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im scared im never going to lose my virginity,it might sound crazy but i cant get to sleep over it at night,i constantly think about it,it would be my worse nightmare,ive thought about commiting suicide before i got so scared,i just dont know what to do!can you help?
im 16,female,straight

Don't worry, it doesn't sound crazy. I've spoken to many people who feel the same as you and think they will never lose it and end up "dying a virgin".. which is a little far fetched don't you think?!
Put it this way. Think about religions where you aren't supposed to have sex before marriage. People don't usually get married in their teens, so they will be waiting until their 20's or later. Which is absolutely fine. There isn't a set time for anyone to lose their virginity. and you shouldn't ever be made to feel like you will never lose it. Because one day when you've found someone special and you're ready, you will be glad you waited.
These days, it's so over rated and you see people as young as 12,13, assuming they are ready when they really aren't. There's many consequences that come out of sex. and rushing into it without knowing all the facts is a bad thing to let yourself in for.
You are only 16 - at legal age now. (in UK anyway =]) But seriously, what is the rush?
Is wanting to lose your virginity worth losing your life for? Absolutely not.
If it's really affecting your sleep etc, I do suggest you seek help. Anything which affects your daily routine is definitely not good for you. But you could sort this out yourself, by not only realizing there is nothing to worry about, but losing your virginity for the sake of it to get it over with.. or because you think you will never get that opportunity again isn't really something which should be playing on your mind 24/7.
Please do yourself a favour and try to get over it. It will happen when the time is right. It could be soon, or later in your life. But at least you'll know it will be a special moment in your life. :)
If you'd like further advice, drop another in the inbox and I will help.
Good luck.

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my brest are" saggy" if I sleep with a certain bra would it help me any?

1. There is no way I know of to build up the breast's fatty tissue, but you can build up the muscle tissue under the fatty tissue or lose the fatty tissue. One way to have nice firm breasts is avoiding weight gain and the resulting excess fatty tissues. Also, exercise will prevent or reduce saggy breasts. Two pound dumb bells will do it. With a weight in each hand, extend your arms out to each side and do 15 small, backward circles about a foot in diameter. Widen the circles slightly and do another 15, then repeat these two steps going forward. Body Cream with aminophylline, has also been effective in reducing fatty tissue in the breast areas.
2. Increase your protein intake. Protein is needed to build and keep muscles tone and firm. Protein also provides much needed Collagen. Three to four meals a day that consist of protein is recommend (see protein intake).



Just by simply using Google, the following came up. There are hundreds more web pages which could be useful for you.
They can help, but sadly, without going extreme (surgery), nothing can really be done.

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I'm not sure if residue is the right word but I took a sticker off a plastic thing of mine and the stickeyness of the sticker refuses to come off. There's no paper on it, just the stickyness and I can't figure out how to get it off. It keeps getting things stuck to it and making it look bad. It's a little cigar case thing that one of my friends gave to me. It's all plastic so I can't burn the stickyness off. Any ideas on how I can get it off?

I hate it when that happens. I usually get a wet scrubbing sponge (be careful because it MIGHT scratch the surface of your cigar case) and gently rub it. The wetter it becomes, the less sticky it will be and then you'll just be able to pull/scratch the 'residue' away. :)

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what is the "c" word?
i was taking this "how evil are you" test and one of the questions was "have you ever called someone the 'c' word"
what does it mean?
thanks in advance
~m&m

Cunt. Thought to be the most offensive of all swear words.

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in your opinion, do you think that these shoes are cute to buy ? http://www.payless.com/Catalog/ProductDetail.aspx?&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensAthletics&BLC=WomensAthleticsSneakers&Width=Regular&ItemCode=55278&LotNumber=050938&Type=Adult&Popularity=16&DescriptiveColor=Tan/Pink thankss!!

Nice colours. But I personally wouldn't wear them.

