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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!

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ok I have very thick hair a few inches past my shoulder..and I am starting to wash it alot more so it won't be frizzy..soo now I always have to do something to it or it will be REALLY big and poofy..well I can't blow dry my hair straight..it takes forever and it never works..so I got all those straightening poducts..but they're all for when you blow dry your hair straight..when you don't..it just makes it not frizzy ya know? I straighten it alot but to make it look good it takes SOOO long and I dont have the time and it's really bad for your hair..can't get it chemically cuz thats bad too and I got it once and it messed up..so any tips to help?

You can try scrunching your hair with moose and hair spray or gel and hair spray while its wet.

okay..i alwauys try to mastrubate and i dont exactly know how im saposed to feel. I start by rubbing my clit..then i feel like ihave to tighten my muscles ya know.. and then i try to get my finger in to my vagina..but i cant so then i grab a sheet and begin to rub my clit..again. And i start to like tighten up and squeeze muscles 'down there'. Im only 13..and a female (obviously) How are you saposed to feel, should you like..go all out and moan and stuff..?I know dildos/vibrators are good..but i just cant seem to find them..and shoving thiings like..ends of brushes up in me doesnt do it for me..*sigh*

umm... yeah... you're freakin 13! you don't need to be masturbating anyway! sick ass little girl.

hey umm when i get my period its like only 3 days it that normal? should i see a doctor?

yeah its normal. I know some girls who only get it for 2. If you're still young it may change when you get older and last like 4 or 5 days. But, no you don't need to see a doctor.

sometimes i feel like i feel things to much. not physically, emotionally. i feel like some things have bigger inpacts on me than they do on others. i dont know. it really bothers me sometimes. i just want to know if this is normal, and if it happens with other certain people. you've probably guessed it, but im sensitive. i mean i don cry all the time, but you know sometimes i will. like maybe one every 4 or 5 months. at least recently things have been good for me so it has been a long time. i dont know i think i sound like im coming off as something im not. i have a bunch of friends, and i think it might sound like im a weak im not today i had a soccer game i play dirty i dont really care i tripped to or 3 different people and i can do it in a way i dont get called for it. so im not i guess you would call it the classic nerd. so am i normal or what? im not going to rate you. if you really care about the advice, you wont care about it if i give you a 5 or a 1

Well you must not be too sensitive if you dilibertly trip people just to win at a sport. And crying once every 4-5 months isn't alot at all, infact, its pretty normal. You are probably just one of those types of people who thinks about things alot. There's nothing wrong with that. I tend to do that alot too. Just make sure you don't think too hard on a situation and let it stress you out.

hey well i'm really nervous about the first time i have sex. im nervous about becoming pregnant, like if the condom breaks. so i was wondering if its wrong/weird for the guy to wear 2 condoms (one on top of the other)... is that really pathetic? i know im supposed to use lube but i'm still scared so could i make him wear 2 just in case?

Yeah you can make him wear 2 but neither of you will feel anything. Just using 1 and the lube should be enough. If you're that worried about getting pregnant you might wanna get on birth control first, or maybe it means you just might not be ready for sex.

sorry if its long!! ok. there is this gurl umm lets call her jenn* i used to like her, but when i got with my boyfriend, i found out some stuff that they did like umm..have sex in his truck. (this was back like 2 years ago and i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and havent done anything with him) ((she broke his glove compartment door by the way when they were doin it.lol)) ok well..everytime i think about it, i get sooo jealous/mad! i mean he dont like her or anything and always calls her a whore, which she does do a lot of ppl. well anyways..but i just dont know how to stop being so worried and stuff about it. ya see.. i saw her last night at the fair and we got on the same ride. she was 2 seats down from me. i didnt know she saw me. but obviously she did because she called my baby adam today and told him she saw me there. she asked him if he wanted to come over and go swimming and he told her naw. i asked him why he didnt go and he said because he wouldnt want me to go to a guys house and go swimmin and plus he just didnt feel like it. but do you know anyways just to keep from gettin so mad/jealous when i think about it? PLEASE HELP!

