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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my ex best friend is being a total bitch right now.I thought I could trust her with one of my deep dark secrets that i've never told anyone not even my mom and now it's going around school and everyone is finding out that my dad molested me when I was 6 and now she's calling me a 6 year old pervert and the other day she called me a bitch,slut,and a whore.I thought i could trust her since we've been best friends since the 5th grade and we are both in the 11th grade.I've been there for her for everything that's happened to her in her life like the time she got pregnant at 14 years old i was there for her.I even asked my parents if she could move in with us for a couple of months untill she got her own place and now i can't even trust her with a secret like this that was why i didn't tell anyone i just needed somebody to talk to about it and now i don't have anybody i can trust what should I do?
OMG! i cannot believe she would do that i feel so badl. Anyway by her doing that she is the one that looks bad not you. The fact that she would betray you like that makes her unatractive. People are gonna start feeling bad for you and start thinking she is a snot. And what happened in you past is no reason for people to think you a perv. You couldn't contol those things. That is totally wrond of her. No matter what you can't start telling her secrets though, even if you want to. Then you will be just as bad as her. If you act like it doesn't bother you she will stop, and if you act like it doesn't bother you other people will think it is a lie. Just b/c you haven't told any of her dirty secrets that makes you a much better person
Hey can any one tell me what an IM is?
A IM is an instant message. It's kind of like e-mail only instant. You can talk to friends and other people on it. There is Aol instant messanger, Msn instant messanger all kids. you just have to download it
So, to make the long story short.. My teacher did not enter in a grade for an essay I turned in, and told me I never turned it in the first place. So I have a failing grade for the class. I told her I turned it in, so she told me to just bring the paper in the next day to see it. I told her I would, but one problem.. I accidentally threw it away! I just realized it later on. And not thinking it wouldn't be entered in my grade average, and thought it was already entered in. And finding this out, I was pretty pissed about it. I told my dad to e-mail her that he saw the paper, and that he accidentally threw it away. But instead he told her he saw the paper, but said I could turn it in, after I TOLD HIM that it was thrown away accidentally by me. So my teacher told him there would be a sub the next day. He told me that when the teacher comes back, to tell her I already put the paper on her desk even though I didn't, just to pretend I really did turn it in. I told my dad he should of stuck with my idea of him saying he threw it away but my parents are saying just to keep the plan that we are going with now and tell the teacher you put it on her desk the other day.
I REALLY want this grade to be entered in, so I don't fail, but then again I don't wanna lie to a teacher because of the fear of getting caught. I don't wanna go back to it and tell her this whole time it was accidentally thrown away. What should I do?
there are 2 choices. You do as your parents say or. Well, do you remeber what you had to right about? If you never turned it in then she doesn't know exactally what you wrote so you can rewrite it.
13/F
Okay, I just starting going out with my amazing boyfriend, (who just happens to be my best friend's ex, but she knows and she's not mad)and we went to the movies last night, and had an incredible night. We kissed, we told each other we loved each other, and pretty much everything else. He tried to make out with me the whole movie, but after I got my point across that I wasn't going to make-out with him the whole movie, he finally stopped, and we just held hands, cuddled, and flirted. I thought he was going to stop liking me because I didn't want to continue as far as he wanted me to, but he called me after our date, and we only talked for a few minutes. Now, here's the thing: I told my best friend (his ex) about our date, and all she could tell me was that everything he said and did was only a game to try to get in my pants. I believe her, but I really like him. (I would never give in to having sex with him, though) So, is there any advice anyone could give me on how to deal with this whole situation?
Thanks so much!
P.S. And he's definitely not as perverted as he seems, he's actually very nice.
