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I don't like this kid but he's been inviting me and my friend to the park with his friend. What should I do? I say no, but he keeps asking. My friend thinks its really funny and wants to go with him one time. I don't want to go because he is a jerk and has gotten into some trouble lately... what should I do? I don't want my friend to be mad or I don't want her to think I'm scared of him or something. He said that we should meet him on a certain day because my close friend would be there... I love that girl but that still won't persuade me to go with them. Why does this kid keep asking me to go with him?? I really really don't know what to do!

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well your friend should understand this but tell the guy that you are not interested and make an excuse as to why you cant go. be firm about it to. this should help get him off your back. if he gets really annoying, your elbow is the strongest part of your body. take care.

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I wear a uniform too!! thanks for the advice!!

hey no prob! feel free to ask me about that *unfortunate* stuff! lol

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I have a friend who cant keep her mouth shut! She tells everything I say and I always try to remember tp tell her stuff but sometimes i am just itcing to tell someone. I really wanna be her friend but then again I dont NEED her! any suggestions? 5 points for anyone who helps! xoxo

i have this problem with a lot of my friends! just dont tell her anything. if you want to tell someone, get a diary...works for me. also, somethings and just better left unsaid to anyone. try to find someone you can trust when you feel like you have to tell someone. hope i helped!

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Well hey yall, The other night , well day actually Me and my 'boy' were just Hanging out, right? Well yes i am young, A minor ( too young for kids either way ) .. Well yeah we hadnt seen eachother in forever .. So yeah we hung out n stuff yeahh.. Then we ended up having..sex & I left blah well Later on, His father ( yess.. can you say Ahh? ) he walked in the room saying he smelt sex & Picked one of the.. four condoms up and realized it was broken, This was around 5-8 or so.. on a Tuesday night, so I'm gona get tested to be safe ( i guess, right thing to do right? ) on Tuesday.. night probably like 9. Well, Do yall think its better to have a plan what to do before I find out, and we need to make one ? Lately alls weve gotten at is, "Shit were gona be even more fucked" , Or should we just worry about it later? Also, He is going to be 18 next year, And I will still be a minor, I am NOT bragging at all I just want help, But we both have very wealthy families.. Not sure how this happened, with bright futures, and How to break it to them? His father knows ones broken though, Whats the best thing to do here?

ok the answers i saw are totally not right! you are not a whore. dont worry about it until you are actually tested (asap!). worrying about it wont help, either way you have time...nine months actually. thankfully, it was only 1 of them and your chances of being pregnant probably arent too great. if you come from wealthy families, you will have money to support the baby if you do end up pregnant. please dont abort! adoption agencies are willing to help out. i hope everything turns out ok!

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how do i get rid of red bumps after shaving my legs??!!?! please help! i rate HIGH!

i used to get those when i used a heavy scented shave gel. use dove soap and put on lotion after that isnt scented. works for me!

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Hey. I'm in 8th grade.
There's this guy I kind of like. I got to know him this year, and he's been pretty nice. We've had our ups and downs, however. For example, he started ignoring me a couple of months ago for no reason whatsoever. Yesterday, he started being nice again though, and he emailed me. Well today I got another email from him, in which he asked me out to prom. The thing is, he's asked out around 4 or 5 other girls, who are going with other people or by themselves. The result is that I don't feel like I'm his first choice, because I'm not.
My question is, should I say yes?
Thanks a lot.

well im not really sure what you would want to do in this case, but i think i would go.

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As long as I could remeber and all my friends can agree ive looked the same ...ponytail and well obviously my cloths but i dont care about that( i go to a private school so i have to wear a unfiorm) so I think its time ofr a change, what are some things i could do with, bascily me and my hair that would be diffrent other than a pony tail. Nothing to drastic but just a change. If it helps i have shoulder length blounde hair. Thanks and please help!!!

im the exact same way! i always wear my hair in the same old pony tail. today i wore it really curly..a lot of ppl really didnt expect it and i wore it down and straight a few days ago when i friend to me it looked good like that. try a different part, cute colored hair things, ribbons or somthing like that. uniforms suck! try fun bracelets, rings and earrings to kinda dress up your look a bit. hope this helps!

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ok, after everytime i masterbate, i feel really, really guilty...i wounder what my girlfriend would say if she had found out, i feel like it is a complete sin, and after everytime i do that, i feel that God punishes me, but he doesnt seem to punish other people i know do it... what should i think? is it ok, or should i try to stop?? HELP!!

its supposed to be a private thing so i dunno how you think your g/f would find out. lol i think most girls would be ok with this. i really dont think God will punish you but i guess the guilt would. in society, its a very normal thing, its part of growing up and maturing. if i found out that my b/f does, then so be it, hes normal...the only way i would be mad is if hes beatin off to some1 else (eww). yeah, then things could get ugly. if you want to stop, then pray that god will help you. hope this helps!

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im a very good catholic. i really feel bad if i do so much as say oh my god. anyway. i have been sort of mastribating lately. when i get horny sometimes i use a fake penis to 'have sex'. is this sinning because i wanna know if i should stop doing this. please please please help

well im catholic and honestly dont know the exact rules on it but its not technically sex. all i know is that catholics do it anyways...some lil 6th graders at a catholic school were caught jacking off in the bathroom (like AT school!) no ones ever said anything about it...they just say sex is to be saved for marriage. so dont worry about it, but you can pray to God to help you do the right thing. take care.

