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Frigid
My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a month now. She had been a very touchy feely person, not in any sort of sexual sense, but always holding or playing with hands, or hugging and such.
Up until this week. She has been in an absolutely horrible mood since Sunday, really hasn't talked to me or returned calls or anything, and hasn't been fond of any sort of physical or social contact from anyone. I would chalk it up to PMS (sorry about the stereotype, girls) but it's literally been all day all wee. I had asked her earlier in the week if she was okay, and she said yes, that she was just feeling weird and didn't want to be around people. Today at lunch it was <i>awful</i>. I asked her again, walking to class (just to note, the first time she didn't hold my hand walking to her class) and she said she didn't want to talk about it. She didn't say anything else, and I hugged her an kissed her goodbye, but still.
I've treated her very well, and I've been giving her space. I'm pretty sure it as absolutely nothing to do with me, but nonetheless, what am I supposed to do?
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you are being so good. sometimes girls have other problems and they may be personal or maybe something is happening in her family life. you are doing great by giving her the space and all, but maybe really talk to her and be honest and tell her you are worried and you just want to know if you can help?. maybe she'll tell you. you need to talk to her.
good luck.
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Well to be honest, she might be PMSing but I wouldn't ask her about that.
Maybe there is something going on and she just needs space or time to think about it herself. Wait it out for a little but and just be there for her until she is ready to talk, that is the best you can do but obviosuly if things get terrible then another clear course of action must be taken.
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She dos'nt seem to be ready to talk about the situation. Just don't take it personal, let her know your there for her when or if she wants to talk and just be there for her. Other then that try to get back to your normal rutine. Dont let the situation side track u.
Hope this helps!
Mandy xox
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You aren't supposed to do anything. You've asked her what's the matter, gave her your all, and she's still being weird with you and everybody else. I can relate to your girlfriend here, because the same happens with me. It's just sometimes I like my own space. and to have time to myself without anyone interrupting. Maybe she's going through the same?
I'd give her a couple more days to sort herself out. If she shows no signs of improvement, ask her again. and tell her you'll always be there if she ever wants to tell you anything.
But if worst comes to worst.. Perhaps she's not happy with the relationship? Or other problems are getting her down and it's affecting you and her.
Wait it out for a while longer. It's all you can do really. and wait for her to open up.
Doesn't seem like you're doing anything wrong. So it's not your fault.
Best of luck.
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Just wait it out.
Nobody can tell you what's she's doing.
Sometimes people have those bad days or.. weeks, yeah know?
So maybe this was an off week for her. Just ask her if something she has been bothering her lately.
She could have some problems with friends/family, etc. Just try to talk to her and if she won't tell you, don't think of it as she's keeping secrets. She will talk to you when she's ready.
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Don't make any assumptions, but directly ask her if she would like some space. You never know what a person is going through, but I doubt she is frigid. Try to communicate verbally and put the touching on hold, until she says she is ready, again.
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well...
i'm a girl and yeah i've done this before.
Actually, right before i broke up with a guy.
i'm really sorry but to me this sounds likes shes trying to avoid you because she wants to break up.
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There could be multiple reasons as to why this is happening. Girls can just become very moody at times, and aren't always wanting to be around people at the moment and don't want to be hugging everyone and talking.
I would just try asking her again if she's alright and just ask her if it's something you've done, just to get it out of the way. I doubt it's that she's cheating on you, because you seem like a really nice guy, and if she's breaking away from social contact/psychical contact with EVERYONE, then it's something else, I'm sure. But also just let her know if there's anything that she needs to talk about, then you're here for her, and she knows that.
It just might be a little depression phase, which every person goes through, and she, like I said, might just feel she wants to be left alone for awhile and doesn't feel like socializing or anything with anybody.
Also, something might be going on with friends, family, etc. and she's been put in a bad situation or something and doesn't know what to do about it.
Or like you said, lol, PMS. And PMS ( as you probably know ) lasts around a week, maybe a little more, so just give it some time and see if she starts to cheer up a little more. Cramps and all the "wonderful" things that come with PMS would but any girl in a horrible mood.
So maybe just try some things for her to cheer her up a bit. Bring her some flowers, write her a letter telling her how much you love her and care about her, or buy her a little stuffed animal, anything to hopefully just perk up her day and let her know how much you like/love her. Take her to a place that she loves to go, or watch a movie with her that she loves or just do something that involves her interests in some way.
I hope I helped.
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she might be giving you clues that she wants to see other people and she is probably mad at you for not liking the way she wants to express herself with you i don't know you might want to just move on and find some other girl who will appreciate you the same way you appreciate them
xxx~pleasure
dade county,florida
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Alright, here are a few possible explanations. Some of which might not be easy to relate to, due to denial, but we should cover all grounds.
1) Your gf might be cheating on you.Monitor her movement, if there are times she goes missing that seems to be real "fishy", I think you need pay a little more attention.
2) Your gf might be freakin' out. If she's nvr been in a relationship before, she's not familiar with the "drills" of a relationship. And she might need to have some space, to let her breathe, and adjust to her new status.
If your gf had been in rs before, she might be nervous and afraid that she might get hurt again. Work on trust. Tell her that you're willing to take it slow, and patiently follow her pace on the rs.
3) Your gf might have family/friends/personal problems, she might be the reserved type. Keeps everything to herself, but it all takes a little bit of initiative to convince her that confiding in you would do no harm.
4) The usual period around the corner. Mood Swings, Bad temper, cold shoulder.. lethargic..
That should last about a week or tops, two.
5) Depression- Find a nice,calm spot. Bring her flowers. Tell her that you love her and let her cry, most people feel better after they do.
Consult your school counsellor. Or smth of that kind.
I hope those few advice should help.
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