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I am a whiz on the computer and the Internet and she knows that - she is not disputing that - she always tells me that she wishes she knew how to use the computer the way I do. STORY: Ok today I had a fight with my mom. I had gone online to a major department store to find a furniture item for the Living Room. But I couldnt find it. Any way she called the store and they said that they do not have it in stock but they have it online. So she asked how can we find it online. I got defensive because I thought she was saying she thought I did not know how to use the Internet so I snapped at her. She got nasty. MY QUESTION: When people fight do they say nasty things that they dont mean just because they want to hurt the other person?
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Some people do say things just to hurt the other. Sadly, my mother is this way. I know a lot of people this way. Now, don't get confused between saying something to hurt you, and simply snapping back. They could be two entirely different things =)
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It could be possible you are right. But a lot of the reason why people say things they don't mean during an argument is because they are letting out a lot of anger, which includes feelings kept inside about things that person might've done before. I don't think your mom wanted to hurt you, everybody has those moments when they believe that they a right about something.
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Sometimes. It depends on the person, really, as to their intentions.
If you are wondering if your mom said things just to hurt you, I would say probably not. She was most likely retorting to you snapping at her.
As to weather you said something mean in order to be hurtful- only you really know the answer to that.
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Yes, sometimes they do, but they shouldn't. Try to keep your temper under control. Ask your mom to do the same if she comes out with a nasty word. Tell her how it makes you feel and promise that you will treat her with respect if she will treat you with respect. Everyone gets into fights. Everyone snaps at moms. Every mom snaps at her children. I think you should say factual things, but don't lash out in anger.
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