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ok this is kinda weird to be asking but i had to know...If your going to tease about it dont write me... Ok here it goes
every time i get fingerd i tend to cum alot adn i was just woundering if it was normal to cum so much. and if it is normal is there a way to slow it down a little bit? Please, give me any advice.

theres nothing wrong with you or anything to worry about. consider yourself lucky...someone asked about it hurting too much and it was because they werent wet enough. hope this helps!

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can a doctor or whatever tell if u have already had sex? i mean how can they tell? cuz your hymen can be broken lots of ways other then sex.... and if they can tell otherwise.. then how can they tell?????????????

well theres no foolproof way to "tell" cuz as u said, it can be broken many different ways. when you see a gyno or doctor, they will ask you... tell them the truth. they cant tell your parents or anyone else anyway and it will help if they know so they can determine what is best for your health. hope this settles it.

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Ha, this is a really weird question, but my friend and I were talking about a show that we used to watch when we were younger on Nickolodeon. In this show, the characters were always using the phrase "Don't hold your breath!" Neither of us can remember what show it is from!! I believe that the two characters were African-American brothers, but am not for sure. If you have any idea what it is please answer!

Fili and Kili

GULA GULA ISLAND! either that or keenan and kel. hope this is it! (both are sweet lol)

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HOW do i become more outgoing?! I want to get more friends and be funny,instead of a shy good girl!! can anyone help? thnx!

just find people you have things in comon with and talk about that. try volunteering or getting involved. it will take some time but youll get used to it. hope this helps.

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On saturday im going to a party and its in a mall,one of my stylish friends will be there,how do i ask her if she could help me make an outfit or two with out sounding to weird!Im not that big and well,she has huge mounds!!

hey its not weird to ask for help. dont make it obvious that you have no idea what youre doing. just be like does this look cute together or should i try something else? you should be ok. be glad you arent "huge". shirts will never fit right when you do. good luck n have fun!

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Is there any way to speed up the process of having your 1st period?! I've been waiting for a while and everyone in school has boobs except me! Or,what size bra should i buy? Any bras that have water or something? And lastly how do i no what size bra to buy and if theres any padded bras so my chest wouldnt be so flat!!

i can tell you right now that anyone with their period would tell you that its ridiculous to want it! you can have boobs before it, trust me. as for size, try some in the girls section that have underwire and a bit of padding. boobs are not that important....ask a girl who has to wear 2 bras to keep herself in while running. enjoy not having them to worry about! your time will come, everyones does. just stay posative!

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there is a school swimming party that is coming up, the time that i have my period!! and it will only be the 2nd time that i have had it, but can someone give me advice on what to do when you have to swim, but you dont know how to use a tampon?? can you just use a thin pad? i will rate! and its coming up real soon! thanks to much!

well im not an expert but the ppl on this site are: www.beinggirl.com. hope this helps u.

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ok ... so my mom said that if i loose 10 pounds shed give me 100 dollers!! the problem is..i dont know how.. i cant exercise regularly cause i never have time im always doing soemthing and i cant really eat special things cause one weekend im with my dad and one day during the week i am with him...i dont kno what to do i need HELP! what could i do to loose weight??????????? thank you sooo so much! OxoxO

hahaha as wrong as it is to bribe your kids with stuff like that, THATS AWESOME & i would totally do it! here it goes: eat everything you want. dont deprive yourself of anything or you will just gain it all back. for portions, just eat when you are hungry. there are no "bad" foods. everything is good in MODERATION. meaning not too little and not too much. dont eat anything "special"...you dont need to. just dont drink too much pop, eat lots of greens and excersize. by the way, getting rid of carbs is not good for you no matter what anyone says. key word to remember: WATER. hope this works for you!

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hello everyone i am a 13 year old girl. i want to start buying some clothes from aeropostle and hollister. but the problem is i am very small. i weigh only 85 pounds. the smalls are aeropostle and hollister are too big. is there is a smaller size at those two stores? if so please tell me what size

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hollister's sizes are pretty big in comparison to most. aero will shrink eventually. i would try other stores. department store sizes usually run smaller and have more sizes and different materials that help with your small figure. hope this helps!

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13/f
stupid question but what r they bases and when in a relasionship should u get to each of them

ok well theres not an exact time you should be at each but the bases are:
1. kissing/makin out
2. handjob/fingering
3. oral
homerun- all the way.

im at school right now so i cant really go in depth lol but ill let you know. hope this clarifies it n thnx for askin!

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i have a friend with benifits and he keeps saying he wants to go farther but wont tell how much farther.and he is always grounded so i never get to see him and i dont even go to his school.i dont really totally know what he is meaning by farther.we already do much of everything we tried sex once but we cant really get condoms so we decided that was not a good idea.any ideas on what he is meaning?

he wants to try sex again. its the only thing furthur im guessing. unless he means oral. dont do anything you might regret n lemme know if you need more on this!

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