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shes my bestfriend but......
so me and this girl have been friends since last year and we barely became close this year. we used to do everything together and I would have a blast but lately shes been saying stuff that she thinks it wont hurt me but it actually does and whenever were with our other friends shes really annoying but when its just hanging out shes perfectly fine. I wanna know if its just me being dumb and over thinking it or Is she really someone I should just let go at least for a little while ? we are both 13 females
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People start changing around your age and they'll keep changing. You won't be the same person you were at 13 when you are graduating high school.
So I think you should have a conversation with her, just the two of you. Don't be mean or point fingers at her or something. Just say that it hurts your feelings when she say this, this and this, ect.
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Sounds to me like she's just 13...
Girls get weird and catty around that age... guys aren't much better... it's just a weird age... so she's gonna act weird because she's 13, and you're gonna interpret it more dramatically than you have to because you're 13.
You have two options... One, you can wait three to four years to see if this is a permanent attitude change, and sometimes it is... Two, you can sit her down when you're alone and say, "look chick, I have a problem."
I honestly recommend a mixture of the two. Sit her down, tell her what hurts your feels, and what bugs you about her when you're with other friends... and then just try not to let it bug you. People are who they are and no one is going to be awesome all the time. The important thing is to get the major stuff out of the way so you can enjoy the better parts.
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well sometimes friends grow apart and theres sometimes nothing anyone can do about it but what you might try is when your out with your friends you can test her when she says something shitty. like:
her: ((mean comment))
You: "ummm ouch, wtf girl?? whats with you today?"
and just keep doing that everytime she says something thats mean, and later when you alone and can catch her for a moment, be like "ok your not normally like this? whats REALLY going on? why did you have to say this infront of our friends??" and see what she says back? maybe shes just really stressed over some other stuff and since your close to you she feels like she can lash out at you, cause if you havnt done anything wrong then why else would she act like that right?
maybe you could ask her if you did something to piss her off? (have this conversation when your alone of course) she may not wanna open up to you infront of other people.
just remember if you HAVE done something wrong in her eyes, just own it and say "oh i didnt know you felt that way you shoulda told me sooner" or something. if you really want to keep the friendship then you have to make sure your not accidently doing anything wrong too. good luck.
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