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I've been screwed over by a guy.
Wooo...here we go. Oh boy. This is so upsetting. I was in a best-friend kind of relationship with a guy for the past 7 months. We were EXTREMELY close, up until today. And I'm just so confused with what's going on. I'm 15 and he's 17. We were very personal with each other, being able to tell secrets, share feelings, console each other in times of trouble, care a lot for eachother, and we shared a lot of interests too. About 4 months ago, he started telling me that he loved me. I, of course, was very excited, thinking that he really DOES love me. So I began to get very clingy to him, flirting and being very sweet because I really DID love him. He would tell me how beautiful I am, and how he wanted to see me all the time and how he wanted to play with my hair and that my eyes were so beautiful and when he sees me the next time, he will give me his whole music collection and we will snuggle to the music of a record player and he will kiss me on the forehead and tell me how much he loves me. He teased me a lot too. But for the past 4 months, I've been noticing that he's been saying similar things to OTHER girls! I was outraged and so full of jealousy. He said the EXACT same thing to them! "Oh you know you're the only one for me ";)""....That was the last straw. Whenever he is on MSN, there are other girls online and he completely ignores me and chats with them! And when we're in a group convo with our friends (who are like 16 - 18) he flirts around with them! But then after, he tells me that I'm the ONLY one he loves and "you should know that by now, cutie, hehe *kiss*". Well, finally getting to the point, today, on MSN...he told me that he thinks that it won't work out! He says that "I'm not the one you want" and "you will be able to find other guys". I don't know what to do, guys...I really don't. Looks to me like he's been leading me on...and then, when I opened my heart out to him, he broke it. ;_;...what should I do? I still love him, but he just says "But we'll always be friends". I just...don't know if I can trust him anymore...*sigh*. ;_____;
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Hey. A lot of times older guys want one thing from a girl. I think you know what that is =). I know you're probably shaking your head no right now but from everything you said this guy sounds just like that type. He wanted more from you just like he does with other girls. He's probably very charming and can get all the girls to fall for him (I'm just assuming). If he's telling all the girls this he's just a big flirt and really not worth your time. I know you're probably really hurt and upset right now but he's probably done this to many other girls. You deserve better than him and he sounds like he doesn't care about your feelings. You can find a much nicer guy who will care about the girl he's with. I mean this guy you're talking about may be the nicest guy ever but it sounds like he's like that to everyone. He probably really did like you but he likes A lot of other girls too. I really hope this helped clear things up and good luck! =)
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I've been in a similar situation, but not that extreme. I know how it feels, and your situation seems 10x worse so you've got to be pretty upset =[ You have to just get over him. There's nothing else that you can do. If you stay friends with him you'll be hurting whenever you see him. He's not trustworthy. One day you'll find a guy who will really be like who you thought this guy was. Good luck.
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Hey,
Aww, I'm sorry to hear about that.
He seems like a real jerk, & you deserve better.
Unfortunately, the only thing you can do is give him up.
You WILL find better, so keep your head high, sweetie!
However, be careful to who you open your heart up to..you don't want this to happen again.
I hope this helps- and I really do hope everything goes well.
-Jam
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There are so many people out there just like that guy. They don't commit to relationships so that they can flirt with anyone they choose.
You should let him go as a friend. Friends don't do that to each other. You need to learn how to stop loving him, too, because the love he had for you never existed and never will. You're just there to flirt with when his other girlfriends aren't there.
I'm sorry, but it's time to drop him and find someone else.
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Well, sadly, the best way to lose a friend is to date them. Do you honestly see yourself still able to be his friend after he was so disrespectful to you during your relationship?
Honestly, you should let him go. Sounds like he is a real a**hole, to be quite honest. I know you love him, but he isn't worth your heart. You deserve some one who isn't going to talk to other girls in a manner he should only speak to you. You are the only one who should have heard "sweet nothings" out of him.
I don't know HOW you could trust him anymore. He broke the trust you had in him, and that is something he has to work hard to EARN back.
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