Listen, you can't dump him or stop liking him just b/c of what she says. I am not saying it's not true, but that was when she was dating him he could have changed. Give it a week or two and see if he really is perverted on as she put it "trying to get in your pants" you don'y want to dump him if he really is as nice as he seems. But if after a while it seems like you friend is right then dump him. Until then good luck
Am I the only one alive who thinks it's terrible that kids (13-16) are having sex? I'm only 18, but when I was 13, I was riding my bike and doing karate, not giving blowjobs on the school bus. But thats the norm now, and if you haven't had sex by the time you're 17, you must be ugly or way religeous. What on earth!? Am I the only one disgusted by this trend?
Not at all! i am totally appauled by it. I am only 12 and kids in my grade have done it! Your not ugly or wierd that you think it is gross, and you know what i bet half of those people are just saying they have so people think they are cool even if they haven't.
signed
totally disgusted
13/f
i live in new jersey and on monday my family and i are going to rome for 10 days.
Now i know that when were in Rome were going to do all the touristy stuff so im not asking for like sighseeing stuff. I need stuff to do on the plane and when were like in our hotel room.
i bought a bunch of books, but thats about all i have so far.
suggestions? i need soon cuz we are leaving in like two days! thanks!
Hey
That is soo cool. I am from Jersey also, and i am soon going to Rome. My suggetion for you is to bring a cd player, and a deck of cards.There over a thousand card games out there so you'll never run out. And a CD player is always soohting if you get scared. But the books will keep you going for hours. I also suggest you bring some food cause the stuff they serve there is NASTY! Oh if you have a lap top computer or portable DVD player bring those movies are always great. Although i think on long distance flights they have movies. Remeber, it's not as long as say flying to Austrailia which i am doing. But be sure to have fun on you trip good luck bye
k, so i don't know how long this will be but oh well. i'm 16/f. i was dating the same guy for 2 years. he broke up with me because he thinks i'm never happy. he's never serious and he thinks i'm too serious. i've been getting over it, and now i like another guy (and i don't think he likes me back) but yeah, this past week,my ex has been telling me how much he wants me back and he loves me, then last night he came to my house and told me he's seeing a girl he cheated on me with last year. my ex told me he would go back out with me if i were "happy". idk why i'm not happy with him. i was with him a lot of the time we were dating.. like we saw eachother almost every day, but he wants to be w/ his friends all of the time. what could i do to be happy? or should i just forget about my ex and try to go for the guy that i have a crush on and i'm too nervous to talk to him because i haven't really flirted in 2 years. what should i do? any answer is good. =]
Your ex says that you are not happy, and your too serious. First ask oter people if it is true. If they say no then maybe you are just not happy around him. Then you have to think would i want to be with a guy how i am not happy around. Now if you like this new guy what is the piont you have already moved on. And if you weren't happy with him once you won't be agian which unfortunaltly means you will probably breack up again and why put yourself threw that
my boyfriend and i have been together for over year and we got so serious, when we started dating he used to make me feel really good , he sends me amazing messages and i knew i loved him but now he doesnt show me he really cares and he does alot of things that make me feel like he doesnt care, he tells me he looks at porn and i see it on his computer, i thnk he doesnt love me because he looks at porn, we have sex then y is he interested in lookin at other girls and im attractive, please tell me wat to do and if how im thinking is wrong.
I con't want to sound mean, rude or cruel, but DUMP HIM!!!!!!!! he is a pervert!!!!!!!!!!!!! ewwwwwwww! i would dump him if he was looking any girl other than me. And to tell you that he does look at it!!!!!!!Nex thting you no he'll start taking porn pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm the kind of girl who always though suicide was horrible and whoever even thought about it was physco. All my parents do is call me worthless and a f**king bitch and telling me to move out and my dad would even say he hopes I die. I get blamed for everything in this house and get told that I'm a lazy piece of s**t. They treat my little brother like he's perfect and can do no wrong. He can stay home from school when he wants and end up doing whatever he wants even though he stayed home. I stayed home on a 4 hour school day and now I'm grounded and not allowed to do anything. Everytime I want to talk to my mom about how I'm feeling she just goes on about how I'm a disrespectful b**ch and she tells me to move out. I told her I wanted to move out and now she won't let me and she said if I go anywhere she'll call the police on me and she'll send me away because she doesn't care. There's so much more to the story but I don't know what to do anymore. This has been happening to me for a long time and I cry at least everyday and I just want to kill myself now because I can't take this anymore. Does anyone have any advice? pleaseeee
15/f
You said your fifteen right? well the real qusetion is do you like living there. Once you are thirteen legally you can choose where you want to live. Do you have a bestfriend, a grandma, you could live with them. However, before you go and do that try to get you family into some type of consiling. They have lots of programs for familys like yours. Hey, if you need anymore help e-mail me at jellybeanoxox@hotmail.com or messange me at jellybeanoxxo on aim. byeas
im pretty good friends with this guy and i like him and he knows it but i mean i seriously cant get over this. is their any possible way i can get him to fall for me?
