I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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can you become gay from being sexually abused as a child?
im not gay, im just asking because my sister's gay and she was sexually abused as a child. (link)
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Well, if she was sexually abused by a man, she might have an aversion to men because of what happened. The associations with the male anatomy could be so horrible to her that she could just never be turned on by it. I, personally, think that homosexuality might possibly be a combination of genetic and environmental factors, rather than just one or the other, so that might not be the complete reason for it.
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i am 13 female and i think that i am lesbian. i dont want to be lesbian and i want to stop. how do i stop being lesbian? i havent make out with a girl yet but here are the things i like: 1)girls kissing. 2) "perfect" breast. 3) cute faces. and 4) hearing girls moan during sexual things. i think that the cute face and perfect breast thing is just me being insecure about myself but what about the other things? anyway how did i become lesbian in the first place? is it in my genes or something? i need help!!!!!
i rate 5"s for good answers! (link)
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There is a ton of grey area on this... because, while one of those people below was on the right track with saying that your hormones are raging at age 13 and lots of different things will turn you on, I've never agreed with the logic that someone as young as you couldn't know sexual orientation for sure. Because, let's face it, it seems like every other 13 year old is obsessed with the opposite sex, which means they "know" they're straight, right? So if all those kids can just know that they're straight, why can't gay kids not know they're gay?
On the other hand, there is also a lot of room for confusion at age 13, which is where you come in. I don't think you can always really be 100% sure of what you like until you experience it. If you experiment with a girl and you really like it, you still might not necessarily be a lesbian because you still might also like guys. Don't limit yourself with the labels of "lesbian," "bi," or "straight" at this point. Just take it as it comes. If you have a chance to hook up with a girl, and it feels right, don't not do it just because you've been taught it's wrong. Just do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. You're going to like what you're going to like, and you shouldn't beat yourself up for it. You won't be happy until you accept who you truly are, whatever that might entail.
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ok well i have FINALLY narrowed it down to 3 songs to sing for my musical audition. my options are "At Last" (by Etta James) "Killing Me Softly With his song", or "A Dream Is A Wish Your Heart Makes," from Cinderella. Which do you think would be the best song choice? please let me know! I really want to do good on this and get a good part! thank you very much and i rate! (link)
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I don't recommend At Last because VERY few people can pull it off and it's just kind of risky for an audition. I think the Cinderella song is a good choice.
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ok, this is for the guys mainly. what do you want breasts to be like? i have seen breasts in the movies and stuff and they look nothing like mine. do you guys expect girls to have them like almost connected in the middle? firm? what do you expect? and what kind of boobs would turn you off. im thinking of letting my bf feel me up but im just wondering what if he doesnt like them? (link)
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I used to wonder about the same thing when I was younger. Mine don't look anything like a super model's, but it turns out that guys like boobs no matter what. I've had a couple of boyfriends in the past that thought I was crazy when I said I was a little self concious because I thought my boobs looked strange. They thought they were fine. There's no need to worry- we can't all be perfect. To guys, boobs are boobs.
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I have pimples here and there. I have tried like almost everything. Proactive doesn’t work for me so don’t say that! Pulse half of you just say it because everyone else says it works because you just want a good rating. I need any home remedies or anything I can buy. I have oily skin btw if this helps! Plz what can I do?? (link)
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Why don't you go to a dermatologist? People here say "proactive" because none of us our skin geniuses so you can't exactly expecct us to know some magic potion to your skin problems. A dermatologist can give you something stronger than proactive that will have a better chance of working.
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look at what this guy said to me
*******: guys say youre white trash but ive only seen you like once
what is white trash and why do people think i am that? (link)
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http://www.joke-archives.com/youmaybe/youmightbepowhitetrashif.html
When I think of a chick that is white trash I think of a girl who has nasty, ratty, unhealthy hair that's all choppy and wears incredibly unflattering clothing that makes her gross pot belly a little more noticeable. I think of an obnoxious personality and someone who's not very educated, or at least doesn't act like it at all and is unnecessarily vulgar in a very tasteless, redneck sort of way.
