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Ok i have been going out with this girl since Nov. and we have been fine well today she left her books in my car and one of her notebooks was open to a note she wrote another guy aaron it said i may be going out with travis(me) but i still flirt and stuff with you and the only reason i broke up with you was cause her friend told her to...so i texted her about it (she is not allowed on phone)and she was all cool bout it then she turned it on me asking me why i read it in the first place now she wont text me...first off was i wrong for reading it i mean the reason i did cause i saw my name...what do i say to her...then finally what i do about this other guy? (link)
Uhm first of all, if she is telling another guy that she only broke uo with him because her friend told her to, what does that say about the realtionship you have with her now? Is it serious, or is she still thinking about Aaron and is she really over him. She is also twisting your actions and words around so she puts you as the one at fault and distracts you so you stop dwelling on that subject and apologize to her...but FYI, that isn't cool of her. She obviously is hiding things from you and assumes that you will take her shit wihtout any argument whatsoever, but you shouldn't and if she is mad about you reading it [even though it was a little invasion of privacy but for a good reason, better than her lame excuse, whatever that was] don't fall for her act. she is just be dramatic, let her cool off and then say something to her.

[you deserve better and good luckk]


Many people got kicked out from a biker forum in Greece and built a new one.

Got any suggestions for names? (link)
These should give you some ideas...

Bikespace
Biketopia
LikesBikes
neverquit
likingbiking

hope those gave you some inspiration.



17/f. I play both acoustic guitar and electric guitar (I prefer acoustic) and I would like to write a song.
Can anyone help me?
How do I make a really good piece of music that people will want to listen to?
And maybe help with putting words to it.
But mostly at this point I just want help with how to make a really good piece of music, can anyone help?
I guess it can either be fast and catchy or slow and beautiful.
Thanks so much to anyone who can help me.
xx (link)
Many people like fast and beautiful and the words mean a whole lot, it's what catches the minds of the people who are lsitening to your music and sets the tone for the song.
What I would do is sit down in a quiet area and play around with some melodies on the guitar and try putting meaningful words into the beat, words that mean something to you and that will touch peoples hearts...like, love or heartbreak.
Write from your past experiences and put your heart and soul into it, I'm sure everybody will enjoy it if it comes from you and onl you :]
xxoo Good luckk
Understatementoftheyearx3


I'm 14 and I don't know why but for 3 days now it hurts to walk. Like above my butt (where the jeans would touch) at at the right, there's nothing there. but when i walk it hurts as if someone has a voodoo doll and just keeps poking me there when I walk.

Does anyone know what it could be and how I can fix it? (link)
This sounds like what happens to me, I sit on my tailbone wrong for a long time and bruise it. If it is your tailbone and it is just bruised, I wouldn't worry about it, it goes away in a few days. But just in case that isn't your diagnosis, go see a doctor, because he/she can really evaluate you and tell you what's up with your sore spots.
Feel better and good luckk


Ok. So I have a really fat face but I am actually skinny and built athletic. I was wondering if there was anything I could do to make my face skinnier. Im so self-consious(sp)of my cheeks I never even want to smile anymore because I feel like people will just stare at how big my face is. If theres anything I can do to slim up my face it would be really great.
Thanks,
*SM (link)
Okay so I've answered a similar question to this and here is the website and some tips from the site:
a. A good tan can make you look thinner! Stay in the sun or go to a beauty saloon, and use a tanning lotion, or whatever it takes to tan your skin. If you use a tanning lotion, use more under the cheeks, as the coloured areas will look deeper. That will make your face look thinner than it really is.

b. The use of a lot of eye make up can make your eyes bigger. The bigger your eyes look, the smaller your face will appear to others.

c. Pay attention to your eyebrows, for the same reasons as in b.

The website is:
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Look-Thinner&id=37202

Good luck :]


So i went to the dermatologist and they put me on acne medication adn told me it would make my skin bad for a few weeks before it got better. So my skin did get alittle bad but now its perfect. The only problem is i have left over scars from where i had acne. They actually arent really scars, they are just discolorations like a dark pinkish/tan. How do i get rid of these? (link)
U can never make them go away fully, but mederma is great with that! Trust me, I would know, but before mederma starts fully working, try putting some foundation on it to cover it, if you are feeling a bit self concious.
Good luckk


on youtube there is this show "in the mother hood" I love it but is there more than just 5 eposodes if there is then please tell me i would really like to know thanks (link)
I think there are only 5 episodes because I've only seen 5, but maybe they will make more soon.


