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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
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This is a long story, but I could use the help. First of all - when I like a guy, I like him a LOT, I never stop thinking about him.
In this case, I met this boy John from my friend Sean. A couple months ago at a football game I was talking to Sean and then John came up to talk to both of us, and I had never met him before. He was absolutely the best guy I've ever met - I swear! A simple 5 minute conversation and he was already one of my favorite people (we hardly even talked just between us though, we were all kind of joking around). I didn't like him yet though. I just thought he was really cool.
So since then it's just been every time we see each other in the halls at school we'd wave or say hi. He isn't in any of my classes and he is a year older than me. Soon after that football game though I realized that I had felt completely comfortable talking to him right away. I am usually pretty shy when it comes to new people. It was amazing how comfortable I was with him, like I'd known him forever, and the more I thought about it, the more I liked him. Now I think he's just the most adorable guy ever. I've talked to one of my good guy friends who knew him a few years ago and he can't say anything bad about John. Apparently he was one of the coolest guys he ever met also.
Recently I talked to another one of my guy friends, Brian, and he said he remembers one time around the week of that football game, he was at a swim meet with John. Brian texted his friend that he was mad at him because he almost made a move (on his girlfriend) but his friend ruined it. John read it and said "Who (my name)??", then Brian said no, and John said "She's pretty hot eh?" All according to what Brian told me. I flipped when I heard it lol.
Well, so far, it's been hi in the halls for the past 2 1/2 months or so. I don't want this to just fizzle out, but I don't want to directly tell him we need to hang out because I hardly know him and I never have the chance to talk to him since we only see each other in the halls. John also requested me on myspace a while ago. I asked if it was the John I met at the football game and said something he had brought up at the game that was funny. He replied with "yea it is, i like how thats the only thing you know about me?" Would that be like an invitation to get to know him? That's what I took it as but I just told him I knew something else about him just because it was obvious from his myspace, lol.
Brian said he would try to talk to him soon and maybe that would help, but I just want to know if you have any suggestions as to how I could get John to notice me? Specifics? I am a pretty bad conversationalist but I can follow instructions well haha.
Thanks!
Well, you are asking a bad conversationalist as to how to help you be a better one. :D
I can tell you that it seems obvious to me that he wants to get to know you better. So, yes, I would say that was an invite.
I can also tell you that you are already noticed.
You say you know things about him from his myspace? Try to use those things to strike a conversation with him. If he posts things about his hobbies, or things he likes to do, ask him about it. You say you had an easy time talking to him at the game, so really you just need something to start a conversation with him. Something to get the ball rolling, so to speak.
Sorry I can't give much in the way of instructions, but I'm not much of a talker myself.
I love this guy I've been dating for a year now. Our parents let us be together, but make our lives miserable because we are together. We still are in love but he's letting the outside world that tells us not to be together get to him saying things like, "It doesn't make sense for the one thing that you love, to make you miserable also." How should I respond to this?
Honestly? If he feels that loving you makes him so miserable, you need to tell him to buzz off.
Who is he to say such things to you if he loves you so? Sounds like a jerk to let everyone and everything else dictate his feelings for you.
Why should you put up with a guy talking to you like that, year of dating or not? You don't deserve to be told things like that. It just makes you feel like crap, doesn't it?
okay so my boyfriend and i have been together for about two months now. This past saturday we had sex , my first time and i gave myself to him because i love him and as he tells me he loves me in return. We did it all w/out protection which i realize is a great risk. Now i am in fear of pregnancy. I didnt mention this to him yet but i told two of my close friends, only one knows him and i do not think she told him. The last time i talked to him was monday which i find rather strange, its getting me worried. Is it that he is ignoring me? Should i talk to him about my fear of being pregnant?
thankyou!
I wouldn't tell him. If you become 2 weeks late for your period, go get tested. Your county health department will do it for free. If it happens you are pregnant, that would be the time to say something. Don't risk freaking him out over nothing. And next time, take precaution. Condoms are your only protection against STD's.
As for you feeling ignored, that you should tell him.
would it be rude if i broke up with someone in a letter?
It wouldn't be rude, but it would be sort of chicken, don't you think?
Last time my boyfriend and I got together we did some risky things, but I didn't have sex exactly. He fingered me and I touched myself. I'm almost sure neither of us had anything on our hands. Now, its getting near my period and its different. normally, my breasts get very tender and that hasn't happened yet. Normally I'm very regular about this. I've been getting some slight cramps, and again that doesn't happen.
Does this mean something? Could I be pregnant because my period isn't happening as it usually is? Or am I just having an off month?
