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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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im having a baby but i dont know if i should get an abortion. someone please help me
Different people will give you different answers
My opinion is to have the baby and give it up for adoption if you can't handle motherhood. If you feel scared you will not be able to be in the babies life you can arrange for open adoption where you have visiting rights. I firmly believe that abortion is killing a life, Although it would not be a fully developed fetus you are ending it's life by not giving it a chance to live.
The choice is yours, We cannot make it for you but I really think you should think about what is best for the child and consider adoption.
So, this is a long one.
I had a guy track me down on Facebook and send me a long message about how I tortured and bullied him in school.
But most of what he said I don't remember, and a lot it couldn’t have happened. I had a rather severe anxiety disorder throughout my early teens, a few years are just emotional blurs to me, but some of things he claimed I did - like speak up in class to embarrass him, or make up a nasty song about him - it’s really near impossible for me to have done. I didn’t speak in class. I started to cry or throw up when I had to make presentations. I wouldn’t speak aloud to people who weren’t my friends. I stayed inside at recess and shelved books in the library... What I DO remember is coming home violently crying because of what this boy had a habit of taking things from me and flushing them down the toilet - to the point that my mother called the school, and had my desk moved away from his.
In high school we never had a single class together and were in different academic streams. But in grade 11, he tried to make himself useful to the drama club, the rest of the stage crew holding a meeting on how to politely kick him for his incompetence and arrogance. I defended him. Sure, he’s was a bit of an ass, but he was obviously trying to be useful; we should try and create tasks for him. But the senior stage manager decided to ask him to leave. I wasn't there, and we never spoke of it.
I haven’t responded to him. I didn’t know what to say. Maybe he is confusing me with someone else as well. It doesn’t seem worth it to argue with him and tell him he has a whole bunch of it dead wrong. Maybe I should message him and say like "I’m sorry you had a tough..." What do you think?
Just don't respond, Assuming it happened a while ago it is pointless to bring up the past.
Let me point out some things, I'm not saying you did do all of the following things he said but people do not forget faces when they are bullied.
That is a fact, If you said some hurtful things all you can do is suck it up and accept the fact that you did what you did and try to change the way you treat people from hear on out.
Let me explain something that might help you understand a bit about being the victim of bullying.
I was bullied for 8 years during my younger days, I dealt with it in school and I dealt with it in the neighborhood. It was always 8 against 2 unfortunately 5 of them lived in the neighborhood. One day my parents had bought me a bike and I was terrified to ride it around the block because I knew if I did I'd get rocks thrown at my bike tires or eggs tossed at me. That was 10 years ago and today I still do not forget how I was treated.
All you can today is accept it, The victim saw a chance to say something and he confronted you. I honestly wouldn't say anything back as it would not solve anything if you feel the need to block him then do so. I'm just trying to get you to see the victims point of view.
i had sex with a guy and im not sure if he nutted in me or not what should i do, if i dont want my parents to find out?
Use protection at all times, Nothing is ever 100% safe. If you can seek birth control, I highly recommend doing so. If you ask your parents to take you to the doctor you have the right to go in the room alone as every patient has privacy rights.
EDIT: I never said don't go to the doctor, I said if you ask your parents to take you and you don't want something repeated then you have the right as a patient as you are entitled to your privacy.
uhm hi, i'm 17, i'm a guy and i got boyfriend online.
it was on facebook that we first met and we've been chatting for something like 7 moths already.
he's Canadian and i'm Asian. he's 21 he said.
he's actually got no pictures of himself, only landscapes of his farms and their place. and he said he can't post pictures of himself for some reasons like he has no camera...
we like talking about the worlds phenomenon
we talk about sex and other dirty stuffs...etc.
i told him my secrets he tells him mine.
he tels me story
he tells me "how my studying is going?"
i even showed myself to him on a web cam, and played myself in front of him...he said he love me and he's having fun chatting wit me where in return he showed me some sexy pictures(w/o face) and tells me sexy stories.
i just wanna ask if anyone here have the same situation like this?
do you think he's just tricking me?
do you think it's okay to trust him like this?
Think about this, He has no pictures up of himself. Also, From the sound of it he is a phony. Honestly, It is surprisingly easy for someone to steal a photo off the internet of someone else. If you want a boyfriend I highly recommend trying to find one in person. The internet is never a safe way to meet people and I'm sure if I tried hard enough I could be convincing as well. Choice is yours but I would shit can the weirdo and meet someone you have actually seen and know.