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16/f
so my friend asked this kid if he liked me and he said why do you care? and then she was like i just wanna know. and then he didnt say anything. and then she asked him again and he said SERIOUSLY why do you care? and she was like i just wanna know. and then she said im not gunna stop bothering you until you answer me so do you? and he said maybe maybe not.

do you think that means he does or he doesnt? even if he didnt say it but most likely.
thanks in advance =)

If it was a definite no, he would have said it straight out. Wouldn't want people to be building up false hope now would he? :)

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its all the guys are into in 7th grade. I am at 13 year old female size 34 A. I am very slender and tall (5'4) or so. I want bigger boobs. How can I get them without pills or anything.

*I dont need advice on all that self consicous crud.k?

*And I dont want to have to stuff my bra.

Is there any special food that helps or something.

The only thing that works long term is surgery. You are 13. Wait it out.

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hey, i'm planning to get my nose pierced in a year or something and i was just wondering...

-how long do you have to keep the stud in?
-after you can take it off, will the hole close if you don't put one on for like a week?
-is the hole visible when you're not wearing a stud?

-and any additional info would help too :)

thanks in advanced!

I got mine done months ago. If you follow the rules (cleaning etc) you should be fine. However, after changing from a ring to a stud, mine fell out and since that, it's set the healing process back by alot! Be careful not to knock it and accidently pull it out. It's really easily done because you're not used to something being there.
I took mine out 2 days after getting it pierced. and then it fell out multiple times for the next few weeks. NOT RECOMMENDED.
Keep it in at least 3 months before you change it, but listen to what your piercer tells you.
Yes, the hole will close if you don't put it in after a week. It can start to close after 2 hours. If it's been done years, I guess it takes more time.
Visibility depends.. You can see mine for obvious reasons. But after the healing process, it will be tiny :)

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I'm a teenage g i r l who has been suicidal for 4 years.

I don't know what to do. I h a t e life so much because I have no reason to live. All I ever do is schoolwork and running around to different things. And I get yelled at. NO ONE loves me or cares if I draw another breath. No one.

If I had a significant other who was actually NOT an I wouldn't be suicidal.

I'm considered "obese" (5'3" and 169 lbs) and I'm SICK of going on diets, losing weight, and gaining it all back because of stress. So DON'T reccomend that I *try* to lose weight, because I'm sick of that. So don't even mention anything about losing weight.

I'm not fat because I'm a couch potato. I'm fat because I was born that way. I've never been thin. And I'll die a fatass. Just like I am now.

The things people say and the looks I get are just too much. "OH MY GOD SHE'S SO FAT" and other like that. I'm so pretty that I could get a boyfriend if I were thin.

How would you reccomend that I ? I need to do it really soon because I don't have a chance at getting a boyfriend. And I want to die because of it.

If you don't have L O V E in your life, you should die. Like me. NO one loves me so I'm going to next sunday at 12:00 pm if SOMEONE doesn't call me to ask me out. I'm sick of living and there's no reason to go on like this.

Anyone who wants to kill themselves because they have no significant other is plain selfish.
You don't not have a boyfriend because you're fat.. It's because of your attitude towards yourself. Do you really expect someone to take a liking to you when you list all the negative things about yourself? and especially if you've set a date to commit suicide.
If you said noone likes/loves you, then how are you expected to receive a call from someone to ask you out?
Do you know how many people are in your position right now? Obviously not. These people who have similar problems to yours have realized they aren't alone. and they don't "NEED" a boyfriend to help them get through it.
You're a teenager. A boyfriend at the moment isn't a necessity. What is however, is schooling and preparing yourself for the future. One of the positive things to come of this answer is I'm glad to say you are actually succeeding at doing that, as you've stated you're doing your schoolwork.
Your weight is a big problem for you and you're sick of going on diets. So is everyone else who is trying to lose weight. The successful ones have willpower and have found the RIGHT diet for them through trial and error. Make sure you're exercising as well as eating correctly. It's not impossible to lose weight. It just takes longer for some people. It doesn't mean you're doing it wrong or failing, so next time, DON'T give up. It can take a while to see improvements.
For now, focus on your good points. You've sid you're pretty, so that's a plus for you, so work on it and embrace the good things about yourself. Don't forget people don't just see you as the person on the outside, however.
You're just on a downer at the moment which alot of teens go through. Things will start looking up for you.
I wish you the best of luck.