You could head to the health department to get a test. They are free of charge. I wouldn't concern about it until you are 2 weeks late for your period.
FYI: A common pregnancy symptom is tender breasts, which you aren't having. But still, if you go 2 weeks late with no sign of period, go get tested.
Ok well I'm a freshman in highschool. Currently, I go to a great school with different "academies" that focus on specific jobs, such as health, telecommunications, etc. By the time I finish highschool, if I stay there all four years, I will have a certificate which will help me towards getting my degree. However, in this school, I have to wake up at five in the morning every day and I get home around 3:00, when school lets out at 2:30. I've been thinking about going to my homeschool, which is only a few blocks away. If I went to that school, I wouldn't have to wake up so early, I would get home much earlier, which would give me more time for homework, and I'd probably get much better grades because the teachers there are less strict and the work isn't as hard. The school I go to now is a uniform school, which means no worries about wearing an outfit more than once. I also have many friends here and the people are nicer. In the other school, there is no uniform, which means I'd have to spend more money on clothing, and the people aren't as nice, although I do have some friends that go to that school. My question is, what do you think I should do: Bust my butt at my current school but get a better education while I'm with my friends, OR take the easy road, make new friends, and still get an education, but not as great?
I'm a firm believer in a good education. I would say stick it out and bust your butt. You will get a lot farther in life faster by doing that than you will taking the easy way out.
please read.. isn't as long as it looks..
I'm going to another school [i've posted like a million questions about this stuff, lol.. but this ones different.
I'm having second thoughts.
Like, what I'm making a bad decision?
& my mom keeps saying, really think about this hayley..& i mean up to this moment ive felt like i most deff. should go.
I mean, if you lost your friends, because your not going to the same highschool as them, & they decide your not good enough.. well you'd leave too.. right?
[i go to a private school, & there gonna go to a private school, but im going to the public.. (they think public schools are full of juveniles with purple hair, & pyscho people)]
Anyways, I tried hanging out with other people. But, like I fit perfectlyyy with the people I hung out with. like If it was a puzzle, & I was a piece, then like.. i'd be perfect in that puzzle.
That was queer? but it was an analogy.. or whatevs.
Anyways, I just think itd be best for me.. i'd be prepared for highshool too. like.. i'd make new friends.. get used too it.. & stuff. & i have friends there..
& i can't stand looking at my old friends anymore. it like makes me upset. like i'm always on the verge of tears. & there is like what.. 4 months or something left of school..
should i stay? & have no friends & be on the verge of tears everyday? or should i switch schools.. with the risk of not having many friends, but not having to worry about seeing the old ones?
oh, & if you go to public, & when you get a new kid.. they make friends pretty quick, right?
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Good for you for refusing to group yourself with fake people! :)
Being the new kid in public school is probably close to the same as being the new kid in private school. You don't know anybody.
The kids in public school aren't what they make them out to be. I was one of the purple haired types in my day, but that didn't make me a psycho. However, there are people in every school, public or private, who are fake a**holes. There is no way to avoid that type of person.
BUT by you leaving your current school, you are letting them win. They are running you out, and you are willing to go.
Weather you decide to stay or go, you need to teach yourself to not care what others think of you. Who cares what they think, they are fake anyhow, right?
If I were you, I'd want to leave too, but at the same time I would want to stand my ground to show that I am the bigger person.
I wish I could help more, but this is a decision you have to make based on what's best for you. I can't make this one for you.
There is an up side and down side to either decision, so think hard and choose wisely.
at my school a lot of people have already lost their virginity. not just regular sex, but from oral and other stuff. i know that theres one guy that would be willing to but i don know if i should. i dont just want to be a follower but i also dont want to be the loser.
Don't do something you aren't ready for. To engage in sexual practices because other people are is not respecting yourself. By waiting for the right time, the right guy, and being fully ready to give your virginity is the most self respecting thing any girl could do.
Once your virginity is gone, it's gone forever. You can't get it back. Don't just give it to some random guy because he is willing.
A little tid bit of information for you: Sometimes to be a follower is to be a loser.
I'm crazy about this guy and I'm 18. I know that we could have something really great. I told him how I feel because he asked me. He told me he likes me a LOT but that he thinks the timing is off because I am going to college in 7 months. Also he said he has a busy schedule and it wouldnt be fair to me. I dont want to give up on him. He's amazing. What can I do to be with him?
If he feels the timing is not right, the best thing to do is wait. You don't want to rush it and risk ruining something that could be wonderful with patience.
His schedule won't be fair to you, nor will yours be fair to him.
