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Alright.. so.. my and my boyfriend did it without a condom.. i know a VERY DUMB idea, anyways.. i am absolutely terrified..so is my boyfriend, he is panicing so much.. i have no idea what to do.. i really need some advice...

-Kell

How long ago was this?
If it was in the past 72 hours, you can take emergency contraception.
Or
Go out any buy a pregnancy test.

At least this is a lesson learnt.

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well me and my friend

we arnt sure if we are going out anymore
well his name is eric
and he isnt a virgin but i am and i feel like i am ready to you know...with him
but i am 14 and i dont know i like him a lot an u know he os cool but i think whenever i am with him all we do is kiss or makeout we dont ever get to talk only on the phone and myspace. buti am gonna go see him on sunday and i think that is when we are gonna do it help me an I making the right decision?!?!

If you are asking whether to have sex on an internet advice column, the answer is obviously no, because you aren't 100% certain yourself. If you aren't 100% sure whether or not you want to have sex, it will be a horrible experience, considering you are 14 and I'm guessing you don't know EVERYTHING about it like you will when you're older.
Why do you feel the need to rush into losing your virginity to someone you barely know and just think "is so cool"..?
It's a silly excuse to be letting yourself in for something this big. and if you go ahead and regret it, there's no turning back I'm afraid.
If I were you, I wouldn't. and I would wait until I fell in love because it would be a special moment I'd never forget.

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I'm a teenage girl. I'm single, and a virgin. (and sick of it) For the past five years of my life I have wanted to commit suicide because I have recently discovered that there is no point in living.

I'm very overweight and I'm ugly. The one boy who has ever loved me was a liar and he had a mental problem. (not being sarcastic) I have no friends and I really want to die. I've been working as a stage actress for a while but I realized I have no talent at all.

My point is: No one loves me and no one ever will. I can't live any longer without being loved. What should I do? How can I survive without love?

Everyone treats me like I'm seven years old. I look a lot older than my age and most people ask me if I'm in college. I hate my life so much. Oh, and I do masturbate regularly so don't say that I should try that. It's not a substitute for a partner or for real love. Also: all of my peers have boyfriends. So I'm the only one who's single and a loner.
By the way, no one ever listens to me when I talk so that's another reason why I want to kill myself.
Please give me advice.

Taking your own life is the easy way out - the cowards way out.
I understand you could be suffering from depression at the moment, but committing suicide is not the right way to go about your problems.
If you're overweight, do something about it.
If you feel ugly, do something about it.
If you have no friends, get out, join clubs, be sociable and make a great effort. A good friendship isn't something which comes easily if you aren't prepared to find it.
Make a diet plan, get regular exercise and stick to it. Give yourself a make over; new hair, make up, etc etc. You will feel like a whole new person.
Your peers have boyfriends, but you don't yet. It's no big deal. Tonnes of other people are in your situation, yet are able to wait and be prepared for that moment when they will.
It's normal for you to want to have sex. You're a teenager. But because you're a virgin is also not a good enough reason to end your life. It's selfish. Sex should be something you will look forward to in your life when you've found the right person. In your case, you will find the right person. Could be sooner than you think, could be a while from now. But if you keep thinking to yourself "I'm fat and noone could ever be in love with me", it's going to slow down the process a great deal. Don't think about yourself like that. As the saying goes, "if you don't love yourself, who will"' and it's true. Even if you don't feel highly about yourself, the least you can do is make more effort and change the things you dislike.
Noone should be made to feel the way you do, but sadly, people cannot see past their problems and could need professional help. See your doctor if your parents aren't helping. Some people don't think depression exists. They will only know it's true effects if they experience it themselves.
Get yourself some help. It's the first step to a happier future which you will have many things to cherish and look forward to.
I wish you the best of luck.

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When i was in junior high (im a hs senior now) i would get random chest pains on my left side of my chest. I didnt think that it was possible (is it?) to have 'heart attacks' or anything similar when you were around 14 years old so i never really had it checked. I guess im just wondering if it's something like a heart attack or something different? Because i get it randomly, sometimes while im walking around or walking up the stairs or just suddenly sometimes.

I get exactly the same, and I always think the same as you. "Am I having a heart attack?!"
Heart attack pains are VERY severe and you would definitely know when you are having one. You may also get pains going down your left arm, across your shoulder etc.
If it's on the left side, although it's where the heart is, it could be something very simple and easily sorted like trapped wind. It's VERY common amongst teenagers, especially girls.
Get it checked with your doctor to be on the safe side. You may have an irregular heart beat or something which is also easily corrected. Don't worry too much. Make an appt. when you have time and get yourself checked. Good luck!

