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is it ok to masturbate if ur pregnant? (link)


Yes it is okay to masterbate while you are pregnant, If they say having sex while pregnant can be healthy..Then go for it!


Last night i had this really freaky dream that i was in my kitchen talking with my bf of like 4 months and everything was like really nice. But then ll of a sudden he gets this really sick grin and his head turns all the way around like in the exorcist. I scream and he grabs a knife and starts chasing me. I ran into my parents bedroom and locked the door screaming at him to leave me alone. As i'm backing away from the door he suddenly appears in the room still grinning and stabs me and i get this sickish feeling like no matter how many times he stabs me i'm not gonna die and i'm gonna feel it forever. Then i wake up like screaming and sweating, what could this mean? (link)


This should answer all of your questions.


http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/k.htm


I have been going out with my current boyfriend for two months. We both attend a boarding school- I'm a day student, but he boards, so we're separated for the summer. At the end of the school year, I met a guy through a friend. He really likes me, but I don't know him very well. I suggested that we hang out sometime. We went to see a movie, and we made out. I had a really good time, but I felt like shit. I want to see this guy again, but my conscience is telling me to cut off all communication with this guy. What's the best thing for me to do?

PS- this guy has a gf, and is a close friend's ex-boyfriend. (link)


You need to make a choice, It's either him or your boyfriend. If you love and care for your boyfriend then you need to stop cheating on him. For starters, If this guy already has a girlfriend then why are you fooling around with him? If you see him again you are only leading him on not to mention you may take the risk of doing the wrong thing and in the long run you hurt yourself, and your boyfriend. This guy is "cheating" on his girlfriend if you two were to hook up what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you? The choice is yours to make if you think you should cut contact then maybe you just answered your own question. Remember, A choice you make could be forever.


Good Luck

BahaiMa22


my name is Rachel Strickland and iam 20 years old and my friend that I have bein friends with since 5th grade and then we both started high school we became best friends and I cried more at her viewing than I did at my dad's funeral and I don't understand why I would cry more at a best friends viewing not funeral than a parent's actual funeral and I was so upset that I couln't even bring myself to come to the funeral. my parents were divorced and I only got to see my dad every other weekend and some vacations and two weeks in the summer if that helps. I've been crying myself to sleep every night and I've been screaming at my mom and everybody in the house and I normally don't yell at my mom why would I do this when my bestfriend died? please help me! (link)


I am sorry for your loss

You could be acting out because you are grieving over the loss of a close friend. Therefore you may be taking out on close ones not purposely but because you don't know how eles to cope with it. You're father, You seen him every other weekend it could be possible that you had a closer relationship with your friend and it could also be possible that at the funeral of your father you were in disbelief and it didn't hit you right away which is common. Spend time with your Mother as she will be the one to comfort you.




my cat has this really bad cough and im not sure if its a hairball. we cant afford to take him to the vet. what should i do? (link)

There isn't much you can do but take him/her to a vet because unless the cat is seen by a veternarian the problem will not be treated properly. The most common reasons for coughing in cats are asthma, heartworm disease, roundworm migration, and lungworms which all can be very painful.


Go to a vet!



I ordered a reconstructed shirt from a site (not gonna put the name of the site), and they said it could take up to six weeks to receive it because they had to get the shirt in & reconstruct it. Well, around the six week mark I still hadn't heard anything, so I emailed them & they said they had just got the shirt in to reconstruct & they'd ship it out in a few days. About a week went by & I still hadn't received the shirt, so I emailed again. This time they said that they promised they weren't going to scam me & that they were working on the shirt now & it would be shipped in a few days. That was last week & I still haven't heard anything.

