being judged when I can take care of any children I have, and why am I being judged when I want to have 15+ children? Should I switch to a doctor that will not pressure me to go against my beliefs?
This is what you need to do:
Find a new OB.
Find one that knows and UNDERSTANDS your beliefs from the very get-go. If they can't accept you for who you are, they don't deserve your money for their half-hearted services, now do they?
I could see if they had concern for your health, having so many kids, but your beliefs are NOT silly, nor should they be treated as such by someone so nearly intimately close to you.
ygs=31/f
Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?
People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?
I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.
Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.
Ok, so I heard about it from my mom that his death was confirmed. I can't pick up TV channels, nor do I have cable, so I know nothing about the accusations of him faking it. (Which sounds stupid to me to accuse a man of faking something like that. BUT, you know how people are...)
Will I miss him? No. Haven't missed him since his trial ended and he disappeared to lead his own life (or attempt to).
Am I said? HELL YES. When I was just a kid of 7 or 8 or so, Thriller was his latest album out. At the time, I was so in love with him, and planned to marry him. You know, all that good mushy girl stuff.
Anyway, just because I grew out of all that, doesn't mean his death doesn't affect me.
His life impacted me.
So does his death.
ygs-31/f
I have to take a drug test for a job I got offered...anyone here ever taken a drug test ? Do I need to bring any important documents? And do they send your results to the job or do I have to bring it back?
Most likely, they'll send you to the doctor of their choice, if it's urine. (Swabs for saliva and hair samples can be taken on site, I know. Urine I'm not so sure about.)
Your urine (or hair, or saliva, etc) goes to a lab. Lab results back to the doctor. Doctor calls the job and tells them if your test was clean (no drugs detected). If it's dirty, they most likely will call you to inform you that they will turn in the dirty results to your job.
I hope that makes sense.
ygs-31/f
I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 weeks almost 5. And I want to makeout with him, I know he does too but he wont do anything that Im not comfortable doing. So, we haven't even kissed, I don't want to make out/kiss him because I dont know how? I know this sounds cheesy but I don't want to mess it up, or make it really akward.. Because this is my first kiss too and I really like him. So can anyone give me advice on how to kiss/make out? Thank-you soo much if you reply to this!
14/F.
Well, I'll tell ya...
He is as inexperienced as you are.
Best bet? Learn from each other. It's just one of those things you have to learn on your own.
You can only gain experience from experience. :-)
ygs-31/f
I dye my hair dark brown/black and my hair is naturally light brown, so my eyebrows are also light brown. It looks weird and I would like my eyebrows to match my hair color or just somewhat close. I don't want to use a pencil or anything and the dye boxes always says not to use on eyebrows. What can I use or do that will work? I'd especially appreciate answers from people who have actually dyed/colored their eyebrows.
My hair is naturally blonde, and I dye it black. My eyebrows are also dyed black.
Though the dye instructions always warn against using it on your eyebrows, it can still be done. Below is a link with instructions on how to dye your eyebrows.
DO NOT allow the dye, nor the dye rinse water into your eyes, whether you are washing it off of your eyebrows, or if you are rinsing your hair.
It can cause blindness!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/593823/how_to_dye_your_eyebrows.html
ygs-31/f
ok. So tonight it was like 11:35 and my bf and I were making out in his car at a park. We are both 18. All of a sudden a cop comes up to the window, and to make a long story short, took our IDs and then gave them back after going to her at for like 5 minutes and then told us to leave the park. R the cops going to contact our parents?? I will be DEAD if they do.
No. They just wanted to see what you were up to. If they thought you were doing something that your parents needed notified, they would have either escorted you home to speak with your parents, or hauled you to jail.
ygs-31/f
i'm going to try and keep this short! i dated david*, broke up with him due to lack of feelings, now i'm starting to like his cousin whom i've been friends with before i dated david. however, the cousin likes MY cousin...
should i tell him that i like him? or should i just not say anything at all?
So... Do you think cousin likes you, or he just likes your cousin?