Well I'm 19 years old i already have a two year old daughter..and I'm now 15 weeks pregnant...my mum asked my mum asked me if I could be pregnant a few months ago (motherly instinct!!) but i just denied it for some reason? I just don't wanted her to be disappointed now that I'm almost four months i cant work up the courage to tell her my mum hence the fact its not going to be long before its quiet obvious! and I have quiet a good relationship with her..i know i should just be honest and stop being silly but i just want some advise anyway.
Be honest, Lying isn't going to help anything
What's done is done, You are right in another few weeks you may be showing and it will no longer be a big secret. Sure, Your mother may be upset or disappointed but you are also of age to make decisions on your own. It's better to be honest and get it over with then to hide it and have her find out you lied.
My friend gets called fat and ugly constantly, i need to speak out for her, so that people will stop.
Your friend is being bullied, This is not healthy and should be reported to either a parent or school authority.
Your friend and you as well should ignore what people are saying, It will only provoke an argument and make matters even worse. Your friend needs to let someone know what is going on and let the adults handle the situation.
i dont know if i started my peroid or not i went pee and i wiped and there was saome bloode ..not alot alot but it was mor thhan a little..plz help
If there was blood then it could be several reasons. You didn't list your age or whether you are on birth control or not.
If you are not on birth control and have never experienced a period before then likely you have just started hitting puberty. It is normal
If you are on birth control, It is called "Spotting" and is also very normal. Some women experience light periods or none at all it depends on the women but it is not uncommon to spot while on birth control.
If you have had a period and you are bleeding lightly then your period is likely drying up and becoming lighter this is common when a period is beginning to end for the monthly cycle.
What do you say to make your girlfriend feel important, cute, and make her say awww?
Women like to be noticed, complimented etc.
If you really want to impress a women, Compliment her, Show her you notice the little things but don't go over board.
It depends on the women but most like romance
(Candle lit dinner, Walk on the beach,)
Spontaneous things, Some men are clueless when it comes to impressing women..Easier said; Think in terms of surprises. Try to surprise her with flowers, Give her a massage. Simple things
Spend time with her, Watch a movie, Tell her how you really feel. Look her in the eyes and tell her you love her...That's a bonus.
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago, because he told me he has issues and wasn't ready to carry on a relationship. (he went through a divorce a few years before we started dating) I hung out with him at a mutual friend's birthday the other day...I acted very casual around him, and he did the same. Afterwords, we ended up spending the rest of the night together, talking about the problems outside of our relationship we had been going through since our breakup. He finally said, "Okay, you're coming home with me. You need a break." And so I ended up back at his place...we talked more that night, never going into the relationship we had previously had, other than him apologizing again for breaking up with me...He was very affectionate with me, and even gave me a massage. I slept in his bed that night, and he held me close to him in a bearhug all night, being very affectionate with me, stroking my arm/thighs and whatnot...the next morning, he made me breakfast, and eventually we ended up back in bed again, because we were still tired...and then we let ourselves go...at the time, I just didn't care, and let my passion for him take over. We showered together afterwords, and he kissed me a couple times when we were in there...I went with him to his parents house later that day for dinner, but again, very casual...on our way home, he told me he was sorry things got the way they had earlier in the day, and he told me, "I can't think of anyone I'd rather do it with."...and he was talking about how he's getting close to figuring stuff out, but isn't quite there yet...I don't know if he was talking about being in a relationship or not...
Now, I knew going in it probably wasn't going to be the beginning of a new romance...I hoped, and hoped though...
I know it was just more than likely just a casual thing. But it's not like I was a cold, 'bootycall', because he's not that kind of a guy...but I still feel regret for doing it. And I want to tell him that. I want to tell him, "I shouldn't have done that, because I still have feelings for you."...but I don't know if I SHOULD. I'm going to see him tomorrow, and I don't quite know how to go about this, or if I should...I still want to be with him, but I am 95% sure he doesn't...
What do you all think?
It is pointless to tell him you regret doing what you did only because you cannot go back and undo what is already done. If you feel that you two need to slow it down and remain mutual then that is what you tell him. It sounds like he is confused and doesn't know what he wants out of his life, If I were you I'd slow it down and keep it casual until he knows for sure. Communicate, Let him know that you care about him but you think you two should back off on the intimacy until you both know where you stand with one another. Give him space and let him figure out what he wants. Let him call you and take it from there but you may want to take it slow until he is ready for commitment. Sure, He may not be the kind of guy that seeks a booty call but he IS a guy after all.