This picture reminds me a lot of white trash. http://charlizeonline.com/photos/movies/monster/monster01.jpg ... it's Charlize Theron playing a serial killing prostitute. Google "monster charlize theron" for more pictures.
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My friends are seniors so I want to make them a graduation gift, which is a music video type thing. But I need some good music... does anyone have any good suggestions? I already know about vitamin C graduation song and green day's 'the time of your life'. And any suggestions on making the music video better [using movie maker]
thanks! I rate high :) (link)
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I always thought Michelle Branch's 'Goodbye To You' would make a good graduation song, and then my school used Jimmy Eat World's 'The Middle' and Simon and Garfunkel's 'Bridge Over Troubled Waters' at their ceremonies. 'Good Friends' by Nine Days, 'Where do the children play' by Cat Stevens and 'Still Fighting' by Ben Folds also might work too.
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does any one know a good monologue from a play (not just a published book of monologues) that is appropiate for a girl somewhere between 15-18? i want it 1930s or later - nothing from shakespeare. i would probably like a way to obtain a copy of the play as well, but i don't want to buy play scripts without first knowing if there are any good monologues for me in it! any suggestions would be great, thanks! (link)
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www.theatrehistory.com
www.monologuearchive.com
I've done a lot of theatre in high school and these always seem to help.
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17/f
For my boyfriend's birthday, I got him a gag gift.. and then i got him a polo from American Eagle. But I'm having second thoughts as to whether or not he will like it.. do guys like getting clothes as a gift? (link)
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Save the receipt and tell him before he opens it that if he doesn't like it you have the receipt saved. Then he can take it back and get store credit and get what he wants. Some guys don't like clothes but it beats giving him a teddy bear with hearts on it or something. I'd say just go with it, especially if he's the type that cares a lot about his appearance or clothes.
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Ok so i have this really close friend she is probably my best friend. And she is like alittle pudgie but in a cute way (not fat at all!) And we try new wacky diets all the time just for fun; like eat something every three hrs. we never stick with it but its just fun. anyway so her parent kept on saying that she's not eating enough and she's throwing it up or whatever, more as like a joke not serious and she would joke it off too. but yesterday she told me that she really was throwing it up, but she siad she did research and found out you can die and whatnot she she claims to have stopped (for 3 days) and she made me promise not to tell anyone. but im so scared for her and i have no clue what to do, and the scaring part is all the signs people say to look for if someone does have an eating disortor arent there. what should i do? and i know people say you should tell someone, but it isnt as easy as it looks (link)
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I know it's not easy, but you really should tell her parents. She might hate you for it, but it's in her best interests. You're not being cruel by telling them, you're just trying to help a friend. Bulimia is a serious problem and can be harder to shake off than anorexia because the human body becomes adjusted to not digesting food and then it becomes really hard to stop throwing it all up. The body, consequentially, gets no nutrients and the person's health leaves them, and their teeth start to decay from the constant immersion of stomach acid. Do you want this to happen to her? I wouldn't think so. The only way she will get help for sure is if her parents know. Tell them as soon as possible, or have your parents tell hers if you really can't handle the pressure. Either way, they need to know.
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i have an assignment due for my world history class, and i'm supposed to make a collage of main events of 2005.. and i cant think of anything.. any ideas?! (link)
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As far as politics go, the last one named a few good ones. You could also include the aftermath of the tsunamis that happened a year ago.
No one could shut up about Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie hooking up this year, or Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey breaking up. Also, there were the bombings in London and the death of the Pope. Try googling "scientific discoveries in 2005" as well or "2005 events." MSN.com has a lot of stuff about 2005 on their main pages as well.