If he just likes your cousin, stay back. Don't let some dude come between you and family.
Ok?
ygs-31/f
I have three children; Two boys and a girl. My oldest is 5 1/2 while my youngest just turned 1. I have a great marriage. We have been married almost 12 years. We have a little home in a nice suburb. My kids get along really well. I have a pretty happy life.
Before my husband and I got married we both discussed having 3 children. He is the eldest of 4. I am an only child. We both wanted a big family. At this point we should be just enjoing what we have made of our lives. Now that my daughter has just turned 1 my husband has made numerous comments about wanting another baby. Just a few weeks ago my 5 year old crawled into my lap and asked when we were going to bring home another baby. He loves his baby sister so much he wants another one. I asked what if he had another baby brother. He responded that would be okay too. So now that the bug has been put in my ear about it, I can't decide what to do.
My problem is my pregnancies gradually got worse with each one. I had joint problems that in my 3rd pregnancy required me walking intermittently on crutches toward the end. I am not the kind who particularly enjoys being pregnant. They were fairly uncomfortable and I was so happy when my 3rd was born because I "Never have to go through this again". I don't really want to go through child birth again. I don't want to deal with the recovery process again, all the blood work, the epidural, the doctor visits. We are incredibly responsible parents so if we did decide to have another I would "suffer" through all of this because it isn't about ME, it's about the health of the baby. I guess I want another baby... but I don't want to HAVE another baby.
The other issue we have is we have several friends who have children with "issues". Two have autism, one has something "like" cerebral palsy but has not actually been diagnosed with this, etc. We have been quite fortunate that I never had a known miscarriage and our kids are all healthy. Would we be tempting fate? My husband's sister has 5 kids who are all healthy but that doesn't mean we would!
Is there anyone out there who has several children and had this dilema of whether or not to have another? What did you decide to do and whatever that decision was, do you regret it or happy about it? I am a religious person so I have prayed about it. This was recent so I am still waiting for my answer. I thought while I was waiting I would get input from other women (or men too) who have been in this situation.
One last thing to add, I am going to be 31 this summer and while I still feel quite young in almost all aspects of life, I am starting to feel a bit old to be having babies. I realize I haven't hit that "danger zone" of 35. I just don't know if I am wanting another baby because I actually WANT 4 kids, or if I want another baby because I am hormonal about my last baby being 1, almost walking, turning into a real little kid and no longer a "baby".
Ok. I don't know if I have anything helpful to say, but I'll give it a shot.
I'm 31, this past April.
I have two children 13 months apart.
Both are boys.
We planned to have 3 kids. We stopped at 2.
Most important was financial. We can provide a better life for 2 than we could for 3.
After that was my misery. I had been pregnant for 2 years, I had rough pregnancies, I'm still dealing with postpartum depression, in fact, as my youngest is 15 months old. After much debate, we decided my getting a tubal ligation was the best choice for US.
So what is the best choice for you and your family? THAT is what you need to decide with your husband.
Can you afford the finance of another child?
And DO NOT take your friends' children into consideration when you make this decision. Autism, etc, is bad stuff, but the chances of it affecting your children is slim when you compare the national average to how many children there are in the USA.
Your friends and their children should NEVER come into play when you are making a choice about having children of your own. Why? Because you should have children to love unconditionally. If you are worrying over your friend's child with autism, then perhaps you shouldn't consider having more children.
Believe me when I say I know we all hope for healthy children, but when I was carrying mine, we never fretted over health issues. We would love them as they came. Obviously to us, our two were meant to be.
Please don't take this as me being cross with you, because that isn't the case. I'm just stating the facts as I know them.
If you want my best advice? You admit that you are yet hormonal...
WAIT.
Don't let hormones decide a decision that impacts the lives of so many, including the potential life of one who isn't thought of.
Make sure if you choose to bring that potential someone into the world that they are someone you really want to see.
