Mackenzie's advice column

You mean, change the LOOK of it???? I guess I don't undeRstand the question EXACTLY...
But to change the LOOK of it.. go to:

- MY AIM
- EDIT OPTIONS
- FORMAT SCREEN NAME

Hopefully this is what you weRe wanting... :)

♥[?]♥ How can i put music on my xanga?

Find a song at one of the following:

- http://www.xanga.com/xanga_music
- http://www.xanga.com/music_galore
- http://www.xanga.com/musicurl
- http://www.xanga.com/XxAaNnGaA_MUSIC
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=Beyond_Amazing_Music
- http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=XxX_MUSIC_4_U_XxX

Chances aRe it will play on Windows Media PlayeR. In WHICH case, simply go up to "FILES".. "PROPERTIES" and copy EVERYTHING in the "LOCATION" slot.

Then SIGN INTO Xanga.. go to youR "LOOK & FEEL" page, scRoll down to the "MUSIC" section, and put it in the "MUSIC" slot.

It's simple, Really! :D Hope this helped!!

♥[?]♥ well tomorrow i'm going to the doctors for a check up and i'm 14/f and last time i went they looked down my pants and i think its VERY preverted! ( is that normal for most doctors to do?) is there a way i can stop them??

signed: grossed out

"Look down" youR pants??? How so?? If you went foR a physical.. then it should pRettie much be expected, Hun.. so yes. :)

And I agRee with you.. it IS Really fucking "peRveRted", but "necessaRy", so they say.....? =/

♥ Mackenzie!!! ♥

♥[?]♥ does anyone think its bad to bring your bible to school or stuff like that? I mean my friend does and i want to but am scared someone might hurt me because of it! but i really LOVE god and want to like spread him with people but am scared to! thanks!

If you want to bRing youR Bible to school, theRe is absolutely 100% NOTHING wRong with that, so you do whateveR makes you happie!!

But to be peRfectly honest with you, theRe ARE some jeRks in this woRld that might give you shit foR it. I guess you just have to ask youRself which is moRe impoRtant... SOME RETARD'S *OPINION* -OR- YOUR LOVE OF GOD, ya know???

And I HIGHLY, HIGHLY, HIGHLY DISCOURAGE "spReading God". Religion is a VERY peRsonal and pRivate matteR!! Each peRson must deicide which Religion to follow, if any at all, allllllll by themselves. If you want the bRutal tRuth.. if you begin to "spRead God" people will think you'Re a MAJOR weiRdo and will keep theiR distance.

Again, it doesn't matteR what people think, but if you can avoid such things, I STRONGLY and SEVERELY suggest you do so.

Goodluck deciding!! Hopefully I've been of at least SOME help heRe!! ♥

♥[?]♥ ok im sorry if this is going to be long..and this is more like a girl quiestion..
well i have been going to the bathroom..and when i wipe all this stick nasy white stuff comes out..and its like nasty..my mom says its discharge but i dont think so..and its like chunky and stuff...(sorry for the details)and some times its brown..so it comes out in brown chunks..but any ways i told my mom and she said its just left overs from your period..like left over blood..and i said i dont think so because its brown not red..and she said shell take me to a cudor doctor..and i said hell no..and shes like fine...and yes i take a shower everysingle day..morning and night..and i do wash down there..and its not when i plat with my self..i dont think so!!
need help bad..ill rate 5's to all!!!!

Well what youR Mom is talking about is of couRse the dischaRge and LINING OF THE UTERUS.. which is a VERY daRk Red.. often times looking BROWN oR BLACK. ARe you POSITIVE this isn't it?? Does this happen EVERY SINGLE DAY?? OR is it only duRing and on the day oR two FOLLOWING youR peRiod??? That's honestly the only thing I can think that it might be, Kiddo. I can tell ya Right now.. if it's not the LINING OF YOUR UTERUS.. then it's not healthy, and it WOULD be a good idea if you weRe to seek an opinion from a medical pRofessional....

