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my cousin wants to know if having sex ok for a twelve year old, well she isn't doing it with a boy, just an object. Because her Vagina is hurting. She doesn't want anyone to know , so do you think it is bad?
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There's possibility for vaginal infections here too. According to articles I just looked up for you come objects that aren't designed for vaginal useage can cause nasty infections.
The MSN Healthwise article states it's common for kids to put pieces of toilet paper, small toys, markers, household objects in their vagina. They say these objects have the potential to trigger bad discharge with a foul odor.
If an object gets lodged up there it needs to be taken out immediately by a doctor. You need to find out what she has been masturbating with and tell her to stop using it.
If the pain goes away shortly afterwards than that's good but if not she may need to be seen to by a medical professional for the reasons listed above.
It's best to talk frankly with her about what's she's doing and that it's okay and natural, not to do it around others (cover the bases) and tell her not to use objects that can hurt her or are not designed for that kind of thing.
Tell her to use her fingers like someone else suggested to acheive the same results without possibly hurtiing herself here or causing infection.
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That's masturbation, not sex. And yes, it's normal and healthy for a twelve year old to explore and try out new things.
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haha i think 12 is too young to be masterbating. its weird that you're asking this question for your, ahem, "cousin"
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This is called masturbation, and its relatively normal. Even for 12 year olds. Tell her she has the right idea at her age by doing it herself and not bringing a boy in.
Possible problems.
1) The object is rough. A common item young girls can use is a brush handle. Brush handles can be somewhat to very un-smooth. When used for internal masturbation (going inside her) it can rough her up.
2) She isnt lubricated enough. Even if the item she is using is actually relatively smooth, if she is not producing enough natural lubrication or is using something to lube herself thats not actually a lube, she can mess herself up because the inside of a girl isnt meant to be rubbed alot without being slick and wet.
3) She isnt grown enough. At 12, she is nowhere near done growing. That includes her size and how much space she has in her vagina. It is entirely possible that it hurts her because she isnt physically ready. Basically she could be too tight.
Id reccomend telling her to use her fingers. Fingers are more sensitive, and smaller. Theyre smoother as well, just advise her to keep her fingernails trimmed short and filed smooth.
Also, If she is hurting it could be a good idea to stop for a day or two and let herself heal, and to do less inside.
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Using objects is not having sex. It's masturbation and yes it's normal. If it's hurting her, tell her to use something else like her fingers but like I said, it's not bad.
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You mean is it normal for her to masturbate? Well yes, as long as her object isn't a knife or cactus or something like that.
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