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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

Lets say you post questions on this site and you get the answers you love, however, a family member reads the advice and disagrees with what was written but you love the advice would you just ignore your family member and go by the answers you received on this site. Thanks.

I would take all into consideration, then do what I think is best for me.

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i know there must be alot of these questions but i need to know whether my daily diet is healthy oh btw im a vegetarian...

breakfast - toast (brown bread)
lunch - sandwhich (brown bread) crisps
dinner - i have a variety of things such as - pizza, noodles, vege burgers, vege fish fingers etc..
snacks - i don't normally snack but if i do i just normally have ome peanuts.

i've been eating like this ever since christmas and i've noticed iv'e lost a alot of weight and i have't really been active that much so i was thinking maybe because i changed my diet thats why i've lost weight...

oh btw 13/f

thanks
xxxx

Looks to me like you are eating from the 4 basic food groups, and I know that is good.

Changing your diet is surely the reason you have been losing weight. Especially if it is much healthier than what you were eating before.

If you are seeking weight loss in your diet, it would be good to throw in some excersises.

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this guy that i have been hooking up with since nov still isn't over his ex. she says things to him. and everything. how can i try and help him get over her? i have strong feelings for this guy. and i don't want to lose him. i don't truthfully care that much about him being with me but for him to get over her.

There really isn't a whole lot you can do to make his feelings for her go away. That's something that he has to get over on his own.

What you CAN do, is keep him away from her. Advise him to stay away from her at all times. The more he sees her, the more he is reminded about her. And, of course, the more he is reminded, the harder it is to forget her.

And you can be there for him, as I'm sure you already are. Hang in there. He needs some time and he needs your patience.

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does anyone know what those popsicles are called that are kind of sherbet and there blue red and white. They have little crevices In them.

Thanks in advance.

The ones that look like the rockets? Red stripe on bottom, white in middle, blue on top?

Bomb Pops.

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how do i know if i like a guy? like. . . i cant tell the difference because i might have a crush on my best friend. OR do i just see him as my best friend, because i cant tell. i get excited to see him and im also anxious to talk to him. but sometimes i ignore him too. i dont know, i just wanted to hear your guys opinions. any stories of your own experiences? =)

I will just give you something from my own experience:

The fastest way to lose a friend is to date them.

Why? When you break up with them, your feelings are never the same towards one another and it can seriously damage a friendship. I lost my best friend by dating him. :(

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he keeps staring at me! like in homeroom sometimes he'll be like "[insert my name here]", or I just notice that someone is staring at me, and then I look and see him. He does it on purpose, and its kinda freaky because I dont even know how to respond! Im like.. "okay.. why do you keep doing that?" and then before I'd laugh or something but he'd still do it which is awkward. maybe hes making fun of me? or trying to be my friend? i dont like him like romantically, but maybe he things I might... but I dont really think he likes like that since hes more popular than I am. It doesnt seem like he's really like being mean to me because he's not like that to most people. but what do I do? and I've asked people, and they dont know why he does it too. I saw him do it to some other girl, too. what a weird guy, lol

I would guess he's doing it because he likes you. If you aren't interested and he is making you uncomfortable, ask him to stop. You don't have to sit there and allow people to stare at you and weird you out.

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Ok I need advice to give to my friend Betty on how NOT to feel this way. It only happens when she works (which is Monday thru Friday). She feels as if she is leading two lives. She says she gets up goes to work (being the first life), comes home (this being the second life), then does the same thing all over again the next day. BUT she ISNT in a rut. She says she has been feeling this way since her dad died 19 years ago. MY QUESTION: What can I do to help her.

Maybe you could pick one night a week when you are both free and go out and do something. It would get you both away from work and home once a week, and it would also give you both some good friend time.

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I am a whiz on the computer and the Internet and she knows that - she is not disputing that - she always tells me that she wishes she knew how to use the computer the way I do. STORY: Ok today I had a fight with my mom. I had gone online to a major department store to find a furniture item for the Living Room. But I couldnt find it. Any way she called the store and they said that they do not have it in stock but they have it online. So she asked how can we find it online. I got defensive because I thought she was saying she thought I did not know how to use the Internet so I snapped at her. She got nasty. MY QUESTION: When people fight do they say nasty things that they dont mean just because they want to hurt the other person?

