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my best friend just died and now iam really depressed!
my name is Rachel Strickland and iam 20 years old and my friend that I have bein friends with since 5th grade and then we both started high school we became best friends and I cried more at her viewing than I did at my dad's funeral and I don't understand why I would cry more at a best friends viewing not funeral than a parent's actual funeral and I was so upset that I couln't even bring myself to come to the funeral. my parents were divorced and I only got to see my dad every other weekend and some vacations and two weeks in the summer if that helps. I've been crying myself to sleep every night and I've been screaming at my mom and everybody in the house and I normally don't yell at my mom why would I do this when my bestfriend died? please help me!
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First off, I'm sorry for your loss. I understand what you're going through with losing your best friend. I've had that happen & it's very hard to deal with, and very shocking.
With that being said, your behavior is normal. The reaction to her death is normal. It's okay to be mad, and shocked and sad and confused all at once. It's okay to scream at everyone (most will say it isn't, I say it is), and it's okay to cry.
You are more than likely very confused about her death, and with so many questions that won't get answered, you're mad. That's understandable.
I honestly advise that you seek counseling. A psychiatrist will help you sort your feelings so that you can see things clearer on this. Just remember that what you're feeling is normal & okay, and that crying helps.
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you might receive from others. My advice is more like what you might get if you asked a grandparent.
First, my condolences on the loss of your friend. Everyone feels and shows their pain differently. If your friend passing is recent enough then the way you are feeling, depressed, and acting are probably about normal.
There are a number of different steps a person goes through while grieving over the loss of a loved one. From what you have written you seem to experiencing several of them. Below are two website you should visit that can help you through this.
www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm
www.griefnet.org/support/sg2.html
One of the suggestions you will find given on the websites is to seek counseling from a qualified Therapist. Your family doctor should be able to help you with a referral if you ask. Grief counseling as it’s called will help you better understand why you feel this way and help you get back to your regular self. The counselor is also more qualified to answer the questions you asked than I am.
Judging from what you have written I would suggest you try counseling. I did and found it very helpful
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I am sorry for your loss
You could be acting out because you are grieving over the loss of a close friend. Therefore you may be taking out on close ones not purposely but because you don't know how eles to cope with it. You're father, You seen him every other weekend it could be possible that you had a closer relationship with your friend and it could also be possible that at the funeral of your father you were in disbelief and it didn't hit you right away which is common. Spend time with your Mother as she will be the one to comfort you.
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