My friends and I were having a discussion in my AP US Government class because our teacher was absent and we were bored. Anyway, one girl was telling me how, if you're not legally certified and you were to, for example, give someone CPR or the heimlich maneuver, even if you save their life, they can sue you...
She said once she was lifeguarding at a club and somehow a pingpong table fell over on a young girl and the parents wanted to sue for emotional damages or something like that. They club had to settle because their lawyer said the lawsuit could win. I just have 2 questions...

How is it legal that you could sue someone for saving your life just because they weren't certified to do so?
How is it moral to do that? Your life (or child's life) was SAVED, how are you going to morally justify suing someone... are you that cheap and can you possibly want money that much?

I suppose I might understand if someone performed one of those and the person died because (and it should be proved) it was done incorrectly... but come on.

How is this legal? I plan on asking my teacher next time I see him, but I was just curious as to what laws would justify this. (link)
The Good Samaritan Law protects people from trying to do the best thing. This case was started when some guy got in a car crash, and someone helped him out of it, but he had to end up getting both his legs amputated. If the guy hadn't tried to help him, he would've died, like they couldn't even wait for an ambulance. So, he sued saying he'd rather be dead. But the person was just trying to do whats correct, and so the guy that sued didn't win the case. If you tried CPR on someone, they shouldn't sue you, because of course they COULD, but the chances of them winning are very unlikely seeing as you were just trying to help the victim.


is there any way to make my face skinnier? i have tried hair styling tips but it doesnt work..... (link)
a. A good tan can make you look thinner! Stay in the sun or go to a beauty saloon, and use a tanning lotion, or whatever it takes to tan your skin. If you use a tanning lotion, use more under the cheeks, as the coloured areas will look deeper. That will make your face look thinner than it really is.

b. The use of a lot of eye make up can make your eyes bigger. The bigger your eyes look, the smaller your face will appear to others.

c. Pay attention to your eyebrows, for the same reasons as in b.

I got these tips from...
http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Look-Thinner&id=37202

Good luck :]


i have some more hair questions..

why does wet hair get damaged when you blow dry it?

also, does spraying chemicals (heat protecting spray nevertheless) damage hair in the long term? i think i'll just air dry hair for a little while then blow dry it when its only a little damp and so my hair wont have to spend a long time under the blowdryer?

some blowdryers blow out cold air. is that okay for you? because no heat and it gets the job done! i think it is another good solution except i get headaches from that. (link)
Blow dryers damage your hair because that is what heat does...it dries out your hair from being blow dried for so long, and if your other solution [the cold air blow drying] gives you headaches, I wouldn't continue doing that...
What I do is, I let my hair air dry natuarally, and I have waves [sometimes curls] and I leave my hair liek that. Or, I let ti air dry, [or wrap it in a towel to get the excess water out quicker] and I starighten it when it is dry, but I don't do this everyday because starightening your hair can also ultimatley damage your hair if done every single day. But somedays I scrunch my hair with gel and that's it. You can blow dry your hair still, but don't do it all the time :]
Good luckk


I love this boy but you see he acts different when he is around his friends. I told him that he does but he doesn't listin to me and blams the whole thing on me saying i am changing and that im not the same person he feel in love with. i don't know what to do and my friends just seem to not know either. i need help. Do you have any advise for me? (link)
He's the one who is changing, not you. So don't worry, he is probably just going through a stage right now and trying to put the blame on someone besides himself because he doesn't want to know the truth about himself and that he acts differently around different people. If he is making you uncomfortable and treating you badly, and you feel the realtionship is turning sour, break up with him. I know that sounds harsh and I know how you feel, it sucks that he acts the way he does but what can you do? Who wants to be in a relationship like that? Maybe give him an option and tell him that until he changes and respects you, listens to you, and doesn't blame you for his mistakes, then you will get back together with him. Take a temporary or permanent break from him and see how that works out and if he is willing to change for the sake of your relationship.
I hope everything works out for youu.


will body butter help me get rid of cellulite on my stomach if i rub it on my stomach every night? till how long will i see results? (link)
I agree with the answer below me, you have to tone your body, but cocoa butter wouldn't hurt you either...[trying it owuld be your best option to see if you notice any results]
Good luckk


im 14/f and my boyfriend is 13/f

do you think that if your really truly sure your in love, like you've had it proven to you,no doubt in your mind and he feels the same,
do you think that we can last throughout highschool?


we've had our problems, what true couple doesnt, but i dont want to lose him again :[ i want this to last forever, as crazy as that sounds.

