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abortion
im having a baby but i dont know if i should get an abortion. someone please help me
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Keep your baby alive. Give him/her a chance.
Your baby is innocent. He/she didn't do anything wrong. Murder is for punishment, not for convenience. Your baby is alive inside of you. He/she is comfortable and feels secure. He/she trusts "Mommy" to keep him/her safe--not to rip it's body apart out of fear of ruining the rest of your life.
Abortion is down right horrifying and I have the proof below!:
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In case you don't feel like opening that link, I will copy and paste the information into this:
"Abortion can really harm your body just as much as giving birth to a child. I understand your body may not be mature enough to handle pregnancy but no woman's body is truly ready to abort a fetus.
I know it comes down to your body, your life, and possibly even your mistake. I am truly only concerned for your well-being.
Women who have had abortions can experience problems later on. Many women suffer from depression after having an abortion because, in the end, they realize that they have stopped another human life. The dates of conception, abortion, and the date the child would have been born haunts many women. Some woman can't deal with this so much that they end up committing suicide. If that isn't enough, many women experience difficulty conceiving years later after an abortion--yes, it can render you infertile for the rest of your days.
I found a VERY interesting site for teenagers on abortion. These girls had abortions when they were your age and have gained courage to write about their experiences for other teens to read:
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Most of them regret that they had an abortion. Many of them cannot get over that fact and have the dates stuck in their minds. I'm sure that when that date passes each year they are reminded of what they went through to rid themselves of a life they were developing inside of their wombs.
I also want to direct you to a site that shows a live abortion. It's in different parts because the speaker gives you a lot of information on what the fetus and the mother will be going through. The video shows the ultra-sound as the procedure happens. It is important you see this before having an abortion so that you know fully what will be happening--it is best to inform yourself. Before clicking the link to watch the video, prepare yourself because it is real life:
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...Part 3 really starts to show the actual abortion happening. The speaker does add that the doctor that did the abortion never did another one and that the woman filming it never spoke about abortion again, though she was previously for it.
Yes, that is a real baby, really feeling pain and maybe even fear during such a procedure. You can see that it was fully aware that it was being harmed and was not oblivious to the foreign object as many people would like you to believe.
Just as a note, some states will not perform an abortion past 4 months, most are done before the first 14 week mark. Abortions after 24 weeks are only performed because of health complications just as another note. The further along you are, the more expensive it will be. Here is also some information on how different types of abortions are done and what the baby is like during certain stages of development when these practices are performed.:
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Here are some REALLY, REALLY good videos that explain the different kinds of abortions:
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Abortion is also a very risky procedure for the mother of the fetus as well. The woman does not just pee out some blood and experience pain--the mother bleeds out the lining of her uterus as it contracts strongly to expel the fetus. The baby, placenta, umbilical cord, and the thick lining of the uterus will come out of the vagina. Even if the doctor suctions all of the "matter" out of the uterus, the woman will still bleed and may suffer some scarring in her uterus (preventing her from EVER being able to have children).
Many women have even DIED because of hemorrhaging, infections, and other complications. It's usually a very painful process for the woman and she is usually let in physical pain for days/weeks following. As another note, the woman usually bleeds for WEEKS after the abortion so it honestly isn't just a little blood in the urine.
Here is a super great website that has links to all sorts of abortion-related issues:
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...and they even have a section (and a couple of links) of women who have passed away because of an abortion:
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...as a note, MANY women are dying because of abortions:
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Adoption is always an option of yours if you are not physically, mentally, or financially capable of caring for another human life. Please look into it if you feel you can carry the child but not raise it properly. You can contact an adoption agency in your area or you can relinquish your rights of your child and place it in the custody of the state for adoption. I've read something about Volunteers of America for adoptions being really good but I have no personal experience with them myself. Here is a link directing you to their site:
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Just as another note, some agencies actually let the expecting party interact with possible parents to ensure they are giving their child the best chance at life as possible. You may want to look into those agencies to help find your child good, loving parents. It may even be possible for you to work out a way that you can still be in the child's life lightly as they grow so you're aware of their progress. The same goes for the opposite--there are adoption agencies that won't inform you of anything about the baby if you do not want to know more than that you were pregnant with it at some point.
