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new boyfriend
13/F
Okay, I just starting going out with my amazing boyfriend, (who just happens to be my best friend's ex, but she knows and she's not mad)and we went to the movies last night, and had an incredible night. We kissed, we told each other we loved each other, and pretty much everything else. He tried to make out with me the whole movie, but after I got my point across that I wasn't going to make-out with him the whole movie, he finally stopped, and we just held hands, cuddled, and flirted. I thought he was going to stop liking me because I didn't want to continue as far as he wanted me to, but he called me after our date, and we only talked for a few minutes. Now, here's the thing: I told my best friend (his ex) about our date, and all she could tell me was that everything he said and did was only a game to try to get in my pants. I believe her, but I really like him. (I would never give in to having sex with him, though) So, is there any advice anyone could give me on how to deal with this whole situation?
Thanks so much!
P.S. And he's definitely not as perverted as he seems, he's actually very nice.
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she's jealous.
she's jealous because your going out with him and they used to go out so she doesn't want you with him. even though she said it was fine it still seems like she's really jealous. i'd stick with the guy and just ignore what your friend is saying.
hope this helped.
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yur friend might just be saying this cuz hes her ex ; i wus in this situation before. to deal with it yu shuld talk about it in him, and just watch his reactions. get to know his friends, and get to know about him more. when i wus in this situation my friend turned out to be fibbinq.
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Even though you're friends not mad with you going out with her ex and everything, it sounds to me like she still might be a little jealous. She might not want to hear all these details, but it IS still someone she previously dated, and might not feel comfortable with hearing her friend kissing him and everything, which is why she might've said what she did.
I wouldn't worry about it, and if the situation does arise where he wants to do stuff like that with you, you can always just say no. You don't have to do it. If he doesn't respect your decision, you can always end the relationship. It's not like you two are cojoined together.
But it sounds to me like he's not going to try something like that. You two ARE only 13.
I hope I helped.
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In my opinion, your friend is just majorly jealous.
your 13! and if hes not that preverted, chances are hes not thinking about sex!
did your friend brake up with him or the other way around?
if he dumped her, trust me she's just jealous.
Ask your new boyfriend how far he's gone and how far he would go. his answer should give you a clue to who he is.
hope i helped!
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Listen, you can't dump him or stop liking him just b/c of what she says. I am not saying it's not true, but that was when she was dating him he could have changed. Give it a week or two and see if he really is perverted on as she put it "trying to get in your pants" you don'y want to dump him if he really is as nice as he seems. But if after a while it seems like you friend is right then dump him. Until then good luck
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Play it safe at the beginning. Make sure this guy really likes you, and isn't just looking for sex. If your best friend feels this way, try talking about him to her. Hopefully she'll see that he's not a bad guy.
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She may be jealous.
But she may just be looking out for you!
How did they break up? Did he cheat on her or dump her for another girl? Something along those lines, maybe shes saying stuff like that to protect you.
Ask her. It's the only way you'll find out if shes being truthful. Also ask her if she really is okay with you two dating, because if she isn't you need to end it before you get really serious about him. No one wants a relationship where they can't go out with their best friend AND their boyfriend!!
About him! If he really does just wanna get in your pants, he wouldn't have stopped trying to make out with you.
Guys aren't as sneaky as us girls make them out to be.
Usually, if a guy likes you, he wouldnt want to wreck it by upsetting you by pressuring you to make out the whole time.
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Hey okay. I totally understand where your coming from.. im 14 i just turned 14 and i know that some boys can do that. I'm sure that many of your b/f's wanted 2 get into your pants. Just say No. I actaually beleive in NO sex until marrage and i am staying true to that and if you just do not want to have sex with him.. tell him no. If he keeps trying.. i suggest breaking up with him, cause just a little can lead to a lot, guyes are a lot stronger in the muscle department {well some of them } and he can do many things to you that can hurt you even if he {seems really nice} I am not telling you break up with him... just sit down with him.. tell him how you feel about making out and sex.. and maybe he really will understand and take things your speed. You need to let him know fermly and strongly that you are not ready for sex and you need time 2 make out all the time with him. Just let him no.. some guyes can be pretty understanding. Good luck and hope i helped!
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Well, i wouldn't necessarily beleive her as of yet. It was a different reltionship, he may have changed, or she might still bejealous. I'd just stick it out and if he tries something worse than this again and doesnt listen when you say no, I'd give him the boot. But stick with him, he seems really nice.
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she might just be jealous
but you never know.
if you know you would never give into it, dont stress it.
if he tries to pressure you, do what you did before at the movie
talk to him about it and tell him you arent ready (if he pressures you. not just randomly out of the blue or he will be like wtf?!)
so good luck! ask back if you need :)
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it's obvious dear that she is just jealous. she's his ex-girlfriend & she's probably mad because maybe he's treating you better than he did her.
i don't think you should listen to her honestly. i think you should follow your heart & let him know that, that is not how things are going to be. that if he wants to be with you, then he's going to have to accept your morals. & i am proud of you for standing your ground =]
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