Wait until your youngest is 2, then think about it, ok? Make sure this is something that you want for you, your family, your life.
ygs- 31/f
hello there! well, my friend went to a tarot card reading today. it more so told her about her present, the person verified a lot of things.things like-your in a difficult relationship-"your boyfriend isn't phisically abusive but mentally" and was like "if you do not get out of the realtionship this will be you (she flipped the card over and it was a cloaked person). She continued to say "You will be unhappy and lonely with him, i'm am worried for you" then she said something like "however if you do decide to leave him.." (she then flipped over a card that had some kind of happy thing in it- don't remember) "you will be happy and victorious". (its more detailed,but thats just the basic things that the tarot reader said)
now, granted the person doing the tarot card pretty much nailed her boyfriend right on the money- he's either nice or mean, mentally abusive at times. but he's gotton a lot better since then. shes been thinking of breaking up with him, but feels like she can't because its been a year since they've been going out. he's gotten a lot better, and their relationship is really better than ever. but this reading just assured her of breaking up with him- (i don't actually believe in tarot cards, if you haven't guessed- honestly- they just tell you what you already know.- it's freaky that the person knew that,but the future has limitless possibilities.)
the lady was like "you have to decide between the two decisions given to you"
Yet i do think that theres more than just two decisions in this.(leaving her boyfriend or staying with him) And i don't want her to just throw something away because of this "reading". The thing is- i don't know how to tell her/proove to her that theres more than just those two outcomes, and how this reading really isn't the thing that should decide her future with him.how do i explain to her? any help with this? (shes 17, hes 18) thank you!
Ok, so you don't believe in tarot...
Does she?
What you believe in or don't matters not when it comes to what she believes in, and vise versa. To her, this reading may decide her future. Though you are her friend, it is NOT up to you to judge what she believes in.
Just because you don't believe in something doesn't mean someone who believes differently is wrong.
In fact, the one to learn what is right and wrong in her life is her. As her friend, you're just there for her in the good and bad times.
ygs-30/f
i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
The fact of it is, that it will happen if it happens. Beaches and romantic settings don't very often change a person's feelings outside of fiction.
I would just do what you normally do and make this trip as fun as possible. If the romance and flirting happens, let it come on it's own, rather than making a job of it. You will be more apt to be relaxed and have a great time.
Maybe things will work out as you hope, but don't forget to make this trip memorable either way.
ygs- 31/f
Well my best friends boyfriend and me used to like really close then recently me and him grew apart and he has been a complete ass to me. He asked my friend not to talk to me that much anymore and if she listens to him i dont know what im going to do. But she would never break up with him and if he said he was going to break up with her cuz of me i no she would never talk to me again cuz she really loves him. what do i do?
I know you won't like this, but I'm going to be straight up, here.
If she would never speak to you again because some jerk gave her an ultimatum of "her or me" then she's not a true friend to begin with.
Better to find that out now than when you really need her.
ygs-31/f
This might be a stupid question, but I'm hoping someone can help me out. In the account section, and privacy section, I have it set to where everyone can view my profile now. There are also other sections on there for who can view your comment page, photos, status and mood page, and some other categories I believe. If I have it set in every other one of those categories that only my friends can view those things, does that mean I should be okay? Does this mean that Everyone will be able to view my profile, but if they tried clicking on all the othe things (photos, status and moods, comment page), it wouldn't allow them to? That's what I'm wanting is for people to only be able to view the profile, that's it. If anyone understands this question, or wants to test it out for me, I'll give you my myspace url. Thank you very much!
You must be talking about the 2.0 profile?
Yes, if you have all of those sections set to only friends can view, then only friends can view.
Someone not on your friends list can only see your basic profile.
I always found it good to check. Log out, put your url in the address bar of your browser, and view your profile as anyone not on your list would. That will show you what they can and can't see.
Hope that wasn't confusing.
ygs-31/f
Okay so my qurstion is can you get pregnant if the guy has pre cummed and did not cum when he was inside?What is the chances?
The chances are slim, but it's possible.
That's how my first born came about.
If you become 2 weeks late for your next due period, take a test. If you are a teen, the 2 week wait is due to possible irregular cycle.