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Once I was told by a guy that when he looked at me he saw stars in my eyes. What the hell is that supposed to mean?! Anyone have any ideas? I dunno why it occured to me today but now I can't stop wondering what it meant...he was my boyfriend at the time by the way so I doubt it was anything mean...maybe sarcastic, i don't know.
Thanks!

I doubt he was being sarcastic or mean. Stars are big, pretty and twinkle, meaning your eyes possibly are the same.. and reminded him of stars. :)

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why are people so deathly afriad of rats? like they scream and the rats wont even hurt them! i like rats.

so why?

If I saw a rat running around my room for example, my reaction would be the same.
People associate rats as vermin pests which come out in dirty areas. Truth is, wild rats in cities may be suffering from malnutrition.. doesn't necessarily mean they're spreading diseases to humans.
"The rat makes a fine pet, known for its intelligence, playfulness and sociability. They are extremely clean. Rats can be taught entertaining tricks, in the same way as many other domesticated animals." shows they actually aren't that bad. :)

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okay, i am a 17 year old female. so my friend and i got into a fight because of a guy. long story, i got with her ex boyfriend after she had broken up with him and she told me she had no more feelings for him. but then she got jealous. stopped talking to me. im moving away and i wanna leave on good terms. what should i do? or how do i go by doing that?

I'm sorry to hear what's happened with you and your friend. But when guys are involved, this is usually what happens. Apparently its "girl code" where you can't date your friends ex boyfriend. I find that stupid really. and so do most people!
Leaving on good terms is a nice thing to do. Shows there's no hard feelings, so she should appreciate it however you do it. and if not, it goes to show how bitter and non forgiving/forgetting people can really be.
You could try sending her a card explaining everything and you're sorry things ended up this way. Do you have any photo's of you together? Send her that too so she will remember the good times you once shared if you do. Or perhaps an email..?
If you really wanted to, buy her something you know she will like.
But I'm sure she will also want you to leave without any bad feelings. So she should accept what you have to say.
Best of luck. and if you would like further advice, drop another in my inbox.

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Well, me and my girlfriend were fooling around and after we dry humped and i came, i fingered her. Now I don't remember if i had semen on my hand(from touching my damp shorts). She's had her period already, 2 weeks after the event, but she's been showing symptoms of "Morning sickness" at the same time. Could she be pregnant or just feeling a bit under the weather?

I doubt she actually is pregnant. and there's a good chance she's not, seeing as she's had her period. Although on the odd occasion, people may go on having their periods as normal, yet still be pregnant.
Perhaps she is under the weather.. or worrying about being pregnant.
Wouldn't hurt to get a pregnancy test. and it would certainly put your minds at ease.

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well this is a little stupid but in class this guy sits next to me and a couple of days ago he pre cumed a little i dont know why. can i be pregnant?

If it worked that way, everyone would be afraid to even go near guys..
You are in no way pregnant. His semem did NOT enter you. You were also sitting next to him.. and you were both wearing clothes!
So don't worry :)

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I'm a 15-year-old girl in need of serious help. My boyfriend and i just got back together afetr a ceating ordeal that he had for a while. Last night i went to a friends party and this guy(who's 20) had his arms around me and my best friend. i think i like this guy, and it feels as though i have just cheated on my boyfriend. did i cheat on him or was this just harmless fun?

signed,
Confused Girl.

Absolutely not! Having someone's arm around you can be seen as a friendly gesture :) You didn't intend on going further (ie. Kissing etc) so no, you have not cheated on your boyfriend, so there's no reason to be thinking so.

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I am a teenage girl. I am completely SICK AND TIRED of being single and shunned by everyone I know. Lately I have started drinking. Actually it's a bottle of my parents' red wine that I have taken and hidden from them. Every day since about a week ago I have been drinking about 2-3 sips of it every day. (which is a lot for me) I used to get headaches and feel bad after I drank, but now I feel really good- like it's the only thing that can make me happy. I don't really get hangovers anymore either. Maybe this wine is really strong or something, but I feel the affects of it (without getting drunk) after this small amount. I feel all gross the next day until I drink again. And I fall apart and shake and start crying if I don't drink some. It usually sends this tingling sensation all through my body (similar to sexual desire) and I get really horny. Like I feel like i could masturbate for 5 hours. Then, whatever is upsetting me at the time comes back and I have another emotional breakdown. Please tell me if you think I have become an alcoholic or not.

