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confusing situation ?
Sorry this is so long :)
Ok so around a year ago a mate and I went to a park where we met a boy who's friends with my brother. We made out a bit and he asked me out, but i said it was too soon. We met up a again and made out and stuff. But after after a while we had completely lost touch of each other and went our separate ways, except i still really liked him. For the past year i've liked him so much and i always have dreams about him. Recently my friend and I have being going to the same park after school and he's always there. We hang out with 3 spanish boys and i can tell that my 'crush' always looks over, in jealousy i guess. Yesterday we were there and a group of boys came. they were talking to my 'crush' and he was saying how they "always meet up". My friend and i went to the bathroom and when we came back most people had gone. later on facebook the spanish boys told us that the group of boys had tried to start a fight, and were asking them why they always meet with us...I'm pretty certain that my crush turned his friends again the spanish boys, just because they were hanging out with me and my friend, but what does that mean? if he's that jealous to start a fight then does it mean he has feelings? or is he just doing it because he's annoyed that we're hanging around the place that he hangs?
Thanks for reading! :)
Btw my question is'nt very clear :S I just want to know what it means when he gets jealous and starts a fight with boys because they're with me?
Also i think i still really like him...how would i show him that i'm not interested in the spanish boys?
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I agree with the other two.
It's either he's still interested in you and doesn't like other guys to be around you, which I think is a bad sign or he's racist, which would be another bad sign.
I mean no guy should start a fight with guys if they're jealous or something. If this guy turned his friends against the boys just because they were hanging out with you and your friend, that's awful.
Anyways, to answer your question as to showing him you're not interested in the Spanish boys, there isn't really any way. I'd say don't act flirty with them and just treat them as your friend. He shouldn't assume that you're interested in them or something though. If you do start seeing him again, be careful, you don't want a guy who starts fights over dumb things like that.
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Sounds to me like there may be things to avoid him for, being racist possibly. A racist person will have definite strong ideas about other areas in life. Some people get angry easily if things don't go the way they imagined things should. Well thats life, you can't predict what will happen and if he is one of these kinds of people, he will totally lose it emotionally every time something he hasn't anticipated happens, even something easy like a change of plans as to what movie to go to cus your's is sold out. He may have in his mind already laid claim to you as if you were his girlfriend in a committed relationship. Thats another bad thing, assuming things instead of coming out and asking.
Yes, it might be a sign that he's interested in you and why he picked a fight with the other boys.
You may find it romantic and wonderful that a boy is interested in you so strongly. However i want to caution you and explain there are good ways for a guy to show he is interested and there are bad ways. A good way is to talk to you and find out what interests you have and do stuff with you that you like,to be encouraging, support your hopes, dreams, talents, compliment you, etc.
Often we can end up thinking we like someone but thats based mostly on appearance and a chemical reaction, where two people react to the pheremones in another person, why we like some people who have similar pheremones to us and why others we aren't attracted to. This doesnt mean that a girl may still be attracted to a guy once she gets to really know him better. There may be some good qualities to him but his reaction already is a warning sign. You may find more bad personality traits than good. Just be careful and talk to your mom or an older person you trust about a boys behavior when around you and ask if its normal, good or bad. There is much to learn when you are young and it will take some time before you can recognize the warning signs to avoid getting involved with the wrong guy.
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I'm wondering why you keep referring to the group of boys as Spanish. Do they speak Spanish or are they from Spain. Is it unusual where you are from to see Spanish people? I have two thoughts on this. Either your crush definitely likes you or he may be racist. Or it could be a combination of both. If he is really interested in you and he's racist he might not want to be with you if he thinks you are friends with Spanish people. But on the other hand he might just be extremely jealous. Either way it goes I believe he definitely wants to be with you. If I were you I would confront him in a pile manner. I would simply ask what happened that day you went to the restroom. I would also straight out ask him if he's interested in you. Let him know how you feel and go from there. However be careful. If he is extremely jealous already you don't want him to be abusive towards you if you do get involved. Take things slow. Get to know him and his family and friends. Just please be safe.
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