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my crush asked me out but i am not sure if i should accepit
i like this guy and he likes me. he asked me out but i am not sure if i should go out with him because im not sure f it is a "date date" or a confession or he is using me. i am scared my parents wont approve him
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I agree with Dragonflymagic on the whole parents situation. I have no idea how old you are so it doesn't help. So if you're parents are fine with you dating, let them meet him. If they spend enough time around him, even if he's just a friend during that time, they'll get to know him and see whether or not they can trust him with you.
I'd assume he's asking you on a date so that you guys can get to know each other better. Asking you to be his girlfriend would be a little soon.
I don't know why you'd think he is using you unless he has given you a reason to think that. Like his past on dating and dumping girls once he got what he wanted or something like that. But if you have no reason, don't assume he's using you.
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You'll never know until you talk to him, your parents may or nay not like him; if he's using you it may become obvious in time or not. You may be suited to each other or not; you might end up as best friends, life-long lovers or acquaintances. It's a game of chance.
(Safety advice - let your parents know where you're going, with whom and what time you intend to come back. If you have any problems, phone them as soon as possible.)
All you can do is take a deep breath, meet him, smile and see how it goes.
Hope this helps, let me know how it goes?
Best wishes x
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Have your parents outlined any requirements and limitations they have on dating for you? Do you know at what age you are allowed to begin going on official dates? Since I dont know your age, its hard to answer.
A guy is interested in you if he asks you out. At this stage it means he is attracted to you. Dating or hanging out together is for the purpose of finding out enough about the character of the other person to decide if its someone you actually like and want to spend more time with or if beyond being attracted to looks, you dont have enough in common, or don't feel that romantic spark. So for now, if your parents feel you are not old enough to go on unchaperoned dates, or date at all, then here's how you find a way to hang out together more.
Ask the parents and see if its okay to have a male friend from school come hang out at your house. They're more likely to be comfortable with that as long as they are there and the bedroom door remains open. If they get to see a lot of him and get used to his character and know they can trust him around you, then there's no reason for them to disapprove when you are old enough to go on unchaperoned dates. During this time, you build a friendship and interest in each other grows stronger, or you both discover you aren't all that interested after all and move on to the next person.
So check with the parents first before giving the guy an answer. If he's okay with just seeing you at school...no problem. If he was simply wanting to spend more time with you away from school, and the parents go for him visiting, problem solved.
So now as to what to say to the guy, and how to answer him depends on what your parents said in part. The other part is whether or not you like him enough to want to spend more time with him. You said he's a crush and you like him so that shouldn't be a problem.
I think your hesitation and questioning comes from a confusion as to what dating or asking someone out really means. So I will try to explain.
There is dating to decide how much you really like a person and
There is dating as in an "official dating couple".
So just because a guy asks you out doesnt mean he is asking you to become his official girlfriend, not unless he already feels he's got a pretty good idea of who you are as a person from observing you at school and hanging out with you at school. He may only be wanting to get to know you better at this stage before wanting to become girlfriend/boyfriend. So its entirely realistic to ask him if he's asking you out to get to know you better, or if he is wanting to become official boyfriend and girlfriend.
The only 'using' of a girl I know of is for status symbol for a man but in teen boys, thats not first reason, usually those who are using a girl are only wanting for sexual gratification. His actions at school should speak for his intentions. If he has a reputation of having sex with all the past girlfriends and then dumping them to go on to the next, then you can bet that he is wanting to do the same with you. You won't be the special one to make a guy like that change his ways just like that.
If he's a good guy, then his intentions are one of the other two mentioned.
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Well for one don't let others opinions mess with your happiness! :) and because your unsure of how he meant it then you should try to clear it up. Like ask him nothing is easier than being straight forward. And talk to your parents about you dating before you say yes because you definitely don't want your parents getting mad at you. Also why would you think he is using you? Is that his history? If so and you do decide to go for it stay alert and look for signs okay. Him asking you out could mean numerous things like; will u be my girlfriend, let's go on a date, or yes let's just do it so my ego can look better. It depends on his character. I hope this somewhat helps or gives you your own ideas for it. :)
I wish you the best of luck
~Angie
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