I know this is probably a stupid question, but what should I do? I'm afraid if I keep emailing them they'll get aggravated & won't do a good job on the shirt, & they don't accept returns. Also, if I don't want to ask for a refund because I used a prepaid card to order it & the card is inactive now, so I won't get the money back (it's happened before). Any advice? (link)



Yes I've had a simular problem before. Honestly, If you've waited that long for the shirt to be returned it sounds like they might not be returning it or it is taking them a looooooong time to get around too it. I would try calling them and exsplaining the issue. You could also ask to talk to a manager or someone in charge. The number one thing about the internet is that it is not completely trust worthy and sadly...even when it comes too buisnesses. It very well be a scam and if you've waited that long to hear back then I would start thinking so. I would try calling, If you get a negitive responce then maybe it's time to close your bank account just to be on the safe side. If you don't get the shirt back I don't think there is much you can really do.



-BahaiMa22


My dad recently discovered he had Diabetes, but he loves candy. Are there any sugar free candy or sugar free desserts out there?

Thanks! :) (link)


I hope this helps! :)

http://diabeticfriendly.com/


(fifteen; female)
this is a really long story but please take the time to read it because i've never been more desperate for help in my entire life..

i had a boyfriend who i am totally and completely not only in love with, addicted to. let's call him A. i also had a really close friend who i've known since around fourth grade, let's call her B. a few months ago, i found out from a newly made friend (who i had known probably about a week) who was friends with my exboyfriend. one day, he told me that he couldn't lie to me, and he told me that A and B had been sleeping together. when i confronted them, they both denied it. A's only defence was "if i slept with B, don't you think i'd brag a little more, she's hot as shit. i wish i did, but i didn't. if i did, everyone would know about it."
a little about me and A: i've been in love with him for about a year. at one point last summer, things really heated up and we fell in love (or so he says he loves me.. but he probably really doesn't). he's put me through hell and back, but i've never loved anyone like i love him and i never will.if you were to ask him how many times he's cheated on me, he'd reply with "too many times to count," and yes that is the exact answer he gave me. i know i sound like such an idiot actually having feelings for someone that treats me like he does, but my love for him can't even be put into words.
when i found this out, i was a trainwreck. and i still to this day can't breathe. A and B are dating now. in fact, after all of this happened, he came to my house and appolagized to me (tears and everything), but he was dating her when he gave me the whole "still in love with you" act.
A and B's relationship consists of sex, with a few drunken breakups thrown in, but they of course throw it in my face whenever possible of how happy and in love they are.
i recently got in a fight with my best and closest friend, let's call her C. today, i was at a mall in my town where i saw a bunch of my friends.. and who do i see but C and A hanging out together. for C to even aknowledge A makes me want to throw up, especially since C knows what i've been through and she knows that i would NEVER do that to her.
not only did i lose the love of my life and a really good friend, but i lost my best friend too.
the A and B thing happened months ago, and i'm still hanging by a thread. what the hell can i do to make this hurt less bad? i want to breathe again..
and how do i just get over all the shit these people are putting me through? i really don't see how i could deserve this. how am i going to get over it all? PLEASE HELP ME. i'm honestly dying inside because i have literally nothing to live for. i need help i don't know what to do, i don't want to be miserable anymore (link)


Wow Hun I'm sorry to hear all this.

First of all, You did NOTHING wrong. The truth...When people cheat on someone they don't like to admit it because it makes them feel guilty and they want it kept a secret. If your boyfriend cheated on you with your friend then he is not worth it and never was. I know you fell hard for him but you need to realize that you deserve better. You can breathe again and believe it or not you will overcome this it might not be right away but it will happen. If your best friend went behind your back like that to date your exboyfriend then she wasn't a friend all along because what makes a friend a friend is the fact that you can trust each other. I wouldn't be mad at "C" because frankly although you knew her for about a week she was the friend to come out and tell you the truth instead of you finding out the hard way. Although, It was tough to hear...Sometimes it helps to focus on the pain and turn it into anger and move on. What I mean by this is sometimes instead of thinking of all the good times think of all the things that hurt you, bothered you, angered you and use that focus to move on. Do what you need to do focus on friends, family, summer sports, next school year etc. make sure you get out and you are around loved ones because the comfort helps a lot. If you really want to move on maybe you should cut all contact and focus on yourself. You are worthwhile.