You don't have to give up on him. If it's meant to be it will work out in the long run.
I asked a question regarding a married couple that I'm friends with a couple of months ago. I know the wife had cheated on the husband. Since, I've remained silent about the situation and vowed not to be in a position to witness that again. Well, the wife made a new friend recently and the girl has practically moved her & her two kids in with the couple & their 3 children. Anyways, his little girl pulled me aside after church last night wanting to talk to me and she was upset because the girl and her kids had practically moved in and taken over her bedroom. The couple's two boys are having to share a bed, and the friend is sleeping in the bed with the husband and wife. A friend of mine saw the friend & the husband at the grocery store the day before yesterday grocery shopping together. I thought this was odd. Anyways, I called the wife last night and she was crying and upset and wouldn't talk about it. I called thsi morning to check on her and she told me her husband left her last night and come back really late. I don't know what to do. I'm torn as to whether or not I should call and check on him or not because I spoke to him last night and he never mentioned anything about it. I'm friends with both of them. I've tried comforting her, but she still doesn't want to talk about it. I don't even know why they've split up.
Should I call him and try and talk to him or stay out of it and let them reach out to me when they want to?
Since they are both your friends, you don't want to be caught in the middle or appear to take either side.
It is a sad situation, but really there isn't much you can do except be a shoulder to lean on for either of them if they need it. Allow both to confide in you. Don't tell one what the other says, etc. They will find out about each other in due time. You don't want to be the one responsible for breaking either heart. That's probably the safest way to keep both friendships in this situation.
They need to sort out their own lives. Let them reach out to you, if they choose. It's pretty clear that since neither stated the situation outright to you, that they don't want to talk about it as of yet. I'm sure they already know how much you care.
16/f
okay theres these 2 guys who are pretty good friends. Andrew (16) and Scott (15). I liked both of them a while back. One day Scott told me he liked me, so i figure andrew didn't since they're good friends and all. Scott is like one of my best friends, but i still wanted a relationship with him. So i tried to make things work. Scott is not allowed to dat until he is 16. So we've had to secretly go on dates. I'm starting to get a little tired of it always bein a secret. We've been going out for almost 3 months now. Yesterday night, Andrew told me he liked me. And has for a really long time but couldn't tell me becuase of Scott liking me. The things is, is that i really like both of them, and i don't wanna screw up their friendship. It would be wayy easier to date Andrew, but i like both of them. What should i do?
oh ya, scott won't turn 16 until April, I turn 17 in March.
Quite a situation...
It's like this, Scott is one of your best friends. No matter if you break up with him for Andrew or for some other guy, that friendship is never going to be the same again. That is the sad fact about dating your friends. It's just that if you break up with him for his buddy, your friendship will be more damaged. But don't let that be the deciding factor of you staying with him. You have to be fair to yourself.
If you aren't happy with him, move on. If you are happy with him, it's only a couple of months before he can openly date you.
But honestly, when it comes to Andrew, I thought he was good friends with Scott? He must not respect Scott much because he is making a move on his girlfriend. (Telling you he likes you IS making a move.) If that is all the more he respects his friend, how much do you think he will really respect you? Keep that in mind.
Andrew would be the one screwing up their friendship, but you would be screwing up your friendship with Scott by dumping him for Andrew.
It may be easier right now to date Andrew, but would it be worth it in the long run? Ask yourself if you are willing to be secret with Scott for a couple more months because that relationship is worth it, or are you willing to risk being with Andrew, who honestly isn't very considerate of his friend? The choice is solely yours to make.
I am a 14 year old female and I am the younger sister. I have an older sister and I live with my mother. Me and my sister are total oppisotes down to the tee. My sister is tall, beautiful, SKINNY, smart, etc. I'm none of those. I am pretty smart but I slack off alot. My mom and my sister have this really good relationship but I don't. My mom makes my sister monitor me. Sure I'm a little overwieght but my mom brings it up everywhere infront of everybody. She makes me feel like I'm a disgrace. She compains about how much I eat and what I do because I watch TV. She always compares me to my sister. She talks about how she eats better and what she was like at my age. I feel so wrong. I feel like I don't deserve to be here. They both go out on dates and I'm left alone which doesn't bother me as much because when they are home they complain about me and what I do. I'm pretty but just a little chubby. But i feel like no one really cares who I am. My mom and sister go through my room together or used to read my diary. What do I do. I don't wan to talk to anyone because I've tried that. Don't tell me to talk to them because I have and they understood and then the next day they forgot even when I asked them. I feel lost and hurt because my family really doesn't care. I need to know how I can make this better or if there are people I can talk to wihtout being there face to face because I'm a little sensitive.