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Hey. Well, I am 13/f in the 8th grade, and I'm doing a science project about light and heat energy. I was wondering if this is a good science fair question-"Does a 23 watt Compact Flourescent light bulb give off more heat and light energy than a 25 watt Incandescent light bulb?". Please let me know if this is a babyish experiment, or if it's advanced and good or whatever. Thanks! (link)
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I think that's fine. I did a light bulb experiment in 8th grade and I went to a strict private school and received a high mark on it. I put plants in dark rooms with various colored light bulbs and noted their differences in growth. Light bulb experiments usually make for good reports.
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My shift starts at 5 pm pacific time tonight at work and I am terrified to go. This is because on my last shift my boss lit into me for not having gotten some of the work done on Xmas Eve and that I had priced something wrong. It was not all my fault that the work hadnt been done that night because the store was so busy and I really did work my tail off, but because she wasnt there on Xmas Eve she couldnt have seen me working and now she thinks I'm a slacker.
She was SO hard on me, I mean she was drilling me why things hadnt gotten done and I seriously felt like I was on trial in a court of law for murder of somthing. Usually she is nice but when she's in a bad mood- watch out!
She did however say to me that she wasnt just singling me out and that there were 3 other girls on that night that she was angry with too.
I only get paid 55 cents more than minimum wage per hour and the job isnt that great, but still I would be really upset to get fired because I really like all the girls I work with.
My question is how can I relax tonight around my boss? Should I just act like nothing happened on boxing day and keep working hard? (link)
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Yeah... just keep working hard and eventually she'll see that you probably were just caught up in the chaos of the holiday season. Everyone is especially prone to making mistakes then. If you just keep going without an attitude, she'll realize that she was probably too hard on you and things will go back to normal.
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I'm 16f, he's 18m.
I think I'm in love with him. He says he's in love with me. We never dated but we're like best friends. He likes me along with another girl. He could never go out with me because he liked her, and visa versa.
So I've just been feeling horrible because this is the first time I've ever been in love, and I can't do anything about it. I just want to cry when I see him because nothing serious will ever happen. I just want to hug him and never let him go.. geez I'm getting teary just wrtiting this.. He's been upset about this situation too.. he just can't make a choice and I don't blame him? I'm getting so fed up that I told him that he should just try and fix things up with the other girl.. but he told me that he just can't give up yet.
But I guess my question is, what do you think is the right way for me just to foget about him? I can't stay up one more night dwelling on this, and I don't want him to dwell on this anymore either.. and if it helps I really don't have any other options when it comes to guys..
If you read all of this, thanks..
-Miserable in Massachusetts (link)
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I hardly even needed to read past the first paragraph to know that he's full of shit. Honey, if he likes another girl and can't go out with you because of that, he is NOT in love with you and probably doesn't even know what the hell love is. Stop talking to him and putting up with his bullshit lies and you'll start to get over him. If it takes a long time, don't beat yourself up over it. People leading other people on really screws people up, and you've been led on so it might take a good deal of time to pick yourself up again. Seek support in friends and family rather than him. Good luck.
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Okay so i am in love with the hot pink razor. And i really want it for New Years. The problem is i have sprint =(. Do you think i can buy the phone full price from t-mobil with no insurance obviously and have sprint just connect it. Sprint does that with all their phone so why cant they do it with this one? My friends parents have bluberries but one is cingular and one is t-mobil but they have a cingular plan. So do you think i could have sprint hook it up?
ILL RATE HIGH! (link)
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For New year's? ...You get presents for Christmas, not New Year's. That's kinda weird.
Anyway, I don't think sprint will do it but there's no use in not calling a Sprint store and asking if they'll hook it up. Just find the number on the web site or look it up in a phone book.
Edit: Um, how was I supposed to know you were Russian? You didn't write that and I'm not a freakin' mind reader.