Please know that abortion is not your only option. Please give yourself plenty of time to decide what is the best choice. Even if your parents are upset that you are pregnant they will eventually get over it. Some parents can be really hurt in the beginning that their son or daughter disobeyed but, in the end, they still love you. Many parents later realize that the unborn baby IS their grandchild and help their son or daughter to figure out how to raise the baby when it comes.
Please do not put your body through the mess that is abortion."
I think you should keep your child alive. As you may be thinking if you do not then you will regret it. Feeling that you might regret something long before you do it is a big sign that it isn't the wisest choice. Many women will say they will "never" have an abortion but one day wind up doing it--only to feel regret for their actions and wish they could take them back.
Relax and take everything in. This is you and your baby we are talking about. An abortion doesn't just last 20 minutes, an hour, three days, or one doctor's visit--it lasts the rest of your life. You risk being physically broken. You risk being mentally broken.
After being so selfish in this mistake (because sex when no prepared is selfish, you have to admit...) doesn't the baby at least deserve a chance? I think so...
Aborting isn't going to make everything magically better. Trust me.
There are plenty of young, single mothers out there making it. There are plenty of young women who have given up their babies to good people that were looking to adopt (and, if you are looking to give the baby up for adoption--I am offering a loving home right here with me). There is hope for your child. You can do this without stopping another heart.
I hope that you take enough time to decide what choice is the best. My inbox is always open if you have questions! :)
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It really depends on you. I was 16 when i got pregnant, ended up miscarring but i was debating abortion myself and i watched a honest tell all video about it and changed my mind completely. Its all about if you can handle the emotionally and physical aspects of whats gonna happen after the abortion. And where you wanna go in life and if you can take care of a child.
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It depends how old you are and how u are heading with your life. Don't wait to long to decide on the abortion as it growing every day. Make sure u have a support group around you it will help in the long run with your decision. Good luck. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your decision. :)
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Firstly i want to state that i dont agree with abortions but do think sometimes they are necessary. If you know you cant bring this baby up get rid of it, Adoption is another idea but i dont know how any woman could go nine months growing a baby inside her and simply give it away..do what ever you feels right as your the one whos going to have to live with it.
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Different people will give you different answers
My opinion is to have the baby and give it up for adoption if you can't handle motherhood. If you feel scared you will not be able to be in the babies life you can arrange for open adoption where you have visiting rights. I firmly believe that abortion is killing a life, Although it would not be a fully developed fetus you are ending it's life by not giving it a chance to live.
The choice is yours, We cannot make it for you but I really think you should think about what is best for the child and consider adoption.
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There's no easy way out of this situation.
If you're not planning on keeping the baby, you have two options: abortion or adoption.
Are you willing to take great care of yourself for 9 months so that you don't have to go through an abortion? If you are willing to go through with the pregnancy properly (no drinking, no drugs, eating right, going to the doctor's) then it might be a better option for you to give up the baby for adoption. You can make a childless couple very happy by providing them with a new addition to their family. If you're not willing to go through with the pregnancy, then you're looking at abortion as an option.
Abortion is fairly quick and mostly physically painless. There is a psychological component. It can be hard knowing that you've ended a life that you started. It's all up to your personal beliefs and morals.
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I think if you're asking the question you already know you don't want to. Raising a baby is not your only option. Adoption is a very real option. So many parents out there are longing for a baby and can't have one of their own. What a gift your baby could be for someone else. You can take a scary, confusing situation and turn it around for good. There are all types of adoptions to choose from - you can do a blind adoption, where you just give the baby up and don't know who the parents are, or you can pick the family your baby goes to, or you can do a private adoption. Many people will pay all expenses and medical bills for a young lady who knows she wants to give her child for adoption. There are consequences for abortion. No one ever tells you, but it never leaves you, it never goes away, and you carry the pain forever and ever. Don't do that to yourself. It may seem awful and scary right now, but I can tell you from experience that more than anything, a baby is a miracle and a wonderful thing, if not to you, then to someone else. 9 months of your life is not too much to give someone else the gift of life. Think about it. And find support, with family and friends you trust, your church or religious institution, or online in a community of young women in your situation. You are not alone. don't try to go through this alone.
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If you know you cannot take care of the child and it's still early in the pregnancy, I think it's like three months? You should. However, if you can take care of the baby, you have a job, the baby's father is still with you, and you know you can raise it, I suggest you keep it, but be warned that babies are extremely fragile and you can't back out after it's born.
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