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Best friends. Best love?
16/f
okay theres these 2 guys who are pretty good friends. Andrew (16) and Scott (15). I liked both of them a while back. One day Scott told me he liked me, so i figure andrew didn't since they're good friends and all. Scott is like one of my best friends, but i still wanted a relationship with him. So i tried to make things work. Scott is not allowed to dat until he is 16. So we've had to secretly go on dates. I'm starting to get a little tired of it always bein a secret. We've been going out for almost 3 months now. Yesterday night, Andrew told me he liked me. And has for a really long time but couldn't tell me becuase of Scott liking me. The things is, is that i really like both of them, and i don't wanna screw up their friendship. It would be wayy easier to date Andrew, but i like both of them. What should i do?
oh ya, scott won't turn 16 until April, I turn 17 in March.
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Quite a situation...
It's like this, Scott is one of your best friends. No matter if you break up with him for Andrew or for some other guy, that friendship is never going to be the same again. That is the sad fact about dating your friends. It's just that if you break up with him for his buddy, your friendship will be more damaged. But don't let that be the deciding factor of you staying with him. You have to be fair to yourself.
If you aren't happy with him, move on. If you are happy with him, it's only a couple of months before he can openly date you.
But honestly, when it comes to Andrew, I thought he was good friends with Scott? He must not respect Scott much because he is making a move on his girlfriend. (Telling you he likes you IS making a move.) If that is all the more he respects his friend, how much do you think he will really respect you? Keep that in mind.
Andrew would be the one screwing up their friendship, but you would be screwing up your friendship with Scott by dumping him for Andrew.
It may be easier right now to date Andrew, but would it be worth it in the long run? Ask yourself if you are willing to be secret with Scott for a couple more months because that relationship is worth it, or are you willing to risk being with Andrew, who honestly isn't very considerate of his friend? The choice is solely yours to make.
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Yeah that happens to alot of people. Okay both of them really like you right? Well you are gonna have to pick one of them. If you wanna keep going out with Scott secretly then I think you should. But if you really want to go out with Andrew then you should. Its gonna be hard to choose. But you don't wanna them to fight because they are best friends. Its also going to be hard to tell them that you like the other one. Like if you like Andrew a little more then you should tell Scott that you like Andrew and not that he's better than you but that you like him. So I hope everything goes well for you!
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Well, thats really tough, because theres going to be competition between the guys and stuff, soI'd talk to Scott. Tell him how you feel about Andrew, and how theres less of an age difference between the two of you, and it's not that Andrew is any better than him, you just don't think you should be going out with him, when he's not aloud to date. Tell him that you still want to be friends, but you don't think hiding your relatioship is a good idea. Tell him, that you think he's a great guy but and you wanna stay friends, but that it's just too complicated.
Then talk to andrew, and tell him that you talked to scott, and that you two should try going out, but make sure he knows that you love scott (as a friend and if so, more) and that if anything comes between the two of them then you'll just get out of the picture, and if you're comfortable doing that then everything should be okay. If there are problems, then maybe you should try finding another guy to go out with that wont cause conflict between his other friends. It's important to realize that guys are really territorial, and maybe wait on going out with Andrew for a couple of months, but dont break up with Scott until you know Andrew would be willing to wait a bit. because theres no point breaking scotts heart to end up seeing Andrew dating someone else.
I think that my advice may help, but ultimatly, it's your decision, and it might be tough, but you've got to sort out your feelings and do what you think is right. If you think that you owe it to scott to keep dating him, then maybe you ought to keep your word and continue dating him. But thats up to you to decide and no one can choose for you. Good luck, hope it all works out without too many hurt feelings. Love,
Angie91
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