Firstly, when you say you have started drinking, I wouldn't consider that to be 2/3 sips of wine. It would get worrying if you started having glassfuls, leading to half the bottle, then a full bottle. But who's to say you drinking 2/3 sips won't lead onto that?
I do not feel the effects you are feeling are actually from the wine, but are from the fact you stole it from your parents.. and you know you shouldn't be drinking it, which could be giving you a rush - or make you feel like you are in charge of your body.
So no. I do not think you're an alcoholic. Especially if this has only been going on for a week.
But you do need to stop, as you aren't gaining anything out of it. What's having a few moments of pleasure..then when it's over go back to having another emotional breakdown?
There's no point really, and it's certainly not doing you any favours.
You say you're depressed because you're overweight. That's not a problem. You can do something about it. Losing weight is alot easier than beating the effects of alcohol and becoming an alcoholic. Alcoholics need help. People who need to shift some weight need a bit of will power.
It's good you are doing stage acting and dancing, because it gives the impression you are comfortable with who you are (even if you are not), so carry on doing that.
Don't worry about your weight. Find a diet plan that suits you if you are really that bothered about it. and get extra exercise apart from your dance classes.
Ditch the wine. It's not doing anything for you.
Best of luck, if you'd like further help, I'd be happy to help.

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can you get stds if you get head because my friend said you cant but i dont believe him

Of course you can. and because alot of people don't think it's true, many diseases/infections can go un-noticed because it may lie dormant and you may not get any symptoms.

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My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a month now. She had been a very touchy feely person, not in any sort of sexual sense, but always holding or playing with hands, or hugging and such.

Up until this week. She has been in an absolutely horrible mood since Sunday, really hasn't talked to me or returned calls or anything, and hasn't been fond of any sort of physical or social contact from anyone. I would chalk it up to PMS (sorry about the stereotype, girls) but it's literally been all day all wee. I had asked her earlier in the week if she was okay, and she said yes, that she was just feeling weird and didn't want to be around people. Today at lunch it was awful. I asked her again, walking to class (just to note, the first time she didn't hold my hand walking to her class) and she said she didn't want to talk about it. She didn't say anything else, and I hugged her an kissed her goodbye, but still.

I've treated her very well, and I've been giving her space. I'm pretty sure it as absolutely nothing to do with me, but nonetheless, what am I supposed to do?

You aren't supposed to do anything. You've asked her what's the matter, gave her your all, and she's still being weird with you and everybody else. I can relate to your girlfriend here, because the same happens with me. It's just sometimes I like my own space. and to have time to myself without anyone interrupting. Maybe she's going through the same?
I'd give her a couple more days to sort herself out. If she shows no signs of improvement, ask her again. and tell her you'll always be there if she ever wants to tell you anything.
But if worst comes to worst.. Perhaps she's not happy with the relationship? Or other problems are getting her down and it's affecting you and her.
Wait it out for a while longer. It's all you can do really. and wait for her to open up.
Doesn't seem like you're doing anything wrong. So it's not your fault.
Best of luck.

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what exactly is Photobucket?

Photobucket hosts your pictures/videos so not only do you have a backup copy on the internet, you get URL's to your pictures etc so you can put them on websites such as myspace.
I'd advise anyone to signup!!

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so about 2 weeks ago i gave my bf a hangjob and i got cum on my finger but i wiped it off and washed it off only a lil and 40 mins later i masterbated but i got my period 4 days later. and now its after my period but i still kinda have cramps is that a sign of pregnancy?

I know you're probably scared, but you really shouldn't worry.
You say you wiped it off and washed it a little.. Then left it for at least 40 minutes. PLUS, you got your period.
You're not pregnant. In your situation, it's highly unlikely any cum remained on your finger.
But for the future, make sure you wash your hands thoroughly if you plan on masturbating shortly after giving your boyfriend a handjob. :)

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