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Ok you know the word either?
how do you spell eye-ther? Ither doesn't look right. Or is it spelled either and it's just how you pronounce it? (link)
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It's spelled either and pronounced differently.
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I had a party a couple of weeks ago and i invited a girl named Hailey.
Well her birthday was last week. One of my friends asked "are you invited to hailey's party?"
i told her that i wasnt.
well it turns out that her party was 3 days ago and she didnt invite me.
I am sooo mad at her because i invited her to mine and everything.
UGHH. what do i do?
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How long have you known her for? If this is a new friendship she may have invited all these people before hand and may have been limited in the amount of people she could invite.
She may also have thought you might clash with some of the others there. The next time you see her wish her a happy belated birthday and ask how the party went. Let her know you wish you were there.
This allows her to tell you her side of the story without a huge blow up. If you aren't satisfied with what she tells you all you need to do is walk away and remember not to invite her to any gathering you are having or associate with her period if you like.
This is the right way and the classy way to handle this issue. You need to hear things from her before you start thinking it was intentional and deliberate.
It might just be an oversight or the fact she thought you wouldn't get along wit some of her guests or that her parents limited the amount of people there and she already invited too many people. You never know until you go to the source.
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How would I go about asking for getting tested for an STD without my parents knowing? (link)
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There are clinics that exist especially with Planned Parenthood where you can walk in and anonymously take said tests. What they do is refer to you as a number they give you and then you can call back with that number or return with the number and get your results within a certain period.
That's how they've always done it here and I believe without any cost. They also offer birthcontrol clinics for teens as well.
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my boyfriend whos not circumsized smells.. idk what to do
its like know matter what he does he always does
help what should I do?? (link)
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I'm taking it that you mean his penis smells and we're not talking about body odor. The problem likely stems from him not retracting his foreskin and cleaning the glans (head of penis) and ridge properly or regularly.
This can lead to a build up of smegma which is moisture, semen (dried) and other things that gets trapped there and forms a gunky cheesy like substance under his foreskin that could be causing this. Read here http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Smegma. Females can also have it too according to the article.
What should you do? Be a good girlfriend and point him towards the article and tactfully let him know that is causes both male and female genitals to smelly funny sometimes. Do it gently and you should be fine.
I mean, at least you told him as he may go through life not knowing how to care for an uncircumcized penis as it's different than a circumcized one. It will do him a favor. Point out that bathing and caring for that area is different for him than most.
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I'm at a tough point in my life. Not majorly, but I could use some guidance. For so long I've been limiting myself...I haven't been being myself and during many situations I don't know who it is I am. Like last night: I had a sleepover with two girls who are very genuine, fun people and they were dancing and I made an attempt to join in, but physically my body refuses to be in motion. Not because I'm afraid of what they'll think when I begin to dance, but because I'm so critical of myself. What could be done about this? Also, when I'm very relaxed, my personality is at it's finest, so what are some methods of getting relaxed often, without the use of drugs? Thanks! (link)
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Believe me if your friends are bopping around to tunes in your room in their pajamas or underwear and having a good time they aren't about to judge you if you joined in.
Why? Well, for one thing what they're doing is pretty goofy and looks silly or even if they can dance they're only interested in having fun. They're probably wondering "She must think we look stupid or why won't she join us?
Believe me they're probably more concerned with how they think they look to you rather than with what you are doing whether you stink at dancing or not. Next time, get in there and just do something, anything without thinking about it. If they laugh, laugh with 'em.
The reason you cannot seem to move naturally is that you have allowed fear to paralyse you. Your body is too darn tense and locked up as a result. You don't have to be the best dancer or a dancer period so don't get down on yourself. If you want to dance just try.
Better yet have them teach you what they know so you'll feel better about it and yourself. If they're genuine people you ought to explain your fears to them as they can get you to relax more.
I think it's in your best interest to hire a psychiatrist or psychologist that deals only with adolescents and talk about your fears and how they prevent you from enjoying yourself. You need to really get to the heart f why you are so self-critical and paralysed with fear of things.
As far as drugs go that's up to your doctor or them. You might benefit from a prescription medication for anxiety and fear but that's up to the professionals to determine.
