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the ex
i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
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Well it sounds like you still mean a lot to him, especially if he says he still wants you in his life after being in a relationship with you for that long. There is a big chance of him falling for you again. The summer, The beach, its all perfect. Just take him to dinner and to the beach and splash around in the water with him and just flirt and be the way you used to be with him.
In my opinion i think it is very possible. Just sit on the beach, listen to the waves and look up at the stars. Maybe even lay and cuddle with him if you feel its right.
Hope i helped & Good Luck! =]
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The fact of it is, that it will happen if it happens. Beaches and romantic settings don't very often change a person's feelings outside of fiction.
I would just do what you normally do and make this trip as fun as possible. If the romance and flirting happens, let it come on it's own, rather than making a job of it. You will be more apt to be relaxed and have a great time.
Maybe things will work out as you hope, but don't forget to make this trip memorable either way.
ygs- 31/f
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What i can say is , that you shouldnt pressure him about . what i think about the situation is that you should jsut go with the flow and late at night you two might think about taking a midnight stroll along the beach take flirt have fun enjoy yourself . dont present your self to him as being desperate . and do some of the things he likes doing . make him laugh lie on the beach run your fingers through his hair look into his eyes take you other free hand and run it gently along side his face thatll say it all trust me .
signed concerned columnist XOXO i hope it goes well
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Its a good sign that he still wants you in his life. Regardless of what happen he still doesn't want to lose you or your friendship. This trip could definitely lead to him realizing what he's missing out on, you. The one thing I would suggest you tell do is tell him that you still love him, and that you don't want to be with him. I say you do this in a romantic setting. Somewhere on the beach under the stars while you guys are all by yourselves. Don't get your hopes up things could go either way but just let him know regardless of what happens you'll always be there. I suggest you wear really cute, sexy but not slutty outfits to get his attention. Be flirty definitely do "the stare". The stare, the seductive look you give a guy to know you are intreseted. Most be yourself. Besides that's the same reason he fell in love with you the first time. If you need anything else, feel free to message me personally anytime.
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This is a difficult situation because there is no way to make someone have romantic feelings about you. It's good that you're still friends, but you should only be friends if you can handle it. Of course there is a chance that getting away from your hometown together will re-spark something between the two of you. I wouldn't count on it though.
It would be great if there were some magical formula that you could cook up and make his feelings change. Unfortunately, you just have to roll with it. The chances of something romantic sparking depends on how you are with each other now. If you guys still flirt, hang out often, or act like you're dating; there's a good chance something might happen. However, if he's hanging out/interested in other girls, doesn't flirt, and all around doesn't act nearly the same as when you were dating, the vacation will probably be just like that of any two friends.
If I were you, I would just go on the trip and enjoy yourself as much as possible. Sure, hanging out at the beach at night might up your chances a slight bit, but other than that there really isn't much you can do. Just be yourself and try to remember what attracted him to you in the first place. If you were sweet when you started dating and he liked that, let your sweet side come out. If you were spunky, show your spunk. Things and people change, so don't expect anything huge. Just roll with things and hope for the best.
Darby(:
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In response to your comments and questions, it sounds to me like he's waiting for you. Maybe the stress of the end of the school year just took a toll on your relationship. He hasn't moved on and he says that things will be better during the summer. That means that he wants to pick things back up during the summer. It sounds like your vacation might be something to restart a relationship together. I'd say your chances are pretty good. (:
Have fun!
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This is a difficult situation. While the fact that he has agreed to come on holiday with you is promising, he may have completely innocent intentions. You need to be really careful because you risk getting hurt if he doesn't return your feelings.
Personally, I think you should find out before you go whether or not he still has feelings for you or not. If you don't you may end up embarassing yourself, let alone getting hurt.
If you insist on waiting until your holiday, then don't do anything too over the top or 'romantic'. Suggest walks together etc but don't do anything which you may regret if he doesn't feel the same.
Good luck.
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I think you are probably going to be disappointed.
Love doesn't happen over romantic candle-light dinners, or long walks on the beach.
Love, real sustainable love, happens when two people CHOOSE to be together, despite disagreements and trials, and to respect and adore one another, even when it is tough.
Your EX made the EXACT OPPISITE choice when he broke up with you. He decided that although he might have cared for you, he wasn’t willing to choose you over everyone else in the world.
If he does change his mind while you are on the beach flirting it up, I would bet my life's saving you will not be together 6 months after that. I’d be shocked by 3 months. He will have changed his mind based on a few little romantic moments while on vacation, and those moments are illusions. It won't be a permanent change.
Enjoy his company as a friend. Behave as a friend. If, when you are behaving completely and only as his friend, he expresses he might like the person you are as more than a friend, then MAYBE you have a shot. But if you throw yourself all over him well on vacation, you’ll never have a chance, even if he does take you back, it’ll be over again before you know it, because it won’t be based on who either of you truly are as a person anyways.
Make some peace with this and behave as his friend, or else you will torture yourself all vacation long, probably look really foolish, and worst of all, you might fall back into a doomed relationship.
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