I know what you mean about being jealous. i tend to be the jealous type myself. Its is very hard to stop thinking about people who have been with or around your boyfriend. But, if I were you i wouldn't really worry about it because it seems like your boygriend doesn't want naything to do with the girl. he is obviously very into you and knows that that other girl was nothing but a piece of ass. And also, think of it this way, she probably wasn't even any good becasue if she was she would probably still be around, and you, who hasn't even had sex with him are still around. So, don't stress over that girl, she obviously has no compition with you.

Hey, i'm 13 years old. When i wake up...my breasts hurt......is this normal for me? i read somewhere that maybe it's cuz i'm gettin ready to start my period, which i am.....but still...i need advice or whatever...from a girl plez tho......ASAP

Since your 13, its very normal that your breast are hurting. You're right it can mean you are about to get your period. It can also mean that they are developing or growing.

my bf never really talkes to me that much..unless were sorta alone which never happens!! if we aren't alone..then he just kind smiles if i say something..or is just like ok.. i realllly like him!! what do i do..??

-talking concerns

ask him why he never talks? maybe he's shy or something. find soem way to loosen him up.

i have like all these papers that i kinda get bad grades on what should i do

umm... if you dont want your parents to se them then throw them away. but if you want to keep them, you can find the right answers and use them to study from.

OK here's the deal. I smoke cigarettes .. yes I know all the bad stuff about it already and I know I shouldn't do it, blah blah blah. My best friend doesn't know tho. Shes my best friend in the entire world and I hate keeping this from her. A couple of people who she doesnt like know I smoke. She doesnt even know i talk to them. I hate keeping it from her. I dont want to quit. She thinks smoking is really stupid. How can I tell her about it ?

tell your friend about your smoking and new friends, if she has a problem with it, then you can't really get mad at her because she just cares, but let her know that she doesnt have to like everything that you but becasue she is your friend she should accept it.

hey i have gotten my hair highlighted a couple of times. It is a golden blonde with lighter blonde highlights. Well in the winter im thinking about going to a light brown. Does anyone know of a pretty shade of brown/light brown that you have tried? shade? brand?
Thanks

I've always loved chestnut brown, but that is kind of dark. try a light ash brown. i like the garnier nutrise hair color because it smells great! you don;t have sit and smell that amonia small while you're dying it and waitign to wash it out.

[Sorry about the lengh, but I need some advice=)}About a year and a half ago, I met a guy who changed my life. When one of my best friends introduced us, I didn't really think anything of it. We hardly ever saw eachother, but talked often and had the most deep, intriguing conversations that would last for hours on end. We had a connection, somthing I had never felt before...but there, of course, was a problem...He lived an hour away. We were 14 at the time, and, me , being an only child, continued to be extremley protected by my parents when it came to dating. I saw him literally once every 6 months, and it would always be someplace public, with each one of our friends involved. A year later, and a year older, my parents agreed to take me out there for a few hours so we could finnaly be together. After that visit, we started seeing eachother more and more often, and our love grew stronger and stronger. My parents started allowing me to spend the night, and I have made so many new, interesting friends. The summer, amazing, every weekend me and him would spend together. Now that school started again, it came to realization that we have different lives, and a lot of things are going to interfere with our relationship. I am in love, and every minute i spend thinking about him...but I'm afraid that our distance, even if it is only an hour away, is going to damage our connecton. I see couples in the hallway at school, around town, and other places, and it makes me so depressed, I never take any time spent with him for granite. Some people really don't know how lucky they are to have such a great person becasue they're always with them. So I guess my question is, how do I keep this relationship strong, despite the fact that I am not around to see his actions. I mean, I trust him, and he trusts me, but all the girls I know from his town love him. He's a ladies man and I am so very jelous. I wish i could do somthing, but he always brings up how far away i am, thats why we held off going steady until the summer....please i really need some intelligent advice.

Thank you for reading this...

if this guy really cares for you, he will help you make things work by not seeing anyone either. as for feeling down when you see couples at school an stuff, just stay postive and think of how wonderful things will be the next time you see him and are in eachother's arms. if both of you stay true to eachother you can really make this work.

I wake up every morning at least two hours earlier than my first class. I get up, take my dog for a walk, take a shower and get ready. You would think that all of that would wake me up enough to stay awake during my classes wouldn't you?