Sometimes. It depends on the person, really, as to their intentions.

If you are wondering if your mom said things just to hurt you, I would say probably not. She was most likely retorting to you snapping at her.

As to weather you said something mean in order to be hurtful- only you really know the answer to that.

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When should I start looking for prom dresses and trying them on? Because it's almost February and my prom is in May. I want to start looking but I have and will be loosing more weight.

Look all you want. There are many dress options out there, so you have plenty of time to decide on which one you like best.

I wouldn't suggest buying one until a few weeks before prom. If you are loosing weight, you want to be sure you get the right fit.

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I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes as well. He doesn't really let me spend time with my girlfriends and I understand becuase he wants to be with me, I would probably be mad too. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself too much. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. But my boyfriend didn't like that I wanted to go hang out with my friends so then he threatens me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did. He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after then went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I usually get really jealous becuase he is a very popular guy and he flirts a lot and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thanks you so much

Honestly, this guy sounds like a jerk. Any man who hurts your feelings, makes you cry, doesn't allow you to have space to spend time with your friends, and threatens to do things that upset you in order to get his way is not worth your heart.

In fact, that makes him a selfish, spoiled, self centered young man who has absolutely no regard for your feelings because he only considers his own.

If I were in your shoes, I would be outright insulted by his behavior. Flirting with other girls in order to make you jealous is disrespectful to you. In fact, everything you told me about him involves him lacking the respect for you that you deserve. On top of this, you at times worry he is using you for sex. You deserve better treatment than that, I promise.

What do I think you should do? I know you think you love him, but he doesn't deserve your love. He hasn't earned that by respecting you and your feelings.

Just because you love somebody doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be used as a rug for them to wipe their feet on. If I were you, I would tell him it's over, pick up your pieces, and move on.

Give your love to some one who appreciates it, because YOU deserve to be appreciated.

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I went to the Gynecologist a week ago. I was prescribed with Birth control to take, and hormone pills (medroxyprogesterone 10 mg). I have to take the BC for 3 months, and the hormone pill for 10 days, however it's now the 7th day and I have not started my period. My Gynecologist said I would within 10 days, but I am scared it won't work since I am almost done with it. My Gynecologist already checked for cysts, and my thyroids.. I am healthy. I got a blood test done and I am still waiting for that to come. So what in the blood test would they find that could affect my irregular periods??

My other questions are, should I be worried it won't happen? And if I don't start, should I go back to my gyno or wait a few days and see what happens?

And also I took the BC the day I got it, as recommended by my Doctor, so could the BC affect the hormone pill?

I'm pretty paranoid. And I am taking Birth control for irregular periods and NOT for prevention of pregnancy.

Please help!! Thanks.

The best advice I can give you is to talk to your doctor if you don't start to get some results. You can call the office at anytime to ask their nurse the questions you have. They have access to your medical records, so they can give you for sure answers.

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long story short -

i spoke to this guy on friday and spoke to him for a whole week. we made out on saturday (last night) he doesnt want a relationship, but i do. i'm sick and tired of hearing about guys breaking girl's hearts. how can i draw him into me? and play hard to get, but not too hard because i already tried that and it's sooo hard, i can't draw away from him that much without making him think i'm not interested (which might him go away and i don't want that) i know the age difference is a lot, but i know this can work. it's possible. i know it. i'm 14/f, he just turned 17. come on guys don't doubt me! any tips at all?
i really liked how those 4 girls in just tucker must die broke his heart. but i can't do the things they did, because this is a different case. please help!

My question is this- why on earth would you want to deliberately break some one's heart? (Maybe I misunderstood you.) You wouldn't want to feel the pain of heartbreak, why wish to inflict it on somebody else? That's just ruthless.

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I am 14 female my boyfriend's 15. And we have been together for 7 months on tuesday. I love him so much and he loves me. And if please dont mention how im to young to be in love blah blah blah i dont wanna hear it please. But we have done everything except for have sex. that's the only thing. He bought condoms we know how to do it. We have a safe and comfortable place. I want to do it but im getting scared. We are most likely going to do it next sunday. I am getting cold feet, but i dont wanna tell him that because im afraid he'll never do it. When im with him i want to so badly but when i am alone and can think without intruptions i get frightened. Like for example im worrying about if i get pregnant, we arent even supposed to be doing it anyways. Is it normal for me to be afraid, not just of getting pregnant but just nervous?