-BahaiMa22


i am afraid to say to my mom and dad that i am bio-sexual (link)


Sometimes telling your parents something like that is a little hard. Tell them you have something you really need to talk about and sit down with them. Like Jack said below me you can gradually work your way into it. They should be understanding..If they aren't maybe it will take them some time to accept it if not then that is there problem not yours you are who you are and you should be proud of it. Only tell them when you feel ready, Dont' be pressured into it. If you feel more comfortable tell someone you trust deeply like a close friend and have them come with you when you talk to your parents.


BahaiMa22


Hi,

I had sex on Monday June 15th and got my period of June 17th. Is there ANYYYYYYY possible chance i COULD be pregnant even though I got my period? Thanks.
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If you've had sex where the penis entered your vaginia despire whether you had your period the next day it is possible you could be pregnant for a more clear result wait 2 weeks before taking a test.


Bahaima22


Where will Michael Jackson be buried if he isn't going to be cremated? Anybody know? I'd like to visit Michael Jackson's grave site if possible. (link)



Phew! When I heard he passed it sure was mind blowing..

As of right now seeing he only passed a day ago, We are not sure of that information the media has not really givin out much information other than he has died of cardiac arrest.


I really need to buy a car of my own. I have to go to work every day and my mom is so tired of me using hers. I told my mom I would go out and look at cars soon but I don't know anything!

It'll be my first time buying a car and I don't have a whole lot of money. I figured I would go to a dealer and make payments or something on a decent car. I'm not really looking for shiny and new though. Just something that takes me to work and stuff.

What should I know before going to look at cars? What do I need to check out, look for, ask about, etc? Any tips on buy a car would be extremely helpful! (link)


If you want to go cheap and get a decent car your best bet is to go to a private dealer.
(Someone who is selling a car) Yes, There might be a few problems with it but it is a whole lot better than coughing up a couple grand.

Here are a few questions that would be good to ask and know in advantanced.

1. You would probably want a car that is good on gas and has good milage.

2. If you buy from a private dealer make sure you know the history of the car (See if the owner can give you a history report.

3. Dealer ships have a tendency to try and talk you into buying a car...so be aware of that it IS there job to sell a car to a customer.

btw If the police never made a report, it won't show up in the report.

BEFORE you step one foot in the car dealer's showroom to buy that new or used car, be sure you know what you want to buy, and how much you are willing to pay for it! If you go to a dealership be prepared that the dealer will try and negotiate with you.


Good luck!
Bahaima22




Hi, My problem is that when I babysit my nephew he gets a bit violent. Today for example I had to get him ready to go to his baseball game. He didn't want to go, obviously. I have a slight handicap and he uses it to his advantege. He'll stike out and hit me on my foot. It's very painful. I've tried to explain to him why he can't do that. But he just rolls his eyes and walks away. My sister has tried to help but he keeps doing it. I can't stop babysitting him because my sister has college and no one else to watch him. So what should I do. I mean he is 8 years old, he should know better.
Elie Hayes (link)

Ugh I can't believe some of the responces below.

Whatever you do, NEVER hit a child. If he continues to hit you when you tell him to stop then punish him. Take away something he loves for example television, games, no outside, etc. Talk to his mother about it make sure she knows about his hitting. If you have too yell at him a little bit and tell him to knock it off. Let him know that you are the boss and HE is the child.


-BahaiMa22


yeah so im a girl and im in the 8th grade and i have this serious medical condition! everytime i take a dump, hemroids come out! do u recommend a special doctor? i dont know what to do! ahhh help! (link)


If you have hemroids then I suggest going to the doctor yes, However if they aren't big and severe/painful you could try using some hemroid cream which can be bought at a pharmacy. Also, try some stood softners it might make it more comfortable when you go to the bathroom.


