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Sorry this is so long :)
Ok so around a year ago a mate and I went to a park where we met a boy who's friends with my brother. We made out a bit and he asked me out, but i said it was too soon. We met up a again and made out and stuff. But after after a while we had completely lost touch of each other and went our separate ways, except i still really liked him. For the past year i've liked him so much and i always have dreams about him. Recently my friend and I have being going to the same park after school and he's always there. We hang out with 3 spanish boys and i can tell that my 'crush' always looks over, in jealousy i guess. Yesterday we were there and a group of boys came. they were talking to my 'crush' and he was saying how they "always meet up". My friend and i went to the bathroom and when we came back most people had gone. later on facebook the spanish boys told us that the group of boys had tried to start a fight, and were asking them why they always meet with us...I'm pretty certain that my crush turned his friends again the spanish boys, just because they were hanging out with me and my friend, but what does that mean? if he's that jealous to start a fight then does it mean he has feelings? or is he just doing it because he's annoyed that we're hanging around the place that he hangs?
Thanks for reading! :)
Btw my question is'nt very clear :S I just want to know what it means when he gets jealous and starts a fight with boys because they're with me?
Also i think i still really like him...how would i show him that i'm not interested in the spanish boys? (link)
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I agree with the other two.
It\'s either he\'s still interested in you and doesn\'t like other guys to be around you, which I think is a bad sign or he\'s racist, which would be another bad sign.
I mean no guy should start a fight with guys if they\'re jealous or something. If this guy turned his friends against the boys just because they were hanging out with you and your friend, that\'s awful.
Anyways, to answer your question as to showing him you\'re not interested in the Spanish boys, there isn\'t really any way. I\'d say don\'t act flirty with them and just treat them as your friend. He shouldn\'t assume that you\'re interested in them or something though. If you do start seeing him again, be careful, you don\'t want a guy who starts fights over dumb things like that.
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My boyfriend is really depressed and is always telling me he's going to kill himself. It makes me soo upset because my sister has a mental illness and always tries to kill herself. I don't know what I should do about this as his friend told me it was my fault he cut for the first time. Can someone please give me advice? (link)
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His friend is an idiot if they\'re blaming you for the first time he cut. It was his decision and it\'s not your fault that he has his problems.
So don\'t believe any of that.
Secondly, you need to tell somebody about this. Like his parents, teacher, counselor, any adult that can help him. If you keep this to yourself, he might end up dead so you need to go tell someone even if that means he\'ll be upset with you. You\'d rather have him mad and alive rather than dead.
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My boyfriend keeps touching me all the time and its whenever his ex is around. I feel like he is trying to make her jealous and he doesn't really like me. He keeps asking for me to send naked pictures of myself to him and he's also been asking for blow-jobs and I've never given a blow-job to anyone . I'm really scared he's just using me what should I do.
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Tell him your boundaries.
If you really like this guy and want to make this work, you need communication.
You need to let him know what is ok and what\'s not ok.
Tell him you\'re not comfortable sending naked pictures of yourself and you\'d like it if he\'d stop asking. Same for the blow jobs. Tell him you\'re not ready for that.
If he cares about you, he\'ll stop asking. If he keeps asking, then dump him and find someone who respects you.
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Hi guys, am new here and i am also new to been a Christian. My parents are out and i just learnt the story of Joseph from the children's bible. I do not know why Joseph was sold into slavery. Can someone help me with that?
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His brothers hated him and were jealous of him because their father favored him over them so they sold him.
Although I\'m sure you could have just googled it.
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So, I'm 14 and he is 16, we've been talk for a while now and we met up yesterday. He asked me out because everything went trails well and we'd both admitted we liked eachother, we sat by these toilets and spoke for hours. We were just cuddling and we kissed a few times but he asked me if I wanted to go In the toilets with him... Obviously I knew what he meant by that and I did say no as I'm 14.
Later on in the evening he text me saying that he think we rushed things a bit, I did agree but I don't see why it was a problem as we were both fine in he day. He also said he still wants to meet me, does this mean he's using me?
I don't know where I went wrong, he said I hadn't done anything...
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So far it doesn\'t sound like he\'s using you since he told you that he thinks you guys rushed things.
If he was using you, then he\'d keep pushing to do sexual things with you and only want you for that. If he backs off on that and you guys take your time, he\'s not using you, he\'s respecting what you want.