SoRRie I can't be of moRe help, but I wish you the best!!
♥ Mackenzie!!! ♥

♥[?]♥ hey whats a henna? like for your hair

Henna is just a natuRal dye made fRom plants and leaves and such. I found a website that takes about the vaRious diffeRent shades, and how they'Re pRoduced. PeRhaps you might find this of some use?
http://www.hennaforhair.com/science/whatsinit.html :)

♥[?]♥ Would lotion irritate my vagina if i want to masturbate/finger myself with it?
please help thanks

I don't see how?? PeRsonally, it's not something I would eveR do. Do you Really need it??

Goodluck deciding! :)

♥[?]♥ hey , well this guy has told alot of people he liked me but was scared & he was afraid that he got on my nerves too much that thats why he hasnt already asked me 2 be his girl friend what should i do ? plz help if u can thx 4 tryin !

Well YOU can eitheR come flat out and tell him how you feel. just be bold, and go foR the gold. PeRhaps once you've bRoken the ice, he'll spill his feelings as well. OR.. if foR some Reason you abolutely Refuse to do this, the only thing you can do is keep ReassuRing him that he's not annoying you, and that you enjoy his time and compnay immensely... Best of luck to you!

♥[?]♥ I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?

Thanks 15-Female

Wow; that's shameful and disgusting of him. I'm just shocked. I don't see how someone could be theRe foR you stRong all the way thRough, and then have enough disRespect foR you to end it in such an abRupt, Rude, and distasteful manneR.

Bottom line, love is RecipRocal -- it's NOT just one sided. ERGO, you simply can NOT hold a Relationship just because ONE paRtneR doesn't want it to end. What would be the point in involving youRself in a Relationship, something that needs 100% committment, if youR paRtneR is only willing to give anything LESS???? Think of it this way: what's the point in giving youR heaRt away to someone who isn't willing to give you theiRs? I'm telling you to use youR head heRe, and think of youR *OWN* well being on this one -- Don't waste anymoRe of youR time, teaRs oR effoRt on this clown; he's not woRthy.

Hopefully this makes sense to you -- and hopefully eveRything works out!!

♥[?]♥ i've had my period for over two years. the last two times i've had it its been really really light. like i don't have to change my pad at all during the day and by the third day its barely there. is this normal?

Absolutely!! EveRyone is diffeRent so these things vaRy fRom case to case. You have nooooo Reason to woRRie.. it's peRfectly healthy. Be glad?? Many giRls WISH theiRs could be that way. :D

♥[?]♥ will walking or jogging cause us to loose your butt or just lift and tone it?

Tone it, foR the most paRt.. unless it's a little on the 'biggeR' side.. then you'll notice a biggeR diffeRence because theRe was moRe to lose, you see? :)

♥[?]♥ i only got 4 hours of sleep last night and im really tired...but some how i cant fall asleep. what can i do to make myself fall asleep? thanks

I lay in bed.. and I think about having sex.. hahaha.. ALWAYS works...

♥[?]♥ Hey guys, i like to read a lot, and i've read many famous books like To kill a mocking bird, Catcher in the Rye, Harry potter, and so on. Anyways does anyone know any really really good books, and authors for when i go to the library next time? And i dont want books that you have heard sound good, but actual books you guys have read and really enjoyed, like an "i never want to put it down" kinda book if that makes sense. Thanks luv ya!

I can peRsonally Recommend:

-- ANYTHING by V.C. AndRews. PaRticulaRly "FloweRs In The Attic" [that one is also a movie, so enjoy the book.. then enjoy the movie!]

-- ANYTHING by MaRy Downing Hahn!! PaRticulaRly "Daphne's Book" and "Jellyfish". She's without a doubt THE most RemaRkable wRiteR I've eveR come acRoss. I **despise** Reading, peRsonally.. so if an authoR can get me to PICK UP a book.. they must be GREAT, but to have me NEVER BE ABLE TO PUT IT DOWN.. they must be SUPERB!!