If you are an adult, 1 week is fine.
That allows enough time for an accurate test result. False negatives are far, far more common than false positives. False negatives are due to testing too early or inaccurately.
Always use a condom. It's not just a measure to protect against pregnancy, but it's a measure to protect you and your partner from STDs. You never know if either of you are carrying an STD unless tested.
A baby is a lifetime commitment.
An STD can be a life sentence.
ygs-30/f
HI!
Well... I was wondering how do you add music to a video?? I HAVE no idea...I know how to everything else but...I don't know how to get music on my computer from ... like you tube or something...please help... and give me EASY directions on what to do. Please, help!! I wanted to send this video to my crush.
To add music to your WMM video, the song first has to be in your My Music folder. If you don't have the song of choice in that folder, go to the song file, click on it, on the left of your screen click Copy To. Scroll down and select your My Music folder, then click copy. (Or maybe it says OK.)
Now in WMM, under Tasks, On the upper left, click on Import Audio or Music. Search for your song of choice, then click Import.
Now you want to make sure that you are on your Time Line View, not Story board.
Click and drag your song down to the line under your time line that says Audio.
Now if you are wanting to upload to Youtube your finished video, the easiest way I've found to do that is to select "save to my computer" so it saves in .avi format.
After that, go to your Youtube account and upload the video.
Hope that helps! :-)
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Sorry so long but you have to know the story Please read and help! Ok I am 13 year old girl and I really need some help. I dont have long so here it goes. There is this boy in my class and i have known him for a while but never really like liked him, now I do. Now my BFF is in my class too and I found out about a month ago that he likes her! She also likes him! Now we (BFF, Me, Him and a few other friends) went to the mall one Saturday for Bff's B-day and I spent the night at her house that night, she later told us that he is annoying because he is always nervous and he is never close to her and she has to "drag" him around and hes not "romantic", she said she doesnt really like him any more but I am NOT sure about that. No one knows I like him. Now my BFF has almost been missing from school for about a week and me and him have been flirting A LOT. We have a great time together and laugh and smile so much. All this week I have been feeling more and more that he might like me and i think he does but i am not sure. I will be with him all day Today and Saturday (tomorrow). So what should I do I dont want to ruin my friendship but I dont want to go without him knowing. Hurry I really need some advice!
This boils down to a question you need to answer yourself:
Which one of them is more important to you?
ygs-30/f
me and my boyfriend are young and cheesy as it sounds, in love. we've been dating for a year and three months. he's had problems with his life and dealing with things because of a very big family chnage so with his problems he feels like he's bringing me down. i told him he wasn't at all because i'm his girlfriend and he can talk to me about anything. so he said he would try to be more open with me which has always been hard for him. okay yeah thats a great change but should i ask him if he has tried talking to his dad or someone about what happend and what we talked about (family problems) because this "talk" has happend twice and i feel like if he doesn't talk to someone and fix his problems, our relationship will keep going back to that and the next time he won't want to stay together. so should i ask him or should i leave it up to him? i'm not sure and i really just want to be reassured he's okay and i know he won't be okay if he doesn't talk to him dad about these issues. i just don't want to butt into something that might not be my business you know?
thanks a ton!
sorry if it's somewhat confusing, i'll answer questions if any come up.
If you think he needs to talk to his dad, then you should tell him that. A way to tell him without "butting in" is to wait until he talks to you about it again.
Next time he says he worries his problems are bringing you down, then remind him that people who love each other lean on each other. They stick together through the good AND the bad. When the bad happens, they work through it together as best as they can.
ygs-30/f
I am looking for some tube hoop earrings that are hypoallergenic and silver or white gold. Nothing too expensive, maybe like 10 or 15 max for a pair. They used to sell them at claires and they were like 7 or something, and then if you bought 2 or something you would get the 3rd one 1/2 off. But i cannot find any decent ones on their website. It has to be an online store cause i live in idaho now and there are like no stores near by where i could buy them
here is a picture of a perfect example of something i want. They have to be very plain and at least this big or bigger would be cool too.
http://www.goldenmine.com/ProductImages/Earrings/image/e1801.jpg
Thank you...
