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Stepson wont step up to the plate!
My husbands son lives with us. He is 19 years old and does not have a job. He got fired from his last job because he didnt go to work. The problem? Since he hasnt been working (FYI...he isnt even looking), my husband insists that we pay for his cell phone bill and his car insurance until he gets another job. This infuriates me to no end. This kid sleeps until noon or after, comes and goes as he pleases, eats, showers, does his laundry and has full range to everything in the house. I work very hard for my money and dont think I should have to help out a lazy 19 year old. This is costing us over 100 dollars a month extra for his bills not to mention the extra groceries we have to buy and the utility bill being more each month. We can barely pay our own bills let alone his.My husband and I have fought and fought over this issue. What can I do??
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Sometimes the best help you can give a person is no help at all.
First off, he's a 19 year old adult. He needs to learn to be responsible for himself. That means, he needs to get with the program and pay his own debts.
He can't pay for his cell phone? Guess he don't need it that bad.
Can't pay his car insurance? Well, he's got legs.
My great grandmother once said, "If you don't work, you don't eat."
I hope your husband understands that by catering to your son, he's causing him WAY more harm than good. He needs to think of the long run- the BIG picture. If he provides for your son now, well, who's going to provide for him when you're both gone?
By your husband insisting on providing for this perfectly capable adult, he's crippling him by not teaching him self reliance and independence.
And that's where this all does more harm to your son. Your son will have a long row to hoe in this life without learning those two key lessons in life.
I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope your son finds his path in life.
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