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I want to commit suicide but I don't know if I should.
I'm a teenage girl. I'm single, and a virgin. (and sick of it) For the past five years of my life I have wanted to commit suicide because I have recently discovered that there is no point in living.
I'm very overweight and I'm ugly. The one boy who has ever loved me was a liar and he had a mental problem. (not being sarcastic) I have no friends and I really want to die. I've been working as a stage actress for a while but I realized I have no talent at all.
My point is: No one loves me and no one ever will. I can't live any longer without being loved. What should I do? How can I survive without love?
Everyone treats me like I'm seven years old. I look a lot older than my age and most people ask me if I'm in college. I hate my life so much. Oh, and I do masturbate regularly so don't say that I should try that. It's not a substitute for a partner or for real love. Also: all of my peers have boyfriends. So I'm the only one who's single and a loner.
By the way, no one ever listens to me when I talk so that's another reason why I want to kill myself.
Please give me advice.
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you may feel like life sucks right now, but suicide is def. not the answer. there ARE people who care about you, and suicide is the most selfish thing in the world, ending your ife because you are unhappy, while there are so many others whose lives you could be ruining. THe true test of character is getting htrough this. if you can stay strong and pull through it, you will gain so much respect instantly. if you just give up, people are not gonna see you as highly as you might l ike. sorry if this isn't what you want to hear.
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It's such a good thing that you are seeking some sort of help. If your parents won't get you anti-depressants, see if you can get them yourself. Call your doctor and explain everything. Your doctor may be able to give them to you (I'm not sure he/she can without parental permission). Even if your doctor can't do that, he/she can probably convince your parents of the severity of the situation so they will allow it themselves. If none of this works, actually go to a health center or emergency room and see what you can get from that.
Keep in mind that not having a boyfriend as a teen doesn't mean you never will. I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was almost 19. I was engaged to him after a little more than a year and we're still together. I am still a virgin. He wants to wait until marriage for sex, which I also view as a very positive thing. I see all the people that I was so jealous of in high school and they are single now. They're so unhappy. High school was their time and now that high school is over, their time is over. My time is just beginning. I can't believe that I ever wished that I could have any part of their lives. It's crazy. If you don't give up on it, happiness will come.
Not only should you call your doctor, but you should also call a suicide hotline. The people there can help you a lot more than most people on this website. It's free too, so it's at least worth a try.
Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999
Suicide Hotline - (National Adolescent)
800-621-4000
Good luck. :)
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okay.. please first off, know there are people who care about you. you may not see it, but there are. realize this, you're a teenager. you're most likely just going through natural changes, and being fat or anything can be worked with. in fact.. some of the most stylish people i know are overweight.
please, just know life DOES have meaning, and everyone goes through something when they're kids/teenagers. heck, things may even feel worse for a while, btu do you really want to give up? things WILL get older as you age, belive me. And having a boyfriend isn't everything. I can pretty much guarentee you'll have one.
if you need to talk at all, please write me an emial or something
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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Dear sister,
I had been thinking to end my life for almost 100 times.
I grew up in a single parent family.
I am very talent and are popular at school.
But I was not successful in my career because I didn't have motive to work hard.
day by day, I just lived like a working corpse.
My girl friend left me a year ago and I'd rather to die.
My family forced me to see a doctor and took some medicine.
Now I feel better and I am working hard toward my life goal.
I am also a writer and published several books.
Depressed will not go away if you don't try to kick it away.
Medicine will have a fast improvement. It DOES for me.
I used to be a karate black belt and I gained 10KG more after I quit my exercise.
I lost 3KG a month for 4 months and I feel so good.
Overweight also makes you feel tired all the time.
Exercise regularly will make you feel fresh and light like a bird.
You are not a child. Nobody will take care of you if you don't take care of yourself.
Get a regular work to earn a steady income.
Save some money to have some beautiful dresses for yourself.
Have surgery to improve your appearance and build up your confidence.
Be religious, God will comfort your lonely mind and give you support any time.
Cheer up! Have a plan to change your life. Take first step today.
You have so many friends here and there are more elsewhere.
You are so young. Young is a fortune, don't you spend it useless.
You may think about suicide some times, but don't do it. Even once is too many.
Remember this, one quarter of Americans are never married, you are not alone.
Marriage or having sex is not the way everyone should have.
To live is most wonderful thing. Think about this! there are many cripples are struggling for their lives while you are only have some extra pounds.
May God bless you. Little fat unhappy girl.
Don't let our words in vain.
Be yourself!
Chain
A friend from Taiwan
Dear sister,
How are things going with you?
I wish you all the best.
May God bless you.
Chain
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Listen you should talk to you parents. I am sure they can help. No offense but when it comes to this don't be so selfish. You will break so many hearts the minute you leave this planet. Also being over weight is not a bad thing, unless you like 500lbs. i myself am overweight. Also i think you should talk to the school guidence counseler. They have groups of teenages just like you. You could go and not only feel better about yourself, but make friends.what would suicide do? What would it solve? As for being ugly, when i was little i thought i had the face of boy and would cry all night about it. But as you get older your body changes. Your parents love you no matter what you look like. And so should your friends. And there is every point in living. When you get older there is so much you future could bring. You could have a family, Kids, and a happy life. Why risk missing that.
Your FRIEND,
dorksrusxoxo
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Even though you dont beleive it now things get better....just hang on there and im sure theres someone out there who will think ur beautiful in every way!
<3 mary!
