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Boyfriend and porn
My boyfriend tells me that he can't go take me places to do stuff because he is strapped on cash... hes "strapped on cash" but i find like 5 new porn videos and a new 15 dollar porn magazine.. and he tells me he can't do take me out to do stuff cuz he doesn't have money. He thinks im overreacting when i get pissed... what do you think? isn't there something wrong here?
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How long have you been with this guy? How long has this been a problem. I'm guessing since day one and if this is the case things will never change. He spends money on what he wants to and that is not you. Sounds like there could be an addiction there. Are you strong enough to go up against an addiction? In other words, you might not be able to win this battle. You are not overreacting.
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I'd be asking him why can't you be those models or something.. Isn't it obvious he shouldn't need new porn videos he has a girlfriend... I'd be pissed. You should tell him "If your so straped to cash and can't take me anywhere nice where the hell did these come from??" and see what he says.. He shouldn't need those, it discusting and I would be hurt knowing he's not happy with me.
Punch him in the face or something lol because your not overreacting.. he's addicted!
-Katie
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Well its obvious. There is something wrong here. Your boyfriend is too fixated on himself to pay attention to you. Or, he doesn't think you're worth it. And you're not asking for much-- you just want what your boyfriend should AT LEAST do. Have a little courtesy to take you out once in a while. You should dump him. Even if you really "love" him. If he doesn't love you as much as he loves himself, your relationship is doomed. If he REALLY needed the money, maybe he would've just sat you down and told you what he wanted. If you feel like giving him a second chance, you can confront him. But when you confront him with his "problem", don't overreact. Just ask him rationally, why when you walked into his room, you found new porn stuff. Maybe it was friend's. But if it happens again, you should just dump him. No guy is worth it if he doesn't even love you as much as his porn.
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Firstly, you should berate him for spending money on porn. There are SO many free sources of porn on the internet that he really has no business spending his money on that rather than you.
Secondly, if porn is that much more important than you then maybe its time you put a few priorities in front of him.
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The next time he wants to go out tell him that you don't have money and to go watch his videos and read his magazine. If you say that to him it will wake him up about what his real priority is.
Watching porn at his age is common and so is looking at magazines however, if it's all he wants to do and always "never has money" there's something wrong there.
It's become an addiction and obsession. You should talk to him and tell him to get his head on straight or you'll leave him. You aren't over-reacting but he needs to see you pissed and walking out for awhile if that's what it takes to get him to see it's a big issue.
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