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So, I'm 14 and he is 16, we've been talk for a while now and we met up yesterday. He asked me out because everything went trails well and we'd both admitted we liked eachother, we sat by these toilets and spoke for hours. We were just cuddling and we kissed a few times but he asked me if I wanted to go In the toilets with him... Obviously I knew what he meant by that and I did say no as I'm 14.
Later on in the evening he text me saying that he think we rushed things a bit, I did agree but I don't see why it was a problem as we were both fine in he day. He also said he still wants to meet me, does this mean he's using me?
I don't know where I went wrong, he said I hadn't done anything...
Help! (link)
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Wow you make me feel old. I\'m about ten years your senior but holy cow I remember those days. Being young and learning about love and attraction. Those things are fairly new when you are 13 and 14. I have to admit for a 16 year old lad to say that things might have been rushed could speak positively in regards to his character. Id say keep spending time with him and see what he does and says. If he keeps treating you right and you two have no issues then go with the flow. I\'ll admit that seemed a bit early all the kissing and stuff. I\'m not saying for you two not to do that stuff BUT take things nice and slow. Let the relationship build slowly and mature with time. If you two are at the level where the kissing is fine then keep it there. Try to move too quickly and both sides could become burnt out fast or could make mistakes. So I\'d say at this stage he does not seem to be using you BUT continue to take things slow and see how he treats you. Inbox me if you want to continue receiving help along the way. No problem little lady. Be safe and good luck.
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So I had a boyfriend and I told him that I did not want to have sex because I want to wait and im a Christian. So he said okay, but then preceded to pressure me into doing other things such as bjs, hjs, fingering, etc amd they were things i really didnt want to do, told him i didnt want him to do but hed take out his take and be like please just touch it and please just finish for me and put your mouth on it and id really hate it and didnt want to but i did. Hed also tell me like dont you love me? Cause by you not wanting to have sex with me and all that its like saying you dont love me. And he just pressured me into doing all those things. And one day, and please dont judge me cause its so embarassing and I hate to think that it happened but he pressured me into having..anal. And told me at first it wouldnt mean me losing my virginity and i said i really really dont want to and that its weird and he begged and begged and begged and wouldnt let me put my clothes back on and told me just once and we didnt have to do it again and itd make him really happy and its a normal thing and eventually i broke and was like okay once and no more. And he did one thrust and i told him to pull out and he just pushed deeper in and say you just need to give it a chance and i scratched him trying to get him out of me. And before he had also forced me to show him my ass and i really didnt want to and hed try to flip me over and id struggle against him and even said rape rape and hes like its not rape unless im inside you silly. And idk. Is what he did rape? Or sexual harassment? Or what? My friend thinks its both. And im just angry at it all. I mean i blame myself for not just breaking the relationship off but i was fooled into believe everything we did was normal and sure maybe but we had only been together for like two weeks before i had to start giving hjs and ugh:( and i even knew what i was doing didnt feel right..afterwards id feel like sobbing cause i felt like i was just being used for sex and being dooped like every other 16 year old girl whos tricked into believing their 17 year old bf loves them. And ah:( so what is this called? Rape? Harassment? Being forced or constantly persuaded and begged into doing something i really didnt want to do..and then doing it and feeling awful? And if he ever finds this post by some chance, fuck you:( (link)
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What's a young Christian lady like yourself doing with a chooch like him? Look, I'm sure he knew the terms before you two got together. You had your personal beliefs and he had to respect them. Look, i once dated a super religious Christian woman. Cuddling, holding hands, and kissing was enough for me. Was she hot? Hell yeah and as tempted as I was most of the time I knew her body was hers and If I truly loved the person I'd respect it. And basically this guy has no respect for you, your body, or your principles. Hell he sounds like the type who if you gave him and had sex with him would go around telling the world AND probably dump you for someone else. If he truly has intention of making things work long term he would work with you and have a better bond with you through trust and love not just sex. Just reading that angered me and I don't even know you young lady! Now oooole Brady will tell ya something missy.... Dump this guy ASAP and spend your single time focusing on the Lord and your dreams. Eventually the Lord will bless you with a right man who will respect you and treat you right. I been there done that. Won't give away my age but I'm probably 7 years or so ahead of your time lol. I've seen a lot. Take care and good luck. I'll be praying for you.
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I really, really like this guy named David. I've had a crush on him for a couple weeks and I think he's the greatest guy I've liked in a long time. Maybe the greatest I've EVER liked. He's cute, sweet, smart, and funny. He is a Christian like me and I really respect him a lot.
The thing is that people keep talking down about him. Like tonight, someone was talking about how nice, down to earth, and easy to talk to he was, then someone else accused him of being behind it. Like those were actually HIS words.
I wish people wouldn't talk bad about him. Should I believe anything they say? Or should I still like him? I don't want to just forget about him. What should I say if I ever need to stand up for him? WDYT? (link)
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I would say give him a fair chance in terms of getting to know him. Sometimes in a sad twist of fate hear say about someone is right. BUT it doesn't always ring true. I say talk to him, spend some time with him, and truly get to know him. He may actually be the good guy you think he is but how would you know without taking the time to get to know him? Of course he could be a chooch but you wouldn't know if you didn't seek. Also people may just be putting him down because of his faith. Of course take everything with a grain of salt because he may have a few skeletons laying in his closet. So don't believe everything others say but do keep it in mind as you spend time with him. Keep an open mind to all sides basically. Good luck.
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