Well i understand. There was this guy i like but not like like, and he totally loved me. One day he stoped likeing me and started asking out other girls i got totally jealous and finally asked him out. Now we are happily dating. Now think of me as the boy you like, if you stop likeing him (or at least pretend to) he will miss the attention sooooooooooo much. he'll miss, want you back, and want to date you.He'll think Why'd she sop liking me, so he'll start tying to impress you, and before he even knows it he'll LOVE you.
Alright, I really like this guy, and I try to flirt with him all of the time, and it seems like he is kind of, but not really getting the hint. What are some other thigns I can do. Like, when i leave class, i always try to walk the same way and things. Also, what are some good ideas of thinking of ways to hang out with him. I'm too shy to ask him out, but i really want to.
You should ask him out know matter how shy you are. If you don't you will sit here wondering " what will he do if i ask him out". If you do ask him out and her says yes you will be VERY happy! If he says no than at least your not sitting around wondering " what will he do if i ask him out" and you can more on to a cuter guy.
Please help! My best friend has all of a sudden since she got back from her clubbing holiday started seeing this guy. I know he isnt right and his family do drugs and it wouldnt suprise me if he did aswell, my friend doesnt see any wrong in him and is going on dates with him thinking hes 'sweet' and caring. Im not jealous its just since she came back from her holiday she still acts like shes in ibiza, trying to get with all the guys. I dont know what to think/to do. your advice please... thank you!!
Only you can knock some sence into her. You her best friend if she'll listen to anyone it'll be you. If that doesn't work don't but in until you know all your facts for sure. And if you assumptions are true still don't don't but. Keep an eye on her though. If you notice she is starting to do really bad things then you should talk to her parents
which one cleans my teeth more efficiently, flossing before or after brushing?
It doesn't really matter which one you do first
I asked this question a fiew days ago but no one answerd so i thought i would ask again.
Recently i have lost alot of weight and my mother is now getting me some protein shake kind of things to help me gain weight. I want to gain weight everywhere on my body accept for my stomach. (especial on my butt and leggs) so my question is how can i work out my stomach without over doing my other body parts
you best bet is to do crunches. It works at you stomache only. i suggest doing crunches at least once a day for half an hour. Or you can do situps
Okay, well i was dating this boy Andrew for about 11 months and then when we hit high school he told me another girl was hotter than me and i always brought it up and i'd say stuff like "hey look there she is" and it really mad him upset i guess. but he obviously didn't understand that it made me even more upset and he ended up dumping me because i was "always on his case" about it but i never would have been on his case if he didnt give me a reason to be.. and then he asked out another girl to the movies like 3 days after he dumped me (not the one he thought was hotter than me) and then at our town fair we worked things out and he told me that he still loved me but didnt wanna be with me and we ended up making out and stuff and for about a week he treated me like his girlfriend still and now i'm realizing that i just want to get over him because i'm being tied down to somebody that isnt even my boyfriend anymore, yet he still goes and hangs with other girls and goes out with other girls but when i do that with other boys i feel so guilty.. and at school and stuff i'm so tempted to hold his hand and he sits with me at lunch and we talk on the phone before i go to bed.. and my friend has already been through everything i'm going through and shes like "just put your guards up and don't let him see you hurt" but its not that easy but does anybody have any advice about how to get over thiss boy?