I would never tell you that you are too young to be in love, first off. Anyone at any age can feel love for another.

If you are getting cold feet, you aren't ready. Wait until you are. He will understand.

Don't be afraid he'll never want to do it if you ask him to hold off for now. Fact is, he will always want to do it. He is a guy, and that is how guys are.

Being afraid is perfectly normal. So is being nervous. I say good for you for being prepared with condoms, and taking pregnancy into consideration.

Always use condoms- they are the only protection you have against STDs.

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I've dyed it about 3 times ever...always waiting about 3 months in between to let it retain moisture and get stronger before I do it again. About 3 months ago I dyed it and a few weeks later got it cut. Ever since then it has grown extremely slow. How can I get it to grow fast again?

Even though you waited 3 months between colorings, hair dye still does extreme damage to your hair. It regains moisture between colorings, but the moisture gets stripped back out when you color again.

Tip: When color treating your hair, don't wash it before hand. The dirtier you hair is, the better. The chemicals in hair dye strip your head and hair completely of it's natural oils, and it doesn't do it so bad when your hair is oily.

There is no miracle product to make it grow faster. Sad but true fact, you just have to be patient.

Get some deep conditioning treatments to help it regain health. Your hair needs it. I use John Frieda Frizz Ease Critical Care- Hydrate for a deep conditioner. It works real nice. It says to use daily, but it is pretty costly per tube, so I would suggest using it 2 or 3 times the first week, then once a week after.

Trimming doesn't make it grow faster, but it helps keep it from breaking shorter. My hair is color treated, (has been for at least 15 years) and I am trying to grow it long. I only trim when I notice split ends. The last trim I got was in July, and I am just now coming due for a trim.

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theres this guy i like, his name is george and he knows i like him.
so the other day i asked my friend to ask him that if i was to ask him out wot would he say and he said no. but ever since he found out i liked him he's been acted soo nice to me like hanging out at lunch and that.
so how do i get him to regret wot he said? im not exactly asking how do i get him to like me bcoz i know that you can't make anyone like you.

any advice??

xxxx

I would just try to ask him out yourself instead of having others do your dirty work. That may make a difference in what his answer is.

I would NEVER try to make some one regret saying no. Why make him feel guilty for not wanting to go out with you? That is a big way to lose any chance you have with him. Why? Quite frankly, it would be rude.

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okay so theres this guy in my math class that i keep dreaming about, the wierd thing is is that i don't know him, he helped me out one time and tallked to me a little, but other than that, we aren't really friends more like aquaintances. I keep dreaming that we're dating, and that he's asking me to marry him, I have a boyfriend already, and these dreams are actually causeing me to have feelings for this guy. What do you think this means?

Well, since you don't know the guy, it is probably just an infatuation thing.

In all honesty, you aren't having feelings for the real guy. You are having feelings for the guy you are dreaming about. I guess kind of like a "dream lover."

I don't think it really means anything. It's perfectly natural. Just remember that, though he is prince charming and wants to marry you in dreamland, in reality he may be a total jerk to his girlfriends. You don't know, because you don't know him.

Don't fret. It's only a dream, and perfectly harmless.

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is it tradition 2 throw ice wen people r makin out........... cuz dats wut hapepend to me last nite @ dis party......... ppl wuz yellin thingz like slut n hoe n throwin ice at me....is dat tradition?

Uh..no. That is not a tradition I have ever heard of. It sounds like a bunch of idiots being a**holes. They were very rude and disrespectful to you and your partner.

