xlostangelx's advice column

Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.

I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!

I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.

I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.

I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!

♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

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I met this guy, this AWESOME guy... I used to be one of those, daring girls, i would have turned really slutty and a rebel..huge if i didn't find this guy, this guy is a strong christian, he turned me around and got me help through God, he took me to church and everything and showed me how strong God is and how much I need him. He didn't like me after awhile. And that was my first love. im 14, who can feel love at this age, i know sounds stupid as ever. But this guy, had the greatest impact on my life, we're best friends, and he does this to every girl, just leaves everyone for a new one. Hes really good looking, and a really good kid. It's just, he was everything that I wanted. I've told him I loved him, he doesn't understand. I'd die for that kid.. Well, I almost did once, actually. He means everything to me. But recently we got into a fight that lasted for a month, that was the worst time in my life, it was the loneliest, coldest month of summer in my life. He forgave me, and we're okay now, but we're not as close. I want to be close, I told him I miss him.. But.. I'm still heartbroken and I still love him and I want to be here for him, even if it is just his best friend. But we aren't that close anymore, and I want to be that "best girl" in his life, the one who was there to wipe his tears and to hold him close when all was wrong. PLease help me..Just tell me what's going on... Please...

babii balla

you should tell him how yu feel..therez no other way around it..cuz if yu dont, itll just get worse and yull drift even more..having a best friend means you can tell them yur feelings without them judging yu and yu can open up to them with anything. so, tell him how yu feel. it'll feel good to get it off yur chest and yu can at least say yu tried after that..who knoz see wut happenz!!

lOvE aShlEa.