My guy and I are both 18. He lives in a different country and we met when he was here on exchange. We instantly connected and our relationship went very fast. He left back to his country two months after we met and we did the whole long distance thing for 6 months. A little more info: three weeks after we met(and we said we were dating) he kissed another girl and lied to me about it for 6 months saying they didn't kiss, I always knew deep down that they did, so when my friend told me I should kiss this other guy I did. I told my boyfriend the next day because I could never keep something like that from him. So after he went back to his country we had a big fight one night and I went and kissed another guy. So after being in a long dist. relationship for 6 months I went and visited him for 2 1/2 months and then a week after I came home he broke up with me because he said it was best for me. And I had sex with a guy and now he says I cheated on him again. What do I do to get him back? and show him I can change?
If you two broke up and you went and had sex then technically you didn't cheat on him, Also he left you. Did he not?
I would of personally ended it right when I knew he kissed someone else. If he is in a relationship with you then he should only be with you. I'm going to be honest but long distant relationships are very difficult, You have to be willing to work it out on both behalves. I think for once when he said it would be best for the two of you if you were apart he may of been right. If you still want to proceed in getting him back all you can do is talk to him, Tell him how you feel and work from there.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 4yrs already we have 2 kids together. He treats me like im a piece of garbage and i dont understand why I put up with it.
Im a smart person i got my AA and now im working on my teaching degree. Im the one that works and takes care of our kids while his lazy ass sits around and does nothing yet he has the nerve to call me nasty names to tell me im ugly, fat, and worthless... I know i deserve better i just had my son 2 months ago and im not fat i have a pouch but that will go away with some exercise im 5'4" and i weigh 155. I think im a beautiful person inside and outside. I just cant understand why he treats me the way he does I do everything for him. I go out of my way to try and keep him happy I even go to the extent of taking my kids in the mornings on my days off out to visit my mother or run errans just so he can sleep and not start insulting me.
I come from a great family my parents always helped eachother out and they would do anything for me. Its sad that even after all the things that he has said and done to me I still love him and Im trying to make it work between us. I love myself too I know im not ugly im a good person i just dont understand why he is such a nasty person and why i put up with it?
You are a mother of 2 but as long as you are with the boyfriend it's 3.
Too be honest, You need to pack up your stuff and get out. Your boyfriend isn't the one to be talking. You work, you are going to school..and he sits around the house expecting YOU to bust your ass more on top of insulting you. You are right, You don't need it. You have pretty much proved yourself you can take care of the kids on your own. Perhaps one day when you aren't there he will realize he has no choice but to grow the hell up and since it will then be too late.
You are successful, Take your children and move on I guarantee you will find yourself much happier in the long run.
The day I met him I said I was going to marry him, I said thats him, im going to marry that guy someday. It's almost been a year and we have had a rocky long distance relationship with cheating problems(mainly me) He is the guy I love and want to marry, he is my best friend. How do we make things right after what I have done? How do we find a way to move forward with our relationship? We currently aren't together because he is hurt.
If he was the one you wanted to marry, Then why did you cheat? Cheating creates trust issues and drains out a relationship. There is no guarantee he will come around and if he does you are lucky as hell to be giving another chance. Right now, Give him his space if you hound him to come around it may only give him more of a reason to move on. If he comes around then he comes around but waiting until he is ready is pretty much all you can do. It's hard to convince someone you love them after you cheating on them.
Ok so I just turned 13 a few weeks ago and I now weigh134lbs. I am 5'4. I was wondering if I was overweight. Every time I tell my friends how much i weigh, they always say that I only look like I weigh 90. I believe them too cuz I don't look that fat. Please don't tell me that I shouldn't care how much I weigh and that I should just love myself for who I am cuz I want to know if I need to excersize more and eat less (p.s. I just lost 10lbs. In a few weeks) so am I now overeight still??
You are 13 years old, You are not done growing.
When I was 13, I had some weight on me and once I hit puberty I was a stick figure. Trust me, Give yourself some time to grow more.
I'm a fifteen year old girl and I have recently started to develop feelings for my step-brother. He is two years older than me and we see each other ever other weekend.
We've known each other for about eight years and we've always had a sort of love/hate relationship.
We would annoy the hell out of each other and he would insult me but recently things have become different.