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Im 16. My boyfriend is 17. We've been together on and off for a year and 2 months. His ex girlfriend asked him to prom because shes a senior and needs a date. They dated abt 2 or 3 years ago and he claims they want to be on a friend level. Im not sure how to take them going to prom together. I wanted to be his only prom date. He understands where im coming from but he said hes thinking about going. I don't feel comfortable with it. What should I do?? (link)
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That\'s weird that he is going with her just because she doesn\'t have a date. Are you a junior? If so, I thought juniors and seniors were able to attend prom? This is so hard to figure out when I don\'t know what grade you guys are.
Anyways, I\'d tell him that you\'re fine with him being friends with her but not taking her to prom. If someone has a boyfriend or girlfriend and they are planning to go to prom but their partner can\'t, they either don\'t go, or they go alone and with friends. They shouldn\'t take a different date.
Tons of people go without a date, it\'s not a big deal, she doesn\'t need a date.
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so me and this girl have been friends since last year and we barely became close this year. we used to do everything together and I would have a blast but lately shes been saying stuff that she thinks it wont hurt me but it actually does and whenever were with our other friends shes really annoying but when its just hanging out shes perfectly fine. I wanna know if its just me being dumb and over thinking it or Is she really someone I should just let go at least for a little while ? we are both 13 females (link)
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People start changing around your age and they\'ll keep changing. You won\'t be the same person you were at 13 when you are graduating high school.
So I think you should have a conversation with her, just the two of you. Don\'t be mean or point fingers at her or something. Just say that it hurts your feelings when she say this, this and this, ect.
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants. (link)
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Your relationship isn\'t pathetic. This is normal for a first relationship. You guys have to take it slow and not jump right in.
When I was 14, I had my first boyfriend. We hardly would text but we\'d see each other on weekends. We didn\'t have much physical contact either. My friend did the same as yours and kinda pushed him to ask me out since we both were really nervous and shy. Eventually my friends would keep trying to get him to hold hands with me and stuff like that. It was really annoying because they were trying to progress our relationship instead of us doing it ourselves. Listening to our friends basically ruined the relationship.
So remember, this relationship is between you and him. Not your friends. You guys are in a relationship, you don\'t need to be all over each other to be in a relationship.
If there is something you want to change, then do it but if you are comfortable and happy, then let it progress and move at your own pace, not everyone else\'s.
You\'ll see these types of relationships last longer anyways. I had two friends who ended up dating but they weren\'t really into PDA and were super shy with each other. They\'d talk online a lot though. To make the story short, they\'re still together and have been together for 4 years.
So remember that every person is different. Every relationship is different. It\'s fine to move slow. If a couple wants to move fast, that\'s their business. If a couple wants to move slow, that\'s also their business. Don\'t bring your friends into the relationship.
As for you being worried about him not having any intention of asking you out, that\'s what you should talk to him about. Just ask him and say this is what my friend said and I was wondering if you actually wanted to ask me out, ect. I\'m sure he\'ll assure you that he wanted to be with you.
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So I had a boyfriend and I told him that I did not want to have sex because I want to wait and im a Christian. So he said okay, but then preceded to pressure me into doing other things such as bjs, hjs, fingering, etc amd they were things i really didnt want to do, told him i didnt want him to do but hed take out his take and be like please just touch it and please just finish for me and put your mouth on it and id really hate it and didnt want to but i did. Hed also tell me like dont you love me? Cause by you not wanting to have sex with me and all that its like saying you dont love me. And he just pressured me into doing all those things. And one day, and please dont judge me cause its so embarassing and I hate to think that it happened but he pressured me into having..anal. And told me at first it wouldnt mean me losing my virginity and i said i really really dont want to and that its weird and he begged and begged and begged and wouldnt let me put my clothes back on and told me just once and we didnt have to do it again and itd make him really happy and its a normal thing and eventually i broke and was like okay once and no more. And he did one thrust and i told him to pull out and he just pushed deeper in and say you just need to give it a chance and i scratched him trying to get him out of me. And before he had also forced me to show him my ass and i really didnt want to and hed try to flip me over and id struggle against him and even said rape rape and hes like its not rape unless im inside you silly. And idk. Is what he did rape? Or sexual harassment? Or what? My friend thinks its both. And im just angry at it all. I mean i blame myself for not just breaking the relationship off but i was fooled into believe everything we did was normal and sure maybe but we had only been together for like two weeks before i had to start giving hjs and ugh:( and i even knew what i was doing didnt feel right..afterwards id feel like sobbing cause i felt like i was just being used for sex and being dooped like every other 16 year old girl whos tricked into believing their 17 year old bf loves them. And ah:( so what is this called? Rape? Harassment? Being forced or constantly persuaded and begged into doing something i really didnt want to do..and then doing it and feeling awful? And if he ever finds this post by some chance, fuck you:( (link)
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You did break things off with him right?
