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I neeed boyfriend help!!!
I've never really done this advice and answer thing, but I've always wanted to and really need some advice from an outsider because it feels I can never talk to anyone about my problems.. Its just me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 months and we are very serious. Its just that he acts very immature sometimes and hurts my feelings a lot. I cry sometimes as well. He doesn't really let me spend time with my girlfriends and I understand becuase he wants to be with me, I would probably be mad too. But its just, I really think that I love him. But he thinks of himself too much. His parents don't really like me that much either and they think we hang out too much, and I don't like them much either. But my boyfriend didn't like that I wanted to go hang out with my friends so then he threatens me all the time in going and hanging out with his old friends, so that is just what he did. He went to his ex grilfriends house and then after then went out. I do trust him and I don't really think anything went on, its just that it upset me . We had a big fight over it. But I think everythings alright. I do think he feels the same way about me, but sometimes I think he uses me to do stuff. If u know what I mean, in a sexual way. I usually get really jealous becuase he is a very popular guy and he flirts a lot and kinda talks about girls sometimes to get me jealous. But I think he's doing it on purpose. He's stupid like that. What do you think I should do. I really hope you can help me. Thanks you so much
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Hey. From an outsiders point of view (now please don't get offended =() this guy sounds like a complete jerk. He won't let you hang out with your friends which is really sad because good guys are happy that the person they love has friends. I mean I could see if you're always with them but he won't let you see them at all? That's just wrong. If he hurts your feelings and makes you cry than this is definitely a guy that you don't deserve. That is just horrible that he threatened you by going to his ex's house no matter what they did. You're entitled to be with your friends. If he also flirts a lot with other people he will do it later in your life. I would definitely break up with him because he's not treating you right and you can find a guy that understands you and is much nicer. A guy who will not threaten you or flirt with other people. You can do Much better and he doesn't deserve you. I know you may still have feelings for him but he will just hurt you more in the long run and you deserve a guy who would never hurt you like this. I really hope I helped and good luck! Send me a message if you need any more advice! =)
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Honestly, this guy sounds like a jerk. Any man who hurts your feelings, makes you cry, doesn't allow you to have space to spend time with your friends, and threatens to do things that upset you in order to get his way is not worth your heart.
In fact, that makes him a selfish, spoiled, self centered young man who has absolutely no regard for your feelings because he only considers his own.
If I were in your shoes, I would be outright insulted by his behavior. Flirting with other girls in order to make you jealous is disrespectful to you. In fact, everything you told me about him involves him lacking the respect for you that you deserve. On top of this, you at times worry he is using you for sex. You deserve better treatment than that, I promise.
What do I think you should do? I know you think you love him, but he doesn't deserve your love. He hasn't earned that by respecting you and your feelings.
Just because you love somebody doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be used as a rug for them to wipe their feet on. If I were you, I would tell him it's over, pick up your pieces, and move on.
Give your love to some one who appreciates it, because YOU deserve to be appreciated.
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you really need to have a talk with your boyfriend. he is VERY controlling in this relationship in not letting you see your friends and you cannot let this go on. after all, your friends have been there longer than him and if you cut of all ties with them, you aren't going to have anyone if your relationship with yoru boyfriend ends. tell him that you as normal girl need to spend time with your girlfriends to be happy and continue to give postive energy to your relationship. even though he wants to spend time with you, there is such a thing as too much time.
as for his parents, you should talk to him about their feelings towards you as well... ask him to talk to them about you; so you can understand them better/ maybe see what situations around them are awkward leading you to not like them.
when your boyfriend hangs around with/goes out with his ex, you have every right to be worried about cheating. it isn't right for him to do that JUST to make you jealous. if he wants to hang around his guy friends, then fine. even a mix of guys and girls is fine.. but him and one girl alone is weird and unusual. its not like you hang around your girlfriends to make HIM jealous, so there is no reason why he should do that to you.
and the fact that you think he might be using you for sexual things also troubles me; from the way you described him. you should also confront him about this, even though it may be difficult you do not want it to bother you for the rest of your relationship. just consider what is at stake: your well-being, your girlfriends, your repuatation (he could always brag about the sexual things he's done with you)...
if he gets aggressive during ANY of these talks, i would seriously consider getting out of the relationship. it will only get more and more controlling and you will eventually become VERY unhappy with your life. personally, if i were you, i'd already be out of this relationship. you can always find another guy, but the consequences of keeping your relationship with this guy could last for years.
best of luck to you sweetie! <3 anymore specific questions that i didn't answer just drop it in my box!
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well not to worry he seems like a typical boy! if you like him enough to deal with that than i guess you go for it but what hes doing isnt nice, talk to him about it, its not right that hes not letting you hang out with your girlfriends i had a boyfriend like that and i lost all my girl friends cause tehy were like "no ur boyfriends more important than us andwere sick of it" it took forever to get them back so i think before it gets outta hand you gotta talk to him about it;]
hopefully i helpedd.
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