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ok i went out w/ my boyfriend for almost a year. then i broke up w/ him & he went out w/ this girl like not that long after.. and shes like a total whore & she was a total bitch to me & completely destroyed the friendship me & this guy had (bc she was mad that it took so long for her to get him to ask her out) so he broke up w/ her & now were friends again.. but now hes like asking me to hook up w/ him? what does all this mean.. i think its kinda weird (link)
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I think he's bad news at least for boyfriend material. He has no idea what he really wants in a relationship, no sense of loyalty and could be doing it to get back at her. Then again, he may realize what he lost and wants it back.
Just tell him that you want to be friends and do not think dating is that great an idea. If he cannot respect your decision it shows that he's not meant to be a part of your life on any scale.
He hurt you once, allowed a friendship to be destroyed and never defended you or told her to lay off. He's all wrong for you and you ought to confront him with why.
He needs to go through that to learn respect for you and other girls in his life. Don't let him back into the picture as a friend let alone anything else until you see he's willing to correct all the problems that led to the pain you felt.
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my cousin wants to know if having sex ok for a twelve year old, well she isn't doing it with a boy, just an object. Because her Vagina is hurting. She doesn't want anyone to know , so do you think it is bad? (link)
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There's possibility for vaginal infections here too. According to articles I just looked up for you come objects that aren't designed for vaginal useage can cause nasty infections.
The MSN Healthwise article states it's common for kids to put pieces of toilet paper, small toys, markers, household objects in their vagina. They say these objects have the potential to trigger bad discharge with a foul odor.
If an object gets lodged up there it needs to be taken out immediately by a doctor. You need to find out what she has been masturbating with and tell her to stop using it.
If the pain goes away shortly afterwards than that's good but if not she may need to be seen to by a medical professional for the reasons listed above.
It's best to talk frankly with her about what's she's doing and that it's okay and natural, not to do it around others (cover the bases) and tell her not to use objects that can hurt her or are not designed for that kind of thing.
Tell her to use her fingers like someone else suggested to acheive the same results without possibly hurtiing herself here or causing infection.
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ok this may soun d weird but why is it that every time i ejaculate, the following day i hav white stuff on my penis, well on on it but more like in it. it looks like dry sprem, i clean all of it off . so why do i still hav some dry the following day. this occurs like around the cherry (link)
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Dried semen is exactly what it is. You have to be careful to clean the head and shaft of the penis where this is showing up once you notice it.
What will happen if you don't is that the areas of your penis it is on will turn red be painful to touch and form scabs. I learned about that in health class years ago when someone asked your same question.
I'm not sure why some is still dried the following day unless you have masturbated again and not cleaned up properly allowing for it to dry in some areas again.
My advice is to shower or at least bathe the area each night after this or clean the area with a wash cloth and maybe that will prevent the build up of dried sperm. Worth a shot anyway.
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Is sex really as enjoyable as people say it is? Could it still be enjoyable if the girl cannot receive an orgasm from penetration? For a girl's first time, does it hurt really bad? Is there anything to lessen the pain or make it slightly comfortable? Does the girl bleed once her hymen is broken? Should there be a towel right under the girl? If the guy stretches you out by using 2-3 fingers, would it have any effect on how much pain there will be?
Sorry for so many questions. I'm really curious :] (link)
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It can be enjoyable as everyone has said it is. Most women do not have an orgasm from penetration alone. Most have orgasms from clitoral stimulation but still find pleasure from sex.
A girl's first time can be uncomfortable with minor bleeding (hymen or otherwise). You won't need a towel. Each girl's experience is different from the other so it's best to survey friends. I'm not sure if the guy's fingers would have any effect.
What will though is having lots of foreplay, lubrication before penetration to ease it in and not cause friction. If you don't produce enough natural artifical water-based lubricants are your best bet. This will reduce discomfort.
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Ok, so I'm a shy guy right... Well, there is this girl I like and she likes me back.. I just don't know how to ask her out without looking like a moron.. Cause me talking to girls is like trying to find a needle in hay stack.. DIFFICULT. And I just don't wanna freeze up or get really nervous trying to ask her out.. Is there anything I can do to prevent this??