Thanks.
Definitely not cool for your mom to make you feel that way! But, if you can't talk to her, then you can't talk to her. It's too bad that she makes the situation so difficult.
What you CAN do, is change your prospective on yourself.
What do you see when you look in the mirror? I bet you stare at a reflection of all the flaws your mom likes to point out. You need to stop seeing that BS and see the real you.
You need to get up every morning and remind yourself of all the wonderful things there are about you. You need to remember that you aren't perfect, but neither is anyone else in the whole world.
Try to be happy with WHO you are. Once you achieve that happiness, it won't matter what others think anymore.
Also keep this in mind- your mother is not, never has been, or never will be perfect. She may have outer beauty, but she is ugly on the inside.
How is it that you honestly know what you want to do in life? I have so many things that I enjoy doing, but I don't know which one I want to make my job. I've done career aptitude tests and different things. They all end up telling me something that I would like, but I can't decide which is the right choice for me.
We all have those great moments of confusion about what we want to do. It is a big decision to make!
The best thing I can tell you is to choose what you would enjoy doing the most. Base your choice on what you think you will still love to do 50 years from now. If your other possible career choices are things you enjoy doing as well, maybe you can do them in your free time as a hobby.
Say for example: You like to work with kids so thought to be a teacher, and you also like to work with numbers, so you thought to be an accountant.
You could be an accountant and volunteer to be a children's mentor in your spare time. You could be a teacher, and help people file their yearly income taxes in your spare time.
However, both of these choices are very time consuming, but they are just for example.
You could also be a math teacher.
my friend's dad is really abusive + she only trusted a few people to know. one of those people spilled the beans and told the school. she said she's being called down to the office alot to be quesioned. 5 times in two days. she said their guhna ask anyone whos been to her house how her dad acts i dont wanna be the reason she gets removed from her house, even though i know shes in a bad sitch + she already told them about how he's abusive. what should i say?
It boils down to this, either you say something and she gets removed from an abusive home, or you say nothing and she will possibly still get abused.
Do the right thing. Tell them what you know. Tell them EVERYTHING. She is your friend, and that would be the best way to stick up for her. She is being abused, here. The right and moral thing to do is to do what you can to get her out of that situation.
15/f
sophomore.
Next year, I will have an opportunity to go to a college! I know I will have 2 teacher reccomendations and such, most likely everyone gets accepted.
I really need to go in order to graduate.
But...
Would a mute be able to go to college?
Uhm, a selective mute in that matter or is that just a "NO. you're disabled!1 you can't go."
I do all my work.. just obviously not presentations. :/
You, like everyone else, have a right to an education. Don't let anyone ever tell you otherwise. :D
I really need a hobby.What hobbies could I take up?
Volunteer to mentor kids.
Volunteer to help the needy.
Not only are these things good on a resume, but they are fun, healthy hobbies that allow you to help make a difference in some one's life. It also would give you that feel good feeling. :D
Are brown eyes even pretty anymore?
It just seems like all these beautiful people have blue or green eyes.
And all the people with light colored eyes are noticed more.
My eyes are very dark brown.
I want to make them look pretty.. :\
In my opinion, yes brown eyes are very pretty. My husband has really dark brown eyes- that's what first attracted me to him.
I hope my baby inherits it's daddy's eyes. My own eyes are pale green.
22/f
Ok a while back I heard some of my guy friends discussing something they didn’t want me hearing. My friend *Bob was asking my other guy friend if he had ever gotten his "red wings". If you don’t know what that is don’t worry i didn’t know at first either. I found out it is when I guy has sex with a girl ON her period. That is just sick! Why are guys determined to receive their "red wings"? It seems so immoral. Thanks every. You really give me great advice when i need it
I think guys like that are all about competing with one another. Obviously, they have all competed to have sex, now they are taking it to the next level.
Guys are weirdos sometimes. That is proof, right there. But, we of the female variety are weirdos at times, too.
well ok i have 2 wuestions if i cut my hair in september how long my hair will be in march? and also is it true when your hair grows out it starts to thin? because mines is starting to a little bit... can anyone help me please?
On average, hair grows 1/4" per month.
I sure wish hair would thin as it grows, but it doesn't. No matter how long my hair grows, I still have enough hair on my head to cover my own plus make 3 full wigs.
What is the difference between Democratic and Republican? Also what is the difference between Liberal and whatever else? Thank you.
Here's another one for you:
Libertarian Party
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libertarianism