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Is he using me?
So, I'm 14 and he is 16, we've been talk for a while now and we met up yesterday. He asked me out because everything went trails well and we'd both admitted we liked eachother, we sat by these toilets and spoke for hours. We were just cuddling and we kissed a few times but he asked me if I wanted to go In the toilets with him... Obviously I knew what he meant by that and I did say no as I'm 14.
Later on in the evening he text me saying that he think we rushed things a bit, I did agree but I don't see why it was a problem as we were both fine in he day. He also said he still wants to meet me, does this mean he's using me?
I don't know where I went wrong, he said I hadn't done anything...
Help!
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He's probably looking for a sexual relationship, you should try and make it clear of what you want out of the relationship. He may have got the wrong idea?
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No he sounds like actually a gentlemen. Both of you got caught up in the moment. And he realized that and like the earlier people suggested he would be pushing for sex. And you should want to take it slow taking it fast makes things happen to quickly.
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So far it doesn't sound like he's using you since he told you that he thinks you guys rushed things.
If he was using you, then he'd keep pushing to do sexual things with you and only want you for that. If he backs off on that and you guys take your time, he's not using you, he's respecting what you want.
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For me I think that he is not using you, think that he knew he rushed and made a mistake that's why he texted you and said he was sorry. I'm turning 16 this year, but i have had a lot of relationships like that. But believe me it takes a mature person to admit that he was wrong. So I believe that if he treats you with respect, then you guys should continue to date.
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Wow you make me feel old. I'm about ten years your senior but holy cow I remember those days. Being young and learning about love and attraction. Those things are fairly new when you are 13 and 14. I have to admit for a 16 year old lad to say that things might have been rushed could speak positively in regards to his character. Id say keep spending time with him and see what he does and says. If he keeps treating you right and you two have no issues then go with the flow. I'll admit that seemed a bit early all the kissing and stuff. I'm not saying for you two not to do that stuff BUT take things nice and slow. Let the relationship build slowly and mature with time. If you two are at the level where the kissing is fine then keep it there. Try to move too quickly and both sides could become burnt out fast or could make mistakes. So I'd say at this stage he does not seem to be using you BUT continue to take things slow and see how he treats you. Inbox me if you want to continue receiving help along the way. No problem little lady. Be safe and good luck.
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