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It doesn't need to be difficult. You know that she likes you back so she isn't going to say no to you. The thing is she is probably just waiting for you to make a move so she doesn't.
She is in the same situation as you are hoping the other person will notice and act on their feelings. All you have to do is say "We've been friends for a long time and I know you feel the same way as I do let's try a relationship and see what happens."
Just blurt it out without even thinking about it next time you see her. It's not hard and shouldn't be unless you make it hard for yourself. Just say it as you'll get what you are looking for and the truth out.
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how far can you go in a movie theatre?
thanks!
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Don't do anything you can be arrested and charged for that you would be embarassed over. It's not legal to do anything sex-act related in any public place. You don't want to be charged or kicked out of a theatre and have that on your record when applying for college/university or a job.
I would to be safe recommend that you keep everything above the waist and leave it at kissing. People can complain and cause you all sorts of problems otherwise with ushers. Bottom line if you can arrested for it, thrown out, or charged by the police if caught don't even bother trying it. That may not be what you want to hear but it's based on sound judgment.
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Yeah well my absolute best friend since the 1st grade just got a new boyfriend. It has recently come to my attention that he has been talking really bad about me and my boyfriend (my boyfriend and my friend were also really good friends before she met her boyfriend). I told me friend and she didn't care in the least bit and he keeps on doing it. Let me also say that she doesn't even like her boyfriend that much and theyve only been together for like 2 weeks. Should I feel like betrayed or something? If my boyfriend said one bad thing about my friend he'd be gone in a minute. (link)
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It sounds as though this guy is headed out the door anyway. Your friend knows how you feel and now its up for her to say something to him about it.
You need to stay calm and not bring it up again. If you do you risk losing her as couples will always side with one another no matter what is happening and you could be tossed aside for stating an opinion over negative things he does.
I would bite your tongue and wait and see what transpires. If she acts like she doesn't like him all too much two weeks in to this relationship it's a good sign it will implode on its own rather fast.
Don't feel betrayed as every couple sides with their partner and not a friend or anyone outside their relationship.
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My boyfriend tells me that he can't go take me places to do stuff because he is strapped on cash... hes "strapped on cash" but i find like 5 new porn videos and a new 15 dollar porn magazine.. and he tells me he can't do take me out to do stuff cuz he doesn't have money. He thinks im overreacting when i get pissed... what do you think? isn't there something wrong here? (link)
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The next time he wants to go out tell him that you don't have money and to go watch his videos and read his magazine. If you say that to him it will wake him up about what his real priority is.
Watching porn at his age is common and so is looking at magazines however, if it's all he wants to do and always "never has money" there's something wrong there.
It's become an addiction and obsession. You should talk to him and tell him to get his head on straight or you'll leave him. You aren't over-reacting but he needs to see you pissed and walking out for awhile if that's what it takes to get him to see it's a big issue.
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ok i am at band camp right now, i know what your thinking but at my school its not geeky, its pretty much worshiped. im 15/f if that helps. so i dont know, i thought this kid was really cute and i dont know his name, i know thats bad too do, but whatever i still think he is really really cute. but today we were practicing inside, and on our break time i was hanging out with some friends and this kid was sitting by himself playing his trombone, i was like turning around and i noticed him. and then i noticed he was sort of staring at me, he was playing but his eyes were watching me. he's really cute, but he was staring at me wierdly, but then he would smile with his instrument up, i dont know if he's trying to tell me something. what do you think i should do to show him without telling him im interested. he looks pretty shy so im not sure, im not really shy around my friends and i dont want to come off to strong. thanks in advance, and thanks for reading i know its long :] (link)
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Hello Band Geek ;)
All you really have to do is go and introduce yourself and ask if he's got room for another friend. It's a cliche line but it works. See where things go from there as you get to know him and discuss both your interests.
He may have just saw you looking and did that with the instrument to motion you over or acknowledge the first time. As far as staring at you there after it's a good chance he's interested in you. Go talk to him!
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If you went to the doctors for your vagina, could they tell if you had sex or masterbation.
if they do how and if they don't thanx. (link)
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Yes, they will go over your entire medical and sexual health history at a gyno appointment and are able to tell if you are sexually active or aren't a virgin.