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Hey everyone =]
So here`s the deal. There`s this adorable hair style i have no idea how to do. Here`s an example of it ;; http://i10.tinypic.com/2zipx5e.jpg

Straighten your hair and then crimp or curl sections on top of the straightened hair. Looks nice if done correctly. Good luck.

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How long do you keep the earings you got your ears peirced with in?
I got my second hole like four weeks ago, and I wanted to know if I could change them.
I got my first hole like...four years ago so I can't remember how long to keep it in.
Do you think I can take it out?
Its already been four weeks, and I'd put another one in.
I had to take them out today for soccer for like two hours and they were fine.
Can i?

It's normally 6 weeks. It does depend on the place you go to , how you clean them and what condition your piercings are in at the moment.
If you've already taken them out and didn't put any in for 2 hours, it should be prefectly fine to change them. :)

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My friend keeps popping my pimples. It's gross. How can I make her stop? She randomly comes up to me and holds my face and BLAH. She didnt seem to understand 'Stop!' I hate going to class with blood smeared on my face.

Tell her simply, "no, leave it. I'm more prone to scarring!" and she will think her popping them will do you damage. (Which it could well be doing. Who's to say her hands are clean to be popping your spots?!)
Or you could say it hurts, or say you'd prefer to do it yourself later.
She basically has no right to interfere with cases like this, but she probably thinks she's helping you out!
Best of luck!

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i just had sex four times b ecause i got raped..they used condoms..

am i prwegnant!?

my stomache has been hurting
and i hacve been peeing alot.
please help me.
14f

If this terrible ordeal JUST happened, you would certainly NOT be experiencing symptoms of pregnancy. You say they used condoms.. So that makes the risk minimal, however, the condoms may have broken etc.
You are 14. You NEED to tell someone about this. and get a pregnancy test etc ASAP.
Good luck.

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My wife and I had a 4-month old Maltese Pooh. My wife took Motita to Petsmart for her first haircut; and at that time, Motita was fine, in good health, and happy. A little more than two hours passed, and when my wife returned, she was met with scared employees. Once she was given the dog, she knew why. Motita was frightened, disoriented, and in shock. About 30 minutes later, Motita started to bleed from her nose and mouth. Thirty minutes later, while my wife rushed her to a vet, Motita passed away. I have my ideas, but what are some of the possible causes of her death?

I'm very sorry to hear of your dogs death.
If I were you, I would definitely seek help in investigating petsmart.
You say Motita was fine before the haircut and in shock afterwards. Seems quite suspicious to me.. and the workers were obviously scared and could be withholding evidence as to why your dog died.
As a previous advicenator has said, perhaps there was something wrong with Motita and it happened whilst having the haircut. This could be why the workers were in shock themselves.
Ask the vet to work out a cause of death if possible. If your dog sustained injuries/physical abuse/an accident, they could well be ruled out, putting you at ease.
I hope things are sorted shortly. and once again, I'm sorry for your loss.

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i've never madeout and im like PERTTRIFIED that i'd screw it up lol :/
any tips? like um what to do with the tounge lmao but seriously!

I found this on google:

http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/kissing/ht/frenchkissht.htm

There's alot more links on there, but this one is good as it explains what and what not to do :)
Just try not to be nervous at the time and it will come naturally to you, I promise!
It's really enjoyable and you'll realize there was nothing to be scared about.
Best of luck!

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I'm a 13 year old girl going into 8th grade, and i am getting a new backpack. I was wondering if an llbean one would be out of style or babyish? If so what other kind do you reccomend, and if not, what color should I get. I was thinking pink but is that kind of childish?

It's all about personal preference. I don't think pink is babyish at all. If you like that style, go for it. I'd think it would look nice!! :)

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Is there any way to see what pictures have been deleted from your photobucket? Like, a history of pictures deleted or a trash can thing or something? Or once pictures are deleted, are they pretty much gone?

I'm asking because someone I share a photobucket account with says they didn't delete pictures off of my account and I'm almost 100% positive that I uploaded them there.

Thanks.

I'm pretty certain once they're gone, they're gone!
See if there are any ways of contacting photobucket. You never know, they might be able to retrieve pictures for you. But I doubt it, as it's not personal and anonymous.
Give it a try though.
and you should never really share an account with someone else, as things like this are bound to happen.
Hope you sort it out, though. Good luck. :)

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well i like my cousin and he likes me to and i like him because he is really sweet to me and treats me different than other guys. and he lives in mexico and i live in california so as u can see we arent really close cousins. the first time i met him was 2 summers ago and from then we liked each other but we know we can't b together but we want to be together.
wat should i do ?