This is sexual harassment. It was consensual sex up until you told him to pull out and he didn't, then it turned to rape.
Love isn't about sexual things. You had your standards and he didn't care. He didn't care about you as a person, he obviously only cared about sex.
Don't beat yourself up over this. You should go to the police though. You might even want to talk to a therapist. The same thing happened to me and I should have gotten help much sooner but at the time I was more upset at myself for letting it get as far as it did. I think you feel the same way right now.
Just know that if a guy even tries to persuade to do ANYTHING that you aren't comfortable with, don't continue talking to him. Teenage guys are filled with hormones but eventually you'll meet one who will respect you.
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I really, really like this guy named David. I've had a crush on him for a couple weeks and I think he's the greatest guy I've liked in a long time. Maybe the greatest I've EVER liked. He's cute, sweet, smart, and funny. He is a Christian like me and I really respect him a lot.
The thing is that people keep talking down about him. Like tonight, someone was talking about how nice, down to earth, and easy to talk to he was, then someone else accused him of being behind it. Like those were actually HIS words.
I wish people wouldn't talk bad about him. Should I believe anything they say? Or should I still like him? I don't want to just forget about him. What should I say if I ever need to stand up for him? WDYT? (link)
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People are probably jealous that he's actually a nice guy. I mean you'll hear people say good and bad things about him so it'd be wrong to only believe the bad.
So go with the innocent until proven guilty thing.
People talk bad about people all the time. Sometimes it's true, a lot of the time it's not so don't let this get to you. No one is perfect though but I'd say give it a chance.
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When ever we talk now it's not exactly a convocation anymore, he will ignore me when he doesn't need to reply like when I don't ask a question. I never ignore him I always answer straight away when he usually takes about 5 mins.
It's really getting to me now, what should I do? :( (link)
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We can go on forever trying to think of reasons why he hasn't been answering you. But you'll never really know unless you talk to him.
Communication is very important in relationships. Without communication, the relationship will fail.
Talk to him in person if it's possible. Sit him down and tell him you'd like to talk about something that has been bothering you. Don't be mean, don't point fingers at him, and don't argue. Just tell him that you'd like to talk more and the way it's been going recently doesn't make you feel very loved.
If he cares about you, he'll do his best to change. He just might not be someone who likes to text. I know tons of guys like that. Just hopefully he'll make the effort to talk a little bit more.
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She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys βwrecking ball" is,βgood song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
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I think she just went from one extreme to the other just to let people know that she's not Hannah Montana anymore. Everyone is freaking out because they're used to her being this "good girl" for so long.
I mean to be fair. We all do stupid things. It's just that we're not in the spotlight. But she does seem very confident with herself, which I do admire that because most girls are afraid to act how they want.
Her music isn't my style of music. The only song I do like is Wrecking Ball. I don't think the music video is so bad. I mean it's kinda expected in the music industry. Like you'll see Madonna, Rihanna, Mariah Carey and tons more naked in some of their music videos but no one makes a big deal out of those. Like no one called Justin Timberlake a deeply troubled teen when he brought sexy back. And Lady Gaga does some really weird crap and doesn't get as much hate as Miley Cyrus does just because everyone's like, "She's Gaga, that's who she is."
I'm not a big fan of hers to be honest. I just think people getting all worked up about it is stupid. I don't like twerking and sticking her tongue out is weird but I think people get worked up over some dumb stuff. And to be honest, celebrities shouldn't be role models in the first place but it happens I guess.
All in all, she's a privileged celebrity that can experiment and buy her way into behaviors that she won't really suffer for. But people shouldn't get so pissed off about it like you because it's really not that big of a deal.
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See, i would talk to him about it, but the thing is that he doesnt know that i check this things. Then i k ow he would stop doing it but just because im watching. I wanna know whats the furthest he will go with all these nonsence. (link)
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That's tough. The relationship is rocky when you're checking your partners phone and computer. That means there is a lack of trust. And relationships don't work without trust.