How about this:
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=3526496
My husbands son lives with us. He is 19 years old and does not have a job. He got fired from his last job because he didnt go to work. The problem? Since he hasnt been working (FYI...he isnt even looking), my husband insists that we pay for his cell phone bill and his car insurance until he gets another job. This infuriates me to no end. This kid sleeps until noon or after, comes and goes as he pleases, eats, showers, does his laundry and has full range to everything in the house. I work very hard for my money and dont think I should have to help out a lazy 19 year old. This is costing us over 100 dollars a month extra for his bills not to mention the extra groceries we have to buy and the utility bill being more each month. We can barely pay our own bills let alone his.My husband and I have fought and fought over this issue. What can I do??
Sometimes the best help you can give a person is no help at all.
First off, he's a 19 year old adult. He needs to learn to be responsible for himself. That means, he needs to get with the program and pay his own debts.
He can't pay for his cell phone? Guess he don't need it that bad.
Can't pay his car insurance? Well, he's got legs.
My great grandmother once said, "If you don't work, you don't eat."
I hope your husband understands that by catering to your son, he's causing him WAY more harm than good. He needs to think of the long run- the BIG picture. If he provides for your son now, well, who's going to provide for him when you're both gone?
By your husband insisting on providing for this perfectly capable adult, he's crippling him by not teaching him self reliance and independence.
And that's where this all does more harm to your son. Your son will have a long row to hoe in this life without learning those two key lessons in life.
I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope your son finds his path in life.
ygs-30/f
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okay you know how you have to swtich to the new music player that myspace made well i recently got round to it. i did all the songs and good stuff but when i go to my profile to see if it works i have to press the play button and i was wondering how you set it to automatically play once someone gets on your profile.
On your home page, click "Edit Profile."
On that page, in the upper right corner, click "Account Settings."
Click on the tab "Miscellaneous."
Scroll down to "Music Players"
Check the box that says "Auto-start my profile music player when visitors come to my profile."
Click "Save Changes."
im 16/f and ive been smoking for about 10 or 11 months. this lady used to supply me to pay me back for letting her dogs out every day. but recently, she hasnt asked me as much. on average, i do it about twice a week now.
but i thought i was ok because my boyfriends family smoked and i could always hit off them when i went over there. well, his brother's (who is 28) back has been hurting, so he cant get a job and he cant drive. his dad is getting pissed because he spends almost 300 dollars a week on cigarettes to supply his family, and its affecting the rent money they use to pay for the house they are renting out. so the whole family has to quit, and now i have to, too.
i dont drive yet, and im unemployed. i know if i just had enough money i could get someone to go to the store and buy me some, but im not made of money, and soon im gonna start driving and i have to help pay for car insurance.
smoking is all im thinking about right now. i dont know what im gonna do. its only been a day and im already an emotional wreck; depressed, pissed off, mood swings, crying, yelling...etc.
can someone tell me how in the world im supposed to last? is there anything i can do that'll make it any easier?
Take it day by day. That's all you can do outside of quit smoking aids.
You are really far better off health wise and financially by doing this now. Obviously smoking is a habit you can't afford.
I don't blame his dad for making everyone quit. Do you realize how much money $1200 per month is? How much that would pay for? That's a payment on a nice house, and it's going up in smoke.
It's hard to quit smoking. I still haven't succeeded. My husband quit. He chewed sunflower seeds to aid with the oral part of stopping. He said the hardest week was the first, but he didn't have the urge for a smoke after 2 weeks.
Try to keep your smoking hand busy. Hold a pencil, bend paperclips; something to keep them busy. Chew gum, sunflower seeds, etc.
Smoking that cigarette isn't only a fix for your body's craving. It's a fix for your mind, your mouth, your hand. They crave it too.
I wish you nothing but the best of luck with quitting. I hope you succeed where I've failed so many times. If you lapse back into smoking, don't give up- keep trying.
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