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Wooo...here we go. Oh boy. This is so upsetting. I was in a best-friend kind of relationship with a guy for the past 7 months. We were EXTREMELY close, up until today. And I'm just so confused with what's going on. I'm 15 and he's 17. We were very personal with each other, being able to tell secrets, share feelings, console each other in times of trouble, care a lot for eachother, and we shared a lot of interests too. About 4 months ago, he started telling me that he loved me. I, of course, was very excited, thinking that he really DOES love me. So I began to get very clingy to him, flirting and being very sweet because I really DID love him. He would tell me how beautiful I am, and how he wanted to see me all the time and how he wanted to play with my hair and that my eyes were so beautiful and when he sees me the next time, he will give me his whole music collection and we will snuggle to the music of a record player and he will kiss me on the forehead and tell me how much he loves me. He teased me a lot too. But for the past 4 months, I've been noticing that he's been saying similar things to OTHER girls! I was outraged and so full of jealousy. He said the EXACT same thing to them! "Oh you know you're the only one for me ";)""....That was the last straw. Whenever he is on MSN, there are other girls online and he completely ignores me and chats with them! And when we're in a group convo with our friends (who are like 16 - 18) he flirts around with them! But then after, he tells me that I'm the ONLY one he loves and "you should know that by now, cutie, hehe *kiss*". Well, finally getting to the point, today, on MSN...he told me that he thinks that it won't work out! He says that "I'm not the one you want" and "you will be able to find other guys". I don't know what to do, guys...I really don't. Looks to me like he's been leading me on...and then, when I opened my heart out to him, he broke it. ;_;...what should I do? I still love him, but he just says "But we'll always be friends". I just...don't know if I can trust him anymore...*sigh*. ;_____;

Well, sadly, the best way to lose a friend is to date them. Do you honestly see yourself still able to be his friend after he was so disrespectful to you during your relationship?

Honestly, you should let him go. Sounds like he is a real a**hole, to be quite honest. I know you love him, but he isn't worth your heart. You deserve some one who isn't going to talk to other girls in a manner he should only speak to you. You are the only one who should have heard "sweet nothings" out of him.

I don't know HOW you could trust him anymore. He broke the trust you had in him, and that is something he has to work hard to EARN back.

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ok my girlfriend and i have been haveing sexual intercourse for about a month now.. I took her virginity and she took mine.. Well she was wanting a baby and i as well was but i was haveing second thoughts because i was worried about what our parents might say. Well i went ahead and did. And now i think she may be pregnant because she has so many symptoms of it. like for instance. Breast's being tender, Stomach aches, Random tiredness, Breast swelling, And moodyness. And i was wanting to know how i should go about telling our parents if she truely is.. Please Help Me..

Tisk tisk. I hope you aren't still having second thoughts. If she is pregnant, your child WILL need you. That's all I'm going to say about that. No harping from me. Just some information you need to know.

First and foremost, she needs to get tested. Your county heath department will do it free of charge (assuming you live in the US).

I am guessing you are under 18? If so, you are definitely going to need your parents help!

We all know there is no hiding a pregnancy. So, there is really no point it putting it off until the last minute. You should tell your parents ASAP after you find out for certain she is pregnant. It's like removing a band aid- as quick as possible.

Sure, they will be upset. There is no way around that. They will get over it in time. They have a grandchild coming into this world.

There are a lot of preparations to make. You will need all of your parents' help in this.

She needs to choose a good obstetrician and set an appointment. She needs to go to her OB monthly at first, then every two weeks, then once a week during the last month. (Your OB will tell you when she needs to come in and how often.) This is to ensure she has a safe pregnancy, and that she and the baby are in good health at ALL TIMES.

I would advise you attend these appointments with her (if she allows you to) to be a support to her and so you know what's going on. I promise, you will both have questions for your OB. When you have questions- ask!

You should both attend planned parenthood classes and child birth/labor classes. You can never be too prepared!

Tell your parents right away if you find out for certain she is pregnant. The easiest way to say it is to come right out with it. "Mom, Dad, 'girlfriend' is pregnant. I plan to be there for her and want to be a good father to my child."

As to weather you want to tell your parents together or talk to them alone, I can't tell you that. You know what will be the best way of going about that. I can tell you that you should tell yours, and she should tell hers.



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Are we best friends or not? We have known each other since I was 2 and she was 3. We see each other almost every week, and have play dates and go on trips together. We get along very well but we randomly fight. Now she is in a higher grade and in a different school. That means we don't get to see eachother very much any more. And that stinks! Her b-day is next week and we are going ice-skating. So are we still bff (Best Friends Forever)??????????????

As time goes on, we go our separate ways in life. It's just a part of getting older.

So, this is happening to you. That doesn't mean you aren't still bff. It just means you each have something different going on. You may not be able to see her as often, but that just means it will be happier times when you do see her.

P.S. All people who care about each other fight randomly. It's just a part of any relationship.

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