Maybe let him know that you did see all that. Come clean and apologize for that, but it made you feel insecure and you'd like him to stop.
A lot of people do it though, it sucks. Even I've gone through my boyfriends things. So I'm not one to judge so you can either not tell him, accept it as this is all he's doing and it won't go any further because you trust him or you talk to him and let him know how you feel.
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My boyfriend is trying to give hints that he wants to take the relationship further, he's asking me how far I would go and what I would do, asking me to send him dirty pictures and if I would have sex. I'm 14 years old! I'm not ready, I'm not comftable with my body and I'm not comftable thinking about it. I want to tell him somehow that I'm not ready to go that far yet but I'm not sure how to tell him, he said he would never force me which I hope he won't...
Anyone got any advice on how I can tell him without it breaking us apart?
Also he wants me to send him a picture of me, a dirty one... I really don't want to, how can I tell him I don't want to do this aswell?
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You straight up tell him. Don't beat around the bush or say "maybe" or "Idk". Just tell him that you're simply not ready. If he cares about you, then he won't push any further. It goes the same with sex and with dirty pictures.
I'm sure you know the outcomes of sending a guy pictures. Like them showing it to their friends, or posting it or something. Even friends of mine, who are really good guys, will tell a girl they'll delete them but they've shared it with their friends.
He doesn't need any explanation though. All you need to say is that you're not ready. Whenever you're ready, you'll let him know.
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Hi, so me & my bf been together for 9 months. The other day he saw i had my ex bf added on facebook, so he went and unblocked his ex on fb (he had her block because i told him) and tried searching for her , i guess it was to send her a friend request but she deactivated her facebook. Should i be mad that hes doing that ? He doesnt know that i know this. And it was my ex thay friend requested me so i just added him. And also he searches for girls on fb and sends them a friend request and then likes their pictures :/ idk what to do (link)
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This is all just going to turn into unnecessary drama.
He's probably upset that you have an ex as a friend on Facebook. Which isn't really a big deal in my opinion. But he probably thought it was hypocritical of you since you told him to block his ex.
You shouldn't care if he is friends with his exes on Facebook. As long as he isn't frequently talking to them, unless they remained friends, then it shouldn't even be an issue. He also shouldn't care if you are friends with your ex on Facebook. It goes both ways.
So he searches for girls he doesn't know on Facebook? Then just likes their pictures? I guess that's a lame way of flirting. I think it becomes an issue when he starts talking to all these girls.
If this becomes a problem for you, speak up and let him know. Don't fight with him, just tell him that it doesn't make you feel good when he's searching up girls and liking their picture. But be careful because something small like this can turn into a mess.
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Where can I watch the whole episode online without watching them in little pieces like they are on youtube? I love this show so much! Thank you! (link)
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They probably have episodes on nick.com
If not, then you can have a 30 day free trial on amazon prime and watch it on there.
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Ok so I really like a girl, and honestly I love her, and I know teens say that a lot but we've been friends out entire life, and I've liked her ever since I can remember. Her name is Gwyneth and we've been friends since we were babies, and last year we went to school together. I thought I was friend zoned for years, but looking back I'm not too sure. I asked her to the dance once but I don't even know if it was as friends or as more. During the dance, I went back to a secluded area with my friend Bradley and we hung out back there. We were just talking and having some Dr.pepper lol and then Gwyneth's friend, Kate walked in and asked if I was mad at Gwyneth. I was so surprised and I told her "no why". She said they thought I was mad that Gwyneth wasnt dancing with me, and after all I was her date to the dance ( but I didn't know if we went as friends or more) I said that I was fine, but later Gwyneth walked in and asked if I was mad at her for not dancing with me. I wasn't but to tell the truth it would've been nice, but I didn't expect much thinking I was friend zoned. After telling her I wasn't, she said we should go dance, and I didn't know why she asked, if it was as friends, or if she even liked me. So we did but later that night a guy asked her out and they dated. The next dance we didn't go together but all my friends told me she wanted to dance with me and it killed me to leave her lonley but I couldn't be sure if she liked me, and if she didn't like me, I could lose a life-long friend. So I didn't dance with her at the second dance. I've never stopped loving her but now we go to different schools
Now she has a boyfriend but we go to different schools. and she liked my picture on Instagram for a wcw. I know that's really silly, but it's all I have left of her. she's had multiple boyfriends since then, it's only been a little less than a year.