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Well about 3 weeks ago i invited my boyfriend home while my mum was at work. (no need to remind me that im wrong). now i feel so guilty because ive done something like this behind my mum's back(i live alone with my mum). Even if i didnt make out with my boyfriend that night(i havent done it,im still a virgin)...but i've been feeling all those guilts inside me ever since.I cant even tell any of my friends..i'm scared..i've prayed alot for forgiveness from God....But i just dont know what to do anymore with those felling of guilts and ashame. by the way im 16 and can anyone help here? (link)
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If you tell your mom, you'll feel a lot better and the guilt will go away. Tell her what you told us, that you feel really guilty that your boyfriend was over even though absolutely nothing happened. She'll either get really mad, or she'll be really happy that you were honest and up front with her. If she gets mad, she'll punish you and you'll feel like you got what you deserved and the guilt will leave, and if she's okay with it, you'll know that there's no reason to feel so guilty. Win win situation.
Really, you didn't do anything that wrong, you just feel badly for going against your mom's rules. Refrain from doing it in the future, not because it's necessarily a horrible thing to do, but because of the guilt it makes you feel. Good luck.
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ive been happily married with my husband for a little over a year now but ive always wanted to cheat on him but not with another guy another girl im 21 years old im very curious never went all the way before should i tell him or just do it behind his back p.s i dont want to share (link)
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Some things are just better kept fantasies. Why would you marry someone only to want to be with other people? That's why I feel getting married young is kind of risky. When you're young, you still want to explore and discover new things and that is greatly inhibited by marriage. I think you need to talk to him about it because your not wanting to tell him and share in experiences with him signifies more than just a lusty little fantasy you have; it signifies communication and trust problems, which are incredibly important in a healthy marriage.
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15/m there is this girl that is like the person i can trust the most in the entire world. she's great to talk to and i never get bored when i'm around her. the thing is we kinda off-and-on liked each other last year. now i think we're both kinda over each other, or at least i thought so until last week. she gave me these gifts in school and it really made me happy. maybe it was just the christmas spirit or something. since then i've been thinking about her a lot everyday. i called her to ask her a question and we ended up talking for hours and i kinda felt like i didnt like her. so then why is she still on my mind? if i find out that she likes me, should we be friends or more? (link)
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Wait a little longer... you don't want to jump the gun and tell her you like her only to decide that you don't and dump her. Leading people on isn't so cool. If talking to her makes your feelings fade away, then it's probably not the best idea to date her now.
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okay is it wrong to be so outgoing? i mean when im with my group of friends boys and girls.ill be one of the boys..im always the one making jokes and talk with attitude.but sometime i feel i should slow down be more reserved and sweet.becouse even tough im friendly n outgoing my girlfriends seems to be getting all the boys.why? i need advice badly becouse im in love with one guy he doesnt know about it.so i dont want 2 mess things up this time. i dont want to look like a clown.pls help. (link)
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Just be yourself, even if it means you won't get guys as often, because when you do get guys that will mean that they like you for who you really are and not some fabricated version of yourself.
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hey ok well here's the deal...my mom will let me go out with friends no problem. but whenever i m going w/ just a guy FRIEND she like makes sure a million times we are JUST FRIENDS. and we are. so no problem right?? but heres the Problem; she'll let me have boyfriends but she won't let me go out anywhere with them! whats the point of having a b/f if i can't go anywhere with them? how can i get her to lighten up and let me go out with a guy who is a little more than a friend????????? HELP!!! -and please dont say sneak around her i'd feel really guilty!- (link)
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I agree with a lot of the other advice. If you invite the guy over and let her get to know him, after a while she might ease up on you and let you go out places. Also, the group thing is a really good idea. If you go out with a big group of friends that your boyfriend happens to be in, you get to spend time with him without sneaking around. Whatever you do, don't start huge fights about it. If you go about this all maturely and try to understand her side and make it known you're trying to understand, she'll be more willing to listen to what you have to say. She's just an overprotective mother because she loves you and she's afraid of letting go and letting you be alone with someone who she doesn't trust to be respectable.
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