Probably not the news you're wanting to hear, but put everyone else into consideration. Eg, the rest of your family.
It's nice you feel close to your cousin and he treats you differently. Could this be a treating you different type of thing in a family way? Of course he would be different from other guys - You're related.
Then there's the other matter of the long distance.
It's very complicated and I'm guessing you're at a young age.
For now, be happy you've met him and have him in your life. He can be someone you can always count on/trust etc.
But I don't think you fully understand the risks having a relationship with your cousin could entail.
If you want the truth, find someone other than him, who can be close to you.
There's nothing worse than realizing you cannot be with someone because of the distance.

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If I shower with my straightner in the bathroom, when I get out of the shower, the straightner is all wet, because of the moisture. Is this bad for my striaghtner?

Probably not, as alot of straighteners can be used on wet hair. but it could be dangerous as moisture may get into the plugs etc, so it's adviced not to keep electrical products such as your hair straighteners in the bathroom.

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14/f is it true that if someone or something smacks you too hard in the boobs they will STOP growing??
thanks...

Absolutely not!

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Where do you buy band t-shirts? Like in the mall? k thankyou.

Depends which band you are looking for. Music shops will probably have them.. and check out the bands websites for their merchandise.

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I just got my braces off and i have a retainer now. My orthodontist told me to wear it all the time except when im eating or brushing my teeth but i was just wondering, if i go like 4 hours without wearing it everyday, will my teeth actually shift? how many of you (with experience with retainers of course)actually wore ur retainer ALL the time?

I wore mine all the time for months. Then eventually only wore it at nights. However, your teeth MAY move no matter what.
It won't matter too much if you leave it out for 4 hours a day. It might slow down the process.. but it will almost certainly feel tighter when you put it back in.
When you eat with your retainer in, it's actually more effective in holding your teeth together when biting etc. So try not to take it out as much as you're thinking about doing.

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well i have dirty blonde hair and its naturally straight, stick straight. i mean i like it and all but sometimes i get bored with it.
i scrunch it sometimes, or put it in a clip but what are some other ways i can put it??

any help is appreciated, thanks! =]

Back combing your hair at the roots a little and fixing with hairspray gives your hair more 'oomph!' leaving it not so flat etc.
Try it and see if it works for you. :)

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I've got scars on my face. Acne scars. How do I get rid of them? Do I use lemon juice? How long will it take?

Given time, your scars will gradually fade.
Sunlight/beds helps acne scars (ALWAYS protect yourself if you decide to do this) and there are many products on the market today ranging from washes to creams etc.
Have a look around, go to your chemist and ask which would be best for you.
I would recommend bio oil if you can find it where you are. It's money well spent as it's been proved to work. and I will be purchasing some shortly for a scar on my arm. :)
However, if no products work for you and it's getting in the way of your every day life (eg, making you depressed/lowering your confidence) it might be useful to find out about chemical peels, laser treatments etc. However, only do
this if it's extremely necessarry.
Visiting a homeopathic clinic is worth it, because if none of the creams etc work for you, homeopathy treatment can help them heal naturally. Ask your doctor about it.
Hope I've helped. If you need any more information, I'll do my best to help you.

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I'm confused. 15/f

My ex girlfriend is flirting with me [she has a boyfriend though] and she keeps saying she wants to kiss me. Knowing her... she would. But she told me she doesn't want me to get the wrong idea. Then she goes on about having dreams about me and missing me, missing the things we did. and then there's things about "If only I didn't mess up" [when she broke up with me] "I will always have a thing for you" "Can i steal a kiss?" A part of me wants to kiss her but I can't because I refuse to do that when she has a boyfriend.. I dont know what to do. She says she doesn't want to lead me on but she's already doing that. What can I do? Just ignore the things she says?

This is so unfair, putting you in a horrible situation like this. As she's your ex, it can be quite hard for you to let go and resist temptations to kiss her. Well done for not giving in.
Set her straight. Tell her you are not prepared to ruin the relationship she has with her boyfriend.
She said she doesn't want to lead you on or get the wrong idea, so this doesn't sound like she likes you in that way.. perhaps she's just using you because she knows you'll always be there?
Whatever she's thinking, it's only okay for her to say these things if she's not in a relationship. Have a serious talk with her, because only she knows what's going on inside her head. It's up to her if she wants to let you in.
Good luck. Hope things work out whatever way you want them to.

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