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should i tell him I can't have children? yes or no?
so i have been dating this guy almost four months. and i found out about the time we started dating that i can never have children. i feel like im keeping this big secret from him but also we are still early in our relationship. but then again i dont want him to find out later and think i have been lying to him this whole time and being dishonest. im one of those people who are very big on honesty. i hate liars. and thats why this is so heavy on my heart. i just don't know what to do. this guy is great. he is the best guy i have ever gone out with. he's sweet romantic. amazing. help please?
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Tell him. Better to get all the big important issues out of the way before the snowball has traveled too far down the hill.
Also, don't feel like you're letting anyone down. We each have our strengths and weaknesses. Enjoy being yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
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oh hunny. ~HUG~ . tell him sweetheart. He needs to know. also tell him that your scared that u dont want the relationship to change. Good luck. my prayers are with you. :)
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You should tell him and risk the relationship. be honest with him. especially if he's a great guy and you do see a future with him. these things should not be kept a secret in a relationship.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
You two have been dating long enough that you should be beyond the infatuation stage and well into getting to know the real person. The one I usually refer to as the person that resides just below the exterior persona of attraction.
This is the stage where a real relationship begins to blossom and if like you, your boyfriend feels that a warming, loving life time relationship is building; then this knowledge should not send him running away. If it does he is not the person you think he is.
You may not be able to conceive children the natural way; what did your doctor say about in vitro fertilization with donor eggs and your husbands sperm. If that is not the problem their is the possibility of surrogacy and adoption. For two people who love each other there are ways to have a family. If you are able to carry a child but are just not able to conceive a child naturally that is not a major problem today.
My advise: First make sure you fully understand what your doctor is telling you. I think you heard, "you'll never heard children" and whatever else your doctor may have said was just not heard. We all have a tendency to do this when getting medical news we don't want to hear. Find out if you can carry a child and if so if you are a candidate for in vitro fertilization.
Once you are sure of all the facts then you can have the conversation you need to have with your boyfriend.
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Although you might think it's too early to tell your boyfriend about your situation ... it's better now that later. If you tell him now then he will have a option [ rather stay or leave ] I doubt if he would leave because you two seem to have a strong relationship. Just let him know as soon as you are comfortable to tell him just don't wait until it's too late. You don't want to let him start talking about having kids and other things so before that comes along tell him. Good luck!
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Tell him, This big secret can cause serious issues later on if you don't say anything. It may be early in the relationship but it is always good to be upfront about these things ahead of time as it can become a serious issue. This topic should be bought up once the relationship begins to become serious and not just head on.
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Honesty is good,. even though you two have only been dating for four months it is definetly something that he should be aware of. He is not with you because he wants kids. he is with you because he loves who you are. Just because you can't have children should NOT Change his opinion on you.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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