Can they tell you masturbate? No, they cannot as there's nothing that they can see physically anywhere on your body that would tell them anything like that.
Even if they could everyone has done it so it's not a bad or taboo thing. Mind you, girls are more discreet about talking about it or owning up than guys. Hope this helps you.
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im 13 and theres this guy in my class ( lets call him bgrove) ive known bgrove since kindergarden and our friendship is ok. tonight ive just had this feeling inside me thats telling me i should ask bgrove out to be my boyfriend but the thing is i dont have any feeligns for him at all. i only like him as friend
so my question is what are these feelings and why am i having them (link)
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I think you DO have feelings for this person but aren't allowing yourself to accept that fact in your head. If your gut is telling you to ask him out and it's doing it a lot it means you ought to. As far as the two boys fighting it's not about you.
They will not think you are doing it to make one or the other jealous. Even if they did it would soon be sorted out when the truth is told and indisputable. If you want him go after him. The feelings are normal, it's hormones and a serious crush developing.
It's all fine. You're having them as you're beginning to see what it's like to really like and or love someone of the opposite sex. Friends who are guys may now seem more like dating material. It's just your eyes and your mind waking up to the fact you're going to have these feelings.
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anyone know where i could get like Hairspray poster?
or dvd? (link)
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http://ca.movieposter.com/
They have and will ship movie posters anywhere.
If it's a theatrical poster you desire and you live in NYC (double check first) they should be selling merchandise from the Broadway show at the venue:
Neil Simon Theatre
250 West 52nd Street, New York, NY 10019
If the show is touring and stops in your city they always have a merchandise table.
As for a DVD all that is available right now is the 1988 John Waters version and you can pick that up at Amazon. The 2007 film will likely be on DVD by Christmas but not before. Sure, it can be had in illegal and often poor quality DVDs or online but it won't be worth having even tried the search.
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i saw an answer you posted to another question, where you really an extra/observer when they filmed that? that is so cool. how was that? did you get to like meet any of the cast? (link)
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It was a 17 hour shoot last December. I had an agent (Background Agent) and was booked on the job. I was an audience member for the Corny Collins pieces.
I saw Michelle Pfieffer, Queen Latifah, Amanda Bynes, Britney Snow, James Marsden, Nikki Blonsky and Zac Efron, Rikki Lake among others. Travolta and Walken had wrapped several days earlier unfortunately.
The on-set rule is that you never approach the actors or risk being kicked off the shoot. If they approach you and others it's different. I was there for only a day worth of shooting that particular number. It took them 8 days in all.
If you want to do this kind of thing get a Background Talent agent in a big city nearest you. Go through the Screen Actors Guild in the U.S. or ACTRA in Canada and get their list of reputable agents then sign with one.
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I was wondering.. if anyone knew any good Hairspray quotes, from the movie hairspray.
I love that movie. I looked on the internet but couldnt find like any.
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This one from Queen Latifah is a little edgy: "If we get anymore white people in here this will be a suburb."
This link will take you to tons more Hairspray quotes http://www.hotmoviequotes.com/quotes/movies/hairspray/
I LOVE the film too but for other reasons too. I was there the night they filmed "You Can't Stop The Beat" as an extra/observer. If You would like to know more about the actual filming of Hairspray and stories about that let me know. Enjoy your link above otherwise.
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Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law?? (link)
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People do need to exercise to stay healthy and unfortunately, not everyone does on their own or has parents who make sure they do. That's why there's the new law. However, you can get out of it.
I did this successfully myself. What you need to do is consult your physician and mention what this does to your self-esteem and the amount of riddicule you get because of your size.
Have him or her write a note exempting you from these exercises provided you sign up for a self-defense or exercise course outside of school to account for the 90 minutes the law says you must have. It's best this letter be drafted by a psychiatrist or psychologist so that they take it seriously.
It's called a medical exemption and there's not a damn thing they can do not to honor it. This way you can exercise in private. I managed to get an exemption that stated until further notice I didn't have to partake in gym class for the 8th grade year.
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