Pleasee & Thank youss!
Listen to me. From what you said this guy sounds like a total jerk. stop thinking about him. And he also sounds like a liar. Because if he still loves you or ever did love you he wouldn't rub other girls in youe face or get over you that quickly. Move on. You are so much better than him! Why waste you time with him when you could be with a guy who is cute kid an sincere, and will compliment you not others.
I'm a teenage girl. I'm single, and a virgin. (and sick of it) For the past five years of my life I have wanted to commit suicide because I have recently discovered that there is no point in living.
I'm very overweight and I'm ugly. The one boy who has ever loved me was a liar and he had a mental problem. (not being sarcastic) I have no friends and I really want to die. I've been working as a stage actress for a while but I realized I have no talent at all.
My point is: No one loves me and no one ever will. I can't live any longer without being loved. What should I do? How can I survive without love?
Everyone treats me like I'm seven years old. I look a lot older than my age and most people ask me if I'm in college. I hate my life so much. Oh, and I do masturbate regularly so don't say that I should try that. It's not a substitute for a partner or for real love. Also: all of my peers have boyfriends. So I'm the only one who's single and a loner.
By the way, no one ever listens to me when I talk so that's another reason why I want to kill myself.
Please give me advice.
Listen you should talk to you parents. I am sure they can help. No offense but when it comes to this don't be so selfish. You will break so many hearts the minute you leave this planet. Also being over weight is not a bad thing, unless you like 500lbs. i myself am overweight. Also i think you should talk to the school guidence counseler. They have groups of teenages just like you. You could go and not only feel better about yourself, but make friends.what would suicide do? What would it solve? As for being ugly, when i was little i thought i had the face of boy and would cry all night about it. But as you get older your body changes. Your parents love you no matter what you look like. And so should your friends. And there is every point in living. When you get older there is so much you future could bring. You could have a family, Kids, and a happy life. Why risk missing that.
Your FRIEND,
dorksrusxoxo
Ok…..I have a boyfriend that used to be just my friend, and then we started going out!! I mean I love being in this relationship but sometimes he acts different not mean but different! You know how sometimes just the tone of his voice or things he dose, just make you feel like he is acting different? And then you ask him what’s wrong or why are you acting different, he says how am I acting different? And you can’t really tell him! Because its just the way he’s acting not the things he dose. So dose every man do this?
Absolutley! I am not a guy, but i have a lot of guys in my family. Sometimes they are just wierd. If somthing little upsets them they have to dwell apon it. although, if he starts to act like this more than 3 times a week talk to him. If that doesn't work, and it keeps up maybe he is having trouble at home.
uhm, ok. i started smoking last january and i really didn't want to start but my friends were doing it and i didn't want to seem uncool. well, i kinda got hooked on it and smoked whenever possible. i got caught one day and swore i would never do it again but my friends still smoke around me and i find it harder and harder to turn away from taking a drag or something like that. how do i stay off smoking for good?
i know it may be hard to stop. You should ask your friends to not smoke around you. And if youe friends pressured you into smoking the maybe they are not you friends. Or maybe one of your friends are trying to quit too. You could quit together.But most importanly talk to your parents.No mattter what you did they won't be disapointed, they love you.Plus they have a liftime of knowlage
Ahhh I don't know what's worng with me right now. Lately I've been soo forgetful. Like, school just started a week ago and I've lost my history binder and english notebook. ALREADY. And whenever a friend calls me or something I always forget to call them back. And I'm freaking out about this test I have tomorrow because I can't retain information because I'm forgetting everything! And I always leave my books in other classes. It feels like I'm getting old and having memory problems haha. Idk I'm just really stressed right now and I really don't want to lose anymore things and forget everything. Any idea on what I should do!? thanks.
I think that you should take a day and just relax. forget about school and all the stress. It'll do your body good to just calm down, and clear your mind.It'll help i swear