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ok my girlfriend and i have been haveing sexual intercourse for about a month now.. I took her virginity and she took mine.. Well she was wanting a baby and i as well was but i was haveing second thoughts because i was worried about what our parents might say. Well i went ahead and did. And now i think she may be pregnant because she has so many symptoms of it. like for instance. Breast's being tender, Stomach aches, Random tiredness, Breast swelling, And moodyness. And i was wanting to know how i should go about telling our parents if she truely is.. Please Help Me..
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Tisk tisk. I hope you aren't still having second thoughts. If she is pregnant, your child WILL need you. That's all I'm going to say about that. No harping from me. Just some information you need to know.
First and foremost, she needs to get tested. Your county heath department will do it free of charge (assuming you live in the US).
I am guessing you are under 18? If so, you are definitely going to need your parents help!
We all know there is no hiding a pregnancy. So, there is really no point it putting it off until the last minute. You should tell your parents ASAP after you find out for certain she is pregnant. It's like removing a band aid- as quick as possible.
Sure, they will be upset. There is no way around that. They will get over it in time. They have a grandchild coming into this world.
There are a lot of preparations to make. You will need all of your parents' help in this.
She needs to choose a good obstetrician and set an appointment. She needs to go to her OB monthly at first, then every two weeks, then once a week during the last month. (Your OB will tell you when she needs to come in and how often.) This is to ensure she has a safe pregnancy, and that she and the baby are in good health at ALL TIMES.
I would advise you attend these appointments with her (if she allows you to) to be a support to her and so you know what's going on. I promise, you will both have questions for your OB. When you have questions- ask!
You should both attend planned parenthood classes and child birth/labor classes. You can never be too prepared!
Tell your parents right away if you find out for certain she is pregnant. The easiest way to say it is to come right out with it. "Mom, Dad, 'girlfriend' is pregnant. I plan to be there for her and want to be a good father to my child."
As to weather you want to tell your parents together or talk to them alone, I can't tell you that. You know what will be the best way of going about that. I can tell you that you should tell yours, and she should tell hers.
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Hey whats up, i read your problem and i understand what your going through. First of all, i won't tell you that what you did was wrong and give you a hard time. blah blah blah. Because i know that you already thought of it before doing anything and you decided in the end,that you want a baby just like your girlfreind. Therefore, since you did something like that and you took such a decision , then its exactly as if you had said that your willing to take the consequences which you are pretty much doing and gonna do by telling your parents. I don't really know how old are you, but i hope your at least 18 or above. Anyways, if you really want the baby, then have the baby and you shouldn't care about your parents opinions, i mean.. oh right!!! you should have told them and so, or maybe they were planning that you have to be married to do that, but then you did it, and there is nothing they can do about it no matter how they shout or curse or scream or have nervous breakdowns. But the most important thing is, that you can not let anyone change your mind and suggest that your girlfreind should have an abortion or something, don't ever put that thought in your mind, because you want that baby and she does too, and after all, you both sat as mature people and thought of it, and decided that you wanna have it, and if she really is pregnant, then that should be good news to you and her. Just take her to a doctor or do a test or something and make sure, and then go to your parents and tell them that you both did this because you wanted to have a baby and you are responsible enough to keep it and raise it and you will handle all consequences of the risk you took.
Think of what i said ,and please, if you need any other help or advice, please be free to contact me or email me and i would give my prompt reply.
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If i were you i would of totally waited. having a kid is not a good idea when im guessing you guys are in highschool? its a life ruiner. but i guess you cant go back in time. you should get her tested for pregnancy and if she really is go to plan parenthood. its great help. if you dont live one theres no other way but to tell them the truth. hope it all works out.
--natalie.
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