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I"m a Disgrace
I am a 14 year old female and I am the younger sister. I have an older sister and I live with my mother. Me and my sister are total oppisotes down to the tee. My sister is tall, beautiful, SKINNY, smart, etc. I'm none of those. I am pretty smart but I slack off alot. My mom and my sister have this really good relationship but I don't. My mom makes my sister monitor me. Sure I'm a little overwieght but my mom brings it up everywhere infront of everybody. She makes me feel like I'm a disgrace. She compains about how much I eat and what I do because I watch TV. She always compares me to my sister. She talks about how she eats better and what she was like at my age. I feel so wrong. I feel like I don't deserve to be here. They both go out on dates and I'm left alone which doesn't bother me as much because when they are home they complain about me and what I do. I'm pretty but just a little chubby. But i feel like no one really cares who I am. My mom and sister go through my room together or used to read my diary. What do I do. I don't wan to talk to anyone because I've tried that. Don't tell me to talk to them because I have and they understood and then the next day they forgot even when I asked them. I feel lost and hurt because my family really doesn't care. I need to know how I can make this better or if there are people I can talk to wihtout being there face to face because I'm a little sensitive.
Thanks.
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Hey. Wow, that is a horrible situation to be in and I completely sympathize with you. Your mom probably doesn't really feel that way about you but she's trying to motivate you. A lot of parents do this. Just try and remember that whatever she says really isn't true and that you're a great person. You've been through a lot. Everyone in this world is different so to make comparisons between people is ridiculous. There would never be enough time for anyone to list all of the comparisons between different people in this world. Your sister and mother seem to be happy with whom they are so act the same way. Realize what a great person you are and that names will never hurt you. This may make you more confident and your mom and sister may stop making comparisons. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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well, being where you are, theres not much you can do. your basic choices are either change, or shove it in their face how much it hurts you. if i were you`d, i`d probably be long gone by now, so props to you for holding out. basically, either change, or do what i would do, which is basically go off on them. haha. you need to make them understand how bad this makes you feel.
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Definitely not cool for your mom to make you feel that way! But, if you can't talk to her, then you can't talk to her. It's too bad that she makes the situation so difficult.
What you CAN do, is change your prospective on yourself.
What do you see when you look in the mirror? I bet you stare at a reflection of all the flaws your mom likes to point out. You need to stop seeing that BS and see the real you.
You need to get up every morning and remind yourself of all the wonderful things there are about you. You need to remember that you aren't perfect, but neither is anyone else in the whole world.
Try to be happy with WHO you are. Once you achieve that happiness, it won't matter what others think anymore.
Also keep this in mind- your mother is not, never has been, or never will be perfect. She may have outer beauty, but she is ugly on the inside.
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So you know what's wrong, but you also need to know how to fix it.
You can't fix the fact that your mom and your sister suck. Find support- get out into the world and make your life mean something! Get into a sport, a hobby, a club. It sounds cheesy, but if you can get out of the house where they are, and you start doing something healthy that you enjoy, you succeed.
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Hey-
This is a tough thing to go through. I can really empathize the whole situation.
I'm sure when your mom compares you to your sister, its not to hurt you. She wants the best for you; she's trying to motivate you to be more proactive.
If how you are is what you are fine with, then by all means- stay that way. Don't ever change because someone told you that you "weren't good enough," because EVERY person in this world has good things about them. Don't think you're a disgrace, because there's at least one person in the world who would disagree with you- and that one person is me.
I don't think you're a disgrace, you're just in a tough situation right now- and time passes, and it will stop.
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