Before we would wrestle and I'd just be determined to win. But now I don't care about winning I just enjoy wrestling and it isn't as serious as it was before it's more playful. Also a few times whilst we've been fighting I've brushed his lower are and felt what turns out to have been an erection. We'll be fighting and one of us will straddle the other and just sit there and tease the other. Or when we get tired I'll lie on his chest and he'll wrap his arm around me and we'll just stay there for ages.
He still insults me but it's not as intense as when we were younger.
I'm pretty sure it's not normal, I've never actually met anyone whose had a crush on their step-sibling before. I came clean to my friends about it and at first they were shocked but now they think I should go for him because it's not incest because we're only related by law not blood. I'm not sure what to do because I'm doubtful that the feelings I have towards him are mutal and even if they were I'm terrified of what would happen if I told him. What should I do?
I agree with Witty, A step sibling is FAMILY. It may not be blood related but it is wrong. You two are related, Step siblings are related to each other.
This behavior is very inappropriate, I'm sure it's happened before but again you two are related. Your step brother is your family...
I'm sure your friends and family would love to hear how you have feelings for your step brother. (Shakes head) Shame
so i have been dating this guy almost four months. and i found out about the time we started dating that i can never have children. i feel like im keeping this big secret from him but also we are still early in our relationship. but then again i dont want him to find out later and think i have been lying to him this whole time and being dishonest. im one of those people who are very big on honesty. i hate liars. and thats why this is so heavy on my heart. i just don't know what to do. this guy is great. he is the best guy i have ever gone out with. he's sweet romantic. amazing. help please?
Tell him, This big secret can cause serious issues later on if you don't say anything. It may be early in the relationship but it is always good to be upfront about these things ahead of time as it can become a serious issue. This topic should be bought up once the relationship begins to become serious and not just head on.
is it normal for your boyfriend to act like he doesn't care about you around his guy friends? is that normal does he wanna show them that he's in charge or does he just make a joke?
He is trying to act "cool" in front of his friends, If your boyfriend appreciated you and your relationship then he shouldn't have any reason to act like a jerk. You are his girlfriend and should be his main priority, Try talking to him about it express how you don't appreciate how he acts towards you when he is around his friends. If he acts like a ass then he probably doesn't care much to learn to respect you and your feelings.
can i have sex
? i am nine years old.
At age 9, You are way to young to be thinking about sex. Anyone who has sex with someone your age can end up in jail and in trouble with the law. You are a child, You are not an adult and anybody who would be willing to have sex with a 9 year old is legally classified as a pedophile.
(Someone who rapes children)
You are a child, Sex is something very serious and should wait until you are older. (At least in High School)
If someone is trying to seduce you, You need to tell an adult that you trust. It is not right and it is 100% wrong.
I'm 16 and sexually active with my boyfriend.
The other day, a couple weeks after we had protected sex, I began getting cramps and spotting when my period's not due for another week.
I looked up on Google what that might have meant, and many websites said it was implantation bleeding. That had to do with the possibility of being pregnant, right? So for the past couple of days, I've been walking around scared of the fact I may be pregnant.
But now I'm not just spotting, I'm bleeding a normal color and all, but it's still not really a normal flow. I'm usually heavier in the beginning of the period then I get lighter.
Could it change that randomly? Could I be pregnant? Or is something else wrong?
I'm not going to lecture you but the truth is if you are scared of pregnancy then you shouldn't be having sex.
Anything is possible but the fact that you were smart and used protection you should be safe, The light flow is likely caused from an on period which means that your period is on it's way. It's normal, I'm not sure if you are on birth control but if you aren't I suggest looking into it as birth control and condoms are as safe as you can get and even if you were to be on birth control always use protection, Just because someone is on birth control doesn't mean your out of the dark.
me and my girlfriend had sex and i pulled out and cummed on her vagina but shes on the pill can she get pregneat?
Yes, Anything is possible. If you want to avoid pregnancy then you need to use protection.
I have a boyfriend and we've been together for a year and he is alredy asking me every night when i get home from work if we could have sex i get really tired but i only say yes cause he says he will dump me if we don't ave sex.What do i do,any advice.
Dump him, If he threatens to leave you if you don't have sex with him then obviously he is using you. All he wants is your body, He doesn't care about your feelings. If he loved you and respected you he would respect how you feel, He is controlling you. Don't give in, All he wants is too use you.