-- Also, RobeRt C O'Brien's "MRs. FRisby and the Rats of NIMH", and all of those in the seRies [about 3] aRe all wondeRful.

Like I said, I'm NOT a ReadeR, so foR ME to Recommend some books.. you know they must be somethin' else!! Hope this helps!!! :D

♥[?]♥ ok so i sort of liked this guy and i wanted to hook up with him.. ive never wanted to be with anyone before. he always flirted with me, but he flirted with my friend too. and now my friend and him are probably gonna hook up. i dont know what to do because i cant see them together, i know ill end up upset. i cant talk to my friend about it, because she knew i liked him before, so i guess she just doesnt care. if we all go out tonight, they will probbaly be together, and i dont know what ill do. please help

Honestly, if you aRen't willing to bRing it up to heR, I don't see that theRe's much you can do to change things, soRRie, Kiddo. The only otheR option I see would simply be NOT GOING, but that would be an unfaiR thing to do to youRself. Really, the sad tRuth is that you CAN NOT **MAKE** someone like you, as unfoRtunate as that is. And what's the point in foRming a Relationship when only ONE paRtneR holds Romantic feelings foR the otheR?? I hate to tell you this, but I think you should be faiR to YOURSELF by accepting his feelings foR this otheR giRl. Then I think you should tRy to gatheR up the pieces of youR bRoken heaRt, and keep tRuckin' on. Think of it this way: what's the point in giving youR heaRt away to somoene who won't give you theiRs??? 'Love' is RecipRocal; meaning, it's NOT just one-sided. Relationships RequiRe a 120% effoRt fRom *BOTH* paRtneRs, and without that.. you've got nothing. I wish you all of the best.
Know that I'm always heRe if anything else should come up. :)

♥[?]♥ ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

Aww!! Well it sounds like the two of you truly do have something very special. Something that is obviously worth hanging onto, so why would you ever let it slip away? If your boyfriend loves you even HALF as much as you made it seem in your question... he will NOT be annoyed when you call him - I'm shore he'll be just thrilled!! You shouldn't ever be afraid to call him.. Does he even know you feel this way?? Is telling him out of the question? I think you probably should. Maybe together you can come up with an appropriate solution. He will also be more inclined to call now that he knows your feelings on this situation. Best wishes to you!! Hope eveRything woRks out!! :D

♥[?]♥ 14/f
I am the same girl that asked what to say to my friend who's dad just kiled himself...thank you for the advice! His mom told him and he is angry at everyone...he is taking it REALLY badly! I will be there for him always, and he knows that....We aren't GrEaT friends now, but me and his mom still are! Things have been really bad and this is a HORRIBLE situation, but i just wanted to tell you thanks and that all of your advice really helped me out!

Hmm, I'm not shore how I managed to miss your previous question, but I'm pleased to hear that you received some helpful advice. Hopefully things continue to look up.
Best wishes!! :) ♥

♥[?]♥ okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it

You have many reasons to worrie here. You have every right to feel the way you do. Does she KNOW how you feel?? If not, I DEFINITELY recommend telling her this. Perhaps together, you might be able to come up with some sort of solution. Bottom line, you shouldn't ever ever ever let ANYONE talk you into engaging in activities which make you feel uncomfortable. NO BODY has the right to do that to you. Just stay your ground, and you should do alright.
Hopefully things work out; I wish you the best!
♥ Mackenzie!! ♥

♥[?]♥ I put a post up on a penpal website looking for a Japanese penpal to correspond with so I could improve my Japanese and they could improve their English. I specified that I was looking for a Japanese penpal but still recieved two emails from non-Japanese speaking people. I am not interested in corresponding with them but don't know whether to send them an email saying, "Sorry, but I'm looking for Japanese friends only." which seems rather rude or to ignore their email and not reply.

What should I do?

