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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and it was an amazing 3 years. We always know how to make each other laugh and each other happy. We love and care for each other very much. About a few days ago, he came to me and wanted to talk. He told me he was re-evaluating his life and wanted to take a break from the relationship so he could "find" himself. He said also he needed some change. I know this break is meant to help us be able to go out and enjoy life without worrying about the other but it really hurts and it's really hard on me. He said that the spark between us was there still but it just wasn't kindling like it should. What makes me more upset about this "break" is he wanted this beautiful necklace back that he gave me for Christmas last year. I'm not sure what to do and honestly this break hurts me more than it is helping. I don't want to seem desperate but I really miss my best friend and I wish he knew that. (link)
Breaks, breakups, arguments, even momentary ignoring are all painful. Everything you are feeling is valid & completely normal. That said, the second i read he asked for the necklace back everything changed, that\'s your sign that this is absolutely NO BREAK. You can either accept that now or the second after you hand over the gift & his fear of pissing you off & not getting the necklace back are gone. If this were merely a break to find himself & he had every intention of coming back to you the expensive gift wouldn\'t have even been mentioned. I know this isn\'t at all what you want to hear, but also know you pretty much knew already. If he doesn\'t want you it not the end of the world i promise. It just means he wasn\'t the one & now u get to go find who is. Necklace is yours, it was a gift end of that discusion


So, I'm 14 and this boy has already admitted he likes me and I have done the same. We arnt in a relationship but we both think it's likely to happen, we get along really well and we always talk. Over the last few days I feel like he's been dropping hints, the other day he was asking me about how far I had been and as I'm only 14 I have only kissed a boy, then the next day he asked me how far I would go with him and I just said 'I don't know' he replied saying would you ever do stuff like blow jobs and stuff, I didn't feel too comftable talking about this with him but I didn't say anything, I just kept saying 'not sure' ect...
Last night he asked me if I love him, obviously I said yes because i do, he said 'prove it;)'
I said 'how?' And he asked me to send him a picture of me, dirty or not.
I haven't sent one I kept saying 'I look a mess so no' and stuff, I don't want to send him a picture of me, I think it's cringey...
He also said 'when we meet tomorrow what do you want to do?' (This is this afternoon now) and I said I didn't mind.
He said 'I'm sure we can find a bed somewhere;)'
I'm pretty sure he was just joking when he said this but I'm just curious, why is he asking all this?
He is 16 and I am 14
Thanks :) (link)
Bottom line you said you are not together\"yet\" hunny you dont love him, you are in like with him. He is older& more experienced than you. He is playing mind games with you. The \" if you love me you would\" line is textbook player 101. Do not give that to some jerk who not only does not deserve it but has no clue as to the value of it.


I'm 23 years old and since I got my period in 6th grade it has always been regularly really irregular. Very rarely was I a 28 day cycle girl, mine would range from 31, 32, 35 back in HS. In college my first 3.5 years I went on BC and that was the only time I had a predictable period.

I went off the second semester of my last year of college because the hormones were just getting to me. I had been on 3 types of BC. For the first year and a half I was on ortho cyclen and that worked well until it was making me really short tempered and extremely depressed, switched off to Yaz and it made me gain some extra weight & changed my personality. I went onto using the generic of Yaz and the pharmacy kept changing the generic brands and my body was super sensitive to the change, I would get headaches from one of the generics and severe anxiety for the other. So basically each month, my body after adjusting to one generic version of pills would have to readjust to another because the pharmacy could not gauruntee me the same generic.

My body had finally just had enough stress and so had I. I hated adjusting to BC pills because it made me feel like I was slowly becoming someone else everytime I took it. I took bc mainly for birth control and for a predictable period. My choices going off were for the benefit of my body being hormone free and helping me feel more clear, more "me".

I knew going off my body would have to adjust to a normal cycle and I anticipated missing periods or even being more irregular than I had been off of BC in the first place. It's been over a year and a half now since I've been off the pill and it has not regulated itself.

Ive talked to my gyno and she pushes BC soley because she doesnt want me to get pregnant. I'm an adult, I'm engaged and in a serious relationship.

So basically my period today is at 39 days since my last period. I took a test and it was negative. I've felt like I was going to get my period like a week and a half ago. I always get pms symptoms 1-2 weeks early and my periods have been ranging from 29-36 days. The longest it's ever been between periods is 56 days. It's just really frustrating and I'm wondering why sometimes it's so outrageously late! I did have a really bad case of the flu the last week of march? Which happened a few weeks after my last period.


I'm just wondering if anyone else's takes a natural approach to their life and also has gone off the BC train for health reasons?
What they do about irregular periods/cycles?



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I took BC for a week or so i dont even remember the type though Yaz sounds familiar. I would take the pill & within 30 min i was a rage fueled emotional mess. I scared myself on how angry i got over absolutely nothing. Within a week i was in fetal position in bed in so much pain i would just lay there & cry. Obviously i stopped taking the BC. Through hours & hours of research i stumbled upon apple cider vinegar(its gross & burns BAD but it works.) To regulate cycles you drink 2tbs 3× a day. You can mix in oj so its not too bad but im not gonna lie its horrible & painful but it works


She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
Trying way to hard to stay relevant after Disney Ditz club. All of them did it Britany literally went insane, Linsey went down on Opp & every other Tom, Dick, & Hairy lesbian in Hollywood & neighboring trailer park. Justin tried to change his name to BIZZLE ( yes all caps needed) Look at Amanda Bynes i mean really look at her she looks like that crazy cat face plastic surgery lady. Shes scary can you imagine waking up to that staring at you & shes crazy enough to do just that. If nobodys talking about you then you fade away, bad, good, its all atention.


well first i'm 23 and he's only 20. i walked away from my ex because he was being extremely needy and i just needed space at the time being that i had a full time job and going to school full time, i was just exhausted and he didn't really help. anyway, when i left he pretty much said that i treated him like crap the whole time (which is pretty true) and he was through. so i just said "ok, sorry you feel that way bye!" and left it at that. well i'm not a fan of social media but my friend said that i should get on twitter and see this page he made that deals with thoughts/quotes/advice on chivalry and such. well i did and it broke my heart because everything he post is about me. even on my birthday when we weren't talking he said happy birthday. but all the quotes are talking about how much he misses me yet he has me completely blocked. i tried calling through *67 but he answered and hung up and won't answer again. i really regret the way i treated him but he won't give me the chance to apologize and make it work, what do i do? :/ i'm in college so i live in a different state right now so i can't just show up and be like heyyyy. (link)
Before any action whatsoever you need to do some major soul searching to see where you really want to have this man in your life because if these \"retro-feelings\" are only out of shame for the way you left things you will only be hurting him all over again. You might feel bad for the choice you made however that doesn\'t make it the wrong choice. You just listed some fairly serious issues, have you changed your mind on any of these? If in your heart to heart with yourself you find that you do truly love this man then by all means, send a message with a mutual friend or send him a letter (i would do letter because you can get out everything you need to to him with the best chance of him getting all of it. You cant have the friend rattle off all you have to say & he may not call you out of fear but you know fhe will read that letter over & over again by himself. ) If instead you find you are really just not right for each other than still write that letter. Let him know that you are truely sorry for ending things the way you did & that he deserved better because he meant a lot to you then & still does. .)




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