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I have experienced what you are experiencing now. I have had so many issues in my life and just wanted to permanently end it. Nobody cared and I was on the edge of ending my life. I have tried every method you can think of to kill myself.
I am overweight too. I don't get a lot of guys, but I am sure that there are guys out there who like me, and I am sure it's the same for you.
But what made me changed my mind was God, and He really did change my life. I don't know what your religion is or if you an atheist but getting into religion REALLY helps. Because it helped me.
You may think getting into that stuff is worthless, and many of my friends thought that too. I just really wish they would give it a chance.
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Seriosly,
If you kill yourself
you won't go to heaven.
You wont have an orgasm anymore,
it will succk balls.
So don't kill yourself.
k, I mean, try going to threpy maybe.
The right guy WILL come along.
Also, try and loose weight.
Being over weight causes streesss.
You can fix mose of your problems.
1.) loose weight !
2.) Wear make-up, fix your hair pretty, dress pretty. It will make your FEEL pretty.
3.)Im sure you have talent! Or else you wouldnt be working there!
I mean try threapy.
Please, don't kill yourself.
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First of all SUICIDE r u CRAZY?
that's not an answer. i know you've probably heard this soooooooooo many times but i'm gonna be real with you it doesn't matter if your fat try to lose weight go on some diets if you need some ideas email me i'll be here for you but don't give up i'm sure your a great person.
If your going to commit suicide call your self an idiot!
here i want you to read this.
Girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
it's a quote and all it mean is there's nothing wrong with you boys are probably intimidated by you. If you make the first move it'll ease them a little.
You say your fat well:
start wearing wrap shirsts they'll give you a slimmer look
black but not so much that you goth.
diets like i said message me if you need help
NEXT:
your virginity.
don;t you want ot save it for the right person?
idk it's your decicen
OKAY you probably think that i'm a bitch right now but you need help
all i read was negitive crap and i use to be like that no boys like me blah blah
when i started acting more confident started dieting they were comeing everywhere! (not littereally of course)
in a month i was asked out over 4 times i know not a lot to some girls but it was alot to me.
it's the way you treat and carry your self you just need the right steps...
feel better
-KikiJ
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You are sick. Plain and simple.
Would you consider killing yourself because you had a kidney disease? Of course not! You'd go to the doctor and get it fixed.
You are ill. Depression is an illness. Being suicidal is being unwell. Why aren't you going to a doctor?
You can keep choosing to wallow in your own self-loathing. You can even choose to die. I'm just some person online. I can't stop you. I would if I could, but I can't. No one really can. No one is going come along to save you. Not because they don't love you, not because they don't want too, because they can't, because you can't let them.
The first steps out of depression are hard, and you must take them alone. After that, there is a world of help out there for you, but not until you ask.
You want to be happy again? Fight for it. Fight for your life.
Don't give me some weak excuse about your parents. You are not a child and you do not require anyone's permission to take care of yourself or chase happiness. You have access to resources and people that can help through your school, through your friends, through other adults and family. If you can't escape the self-indulgent bullshit in your head long enough to reach out to a counselor or another adult then at least call this number 1-800-273-8255 and speak to somebody at the National Suicide Prevention hotline. No excuses. No bullshit. Don't waste your own time dithering about it. Enough time has been wasted on this. Don't even think about it. Just do it. Now.
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Taking your own life is the easy way out - the cowards way out.
I understand you could be suffering from depression at the moment, but committing suicide is not the right way to go about your problems.
If you're overweight, do something about it.
If you feel ugly, do something about it.
If you have no friends, get out, join clubs, be sociable and make a great effort. A good friendship isn't something which comes easily if you aren't prepared to find it.
Make a diet plan, get regular exercise and stick to it. Give yourself a make over; new hair, make up, etc etc. You will feel like a whole new person.
Your peers have boyfriends, but you don't yet. It's no big deal. Tonnes of other people are in your situation, yet are able to wait and be prepared for that moment when they will.
It's normal for you to want to have sex. You're a teenager. But because you're a virgin is also not a good enough reason to end your life. It's selfish. Sex should be something you will look forward to in your life when you've found the right person. In your case, you will find the right person. Could be sooner than you think, could be a while from now. But if you keep thinking to yourself "I'm fat and noone could ever be in love with me", it's going to slow down the process a great deal. Don't think about yourself like that. As the saying goes, "if you don't love yourself, who will"' and it's true. Even if you don't feel highly about yourself, the least you can do is make more effort and change the things you dislike.
Noone should be made to feel the way you do, but sadly, people cannot see past their problems and could need professional help. See your doctor if your parents aren't helping. Some people don't think depression exists. They will only know it's true effects if they experience it themselves.
Get yourself some help. It's the first step to a happier future which you will have many things to cherish and look forward to.
I wish you the best of luck.
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My Friend,
Suicide is not the answer to your pain. There was a point in my my life where I was dead set on taking my life. I see know that it would be a stupid decision cause I see all that I have know. Do no think you are alone in the pit of depression. Also make sure not confusing sex with Love. There is a Girl I Know Whose Boyfriend said that they loved her but sll they were trying to accomplish was getting in her pants(they never did). I say this cause lets say when a guy dos come your way you have to make sure he is interested in you. THere is a guy out there for you, you must be patient though. You are still young and there is plenty of time. We all need love. And it is so worth waiting for. I'd like to keep in touch with you if you'd like. I am a person who cares about others. I just want to be a friend. Im on myspace at myspace.com/Musical_Xeno
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