do you think it can last? (link)
of course it can last! :-) as long as he wants to make the commitment too, just make sure to keep in contact and hang. Go to the commons (cafe) and study or hang after school...if he plays a sport go watch one of his games, randomly surprise him one day and give him a gift or plan something fun! hell like that! my friends parents are happily married together, and have been together since 8th grade!!!! anything is possible


so heres the deal

ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years on and off.. im really in love with him and this weekend was crazy.. friday we stayed in a hotel 2gether.. and we hang out all the time.. i live in missouri and he lives in illinois. he comes and picks me up all the time.. he calls me his shawty..

the thing is, hes bout 2 b locked up.. hes turnin himself in about 2 weeks.. im waitin on him.. hes not going in for something real bad, it was a big misunderstanding and hell be out real quick.. should i stay with him????/
thanks=]] (link)
thats a difficult decision, i can imagine...but that all depends on you. If you truely love him, then you might not want to let him go, but if you really think that he might end up in jail again...
its all up to you. maybe this separation is coming at a good time, it will give you spme time to think. GoOd LuCk!!!


I really like Christina Aguilera's old hair style.
When it was blonde and black.

http://www.poster.net/aguilera-christina/aguilera-christina-christina-aguilera-1192605.jpg

http://www.musicalx1.com/Musical%20Desktop%20Pictures/Christina-Aguilera-wallpaper-1024x768.jpg

How can I make my hair like that? My hair is already blonde. (link)
Go to a hair salon and get it professionaly done, and make sure they know exactly how you want it, so bringing a picture of Chrisina Aguilera's hair wouldn't be a bad idea.


i like my bestis friend help (link)
Well, if you like him/her just tell that person how you feel and hopefully they return the gesture. [Make sure you mention that even if he/she doesn't feel that way about you, that you still want to remain best friends because you never know what my evolve from that relationship later on.]


do you blow dry your hair? or air dry? i always blow dry it which is bad? what should i do? or buy a heat protecting spray? i dont know of any (link)
I let my hair air dry and then straighten it later, or I do the natural look :] Try air drying, its much much more helathier and better for your hair.


i just saw my ex for the first time today since the breakupp. we broke up two weeks ago (less) and i still like him a lot. we were together 5 months. he was my first bf and kiss. we said hi and that was like it. it was prretttyyy akward. now its really feeling like its over and im so upset. i feel like hes way over me and it makes me really upset. i guess i expect a miracle to happen and for him to take me bacck today. i miss him.

1. any (preferably sad) songs describing a situation like this. like seeing him completely over me while im still attatched. i like stuff like boys like girls we the kings cartel etc. no screamo.

2. what do i do with myself. please dont say friends cause they dont get it. i dont like them very much.

3. why am i still sad. why do i still care. why do i continue to think about him every day. why cant i listen to one song without his name coming up in my head.

4. i want to be friiends with him because i couldnt ever not talk to him agian. i feel so weird talking to him. cause i had a tiny conversation with him today and i just couldnt look him in the eye. i couldnt speak knowing he doesnt feel the same.



thanks;
hopeless




i wonder what he'd think if he could read my mind.. (link)
Konstantine by Something Corporate
I miss you by Blink182
I miss you by The Summer Obsession

Those are some sad songs :] but I think you should just give your heart some time to heal and try not to think about him or write and draw all of your feelings out on paper.
You are still sad because you miss him and you had a relationship for 5 months, which is a long time. You also think about him everyday because you aren't over him just yet, but one day you will be. And when you listen to songs and his name pops up in your head it means that he's always on your mind and you need to start TRYING to get over him, it won't happen right away but you just have to try to think of someone else.
I know that you want to be friends with him right now, but maybe you should just give yourself some time, some space and see what happens with your relationship, the friendship one, and go from there. GIve him and yourself some time...because that's what you need. Things will become less awkward sooner or later, just be patient.
Hope I helped and feel better, you're not hopeless :]



ok
i was wondering

if there is anyone who owns a chinchila or know anyone that does:

are they good pets?
and if so do you know any websites that i can learn more about them?

thank ya in advice

i rate ♥ ♥ ♥ (link)
They are really cute and soft hehe :] here's some links:
http://www.wisegeek.com/do-chinchillas-make-good-pets.htm

or this site:
http://peteducation.com/article.cfm?cls=18&cat=1800&articleid=1640


Good luckk with the chincilla if you decide to get one :]]





Hey! This weekend I'm goin to a teen night club. I think it's like ages 14-17 or something like that. I'm going with a bunch of my girlfriends. I'm just wondering what would be appropriate to wear? (link)
You should just wear jeans and a cute t-shirt, maybe even a zip up hoodie :] some cute and fun jewlery [acessories]
have funn




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