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okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it
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Sit her down for a talk. And just tell her how you feel about going so fast and you would really like it if you slowed down. Tell her that its not her fault your just nurves and your not ready to go much farther at this point in time but later you will be. If she truely has feelings for you she'll under stand were your coming from and care about how you feel and will agree on slowing down for you. Hope i helped you out cause you sound like a nice guy cause most guys wanna go the whole way... I'm sure she'll be more then glad to slow down for you!!!
♥Ashley♥
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If you really want to slow things down then you need to talk to her. However, if things have reached the stage where having sex is the next logical step, then go with it. Its fine to be trepedatious with issues such as birth control, but if she really wants to have sex, have her go on the pill and use a condom as well. You will be fine and it will bring the two of you closer together.
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He honest with yourself and with her. You need to sit her down and tell her exactly how you feel. Be brave. If you doesn't want to be with you after that then she's not the one for you, and she's not at all worth your time. She needs to respect the fact that you want to save yourself and your not really for all of that right now.
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Just tell her exactly how you feel, and pretty much everything u just told me. If she really cares about you she will understand and wait as long as you want to.I hope i helped! Sammerz
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if you dont want to be a teen father and you dont want to have sex just dont. if your girlfriend tries to do it with you just say no and tell her why. i hope that i help
--Britt
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just tell her that you aren`t ready for sex, or kids, or anything of that sort. tell her that your not comfortable with taking things so fast.. and that you want to just slow down. Your apart of this too, you have to tell her how you feel about it, or else she`ll never know, and she`ll just think your fine with what`s going on. If she loves you, she`ll understand. To slow things down, take her out on a date, movies or out to dinner, somewhere where you guys can just talk or whatever.. but stay away from sex.
hope this helps!
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This is one of those things that you need to talk about between you and your girlfriend. you need to let her know that its not something that you are ready for. tell her that you love her still but you want to cool things down sexually. But when you are ready for sex, make sure you are well protected. She should take birthcontrol and you should deffinitly wear a condom. But you really need to talk to her and if she loves you she will deffinitly understand your feelings. You can talk to me whenever you want.
You ask Ill answer IrishDuDe405
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Ok well this is what i say, I think that if you think your relationship with your girlfriend is going way to fast for you then you should tell her how you feel and tell her what you said to me say that you dont want to be a young father because that's a lot of responsibility and condoms dont work all of the time I've heard about stories of girls who said they got pregnant and they used a condom so just tell her how you feel and dont have sex if you dont want to ok. Hope i helped!
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Tell her you don't want to go further and you want to slow down the physical stuff to focus on other, more important things.
If she has a problem with that, you might want to reconsider your relationship with her.
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tell her you dont wanna go further. seriously, she should understand. try pleasing her in other ways that couldnt get her pregnant. its good that you are concerned about it, im proud of you. <3
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if you're uncomfortable with what your girlfriend is trying to get you to do, then definately let her know! nobody has the right to pressure you into things like that. that is completely understandable that you don't want to end up being a teen father! tell her that you're worried about the things that could happen as a result of having sex& that it puts stress on you. as long as you explain to her that you're not ready to move so fast then she should respect that, I hope everything works out okay for you! :D
♥Amber
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You have many reasons to worrie here. You have every right to feel the way you do. Does she KNOW how you feel?? If not, I DEFINITELY recommend telling her this. Perhaps together, you might be able to come up with some sort of solution. Bottom line, you shouldn't ever ever ever let ANYONE talk you into engaging in activities which make you feel uncomfortable. NO BODY has the right to do that to you. Just stay your ground, and you should do alright.
Hopefully things work out; I wish you the best!
♥ Mackenzie!! ♥
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