So the question is: is it too late for me and her, I can't stop thinking about her, I'd do anything for her. It kills me because I had such an oppurtunity but I blew it. And sorry for the long post I'm at a new school and I don't have any friends yet so this is the only place I can talk about it and it's been killing me lately. THANKS FOR THE HELP IN ADVANCE AND I WILL GIVE ADVICE BACK! (link)
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If she's in a relationship, it's too late unless they break up. You don't want to get in the middle of a relationship or ruin anything.
You can be friends with her, but nothing more. But if she and her boyfriend break up, go for it.
The thing is, you never know until you try. You can't just keep wondering if she likes you, if it was as friends or more, ect because you'll never know the answer unless you ask.
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OK I am 13/f and I have this relationship I'm in that is secret.
OK my friend started liking me and flirting with me. I liked him too just was afraid that he might not like me back. So he asked me do me and him want to be together. At first I told him we should be secretive. The reason why I said so because were both in the same classroom and I like kinda been with three of them in there and one was before some of our classes were mixed together. So I didn't want people to call me names and stuff like that. Our relationship is good in secretive but it's hard that we see each other everyday and its hard not to hug or try to be romantic. So my biggest question should i keep it in secret or tell a few people to get the idea. Or just start showing people that we are a thing and soon they will figure out.
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That's confusing. I don't understand your reason to keep a relationship secret.
Anyways, hiding a relationship shows that you're ashamed of it. You shouldn't have any reason to be ashamed. The relationship won't last too long if you're trying to hide it.
In my opinion, you care too much about what people think.
If you like this guy, you should be happy to be with him and be fine with people knowing. You don't need to go out and tell everyone you're dating, but you don't need to hide it.
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i like this guy and he likes me. he asked me out but i am not sure if i should go out with him because im not sure f it is a "date date" or a confession or he is using me. i am scared my parents wont approve him
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I agree with Dragonflymagic on the whole parents situation. I have no idea how old you are so it doesn't help. So if you're parents are fine with you dating, let them meet him. If they spend enough time around him, even if he's just a friend during that time, they'll get to know him and see whether or not they can trust him with you.
I'd assume he's asking you on a date so that you guys can get to know each other better. Asking you to be his girlfriend would be a little soon.
I don't know why you'd think he is using you unless he has given you a reason to think that. Like his past on dating and dumping girls once he got what he wanted or something like that. But if you have no reason, don't assume he's using you.
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So, I'm 14 and this boy has already admitted he likes me and I have done the same. We arnt in a relationship but we both think it's likely to happen, we get along really well and we always talk. Over the last few days I feel like he's been dropping hints, the other day he was asking me about how far I had been and as I'm only 14 I have only kissed a boy, then the next day he asked me how far I would go with him and I just said 'I don't know' he replied saying would you ever do stuff like blow jobs and stuff, I didn't feel too comftable talking about this with him but I didn't say anything, I just kept saying 'not sure' ect...
Last night he asked me if I love him, obviously I said yes because i do, he said 'prove it;)'
I said 'how?' And he asked me to send him a picture of me, dirty or not.
I haven't sent one I kept saying 'I look a mess so no' and stuff, I don't want to send him a picture of me, I think it's cringey...
He also said 'when we meet tomorrow what do you want to do?' (This is this afternoon now) and I said I didn't mind.
He said 'I'm sure we can find a bed somewhere;)'
I'm pretty sure he was just joking when he said this but I'm just curious, why is he asking all this?
He is 16 and I am 14
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He's asking all this because he wants to have sex or do sexual things with you. He's just trying to pressure you. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like he actually cares about you as a person.
A lot of guys will say things like, "If you love me, you'll do this." But that's not what love is at all.
This is how you know whether he actually cares about how you feel about the situation or whether he just wants you to do sexual things with him. Tell him you're not comfortable with messing around or sending dirty pics. If he keeps saying, "Why not?" "It'll be fun" or anything else that is trying to change your mind, he doesn't like you.
A lot of girls learn the hard way and you'll meet a lot of guys who do this.
Whenever I start talking to a guy and we've kissed or he starts talking to me in a more sexual way, I'll straight up tell him what my boundaries are. If he's not ok with it, then I'll let him go and find someone who respects me and my decisions. Guys who pressure you aren't worth your time. They'll end up dumping you when you say no. Then the girl is pressured into doing it because she is afraid he'll leave her. So if he keeps doing this, back out now before it gets worse.
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