-Bahaima22


if you get fingered, are you still considered a virgin? (link)


Yeppers, You are only concidered not to be a virgin if you are actually having sex and the penis enters the vaginia etc.




ok so i have a bf whose unexperienced when it comes to dating hes only had one other gf whose super pretty but she cheated on him cus he "never did anything" not even a kiss so i am like his "guinea pig" he even mentioned that he just wants a gf in high school to have practice and doesnt plan on going further than high school and when we first started making out he insisted on making out every day and every time we hang out idk if he likes me or jus using me to "practice" i dont wanna waste my time but i read tips or w/e and he does look into my eyes alot and he tells me how much he likes me but i think im paranoid or somehting? does he like me? (link)


In my opinion he is just using you to gain exsperience so he isn't completely clueless when it comes to the one he does plan on going long term with. For a straight answer...I just don't think he is that into you. The whole looking into your eyes and saying how much he likes you.. well from what you wrote above sounds like he is using the old trick from the book to convince you too stay.

You said: "he even mentioned that he just wants a gf in high school to have practice and doesnt plan on going further"


Think about it, Do you really want someone who is going to end up dumping you? ..


-Bahaima22


i was just wondering where can you buy a vibrator? i am in college now and was hoping to get one because i've just dumped a two-timer and am a bit, er... horny. i was also wondering how it works exactly, do you know? thanks =) (link)


Sex stores would sell them the all popular "Amazing" should be one in the area. If not you can always order them on the internet. ;)



-BahaiMa22


Hi. The eighth graders hate me, and I have a bigass crush on one of them, (he doesnt hate me I don't think)...but I don't really know him. The dance is coming up and I want to break the ice somehow, how do I talk to him without him getting false impressions of the poser i used to be? How can I actually communicate? Do I have to be a slut for him to notice me? (link)


You asked: "Do I have to be a slut for him to notice me?"

NO! You do not have to be a slut for him to notice you! This is were guys get the wrong impression about girls thinking that they are "loose" etc. Just be yourself if he doesn't like you for who you are then he clearly isn't worth it to begin with. Breaking the ice, Just go up to him and asked him! The worst that could happen is he would say no. If you can't figure a way to ask him then say something along these lines... "Hi, I was wondering if you'd like to go to the dance with me because I don't have anyone to go with and I really like you" see what he says. Just be yourself it's more attractive ;)


-Bahaima22


My friend said something about a guy looking really, "Ghetto." I just pretended I knew what she was talking about because I don't want to look really stupid. I'm curious though. I want to be able to use this slang (I assume it is slang...right?) with her. Does anybody know? (link)


"Ghetto" can mean a number of things.

Ghetto - As in style, Urban wear Southpole, Baby Phat, Ecko Unlimed, Apple Bottoms, etc. sometimes people who are "Ghetto" dont have nice clothing and dress as if they are poor.


Ghetto- A poor area mainly found in cities, Apartment buildings, Low income, People who do not have much. etc.


what chance of it of a normal teenager to get parasites?
im 15.
and one time i worked in the garden, i dont use gloves because i pull weeds and it makes it harder to grasp them
i heard that parasites can be in the garden, and absorb through your skin..
even if u dont have any cuts !

i dont drink water very often because i dont trust the tap water, n we dont have time to boil the water. nor the container. drinks n food go away fast because we have 7 people in our house..
so we don't bother..
we cook all of our meats well, and if someone doesnt cook the meat well enough i wont eat it.
i know i have some toxins in me n stuff
so should i try that new acai berry n bromalite diet?
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Um..

I think you might be a little paranoid, Dont' believe everything you hear. The chances of you "getting a parasite" I assure you is like 1 in a billion. Relax, you aren't going to die. If you don't like drinking tap water than go for the bottle of water. Meat is fine if you like it well done than eat it well done! there is nothing wrong with it!







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