No luck for me. My hardest class is at 9 mondays and 9:30 wednesdays - Mammalian Anatomy and Physiology- and I am constantly falling asleep durring it. I try to take notes and sit next to the open windows, but it doesn't work. Coffee never seems to help me stay awake, and it gives me an upset stomach even if it did. Does anyone know of anything else that I could do to get myself awake and alert during this class? I don't want to just get a good grade, I actually want to learn everything and remember it all for my job in the future And this means actually paying attention in class.

Do you eat breakfast? If you don't, then you should. Food is fuel for the body and it will keep you up. Eat a good full breakfast, I think breakfast sandwiches are great because they are a little bit of everything, so you have alot of vitamins. taking a daily viatmin is another good thing to do as well. I'm pregnant, and since i've been taking my daily vitamin I've noticed that I can get up early and actually stay up. vitamins are another fuel for the body. also, try ornage juice with your breakfast, or if you need caffenine try tea or hot chocolate since coffee doesn't agree with you. hope I helped. :)

I havent had a boyfriend in about a year and a half. My friends and family are always telling me i need to get out there and meet someone. The trouble is i dont really know where it is im supposed to go to meet theses said "guys".
Anyone have any suggestions on where to meet a nice guy?
Thanks :)

if your one of those girls with very high morlas and all that, try church or a library. but clubs and bars are also great places to meet people.

This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.

So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.

Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.

However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.

If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.

I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help?

You're right its not something you should do. SO don't do it. What would your future husband think of you having a job like that? Its very dangerous, besdies diseases, someone could be a sicko and seriously hurt ir even kill you. Its too risky of a job, the money is not worth the risk and I would never suggest to anyone to do it.

i have a bf and one of my really good guy frinds i think is crushing on me..i don't like him..but how do i find out if he likes me?

Since you have a boy friend, don;t even bother finding out if your friend likes you. Because, if you go and ask him or have someone ask him, he may take it the worng way, and think you like him back. just dont worry about it. but, if he does approach you and tell you he likes you, just simply let him know that he knows you alreayd have a boyfriend, and you're sorry but you are only intrested in him as a friend.

Hey well I'm starting a low carb diet this monday and ending it in June. I have done this diet before but only for a month and I got great results. I am hoping to lose 35 lbs (I'm not fat but if I lose 35 lbs i'll be underweight and thats cool haha) Anyway, the low carb diet for 7 months will be really really hard. I cant have no bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, cereal,anything with more than 5% carbs...so i cant eat 90% of the things we normally eat. But anyway, I was wondering do you guys know any diets that I can lose 30 lbs in 7 months. Because I wanna know my options and I'm not looking forward to this low carb diet. Thanks:)

You think being under weight is cool? I think you are a retard. And that diet doesn't sound very unhealthy, for all that you migth as well not eat at all. (I'm not fat but if I lose 35 lbs i'll be underweight and thats cool haha)

i dont know what to put this under .. but my back is KILLING me .. its like my upper back and idk it feels like someone is stabbing me in the back its all along my shoulders ..

try aleve or excedrin. relaxing in a hot tub might do the trick too.

i like two guys. one guy im really good friends with. hes really smart and funny, and hes not really really popular. i mean i guess hes a little bit but not really. im not popular, but im not a loser. im just the average girl. the other guy i like is extremely popular. i could never get him though, so back to the other guy. i really want him to like me, and he doesnt like all the slutty girls. he thinks im really pretty and funny, but i want him to LIKE me. i weigh 135, im 5'3, brown hair with green eyes..any thing i could do to make him like me more? i rate!!

Sorry, but there isn't anything you can do to "make" someone like you. They either do or they don't. And you shoul;dn't go changing yourself just to make anyone especially a guy like you. If you ahve to do that its not worth it. if you wanna know how he feels about you, what you need to do is just straight up ask him.

I have a beautiful long-haired calico cat that I inherited when my grandmother passed away. I have had cats all my life and have other cats now also, but I've never had a long-haired cat before. I brush her quite a bit but she still regularly vomits the most disgusting hairballs I have ever encountered. I tried buying this hairball remedy paste stuff and have even bought the hairball rememdy treats, but she won't have anything to do with either of them. Does anyone who is familiar with long-haired cats have any other suggestions?

Yeah I had a cat like that before. Take it to the vet, they can give you something for it, or show you ways to give the stuff you already have to her so that she will accpet them.

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