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Is he trying to ask me for sex?
So, I'm 14 and this boy has already admitted he likes me and I have done the same. We arnt in a relationship but we both think it's likely to happen, we get along really well and we always talk. Over the last few days I feel like he's been dropping hints, the other day he was asking me about how far I had been and as I'm only 14 I have only kissed a boy, then the next day he asked me how far I would go with him and I just said 'I don't know' he replied saying would you ever do stuff like blow jobs and stuff, I didn't feel too comftable talking about this with him but I didn't say anything, I just kept saying 'not sure' ect...
Last night he asked me if I love him, obviously I said yes because i do, he said 'prove it;)'
I said 'how?' And he asked me to send him a picture of me, dirty or not.
I haven't sent one I kept saying 'I look a mess so no' and stuff, I don't want to send him a picture of me, I think it's cringey...
He also said 'when we meet tomorrow what do you want to do?' (This is this afternoon now) and I said I didn't mind.
He said 'I'm sure we can find a bed somewhere;)'
I'm pretty sure he was just joking when he said this but I'm just curious, why is he asking all this?
He is 16 and I am 14
Thanks :)
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Bottom line you said you are not together"yet" hunny you dont love him, you are in like with him. He is older& more experienced than you. He is playing mind games with you. The " if you love me you would" line is textbook player 101. Do not give that to some jerk who not only does not deserve it but has no clue as to the value of it.
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I completely agree with lightoftruth. I know that you like him, but I'm going to be honest with you-he doesn't seem like he is genuine.
I would suggest that you let him know your boundaries, and if he doesn't like that, then there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If he really cared for you, he wouldn't be pressuring you or making you uncomfortable as such.
Stay strong & hold your ground <3
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He's asking all this because he wants to have sex or do sexual things with you. He's just trying to pressure you. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like he actually cares about you as a person.
A lot of guys will say things like, "If you love me, you'll do this." But that's not what love is at all.
This is how you know whether he actually cares about how you feel about the situation or whether he just wants you to do sexual things with him. Tell him you're not comfortable with messing around or sending dirty pics. If he keeps saying, "Why not?" "It'll be fun" or anything else that is trying to change your mind, he doesn't like you.
A lot of girls learn the hard way and you'll meet a lot of guys who do this.
Whenever I start talking to a guy and we've kissed or he starts talking to me in a more sexual way, I'll straight up tell him what my boundaries are. If he's not ok with it, then I'll let him go and find someone who respects me and my decisions. Guys who pressure you aren't worth your time. They'll end up dumping you when you say no. Then the girl is pressured into doing it because she is afraid he'll leave her. So if he keeps doing this, back out now before it gets worse.
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Yes, that is exactly whats going on. He is trying to pressure you into having sex.
Some teen boys have at this age already learned how emotional females are and will play their emotions like a fiddler playing a tune. Guys have also figured that there are some girls with a lower self image or low confidence and target those girls because its easier to play the mind games with them and get them to cave in and allow him to get sex.
I know you didn't give definitive answers because you didn't know what to say. Unfortunately, it sent the wrong message to him, telling him that you were weak and easily manipulated to doing what he wants, that all he has to do is try harder. Eventually it will build up to the point where he makes a threat, if you don't even just touch me or do a blow job, then I am dumping you.
And guess what, that threat works on lots of girls cus they panic and don't want him to dump them, they think they will never feel these feelings for someone else, that there isn't any guy out there that could treat them better. That is sooo wrong. A guy like this is bottom of the barrell, there will always be guys who treat you much better than this. The hardest part is breaking up with a guy like this and dumping him cus of the ties your heart has. Yes, its hard at first but looking back in time, you'll be glad you didn't allow him to manipulate you like this. You tell him in a firm voice that you are not comfortable doing those kinds of things and not ready at your age. Also tell him he is not going to wear you down til you cave in and let him have what he wants. You say that it seems like he is into you only for getting some sex but you want a lot more than that. You want a guy who cares about you like a best friend and puts your needs and wishes and desires before his own. sO if your desire is to wait until you are 18 to have sex, he'd have to be okay with it or he can leave. Put it in your own words but make clear statements and set up the boundaries of what you will not tolerate such as not even allowing him to mention sex again, not even jokingly or you will dump him. and be prepared to do it, no fake threats or he will find a way to control you.
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He's clearly asking you for sex, don't send him pictures, you'll regret it! (Trust me on that, I've been there!) what he's asking for is illegal, you're a minor and he's taking advantage of you! You deserve a guy who loves you and doesn't just say he does so that he can get a few pictures and sleep with you!
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