It it my opinion that the more appropriate and polite thing to do would be to respond to their reply. It won't take but a few minutes, and it would be very much appreciated by them, I'm shore of it. Place yourself in their shoes... wouldn't you feel insulted if you had no response?? Probably so. :)

♥[?]♥ wat is a std and wat is oral sex

This is betteR if left to a dictionary:

ORAL SEX:
"oral sex or oral-genital sex means both mouth contact with the vagina, which is called cunnilingus, and mouth contact with the penis, which is called fellatio."
Taken fRom:
www.4sexual-pleasure.com/definitions.html

STD [Sexual Transmitted Disease]:
"Any infection that is acquired through sexual contact in a substantial number of cases. See also Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI)."
Taken fRom:
www.whiteribbonalliance.com/PressRoom.cfm

FoR moRe infoRmation on STD's, check out the following:
- http://www.ashastd.org/stdfaqs/
- http://familydoctor.org/165.xml
- http://www.niaid.nih.gov/factsheets/stdinfo.htm
- http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/stds/std.html

Hopefully this claRifies!! :D

♥[?]♥ this is for class,is this good?

On October 22 at 7:48 p.m., Mrs. Johnson heard a loud band from her neighbors’ house. She gasped when she heard the terrible scream of Mr. Johnson emerge from across the street and immediately dialed 911. “I heard a gunshot in the Cathaways’ house. Please..hurry,”she answered, trembling with fright. She looked towards the sound of the shotgun and saw through a gap in the curtains-someone in a black cloak.
A few minutes later, she heard the police siren speeding towards the Cathaways’ home. Several policemen entered the red-brick house. One officer went to Mrs. Johnson for questioning. Later, Mrs. Johnson saw Sam Cathaway being pulled out. His red face was blotchy and his cheeks were tearstained. She wondered what had happened; why were they taking Sam away? What did Sam do to his father? And most of all, what happened to Mr. Cathaway?

Sam Cathaway- He is accused for the murder of his father. He was found holding a gun, sobbing, on the night of the murder next to his father’s dead body. He keeps saying that he is innocent and would never have done such a dreadful thing. He loved his father very much, despite their horrible relationship, and would’ve never killed him.Unfortunately, Sam is also known to be in a gang and has been caught committing minor crimes before, such as vandalizing the city. Sam actually owns a black cloak from a Halloween costume many years ago.

Mrs. Cathaway- She accuses Sam, her own son, of shooting Mr. Cathaway, since nobody else was in the house. She got home from the supermarket after the murder to find Sam and Mr. Cathaway both on the ground, in a puddle of blood. She says that she has never trusted her son, but always loved her husband. Nevertheless, she didn’t get along very well with either of them. She, on the other hand, also owns a black cloak of her own.

Mr. Cathaway- He was shot to death 2 times; once in the heart and once in the head. His murderer is unknown at the moment. The suspects at the moment are Sam and Mrs. Cathaway. He didn’t have a good relationship with any of his family members though.

Mrs. Johnson- She is a witness of the crime and suspects it was Mrs. Cathaway since the person in the black cloak looked as if it had a more womanly figure. She is not absolutely positive though, and the black cloak can be found nowhere.

Mr. Supply- He will be defending Samuel, accuse Mrs. Cathaway of murdering Mr. Cathaway.

Mr. D. Emand- He will be prosecuting Sam

However, the black cloak was found, buried alongside an apple tree in the backyard of an abandoned house by dogs. There was a strand of hair on it, and it belonged to Mrs. Cathaway.

IS THAT GOOD!!!

It seems fine to me. Though, I'm not QUITE shoRe I undeRstand the puRpose of the papeR. Does it fit the RequiRements?? If so, I'm shoRe you'll do good. You could betteR blend the fiRst thRee sentences, so if you can figuRe out how to do that.. that would make it MUCH betteR. Also, I was amazed at how you added comas wheRe needed afteR quotations. Nice job, Kid. :D

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